astrology and death

My cap boyfriend lost his brother very suddenly and unexpectedly to a heart attack today. As a virgo, I tend to be pretty unemotional and accepting when it comes to death and the grieving process. I know that caps are down-to-earth, and he seems to be keeping a level head, but I know he is grieving nonetheless.

My question is, what's the best way to "be there" for a cap during a time like this? How should I comfort him in a way that he will appreciate?

It may seem a silly question to ask, but different signs approach death and grieving very differently. How do Capricorns do it? What's the best way to console one?

On the same note, what's the best way to console any sign? What are your thoughts on the different approaches to death? For instance, one would think that a water sign would be much more emotional and need friends and loved ones around to listen. Whereas you might expect an earth sign to approach it from a more practical stance and be more concerned with the mehcanics of a death - i.e. cancelling magazine subscriptions, notifying the obituary section, etc. and benefit more from someone just being there for them to help. Am I way off base here?

Im sorry to hear this. My condolences to your boyfriend and his family.

I think your doing just fine by being there for him anyway you can.

ewwww Sagi.


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"My question is, what's the best way to "be there" for a cap during a time like this? How should I comfort him in a way that he will appreciate?"

Given that you are both earth signs, I would say to just stick with what you know and amp it up a bit. Earth signs excel and seem to naturally appreciate "practical" caring. Maybe, see if there are some extra things to help him with to give him some extra time to devote to his grieving process. From what I know from my past relationship with a Cap, they do like to talk, and to talk about emotions, but they like to do it on their own terms, when they are ready. Let him know that you are there for him to talk to, if and / or when he is ready. But, I would try to subdue any desire to help rationalize it or "help", just let him vent to you. Sometimes people just need a shoulder to cry / vent on without someone trying to "fix" their issues.

I don't know, though. This is just conjecture from what I know about my ex-Cap's personality. We never came across an issue of this type or magnitude while we were dating.

"On the same note, what's the best way to console any sign?"

I am a Scorp. I have not had the unfortunate "opportunity" to experience a lot of death in my life, but I would guess that I would more than like just need some space for a while, like most emotional things in my life, to give me some time to chew on it. I find that when I am in emotional low-points, I do not wish to be around other people, including friends or family.

"What are your thoughts on the different approaches to death?"

I find that I have a hard time objectively understanding anything that I cannot subjectively comprehend. Death, nothingness, never, infinity, and similar concepts are all hard things for me to truly grasp with any level of depth. When I was 14, a very close great-grandmother of mine died. I never had a period of morning because I realized at the time that I could not truly fathom the fact that I would never, ever see her again. Death to me just seems to feel like a temporary separation, a fact that disturbs even myself, but as of this point I have not been able to correct. It just seems odd and cold compared to most people's reaction to death...

Support his inner desire to appear strong and level headed. For now, even if you don't necissarily think so cater to this. In short time the emotional reaction to this will come out, but right now he is still thinking about everything and likely worrying about the people he cares about and what they are going through rather than his own feelings. If he is doing this and you attempt to get him to open up out of fear that he is holding his emotions back he will push you away. Trust me, I know.

Basically, unless he asks for your advice or what you think in this situation assume he has a handle on it and act accordingly. He needs you to more stick by him than to try and help him with his emotions right now. His affectiveness in helping those around him he cares about is going to help him a lot with what is going on, then as time goes on just provide a shoulder.

I was with a virgo girl when my father died suddenly. She did exactly this, she saw my need to provide strength and comfort to my family first and foremost and gave me confidence by supporting me in it. I never heard a "it's ok to grieve" "or "I am worried about you" until a week or two later when I had everything regarding the arrangments and everything that goes into dealing with a death was over and I had a minute to slow down. And it did wonders. If there were any times I doubted myself during this, her behaving in this way gave me the confidence to push forth in the situation and take control of it.