Cancer man Pisces woman help!

Hi I'm new here but very interested in astrology and tarot. I met a Cancer man a few months back online. We spoke for 2 months before we met in person. I will be honest. I did most of the initiating and was very persistent. He always said he was interested and liked my persistence because he was just very busy with work and didn't want me to think he was ignoring me. He was always polite though. Never inappropriate like some guys you meet online.

A little back story. I am 41, he is 31. He is a marine vet and definitely struggles with PTSD and has an ESA dog. I have also discovered that he gets very aggressive when he drinks too much and he dabbles with drugs. He's had some brushes with the law ( nothing major) and had a bad breakup with an ex about a year and a half ago. Also, I don't believe he is very close with his family or his daughter, which is off for cancers. And his younger brother, also a marine, killed himself. So this cancer man most definitely has some demons.

Anyways, we did finally meet and you could say we jumped in fast. Both physically and emotionally. He was very open, affectionate and I just thought we were off to a good start. We had a blip one night when he got too drunk. That's how I found out he does not hold his liquor well. But after that things were still going well. We spent multiple evenings together and he introduced me to some of his friends. He invited me over to his house and had cleaned and grilled food. It was just us and his roommates and he was very affectionate in front of them. His roommate even called me his girlfriend in front of him and he did not bristle. In fact, I felt like he was doing all of this to make me feel better because I was stressed from work. But immediately after that night he started to act differently. More distant and even a bit moody. Then he started to do his cancer "retreating into his shell" move. He started to say he didn't want to rush into a commitment, even though I had never brought it up. I agreed for us to move slow but he kept saying it and was pulling away physically now. I tried to give him space, but apparently not enough. Yesterday he said he was going to take a break from everyone. I told him I understood, and would be here if he needed me but asked him to please not write me off. He said he'd text me later, whatever that means.

So here is my question. This all happened very fast, within a month. I've read a lot about cancers and I know they get overwhelmed when it is too emotional for them and need space. Is he just trying to understand his feelings for me? Did he loose interest? We did not have a fight and I did not slight him in any way that I know of. I am a Pisces and I am very caring and empathetic, as is he. I know he has demons and some growing up to do, but is there any hope? And do I just wait for him to reach out or do I check in from time to time to show I care? Any help is greatly appreciated. I do like him and would like to pursue more with him, but don't want to scare him away more than I apparently already have.

I had an ex like this except we were both in high school, he’s a cancer I’m an Aquarius. Yes they do run to their shell if they’re not sure of how they’re feeling. He probably didn’t expect something so fast. All men do this babe, my boyfriend is a gem and he tells me sometimes how he wasn’t really ready for me when we met but he couldn’t let me go. Give him space, wait a few days before texting him. Let him miss you & reach out to you. If you guys were as close and emotional as you say than I promise you he’ll back. My cancer always came back, but just make he knows he can’t just walk in and out of your life whenever he pleases !!

To add to my cancer ex he played with my feelings for 6 years. I met his family & everything. But he would disappear for weeks & months sometimes and I always thought it was because he “felt to deeply” but really he just didn’t know what he wanted & wasn’t man enough to tell me. Just be careful.

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To add to my cancer ex he played with my feelings for 6 years. I met his family & everything. But he would disappear for weeks & months sometimes and I always thought it was because he “felt to deeply” but really he just didn’t know what he wanted & wasn’t man enough to tell me. Just be careful.

Cancer men do not disappear like that

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Well my ex was a cancer and like I just said he disappeared all the time. I was saying he wasnt man enough to tell me that he wasn’t really into me like that.

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To add to my cancer ex he played with my feelings for 6 years. I met his family & everything. But he would disappear for weeks & months sometimes and I always thought it was because he “felt to deeply” but really he just didn’t know what he wanted & wasn’t man enough to tell me. Just be careful.

Cancer men do not disappear like that

Well my ex was a cancer and like I just said he disappeared all the time. I was saying he wasnt man enough to tell me that he wasn’t really into me like that.

6 year's what an asshole

I was strung like that by a Scorpio

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He def was, it scarred me for years. Still does sometimes. I was stupid af lol but at least we know the signs to look out for now lol