Race to the finish (Page 2)

Then again, he does go back to FL to teach this summer. All can still come crashing down...

*sigh*

Posted by lildol
I'm contemplating ulterior motives... UGH!

Of course he has an ulterior motive. He likes you and wants to make sure he should. Hence the interview with the disinterested third party. Time to dust off your best behaviour! Assuming you can find it...😛

Posted by lildol
Then again, he does go back to FL to teach this summer. All can still come crashing down...*sigh*

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Good to see you haven't completely lost your senses. 😄

Posted by StoicGoat

Posted by lildol
I'm contemplating ulterior motives... UGH!

Of course he has an ulterior motive. He likes you and wants to make sure he should. Hence the interview with the disinterested third party. Time to dust off your best behaviour! Assuming you can find it...😛

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Haha, I am always well behaved - as long as you don't have me behind closed doors 😉

Not only will his friend be in town, but the wife as well. I'm sure I'll do just fine with them... I seriously doubt he's looking for approval of that sort though, he is all Aries after all!

Posted by geminicandle
Good luck, you deserve happiness in love —

Don't fret so much, lady! Aries men love spontaneous, positive energy.

Thanks Gems! That's what he says he's trying to give me, some happiness...

Night out, dinner, then his house, no sex, just cuddling... I'm good 🙂

He did basically give me a full body massage though 😛

😄

He is too nice though... too considerate... too patient... too everything 🙂

Posted by lildol
He is too nice though... too considerate... too patient... too everything 🙂

Mmmmmmm. I can see how that would be troubling.

It's a little scary...

I'm not used to this sort of thing!

Change is good?

I like 🙂

LOL, he came to my office to say sorry for not stopping in earlier because he's been busy today. I just found that amusing, in a sweet way 🙂

Ummm.... I think I have a boyfriend now :/

Want's me to be the only man he's with
Questions what I'm up to when I have something to do
Contacts me while away
Tells me what he's is doing while he's doing it (even while out of town)
Let's me know when he gets home
Calls me when I have things stressing in my life to make sure I'm ok (and need a debriefing)
etc, etc, etc...

How the eff this happen—

Ok, I think the best friend is still coming to town this weekend, all could change by next week 😛

Damn wish I were you.... sounds great!!

He asked me the other day what I was wearing (was a first) - he expected me to say the color of my panties as I've told him I coordinate and have texted him color in the past. Anyway, I joked that he needed a distraction on the train as he was on his way home - he said thinking of me was distracting enough 🙂 In any case, I still responded that I was wearing heels, thi-highs and no panties and although he said he didn't believe me it was a nice visual.

So, I went out and bought a pair of black thi-highs with a red garter belt... we're going out tonight 😉

Is that spontaneous enough to keep Aries on his toes? 🙂

*asked=texted

*sigh*

Actions certainly speak louder than words... but words feel good too and I got a whole list of 'em tonight 🙂

We're on the same page...

Don't say "sigh" - this is what life is supposed to be like!!

Girl meets ram. And they headbutted happily ever after.

It was a sigh of contentment accompanied by a smile 🙂

He put his arms around my waist from behind, kissed me softly on the back of my neck and then my cheek and told me things he liked (about me)... like my company, our conversations, listening to my problems, my quirks, how he admires my independence yet thinks I'm vulnerable and how he just wants to make me happy...

He's probably a master player 😛

Or maybe he is just a nice guy thinking,
"Wow - I finally met a great chick. I didn't know there were any left. How lucky am I?"

Could be...

*Cap radar on full assessing all he says and every move he makes*

He's like any woman's dream at this point!

Ugh, I don't know if I like him, or the real life fantasy he is...

He IS my fantasy all the way

Yeah, IDK, this is unreal

Everything, him, the way he is, it's just surreal

Before my heart gets broken I probably should just end it...

and he looks a lot like this guy to boot

Is that Furio?

