Dating your opposite element.

Like a Fire sign with a Air sign, or Earth sign with a Water sign. How did it go? And how did it work for ya? I've dated a few Water signs, very interesting and probably the longest lasting relationships I had. I don't know about Fire and Air, but I'd hope so for them as well. I think this could apply to opposite signs in each element like Aries with Libra, or Taurus with Scorpio.

I'm an Aries Sun and Leo Moon, and I??ve never dated an Air sign before (mostly Water, and one Earth).
But my oldest friends are Aquarius, and my younger sister is a Gemini, and we seem to get along really rather well.

As far as Libra??_ There's always something magnetic there, but we??re so fundamentally different that it can be really difficult to level with each other. It's something I'm actually presently working on with a Libra friend.
I'm trying this thing, I think it's called —tact,?? but it doesn't really come naturally to me. ?_?__?_? Hur hur.
But seriously, I think the trick with Libra may be finding something we both agree on. It's too easy finding things to butt heads about, but the few times we've both had the same focus on something it was like flawless machinery.

Posted by CluelessCancer
I don't know about other water signs, but Earth for Cancer is generally a bad idea i'm coming to believe, i just don't see you fulfilling our needs. It seems we have to leave our happiness and wants at the door to coexist with you.

Shoot in fact Libras might even be better for Cancer (i hate to admit this)...yikes.

I think for Cancers-it's best to stick with other Cancers-or Fire signs (Fire signs might be crazy, but they're honest with everything, their passion, their needs, etc)

Well, I was able to fulfill a Cancer's needs before she cheated on me so yeah, I'd say Earth sign with a water or fire moon. I wanted a lot with the Cancer I knew, I opened up to her she opened to me, but I believe her wants was her downfall of her and I. Happines? No prob, wants?- well that was a problem for her when it came to guys.

Posted by PVAF
I've tried Virgo. Usually ends up platonic. 🙂

How so?

I tried Pisces.... Very INTENSE. Cosmic and strong sexual and emotional energy... However, it always seemed like there was a wall between the us... As hard as we tried, he couldn't come to the shore and I wouldn't get it the water...

Too Bad. I Cared for him very much and to this day I can still feel the connection even though he is very far away.

Posted by CluelessCancer
I don't know about other water signs, but Earth for Cancer is generally a bad idea i'm coming to believe, i just don't see you fulfilling our needs. It seems we have to leave our happiness and wants at the door to coexist with you.

Shoot in fact Libras might even be better for Cancer (i hate to admit this)...yikes.

I think for Cancers-it's best to stick with other Cancers-or Fire signs (Fire signs might be crazy, but they're honest with everything, their passion, their needs, etc)

I cosign Libras for Cancers.

I think it works better if you date the opposite element but not the opposit sign, ex pisces could date taurus or cap but not virgo, etc...

I had a short affair with a Leo one time. I can say that it lasted a couple months and with a lot of conflict.

I married a Taurus. I outclassed him on every level; sex, humor, creativity, intelligence, emotions, maturity, etc. He was controlling and abusive so we're divorced and I'll probably stay far far away from that sign because they're too rigid, too worried about what everyone thinks, too uptight all the time, even when they're having fun (I've witnessed this not just with the ex but others). So far the only signs that understand me have been fellow water signs. Scorpio lights the biggest fire for me. Pisces is a little too sweet and weepy, but I always feel protective of them. Leos tend to come across as arrogant and bossy if they're trying to catch my interest, otherwise we get along ok. Haven't dated Aries or any fire or air sign, but I think we're too different in our approach to emotion and life and would be like speaking foreign languages at each other with everyone frustrated in not being understood. Capricorn is very nice but not sure they can keep up with this zany gal. They do love to spoil, though, and I admit that it's rather lovely, but the chemistry is weak.

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Posted by PVAF
I've tried Virgo. Usually ends up platonic. 🙂

How so?

Maybe just never met the right Virgo. Not enough chemistry for romance. Definitely nice to chill with though. It's a very comfortable relationship. I feel the same about Cancers. We could kick it, but couldn't envision a relationship.

As far as earth signs, my best experience has been Taurus. Haven't had much luck with Cappies. Met one, but timing was wrong.

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Maybe some other time timing will be right. Don't worry, you'll have better luck with a Cappie sometime.

I'm a pisces and my boyfriend is a capricorn. So far so good! 🙂

I met a lot of earth signs but never dated any. Closest I got was with a Capricorn. Also had met a taurus with whom the intention was meant to be romantic, but man....nothing was there. I had a lot in common, at least with the taurus, but earth sign are too...bland...boring...too much like my friend to be an exciting lover. I'm sure they thought the same of me. Earth signs don't bring out much in my personality. I bet the world is going to throw an exciting earth sign person my way just to prove me wrong, now.
And as far as opposite opposite....while I seem to be surrounded by taurus, I rarely come across virgos. My one female friend is a virgo aaaanddd...that's about it. Closest guy to a virgo I know is the leo, who's on the cusp. Really sad. Where's all the virgos at?

