Why does Aries always run?

Posted by bhakti7
I am a young Aqua male who has a question for the Aries women out there. The last 2 Aries women I was with completely possessed me in a way that I felt it was meant-to-be. The first one would act very coy after we became intimate and it seemed as though she was giving me a cat and mouse game to chase her. Then one day she just bluntly asked me not to talk to her. The second one most recently kept telling me how much she wanted me for herself (again after we became quickly intimate) and how I was meant for her, and then promptly ran away and won't talk to me.

I would just like to know if this is the selfish side of the Aries showing or the insecure side. Everything seemed destined to become more than just fun but in the end I got burned both times and felt used (which does not happen ever). At a point now where I would rather avoid Aries in the future no matter how good everything is (or seems) for the fear that i'm being played without being told so up front.

Thanks

idk...is this cat and mouse? I also don't think its about being insecure. Seems to me the signs of them not being interested are there plain and simple; the first one told you outright not to speak to her, and the second one will not talk to you. Not necessarily justifying that behaviour though...

Trouble is in an Aries mind, once we go off someone there is very little that can be done to change our minds. We will have thought about it for a while and made the decision without you having a hint. If you had pulled away from us though - well that would be different lol.

I would agree that in this instance it is very selfish and it did hurt you; I have done this in the past - just completely turned a 360 and told someone I just didn't want them anymore and they had nooooo idea - but in my head I had already worked it out.

so imho to answer your question.. selfish yes, insecure no.

Yes, yes, yes. Mine would run about every 9 to 12 weeks everytime we would get back together. Breakups were pretty clean and pretty silent. Then suddenly they became mean and nasty breakups. After the third bad one I have decided to try to accept and move forward. Not with another, just not running back begging for another chance anymore.
He won't leave me alone now that I have been trying to cut communication. I've done well but his harassment is relentless now. I've always heard Aries don't like to be chased so when I decided to finally let go I thought it would be a clean release...

Posted by bhakti7
I am a young Aqua male who has a question for the Aries women out there. The last 2 Aries women I was with completely possessed me in a way that I felt it was meant-to-be. The first one would act very coy after we became intimate and it seemed as though she was giving me a cat and mouse game to chase her. Then one day she just bluntly asked me not to talk to her. The second one most recently kept telling me how much she wanted me for herself (again after we became quickly intimate) and how I was meant for her, and then promptly ran away and won't talk to me.

I would just like to know if this is the selfish side of the Aries showing or the insecure side. Everything seemed destined to become more than just fun but in the end I got burned both times and felt used (which does not happen ever). At a point now where I would rather avoid Aries in the future no matter how good everything is (or seems) for the fear that i'm being played without being told so up front.

Thanks

First of all, try not to generalize. Not all Aries women are possessive and selfish. Actually, out of all the zodiac signs, I would say we're the least controlling, and if you did not want to be possessed, why continue the relationship? This story seems very one sided to be completely honest. No one can assess the situation without knowing the true logistics of your interaction with her. With regards to your last statement...if you want to avoid a zodiac sign based on two negative interactions that you've had,*shrugs*, it's your prerogative. Yes Aries women can be selfish, and maybe she was, and I understand you are hurt from the experience, but aries people are clueless sometimes (by the way I'm not justifying what she did). Have you ever objectively pointed out her behaviour to her and said, hey this bothers me? Maybe you both had your own idea of how the relationship was...clash of perception. Anyway, good luck with everything and hopefully you will have more positive encounters with Arian ladies.

Posted by feby
I've noticed that aries LOVE to be chased. In fact I would say that they NEED it even. Everyone wants to feel wanted and desired.
But alas, my aqua self sometimes doesn't feel like it. I would rather be chased 80 percent of the time and have my shining dominating moments the other 20. At least that's what I'm saying right now 😛

nah, I think we like being approached and knowing someone is interested in us, but not necessarily chased. If anything, we do the chasing lol.

Posted by bhakti7
I am a young Aqua male who has a question for the Aries women out there. The last 2 Aries women I was with completely possessed me in a way that I felt it was meant-to-be. The first one would act very coy after we became intimate and it seemed as though she was giving me a cat and mouse game to chase her. Then one day she just bluntly asked me not to talk to her. The second one most recently kept telling me how much she wanted me for herself (again after we became quickly intimate) and how I was meant for her, and then promptly ran away and won't talk to me.

