me and my aries friend [random thought]

We connect very well
but man...
Sometimes there is some tension, we have this "you cannot dominate me" issue going on.
Today she talked to me about "someone" who she feels is trying to take advantage of her, has a smart mouth, and just thinks they could talk to her in any kind of way. I think she was talking about me lol.
I felt underestimated at first and that is why I act the way I do, yea she sure stopped telling me that I "am too nice" ( I HATE when people say that to me ).
I think she feels the same way now.

Okay but here is a question, are Aries known to try to control? She has little control over things, but it seems she tries.
She's bossy and I will not have that and she gets pissed when I don't do things her way and calls me "complicated" (um, no...I'm just not doing what you want me to do).

I told her that I honestly don't know if we'll be close in even a year, she got pissed off.

I think it's an Arien nature to want to be a leader- and for some, they lead by taking control of others. Whether Ariens controlling or not- I think pulling someone (who's just friend) and telling them what kind of behavior you'll tolerate from them is a bit aggressive.... especially for a friend. If she's just a friend, and you find her overwhelming, then just spend less time with her.

I dunno....I am a huge proponent of communication therefore, I do share my feelings with my friends. I am aware that I am NOT responsible for their reaction or their feelings nor can I control them...I am only responsible for me. In the past, I had a Leo friend (female) whose behaviour seemed to change overnight and took me by a whopping surprise!!!! I did ask her to meet with me and I shared my feelings with her. She knew what she was doing but said she did not know why. (me thinks "stress" is the culprit here) Hmmmm....well, that was fine - she can do what she chooses. I chose to spend less time with her and bring into my life more stable friendships. I felt that she needed to know why I was not going to be as involved in the friendship.

We gotta do what makes us Happy! 😉

"BS, you're probably right...you may not become close friends at the rate you're going. It sounds to me like this girl is too insecure, and is so busy trying to be bossy and tell you what to do instead of trying to be a friend. Of course, that's not gonna work. "

We're very close, ya kno? But you are right. I meant I don't see us being as close as we are. It is the truth. It's like... don't think you can just boss me the heck around and talk to me how ever you want to, and I'm not gonna do anything back. (not talking to you). She gets mad when I wanna do things my way ALSO. I do cooperate, but if I disagree with a certain thing, she gets mad.

"Aries, including myself, can be pretty bossy and controlling. If I were you I'd pull her aside and explain how you feel, and that you're not going to tolerate her behavior towards you if she wants to be your friend"

I plan to do that next time she decides to do that.

" think it's an Arien nature to want to be a leader- and for some, they lead by taking control of others. "

The funny thing about her is ...she admitted she is a follower most of the time. But then again she WANTS to run things (??..exactly). To me, she has little control over things, wether it comes to being bossy with me or herself, or handling other situations. Now if she feels she's gonna lead by taking control of me...LOL, wow, this should be good. I hope to God that she is not thinking that way. 🙂 I'm gonna try and ignore that one.

"I think pulling someone (who's just friend) and telling them what kind of behavior you'll tolerate from them is a bit aggressive.... especially for a friend. If she's just a friend, and you find her overwhelming, then just spend less time with her."

Spending less time with her is what I am doing but she is very "clingy". She said she really admires me and loves me as a friend. Now, I think I would be wrong to completely avoid her. Pulling people to the side is not aggressive, to me. She IS sensitive, but I don't think it will hurt her.

". I chose to spend less time with her and bring into my life more stable friendships. I felt that she needed to know why I was not going to be as involved in the friendship."

I had a Leo friend, she was a mess. Talk about perpetrating.