Mr. Aries

Well I have known this aries for about 3 or 4 years good friends I go to his house and chat me and sister and some other people, we call his house happy hour. He knew alot about my love life and I knew alot about his, He is a stone cold FREAK....he has toys and all and I have seen and touched them all, everytime I would go over to his house he would show me that he got a new sex toy and I would say let me see. He would go as far as putting it between my legs and just get freaky with it and I would be laughing and telling him to stop and sometimes I would endulge.

Well one day I was sitting in his house me my sister and he proposed that he wanted to sleep with me. I was there drinking and I said next week well he was looking forward to it, got the liquar I wanted and all and called and told me he got what I wanted. I got scared so I was telling my sister that I did not want to do this I will feel funny about the friendship, and at the same time I said I was going to do it and I have to keep my word (I really did not think he was going to take me serious).

Well the day came and we were talking and I had to drink because I was nervous but I confronted him about how I was feeling and let him know that I was not sure if I wanted to take this step it could possible change the friendship and you know at some point feelings are going to get involved, and he told me that if I start having feelings then I needed to act like I have on a bungie cord and pull myself back, well we started laughing but I respect that.

Well we slept together and all and it was different and strange enough pretty good (no toys involved) so when I left I told him to call me if he needed me.
Well, I came over again, and I had so many questions about his actions and I can say he was honest I do believe, well this one night I asked him why me and he said that he has liked me all these years and I did not know that he said that he plotted to get me so I said you set me up and he started laughing.

I have initiated a lot, during the last 3 weeks, like sex card games, games with his toys, taking a shower together etc., and he always either, giggles or just look at me and smile...(what the hell does that men) I have asked he just won't tell me.We have not kissed, I am afraid to do that for fear of my feelings growing but the other morinig when I left his house after we sat at the table and he fixed me breakfast and we ate togerthhe kissed me and I just walked out the door.

I have initiated a lot, during the last 3 weeks, like sex card games, games with his toys, taking a shower together etc., and he always either, giggles or just look at me and smile...(what the hell does that men) I have asked he just won't tell me.

We have not kissed, I am afraid to do that for fear of my feelings growing but the other morinig when I left his house after we sat at the table and he fixed me breakfast and we ate togerthhe kissed me and I just walked out the door.

So my question is do he really like me it is hard for me to tell I feel that he does but I am not sure because I have never dealt with an Aries....

Please excuse my double writing...LOL

yea...well I mentioned to him about other girls he said that he was seeing another girl but he did not see her that much. And I questioned him about coming to his house and not running into any of his females and he said "Did'nt I tell you I don't see girls like that" and after that I just shut up and have not said anything about it again.

I mean it like I still go to his house and sit and drink my sister and I and we be making eyes across the table I can feel him looking at me but I refuse to look back...
After sex we lay in bed and he be cracking me up

He told me one night that "I made him feel like a broken record" and I said which on a 45 or LP and we fell out. It's like everytime after sex he tells me how I made him feel in the funniest way...and I be dieing laughing...he is fun to be with.

well, I agree, sounds like he likes you. But just to make sure, I wouldn't initiate the sex and everything anymore as you wrote. Take a step back and let him come to you. Aries like the chase. They are the most masculine signs I know of. My bf's moon is in aries and I would know.

thanks alot...will keep that in mind.

Bottom line, Scorpionlday...just keep doin' what you're doin'. You are not supposed to have all the answers, and to be honest w/ you...not knowing is the best part. You two are having fun, and you are friends, thus you already care about each other. Don't be too quick to give yourselves some sort of title...just enjoy yourself. BTW, when he stares at you and smiles, that means that he really appreciates you being with him, and he appreciates you letting him be who he is!

Last note, once an Aries tells you something, e.g. "I don't see other girls like that" he means it, and will only tell you once. So know that he is being truthful.

Good luck!

I was at his house on friday after being with him on Wed but I did not stay I just went there to chit chat and drink and he always sits in front of me at the table, well my phone rang it was this guy that he knows I was seeing and I don't want to see him any more and he knows the story about why I don't want to see him. Well I left my jacket at his house and I told my aries that I have to go get it but I don't want to stay and if I go over there I just need to get my coat and leave well the guy called and I answered my phone and was speaking with him about me getting my jacket and the Aries got up and left the room until I got off.....

So when I left on Friday night to go home I have not called him and I had no intentions on calling him I needed some my time to think. So last night around 9 he called and said hello and that he has not heard from me. So I told him that I did not go get my coat and I was just at home getting some needed rest, so we chatted for a while and then hung up.

The thing that bugs me with him is he has no converstation especially over the phone. He called me and was watching tv and I was like why did you call me if can't give me your undivided attention, so he laughed and said that he was watching some damn show, and he was tired of talking to the people he was talking to and he needed a different converstion, so I said I like being the "Chosen One" and he said nothing but I laughed.

He is 53 and I am soon to be 45, I know he is stuck in his ways but damn I need some converstion, we do conversate good in person but I am always the one bring up stuff to talk about. I told him that I am very pensive, I think a lot about a lot of stuff so converstation is nothing to me but sometimes I would like for the man to start also. He does talk but he talk alot about the pass in his life, and he always starts the conversation after we make love and have fun, and I like that,I guess that is good because I get to know how he is and was.