I am coming to this wedding.

Nice to see you are talking about 'ending it' already😉 only a cap!!!
You need to be taken aside and give a talking to. Sorry I am not there.

Channel my avvi... say "weeeeeeeeeeeee" and just go with the flow dammit. That's an order.

Forget you are a goat.
Go Ram.

Yeah, Furio, and the Aries wears his hair back all the time too 🙂 (you should see him when he's all sweaty and it falls out 😉)

But, that's NOT what get's to me about this guy... it's the fact he's like what I have always imagined someone should treat me on all levels and I'm just waiting for it to all come crashing down...

Why set myself up for disappointment? 😢

Posted by lildol
Yeah, Furio, and the Aries wears his hair back all the time too 🙂 (you should see him when he's all sweaty and it falls out 😉)

But, that's NOT what get's to me about this guy... it's the fact he's like what I have always imagined someone should treat me on all levels and I'm just waiting for it to all come crashing down...

Why set myself up for disappointment? 😢

**CapSlap**

Your whole life some dude has been waiting to treat you right.
I say give. The guy. A chance.

A little funny (I thought) he ended his whole list with "but, I don't love you"

You should have seen how fast I jumped out of his arms and responded with "I don't love you either, we haven't been seeing each other that long!" I probably was looking at him like he was nuts at that point (way to ruin it Aries 😛). Caps may be slow, but quick to stomp any idea of a fire out...

CRASH!

He's still in love with another woman

SEE, TOLD YA!

*sigh*

😭

I thought I'd be able to handle it better... the crash that is. Not so much.

He still want's to see me, BUT if his lost love comes walking back into his life he doesn't know what he would do.

I don't know what to do now! I'm sitting here crying over some guy I hardly know really, a man who seemed so wonderful on the surface yet it still hung up on some woman he hasn't even spoken to in over a year (she got married).

Posted by lildol
From what I've read Aries tend to move fast (in relationships/sex/etc)... or is that a bunch of BS?

Looking to hear from the Natives as well as others...

It depends on the individual but the ones with their Venus in Taurus seem to be very cautious of who they will allow access into their hearts as well as their bed rooms from my experience. My girl was insistent that we keep our relationship strictly platonic for an entire year after we became a couple. I had no problem with it...I thought it was kind of cute...

He wants to ratchet it down a bit, I'm moving too fast he says LOL A CAP moving fast, that's funny! Although we do go in for the kill when we want something. He said we can hang out but no sex... I've been friend zoned! He says I'm "special" FUCK THAT! If I were special I'd be "something"...

😭

I'm thinking maybe he's too warmed and it scares him...

I'll be honest, I got a little emo last night when the fact came out that he was still hung up on his ex... which I immediately considered "emotionally unavailable" and expressed my discontent. Had I not got upset about it, all would still be good.

He thinks I'm in love, I balked at that!

Just trying to rationalize the whole 180...

How did I get upset? I cried.

I'm still meeting the best friend and his wife this afternoon...

I suppose I shouldn't read too much into that.

All seems good. Got along with the friends just fine, I really like them.

The Aries and I did have a good talk this morning, he acknowledged we communicate and approach things very differently in matters of the heart. He didn't say it, but it does not sound like he wants to throw it all away... he just wants me to live more in the moment (and not think so much). He admitted that having given his heart away prior and it didn't work out, he's not ready to go down that road again yet. In other words, he's scared. But, this leaves me in limbo and limbo is hard on a Cap to be certain!

So, I either live in the moment and enjoy what is presented, or I walk away. As a friend pointed out, I have/had hope that this could be "something". Moving forward I don't know what to do with my hope and if it is even a possibility. I'm now hanging on "yet"...

I told him we can reevaluate in 10 years. He thought that was thinking too far forward, so I knocked it back to 5, he told me that was fine...

Yeah, I'm all messed up! Didn't expect any of this at all... I don't have feelings god dammit!