Questions for aries...

is it common for an aries to tell someone we are through and then call back again and continue the reltionship as if nothing happened?

is it also common for you to break up with a person and then want the person back when you think they have found someone else?

how close are you to your mothers? because aries I know are very close to their mothers (males at least)

and for the guys do you want an independent woman yet want her to wait on you hand and foot?

I am asking because my sis has gone through all this with her boyfriend? ex? who is an aries. he blabs everything to his mother, he wants her to be independent yet expects her to take care of his every need, he broke up with her or at least pushed them apart and when she finally told him she thinks she found another guy he now sends her valentine gifts when valentine day is a week away. he basically saying if he can't have her no one can, he told her if she dates the other guy he will never speak to her again. I just want to know if that is a common aries thing.

Not an Aries buuuut - the Aries guys I know - yes they're close to their moms.
Yes - they go through the whole "inedependant/take care of me" duality.
Yes - they push women away, but still want them at arms length to seemingly either keep tabs on them or to still exert some sort of control over them, what they do, who they see.

No I am not at all close to my mom. I am close to no one for that matter.

I dont see independence in women as a threat but I would want my woman to take care of me at least on a notional basis. Itz perfectly alright if shez too busy but she should remember me once a day at least...And which would show.

Indeed I would love to have considerable "control" over her otherwise watz the difference in being in a relationship and being friends. Vice versa, I would love it if the attention is directed towards me.

"Indeed I would love to have considerable "control" over her otherwise watz the difference in being in a relationship and being friends. Vice versa, I would love it if the attention is directed towards me."

Huh? GA.....maybe I did not understand what you wrote but do you honestly feel that having "control" over a woman means being in a relationship vs friendship?

From a woman's point of view....any man that felt he NEEDED to have control over me would send me running for the hills and not looking back. Usually, the need for having control is because one is not secure within himself and fears loss. In a healthy relationship....there is no need to control another person - you accept them for who they are.

If I have misunderstood your posts, I apologize deeply.

No need for apologies FB...Perhaps I wrote it in a manner which would lead to confusion.

When I said "control" , I was talking of that feeling of benign "possessiveness" which come automatically from being genuinely concerned about some body. If therez no trace of that sorta control in a relationship then what r U left with ? A transactional arrangement at the best I guess. I strongly feel that traces of envy and its demonstration make any relationship healthy andvthe absence of it may leave the other person guessing.

i think your man should have some control....

"i think you man should have some control...." Hmmmm...interesting, why? and in what situations would you feel that a man "should control" you? - just curious...as a Freebird is!

Maybe it is an age thing...but I really don't need anyone to "control" me nor do I desire to be controlled. I prefer compromising and agreeing or agreeing to disagree in life.

"Maybe it is an age thing...but I really don't need anyone to "control" me nor do I desire to be controlled"


Bottomline is - If that makes U happy , good for U.

Some actually want to control and be controlled to a reasonable extent. Makes it look worthwhile.

as they say....whatever floats your boat! 😉

I agree....do what makes you happy 🙂 as long as one is enjoying themselves than it is ALL GOOD!

LOL...yeah whatever floats Ur boat !

is it common for an aries to tell someone we are through and then call back again and continue the relationship as if nothing happened? Yes. We get a little carried away when we are angry. I used to have a problem with this, not so much anymore.

is it also common for you to break up with a person and then want the person back when you think they have found someone else? Yes

how close are you to your mothers? Not very but I'm a woman. I'm closer to my dad.

"is it common for an aries to tell someone we are through and then call back again and continue the relationship as if nothing happened?"

Not with me, when I tell someone that this relationship no longer is working then I mean it and I am finished. I will continue to be "friends" with that person but a relationship....nope.

"is it also common for you to break up with a person and then want the person back when you think they have found someone else?"

No. If I break up with them then it is over for me. It will take me some time to really know IF I want to continue or not but once I KNOW....then I know.

I am also a female, I was close with my mom (she has passed) and am still very, very close with my Leo dad - he is an awesome Dad...don't get to see him as much as I'd like since we live so far apart. 😢

Also remember....all Aries are different and I also feel that our experiences account for some of that along with our age and of course, the sex of the Aries individual.

now she feels torn although she says otherwise. she keeps talking about how it will hurt him if she leaves. the main problem is he does not want kids now and my sis does. so she meets this taurus guy sho wantss kids and her bf? ex? is callling her all the time. I keep telling her she is one patient woman they have been together for seven years. at one time he wanted to get married but she wanted to finish school. so now after all the fights he calls her every day. but everything she says he relays to his mother (well he has a bad relationship with his father because his father always put him down growing up). even his sis and bro in law told my sister to leave. his past ex have all gotten up one day and left and he never heard from them again so since my sis keeps going back he won't let go. and I am tired of hearing about their fights. last time they went shopping he refused to buy her a measly chocolate but bought himself about 500 Euro worth of elctronics that he already has for himself. and when she asked to make food for him he said he was not hungry and a few min later she finds him in the kitchen making something to eat and when she asked why he said because she was lazy.

this scares me bout the aries I like (I am more than convinced he likes me now. since i am still a big ol chicken I can't muster the strength to say a measly hi, but while I was talking to my friends he spent the entire time looking at me and my friend was the one who noticed it and told me.)

not trying to sound bitchy or rude...but it always seems like people are constantly dismissing the fact that a lot of these aries men act childish and really rude...yes they have really great hearts and can act like sweehearts, one of my best friends is an aries guy...he's awesome...but his relationships are always a mess...i don't say anything because it's none of my buisness and he wouldn't want to hear it anyway. however if i was ever in a relationship where a guy did some of the things you guys mentioned...whether he's a aries, leo, cancer, whatever i would leave and not allow someone to treat me like that. i don't care if he's confused and flip flopping, get it together or get out.

Cancerinlove, It's an Aries way of either saying, 1) I screwed up bad and don't know how to ask you to forgive me, so we'll just pretend it didn't happen and that means you forgive me, OR 2) You screwed up and I forgive you. Let it go and you have him. He DOESN'T want a fight---THAT'S the important thing.

is it common for an aries to tell someone we are through and then call back again and continue the reltionship as if nothing happened?
Yes...though I?ve been controlling that aspect lately... but won?t anymore... I think I?m being too permissive...

is it also common for you to break up with a person and then want the person back when you think they have found someone else?
Yes, at least I?ve done that..

how close are you to your mothers? because aries I know are very close to their mothers (males at least)
I?m a female... I?m very close to my dad

and for the guys do you want an independent woman yet want her to wait on you hand and foot?
I want a guy to be in control of his work and his career... want him to have goals and all that...
I want him to care about me... in a moderated way... I?ll care about him too...
If I give something, I?ll expect something in return... Don?t like to be the only one that gives... I think it?s human

I find that whenever I lash out, what I'm really looking for is the other person to stand up to me. I admit it; I enjoy a good argument.

That being said, most people are too sensitive to understand this. To them the defintion of happiness is avoiding conflict.

But to an Aries, the def. of a healthy relationship is starting a fight, tearing each other up, then having wild, animalistic, make-up sex.

I swear, it's true.

That's the fantasy, anyway.

However, most guys just think I'm a crazy bitch and want to get as far away from me as they can.

My dad is Aries and my mom is Capricorn. Needless to say, their relationship isn't so good.

It's tough being an Aries, let me tell ya. Our emotions both imprison us and set us free. We want nothing more from life than finding that one, special person we can say anything to without being hurt.

Of course, this isn't logical. And so the cycle continues.