I tell him to call me if he needs me and I am thinking know that he called me last night was a call to come and see him either tonight or tommorrow I am more leaning towards tommorrow but I would like for him to call and ask me, he will give some subtle hints and then I pick up on them and ask him "Do you want me to come over? and says "yes"

Well I don't think that will happen just yet, because I have expressed to him that I don't want to get my feelings involved like that as of yet and he feel the same way.

When I was there on friday I made a comment about controlling my feelings because if I don't then I am gonna want something that I can't have and he nodded his head in agreement, and I said that I believe that a relationship will be good if a man decides he wants a relationship verses a women at least I will know that that is what the man wants and he it greed with that also.

A lot of times while we are making love I stop to recollect my sexually feeings and he knows it and he has told me on friday that his is also controlling his feelings.

I don't think he want a girlfriend but I do believe that he wants a women, he has told me that he stop dealing with the women he was seeing because they have to many issues and they can't handle it. But yet he tells me I have issues. LOL

My biggest concern is that our mutual friends do not know that we are seeing each other the only people that knows is me him and my sister, and I have not said anything and neither has my sister, I just hope that he don't go running his mouth, because 2 of our mutual friends was liking me but I never gave them the time of day and I told him.

I have no problem if he tells I just want him to let me know when he does.

Ok, I with my aries friend, on Saturday night and I had the most fun he had me dieing laughing and it was the most I laughed in a long time.

The thing that gets me is he has to much control with the sex. I was still wanting some more of him the next morning and he told me, he was not going to let me take his last bit of energy he had left. So I am thinking to myself, so you don't care that I am still in need? Well I excepted it got dress for breakfast and we talked
I made a comment to him about don't you like my sexually drive and he said yea, but to me he may like it but he can't handle it. I am wondering because he is 8 years older than me that it should me ok, I don't think so, I have a very high sex drive and my thing is, did he not knnow what you was getting into when he decided to proposed the type of relationship?

And I wonder how he feels or do he knows that he is not fully satisfying me. I find that with him I have fun sex, not serious but fun sex, and that is what's keeping me there, Hell I would hate for him to want a relationship I would have to tell him no because I won't be fully satisfied and I don't think that is good to be with someone that don't fully satisfy you.

So my question is how do I get him to give me sex more than just one time?

"So my question is how do I get him to give me sex more than just one time?"

First of all, Aries love challenges...sex is no different with us. If it is toooo easy, we can walk away from it. Give him something to work for. Next time, let him make the moves - enjoy yourself and then you say...."okay, that was incredible but I need to get going, got other plans." Keep to your objective SLady and scoot on.

You will have just "sparked" the Aries....now, me personally - I don't know that when he contacted me next if I would be too eager to provide - if you know what I mean 😉

So glad you are having fun with your Aries pal 🙂

Best wishes to you SL! Hope this helps....

Ok I went to see Mr. Aries yesterday and I asked for a hug and he hug me so tight it felt good. Ok here's the issue I was telling him that I needed some undivided attention, some passion, affection and good loving, he just chuckled and I said why are you laughing, I then said you told me why you always chuckle when I be saying stuff and I said you told me that it means, You are either thinking the same thing or because you see that it could be fun. So I said which one was it I can't quite remember, and he said "two headed" and I said what does that mean and he did not tell me so during the course of my visit I asked him again about his chuckle and he said you want me to tell you again and I said yea and then I said why are avoiding the subject and of course he chuckkled again so then I said you know I don't like to be in the gray area and since I really don't have nothing to lose here because the friendship will always be here so I am going to just say this, so I told him that I have done my research on the characteristics of an Aries and he said what did you come up with and I said well, scorpio jealous could be a problem but I am not worried about that cuz I can handle that and then I said Aries likes the company of people around them something like that and he chuckled, then I said the sex is off the chain, so I am not even going to discuss that issue, that is not important to me and then I said I have moved on to a whole other issue and that is getting to know you and I don't understand why you can't tell me again why you chuckle when I say certain things, and you know I don't like to be in the gray area so I will tell you this, I said I am going to take myself out the gray area and look at your chuckle as a good thing and he said yea do that. I just looked at him and went home later that night

I was blown for a minute cuz I can't understand why he just won't tell me what it means when he chuckle? We are grown adults and I really thought that I could sit and talk with him like adults and that I have finally met someone that can be open to me. Oh I also told him that I know where I stand I am not going any further unless he wants to no big deal, I will stay in my postion until something changes or course he chuckled again.

Aries, people help me to understand this chuckle business, cuz I don't get what the big secret is.

Not an Aries, but was friends and lovers with an Aries guy off and on for years.

