optimism - your thoughts

—The best doesn't always occur. When things go wrong in a big way, the optimist may be particularly vulnerable.??

According to this view, by virtue of having generally positive thoughts and feelings, optimists set themselves up for disappointment if the positive future they envision does not materialize.
Their psychological vulnerability also extends to the physical realm when optimists' disappointment and distress result in negative effects on physiological systems, including the immune system.



I have a problem with optimism - getting all fired up and then.....nothing, well that's on a good day - usually something bad happens to pull more of the rug out from under my feet.

Am I better off being negative and expecting the worst to happen and then if something nice occurs it can be a pleasant surprise?

I see a lot of negative, nasty people doing well in the world and wondering if it's time to take off my rose colored glasses.

You have to have the proverbial "Happy Medium" thing going for you. You can be so "positive" that you are essentially delusional. On the other hand, being way negative will ensure you not actually trying, and guaranteeing failure.

Being positive enough to accept that your plan didn't work out and move on is key to success. We will fail. It is the inability or unwillingness to learn from those mistakes and failures that determines future successes or failures.
You have to be optimistic enough to keep trying before you can actually overcome, but not so stupid and negative as to not adapt your approach to your problems.

Isn't it better to get fired up over something that may seem nothing rather than being dull throughout the day? Not neccessary to remove your rose colored glasses as long as you have a reality check of seeing how things truly are. Live a happy life, if it means nothing is going on. There is nothing wrong with being optimist.

Sometimes it gets the best of me... and if I let it, I sulk, pretty badly, and sometimes I do when at home, let those emotions hang and express themselves while no one is around. Sometimes it's better that way, keeping in the back of the mind that other things can and do happen in point of time, whether it's tonight, tomorrow, or the next day, probably weeks from now, who knows. I keep going, I am happy, wherever I go, the interchangeable emotions I go through a day, something is waiting to be open, could be anything, and the more I feel this optimism within me, no matter how I am feeling, the more open I can be and let things fall into place.

Going through different types of emotions is okay, at times you get tired of being optimist (I know I do), but i learned that letting my emotions feel out themselves, I don't carry much weight on my back and go back to being optimist again, with a stronger approach.

I have seen your posts, I think it is a tiny, small, little phase you are going through.. Might look and feel huge, but no, your optimism is high, and heck no it is not a bad thing. Maybe expectations? I'd say do not expect, expectation, is when things crumble (depends), feel, be happy, with your optimist-self, live everyday life, feel good, nothing more... It sends the vibe to the universe. On my part, is giving, the energy within me is useful and is applied to my friends, family, whoever, who need it more than I do, because it makes me feel better, find through time, I receive twice as much from the universe, as long as it is generous with love.

So no, do not give up, no expectations, just you and your optimist-self, is all you need for you and you only, with rose colored glasses 🙂

Generous in love with love through giving.

Double post so I had to hide, sorry, taking over your whole thread, lol.

I noticed the same thing awhile back. I just don't believe in getting THAT fired up over something and being OVERLY optimistic to the point where you're not being realistic. I think people confuse negativity with reality anymore given that we have such a coddled and ignorant society.

Do I want the best case scenario to happen? Of course. However, at the same time, I'm bracing myself for worst case scenario so I can handle it if it happens. I'd much rather be aware of all outcomes than "DOOP DEE DOO, THE BEST WILL HAPPEN!!" and then getting bitch slapped by reality when it doesn't.

So in turn, I just half expect the worst case scenario to happen so if it does, I'm not highly disappointed and not taken by surprise. If the best case scenario happens, then yay the world can rejoice.

It irritates the hell out of me when some dipshit starts prattling on about negativity and the like. I'm sorry, but best case scenario/"positive" side of things is an automatic given. Duh. Who wouldn't want it to happen? At least I'm not some mindless, clueless dipshit who goes around, blind to the bad things in the world and then crying a river when bad stuff happens. Some "optimistic/positive" people that I've known have been very naive and haven't experienced much in their life. It's kinda scary.