I would just like to know if this is the selfish side of the Aries showing or the insecure side. Everything seemed destined to become more than just fun but in the end I got burned both times and felt used (which does not happen ever). At a point now where I would rather avoid Aries in the future no matter how good everything is (or seems) for the fear that i'm being played without being told so up front.

Thanks

I'm sorry you had this experience. If it's any consolation if you keep trying you will find a good woman that loves you.

Personally, whenever I went cold about a man it was because of a certain something I did not like. Maybe it could be insecurity from others views but I don't think it's that simple to wave away.

It could be something you said. Maybe you teased them (Aquas are good teasers) and they just felt ridiculed. Maybe you said something well meaning like a constructive critique and it bruised their ego a bit. If a guy does that even if it's well meaning I just don't like being around him much.

It could be they didn't like the sex. I'm so sorry to say this but it could be a valid reason. Not that you are bad in bed but maybe they just didn't bond. Connect. That's important. I love passion and if I'm with a guy that gives me mixed signals, blows hot/cold, gets distant (aquas are great for getting distant), not being clear about where the relationship is going ect I will just give up.

Some women will nag or beg but I've never known a Aries woman to do that. If they love you a lot they might warn you "hey I'm not happy about x y z" if they don't they will just give up and move on. Don't think they don't cry about it, we do but we won't show that.

Aries women are not complex. Something happened that made them feel unhappy or they are just looking for casua

Hello again and thanks to everyone for their comments.

To get to the heart of the matter, I am asking if it is normal for aries women to be full on and 100% intense and then suddenly change their mind? The 1st girl I mentioned I can chalk up to disinterest, she was on the rebound and surely had some other guys on the go at the time. The 2nd one is what really truly messed me up, sex was the opposite of poor and we kept everyone in the building up for hours on end, not to mention her continual verbal/physical/emotional outpourings of devotion for me. The fact that it went from so full-on and intense to simply "go away" in the span of 2 days did leave me shocked and awed to be completely honest.

I'm also not naive enough to think that anything will continue with them, I know its over. I am just stunned at how they both gave in and chased me, showed this intense level of devotion and then just turned off suddenly. Is it excusable in the aries mindset to be uninhibited emotionally even if you will "cut it off" later?

thanks

I agree that would seem confusing...

The 2nd sounded hurt. Something upset her. If you feel you connected intimately then I would think if it was me, something caused upset.

Maybe she saw something on your phone i.e. a txt msg or overheard something. Or you might have let something slip out. Because she might not be 100% invested she wouldn't confront you. She would just exit.

For me and other aries women I know it's kind of like "out of sight out of mind". Usually it's about loyalty/mutual feelings. She was probably expecting a mutual passionate response and if it was lukewarm then forget it. She's turned off.

Why don't you just contact her and be sincere. You have nothing to lose other than a bit of embarrassment. Just say you are sorry if you did upset her and you miss her and if she wants to just talk it through you are there and really care. Either as a friend or lover. That might warm her silly little stubborn heart
🙂 good luck xx

Maybe they got bored? I leave when I'm bored or if someone gets way too clingy. As for being chased, I don't really like being chased, I'd rather do the chasing but that's just me lol

Posted by bhakti7
Hello again and thanks to everyone for their comments.

The 2nd one is what really truly messed me up, sex was the opposite of poor and we kept everyone in the building up for hours on end, not to mention her continual verbal/physical/emotional outpourings of devotion for me. The fact that it went from so full-on and intense to simply "go away" in the span of 2 days did leave me shocked and awed to be completely honest.

thanks

Did you say something that hurt her?

I can't help but wonder what you said or did that turned them off? People generally don't do a 180 like that without a cause.

The fact that you stated that you were all "OMGZ IT WAS MEANT TO BE, MOTHER OF MY CHILDREN RAWR" about it makes me wonder if you came across a bit too strong after you got "intimate." Remember, girls have the vaginas, not men.

Also, if they're young, there's a chance they THOUGHT they knew what they wanted with you, but then realized they changed their minds and moved along. A lot of people are out there dating that have NO idea what they want. They say things and do another and it leaves everyone confused.

