Don't tell Aries what to do!!

Aries and I have been talkin since august - we met in august when i was visiting my home - bahamas where he lives - i live in canada for now
anyway i like him alot and he likes me alot - he even told me he loves me (wud be nice if he did) anyway i'm really into him but here's the thing -i'm goin in dec to visit him for a few wks -we haven't been together since aug - anyway we both decided that when i visted we guna have to sit down and have a serious talk bout US

now here's the thing - i personally feel that when i go there i shud tell him that he shud be single for a few months to get his thoughts togehter - i say this cus he ended a 3yr reltionship recently and i jus wanna make sure he gets time away from me (mentally, emtionally and physically) so he can clear his head and make sure he really wants this. cus i dont wanna rush into this reltionship and den he ends up realising this was on the rebound - he was the one that ended it wit his ex tho

so what is ur advice— cus i know aries HATE being told what to do - i'm looking out for myself here and for him as well - gosh i wanna be wit him sooooooo much but i don't wanna be a rebound chic

i haven't talk to him bout this yet - if i do then it will be when i go there - for now things are ok with us - we talk almost everyday so...help

Cancer12, I would not be to concerned about the Aries man being told what to do. I do not feel that what you need to share with him is about telling him what to do unless you say it that way to him. The best thing is for you to share your honest feelings with him from your point of view. You are telling him what you need and believe me, he will respect you for that. This is about you lady and your well being. If he wants you in his life, he will wait and he will honor your decision. I agree with you...do NOT be a rebound woman, that situation rarely works out and it leaves you feeling yucky!

"i'm looking out for myself here and for him as well" the reality of this statement is - you can only look out for YOU - it is not your job to look out for him...if you take on this role you may become more of the "mother" type to him. Stay his girlfriend and let him be a big boy making his own decisions. Aries need and want to make their own decisions. We tend to see others making decisions for us as controlling or that perhaps the other does not have enough confidence in our ability to make our own decisions.

Hope this was of some help to you - sending you good wishes for a great time with your Mr. Aries 😉


Appears that you got it goin' on and know what you want out of life - good for YOU!😉

Thanx Freebird,
i am upfront with him but i am sooooooo scared of trusting him with my heart - i take US seriously and i'm jus not sure how serious he really is bout us - he's the kinda person who doesn't volunteer information but when i do confront him bout stuff he does talk - i jus feel like i have to make sure i ask the "right questions" meaning i have to ask specific questions becus he does not freely offer info - he seems like he's bein honest with me

when he gets angry -he told me to jus let him go and cool off and i was ok cool - i take him seriously and respect that cus he says he says stuff he regrets later when he's angry - BUT when he gets me angry he doens't take me seriously - we chat regularly on msn using webcams and when i'm angry he laughs - he sees me being angry and laughs saying "u're so cute when ur angry" - i told him i don't joke when he's angry but how do i make him get it?

You are so welcome Cancer12 😉

I so understand you being uncomfortable with trusting him with your heart - we Aries have this "free spirit" mechanism that was hard wired into our being and with this trait of ours...I do believe that we unintentionally emit a desire for freedom which leaves others to wonder about our intentions.

The other thing about us Aries is we do enjoy communicating and being open (at least I do - this also may depend on how evolved the Aries creature is) with our feelings. I say, be yourself - if you feel the need to have peace of heart and mind...share with him your feelings, this way you will know where you stand and can then make a decision that is best for you. You will find out much about your friend by how he answers your questions and if he is indeed the "right" man for you.

I sort of relate relationships with men like choosing a dog - when we want a dog...we know what kind we want and why we want it. If someone likes big dogs they are not going to be happy with a little she-poo or with a cat are they?

"i jus feel like i have to make sure i ask the "right questions"" Cancer12, the right questions lie in your heart - trust your instincts and you will automatically ask what your heart needs to know. All will be fine 😉

"he seems like he's bein honest with me" I am sure he is....us Aries are honest peoples - it makes life so much easier to be honest and this to an Aries is another aspect of "freedom" 😉

hey Roxijam,

wow um my situation is like yours - i met him when he had a girl and he wanted to dump her - but he said she didn't really do anything wrong and that it ended up being harder to dumb her than he thought

anyway he's dumbed her but she hates my guts - she even tried her best to break us up and feed him lies - when i first met my aries- we hit it off but after finding out bout him having a girlfriend - i told him we shud jus be friends but our connection couldn't keep up apart and so he ended it with her.

now he and i are together...hopefully we can do this

Rox, thanx for sharing with me - feels good that i'm not alone so thank you for that - u really think we have a change tho - i think i'll show u his chart

About Him:
sun sign: aries
moon sign: most likely pisces (sligh chance could be -aries)
mercury: pisces
venus: Taurus
mars: capricorn
jupiter: pisces
saturn: sag
uranus: sag
neptune: capricorn
pluto: scorp
True Node: aries
Chiron: Gemini

About Me:
sun sign: cancer
moon sign: leo
mercury: cancer
venus: virgo
mars: cancer
jupiter: sag
saturn: libra
uranus: sag
neptune: sag
pluto: libra
True Node: Gemini
Chiron: Gemini

wut u think rox?