Need advice for jealous Aries son

Hey yall. Wanted to get some input. My teenage son is an Aries and is very productive around the house, protective and so forth of his mom. I give him a lot of attention. I share custody with my ex husband and he stays with me every other week. We talk a lot, do a lot of things together.

Problem is I think he's jealous of my boyfriend.

He likes the bf, respects him, has told his friends he's a good guy and has even said he would approve if we got married (yikes, not talking marriage), but he has admitted he is jealous of my attention. The bf works out of town a lot so he doesn't have to compete really for time and we include his kid and mine when he is home, though my son doesn't always want to join, which is fine. The job my bf has only allows him about one hour an evening to text, call, etc when he's working. So its not like we are texting constantly when my son is home.

Just curious what else I can do to keep him from being jealous? Its like a competition in some ways and I know Aries are competitive people. He will be grown in a couple of years and I would hope he would be happy that I'm not going to be lonely when he leaves for college.

Thanks for your input.

I think he expects me not to date, to just be all lonely, sit at the house by myself when he's gone, shrivel up and be an old woman.🙂

That really sounds flippant, I was only joking.

(At least I didn't do like someone I know, meet a man and get married quickly and then expect a happy brady bunch family when the kids and her husband barely know each other).

I get what you're saying and yes, we are really trying to put kids first. I realize what you meant about its not up to him to be happy for me - I didn't mean to imply my happiness was more important than his.

If I were "just dating" I would do it when he was at his dad's. This is a 1 1/2 year relationship, it's a little different than just dating. There is nothing wrong with our families knowing each other.

My son is 16.

I have talked to him like starlover suggested, and he says he approves and is glad I have found a good, kind, stable man. He does like him. My son knows he comes first. Perhaps, I should reassure him more often on those aspects.

The bf is not trying to come in and be "daddy" and doesn't express his opinion on anything regarding how I am raising my son. He is very respectful in that and my son does appreciate it.

Posted by truecap
Perhaps, I should reassure him more often on those aspects.

Yessssssss!

Posted by 88PisceScorp


Children should be introduced to a man who has proposed to you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you and be part of their lives, till then.. *boyfriends should stay far from our children ***

I might agree with that if my child was 3 or 6, that attachable age that wouldn't understand if we broke up. But my son is old enough and expects to know who I'm in a relationship with. It's important to him to be able to give his approval.

I do appreciate everyone's suggestions. Just needed Aries opinions on this and how to talk to my son.

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Posted by 88PisceScorp


Children should be introduced to a man who has proposed to you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you and be part of their lives, till then.. *boyfriends should stay far from our children ***

I might agree with that if my child was 3 or 6, that attachable age that wouldn't understand if we broke up. But my son is old enough and expects to know who I'm in a relationship with. It's important to him to be able to give his approval.

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So in your opinion, 88, wait until you get engaged. Then what do you do? Show up with a man one day and say "this is going to be your new step-daddy". You get married and there isn't time to develop a relationship between the two of them? That relationship (trust, respect, finding things in common, etc) needs to grow as well. I don't mean this to come across in a smart ass way, but it's the same as my friend marrying a guy after knowing him for six months, then expecting her children to openly accept him as the new step dad. They resent that and are pissed off about being expected to have an instant relationship, and he doesn't understand why they aren't accepting him.

Truecap - my friend is an Aries and I introduced her to my then bf she was soooo jealous and wouldn't even acknolowedge him. It was a big group of people and everyone was really friendly to him except her(Aries) n my sister (Leo). For a long time after he'd alway feel rejected and wouldn't talk to me about it. At the time I spoke to them both n said it was rude n that I'd still b special to them n I wanted both to b nice and get to know him. Both had a very blas? attitude n still would snub him at every opportunity. This happened to every time I met someone new - lesson learned don't tell them in future. It didn't stop either of them asking about him thou.

I'm not sure Aries grow out of to be honest..

Please.. I think you're overreacting. My niece thinks im jealous of her boyfriend. It's just that she spends so much time with him that I never get to! Plus, I live an hour from her and they see eachother everyday. He says he likes him so I wouldn't worry about it. As long as you're paying attention to him and there aren't any visible problems going on, quit harping on it!

Don't create a problem.. And don't tease him about being jealous either. He told you he's jealous so be happy he did so. My mother got remarried when I was younger.. We went from having just her to having a her and a man set the rules. Didn't like him at first but he grew on me.. And I love him.. He keeps her out of my hair for the most part so whatever.

Posted by SamCancerGirl
Truecap - my friend is an Aries and I introduced her to my then bf she was soooo jealous and wouldn't even acknolowedge him. It was a big group of people and everyone was really friendly to him except her(Aries) n my sister (Leo). For a long time after he'd alway feel rejected and wouldn't talk to me about it. At the time I spoke to them both n said it was rude n that I'd still b special to them n I wanted both to b nice and get to know him. Both had a very blas? attitude n still would snub him at every opportunity. This happened to every time I met someone new - lesson learned don't tell them in future. It didn't stop either of them asking about him thou.

I'm not sure Aries grow out of to be honest..

Maybe they felt uncomfortable about it. Maybe they were crappy dudes.. Who knows.

Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Don't create a problem.. And don't tease him about being jealous either. He told you he's jealous so be happy he did so. My mother got remarried when I was younger.. We went from having just her to having a her and a man set the rules. Didn't like him at first but he grew on me.. And I love him.. He keeps her out of my hair for the most part so whatever.

This actually helps hearing feedback from someone close to his age who's been through it.

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Posted by SamCancerGirl
Truecap - my friend is an Aries and I introduced her to my then bf she was soooo jealous and wouldn't even acknolowedge him. It was a big group of people and everyone was really friendly to him except her(Aries) n my sister (Leo). For a long time after he'd alway feel rejected and wouldn't talk to me about it. At the time I spoke to them both n said it was rude n that I'd still b special to them n I wanted both to b nice and get to know him. Both had a very blas? attitude n still would snub him at every opportunity. This happened to every time I met someone new - lesson learned don't tell them in future. It didn't stop either of them asking about him thou.

I'm not sure Aries grow out of to be honest..

Maybe they felt uncomfortable about it. Maybe they were crappy dudes.. Who knows.

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They wernt crappy dudes, one in particular went out of his way to be nice to them. The rest of the group were lovely to him to so he wasn't the problem.

It's defo an Aries jealously trait

He went out of his way to be nice.. Ass kisser. He sucks by default.