Cancer/Capricorn is my favorite opposite. Mother/father. I've always found it a sexy dynamic.

Posted by smellycat
Keep talking bitches.Aquarian and leo rules in opposite relationship.lol

No we don't! Lol unless you constantly enjoy stroking someone's ego all the time. I find them too me, me,me for my taste

Scorpios are cool.

Pisces are awesome.

Cancers are demented and evil.

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Posted by Redbull
Slightly off topic but its kind of weird that Earth's opposite sign is in water and Fire/Air. It seems like Fire and Water would be truer opposites and whatnot. Like what would the opposite of fixed Earth be? mutable air it would seem. Most stable/most changing. But i guess not.

Behavior wise imo fire/water seem more similar to each other than air/water
And air/earth being more similar to each other

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What makes you think so?

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Posted by Redbull
Slightly off topic but its kind of weird that Earth's opposite sign is in water and Fire/Air. It seems like Fire and Water would be truer opposites and whatnot. Like what would the opposite of fixed Earth be? mutable air it would seem. Most stable/most changing. But i guess not.

Behavior wise imo fire/water seem more similar to each other than air/water
And air/earth being more similar to each other

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I've always seen some truth here. Practical and logical, impulsive and emotional. Earth and air tend to think with their heads more, for different reasons, but they do. Water and fire follow their gut/react based on emotions, be it in the heat of the moment (fire) or strategically (water).

I can kinda agree with the Fire/Water and Earth/Air thing. But did Albert Einstein think with his gut? Ha, no. But I can see some Earth and Air signs getting along though it might be chaos in the long run due to some Air signs wanting excitement. Believe Earth signs are not the most exciting people. And Fire and Water, can't really speak for that, I only seen it happen once with my friend who's a Scorpio and his ex who was a Sagittarius. It didn't end well. It was basically Passion vs Emotion, and Passion won over my friend's emotions. So yeah, emotional and passionate love fight.

I know a Sac and libra couple, they seem like they're really fit for eachother

Posted by tiziani
Funnily enough I read absolutely zero antipathy between Gemini and Sagittarius on the boards. I forget these two are even polar opposites.

me 2! I don't see them as opposites, dare I say sextile..

Only 1 water sign man (Scorpio) has made it more than 6 months with me. But he has a Capricorn moon and scorpios and Caps are a lot alike to begin with.
I love him and I love our relationship. He does really soften me up a lot, and I can let my guard down with him.

Posted by CluelessCancer
I don't know about other water signs, but Earth for Cancer is generally a bad idea i'm coming to believe, i just don't see you fulfilling our needs. It seems we have to leave our happiness and wants at the door to coexist with you.

Shoot in fact Libras might even be better for Cancer (i hate to admit this)...yikes.

I think for Cancers-it's best to stick with other Cancers-or Fire signs (Fire signs might be crazy, but they're honest with everything, their passion, their needs, etc)

Are yu saying this out of personal experience? If so, i think its because you have so much fire in your chart that you get along with fire signs. Generally, i dont think cancers can handle fire signs. Water puts out flames, fire dries up water.

Posted by CluelessCancer
MoonArtist you sound hot! I'd date you. Try a water sign next. Live dangerously. Get a scorpio. Proceed with caution.

oh, the scorpio thing is a huge YES! Not all work, though. One has the hots for me and has for a long time but I see him more as a friend/mentor than someone to have sex with. Two others just have too much immaturity in them still, too unevolved and that's a huge turn off. But one....well, it's perfection!

Posted by TMV
Scorpios are cool.

Pisces are awesome.

Cancers are demented and evil.

We're demented and evil? :/

"Water puts out flames, fire dries up water."

^^how does this affect those of us who are half water half fire?? I feel like a walking contradiction!

Huh, good question. I have a lot of fire and air in my chart and still a triple cancer. I guess it means we get along better with different signs? Or we need to be in straight jackets?

Posted by scorpgal76
"Water puts out flames, fire dries up water."

^^how does this affect those of us who are half water half fire?? I feel like a walking contradiction!

Whats your moon?
Well that might balance it out by having your sun cool your fiery sun nature? My friend is a leo sun scorpio moon and she has it under control. Although sometimes it can make her a bit irrational..
Anyway, i was talking about relationships so dont worry youre fine lol

^^ Scorp sun Leo moon

I actually wonder about this because of the topic....If I'm half one way & half another how does one go about figuring out compatability with the right signs or elements?? Basically I should get along with everyone right??

Not really. It depends on the person. I'm a gemini sun pisces moon and i come off as insensitive to most water sisgns i know. The sun sign is you basically, and youd also have to check which sign isn dominant in your chart as well.