I don't think Aries women like to be chased. They do it actually. They are like cats, IMO. Leave them be and they will come to you. Suffocate them and they go away. Just that.

you know this question made me think, I ran away from a Pisces this last week.

I ran because of a couple of things I just didn't like about him and the situation. I sometimes feel a bit bad for cutting things off like that but I felt I had no choice. If I've discussed with a man how I expect to be treated and I feel like I'm not being heard or my feelings and wishes are not cared about then i remove you completely. Nothing is more important than how you feel and if a man really cares he would respect that

Just some extra 2p 😉

Posted by bhakti7
(again after we became quickly intimate)

I would just like to know if this is the selfish side of the Aries showing or the insecure side. Everything seemed destined to become more than just fun but in the end I got burned both times and felt used (which does not happen ever). At a point now where I would rather avoid Aries in the future no matter how good everything is (or seems) for the fear that i'm being played without being told so up front.

Thanks

Quickly intimate...sometimes we run right after our sexual needs are taken care of and we see that the personality we thought the other person had is not the case after getting into bed....

Slow down, even if the Aries is moving fast. We can go full speed in, get tangled, break horns and forget it all happened in a moment.

This is not insecurity, they cut you off, that is the opposite disposition of clinging. It is selfish, in that they put them self before the relationship.

Posted by bhakti7
Hello again and thanks to everyone for their comments.

To get to the heart of the matter, I am asking if it is normal for aries women to be full on and 100% intense and then suddenly change their mind? The 1st girl I mentioned I can chalk up to disinterest, she was on the rebound and surely had some other guys on the go at the time. The 2nd one is what really truly messed me up, sex was the opposite of poor and we kept everyone in the building up for hours on end, not to mention her continual verbal/physical/emotional outpourings of devotion for me. The fact that it went from so full-on and intense to simply "go away" in the span of 2 days did leave me shocked and awed to be completely honest.

I'm also not naive enough to think that anything will continue with them, I know its over. I am just stunned at how they both gave in and chased me, showed this intense level of devotion and then just turned off suddenly. Is it excusable in the aries mindset to be uninhibited emotionally even if you will "cut it off" later?

thanks

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Yes and no it is normal for us to reconsider if we have new findings after thinking the person was 'the one':

Aries are blunt and truthful as for your mindset question. If we stop feeling you we usually don't keep hope alive, figuring it is easier if we just end it then

Posted by lcrc
you know this question made me think, I ran away from a Pisces this last week.

I ran because of a couple of things I just didn't like about him and the situation. I sometimes feel a bit bad for cutting things off like that but I felt I had no choice. If I've discussed with a man how I expect to be treated and I feel like I'm not being heard or my feelings and wishes are not cared about then i remove you completely. Nothing is more important than how you feel and if a man really cares he would respect that

Just some extra 2p 😉

LMAOOOOOO... I was running from a Pisces man for 4 years. Would just cut things off just like that. I mean i know it was wrong for me to do that but I feel like i had no respect left for him. Just like you he didnt listen to my feelings, he didnt care. He said he would so we would try again but the same thing happened. He was pretty romantic though, but didnt last long. So bipolar. No offense to other Pisces men!!
But that was so hilarious!

I very much appreciate the input from the ram ladies. My situation has turned around, *somewhat*. A new aries has caught my eye, and my mind, and....well i'm pretty much gripped by her. I quite like that the aries does the chasing being AQ it is so much more enjoyable to be seduced by the woman.

Now with everything that has been said in mind, I would like to move slowly and make sure this one stays. As I mentioned there is a definite cycle with the last 3 aries....powerful attraction, mental meeting, amazing sex. But rather than be each others trophy I want to have this one for keeps. I know she is putting up a bitchy front (which I see right through) that is turning me on big time. It's also plain to see she is attention-seeking, and specifically my attention.

Just need a subtle way to pique her interest, let her know I am vibing big time, and see if she will chase after me instead

lol... "b*tchy front". also I am AQ sun with taurus rising so consider myself fairly romantic and lusty

So you want to play games?

You've lost her already, sorry dude.

So maybe they got hurt?

Oh thats great that there is a new Aries in your life! Just make sure she knows there is a potential of a future and try to avoid unnecessary games in the relationship because no one wins. If she is playing them, rather than play back, be honest and confront her about it. The more honest you are in the relationship with her the more honest she will want to be and there is less risk of a disappearance.