When you're guy said, "two headed" he could have meant that it was both of the options you gave - he was thinking the same thing *and* it seemed like fun. Or, if it were MY Aries guy - I would say he was chuckling because he knew you'd be back for more. 😉

Aries guys can be pretty arrogant and full of themselves. Sometimes it was disgusting especially when it had no basis in reality. Sometimes it was endearing, like a kid who thinks they're the first person on the planet to ever do a cartwheel. 🙂

I don't play games at all, I just naturally step out of a situation(or relationship) when I don't feel good about things. This went a looooooooooong way in keeping this guy interested. He would just be getting comfortable, I'd be bored or unsatisfied and walk away. No chuckling then. 😉

Oh, and about getting more sex from an Aries - the guy I was with liked, no LOVED sex, but he couldn't do it as much as you would think. 😢
I was always left wanting more, the same as you. My sex drive was ALWAYS higher than his, and we knew each other in High School. He tried to keep up, but couldn't which is part of the reason why I would keep walking away from him.

But good luck, I hope things turn out well for both of you.

"I was always left wanting more, the same as you. My sex drive was ALWAYS higher than his, and we knew each other in High School. He tried to keep up, but couldn't which is part of the reason why I would keep walking away from him."

Right, I don't get it but what i have with him is just a sex thing with benefits, and that is fine he knows that if I meet someone that I want to actually build something with I will leave this benefit package.

Yea he is not good and giving me all that I want that is why I let it be known that I need some UNDIVIDIED ATTENTION and I told him need to listen to it.

So the chuckle is a good thing, ummmmmm

He was so be teaching me how to play poker and strip poker at that and then I told him that once I learned how to play we can go to ATL City and we can play poker and he chuckled again. I think he likes me more than I can see, he knows my birthday is Thurday and I really wonder what he is going to do. I would hate to be dissappointed with what he might do.

Message posted by: Scorpionlady on 10/30/2006 2:26:01 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.232

"Ok, I with my aries friend, on Saturday night and I had the most fun he had me dieing laughing and it was the most I laughed in a long time.

The thing that gets me is he has to much control with the sex. I was still wanting some more of him the next morning and he told me, he was not going to let me take his last bit of energy he had left. So I am thinking to myself, so you don't care that I am still in need? Well I excepted it got dress for breakfast and we talked
I made a comment to him about don't you like my sexually drive and he said yea, but to me he may like it but he can't handle it. I am wondering because he is 8 years older than me that it should me ok, I don't think so, I have a very high sex drive and my thing is, did he not knnow what you was getting into when he decided to proposed the type of relationship?

And I wonder how he feels or do he knows that he is not fully satisfying me. I find that with him I have fun sex, not serious but fun sex, and that is what's keeping me there, Hell I would hate for him to want a relationship I would have to tell him no because I won't be fully satisfied and I don't think that is good to be with someone that don't fully satisfy you.

So my question is how do I get him to give me sex more than just one time?"

You should try to get him to eat you out if he doesn't want to stick you. That what I would've done of I wanted to conserve my energy anyway.

He is not going to do that he is adament about it to. We have discuss that issue a long time ago before we started sleeping together.

Then what is in it for you Scorpionlady if he can't do that!

scorplady i sent you pm

Me and Mr. Aries are doing good, I did have to express to him a couple of times that this should not be hard and don't make it hard. I said that because he sometimes act like he can't answer a questions that I don't see no reason to not answer.

Last night I was on the phone with him and he was walking to the grocery store and I said to him to be careful and safe and he was shock that I said that, he was like Oh!!! so you care? and I said yea I care why you thought I did not care I do care, and he said yes maam I will be careful but I can tell he was a happy camper.

He also made the statment the other morning that I have to start cooking for myself when I am at his house and he needs to get a meal....I am not a cook and he knows it, I told him that I enjoy him cooking for me. I hope he does not stop.

Roxi I am sorry that you feel that way...I get the impression that the Aries that you was with really broke your heart.

This man is my friend and will always be even after the this fling is over. I know what I am doing and what I have. And right know I am having fun....I don't want him like that and he knows it. I don't look at me being a whore, because a whore sleeps with anyone I would thing....I am just sleeping with him and he with me, and because we were platontic for 5 years we are know getting to know another side of each other.

He does respect me I don't know what you are reading into this but it is not that serious. I go see him 1-2 times a week to spend the night, if I see him more than that then I just go over and sit and talk to him....I would think if a man does not respect you he would not give you as much of his time.

As if you did not know this is all about sex sweetie...I am a grown women not really looking for a relationship at least not with him...he has needs I have needs why not put our needs together and have fun.

"aries men....ALL decent men....i'm SURE.........like a bit of mystery and intrigue in their women..."

trust me when I say this man is indeed intrigue, he never knows what to expect from me. I make him laugh a lot and he looks forward to my company.....

Again we are just in another stage of this friendship that is know sexually, I don't think it's going to change from that....He knows that if I find someone that I want to build a relationship with he know he has to go. What's the problem, other than you are not where I am.

No hard feelings that's how you feel.

lol

I play my games with him, then I get upset because he's playing me.

Thought I was in a pin ball game . . boing, boing, boing, boing . .

lol, can whores ever find true love if the whole foundation on the relationship is built on disrepect? Dahhhhhh . . . . . . .