how to get a boyfrien/ a man?

Hello,

this thema may sound silly but its my problem.

I am 27 y. o Aries. Moon in cap, venus mars in Aqua/

I was active at thisforum dxp because of some struggles with Virgo and Leo man before.

My problem is - i am very fiery. I think now after almost 2.5 years that Virgo was scared of me, Leo didnt care.

When i approach men i am confident, smiling i am myself.

Men my age or a bit younger.older like me, there is some aura around me but they never approach me first.

I am a good student, succesfull in my career. I thought maybe they think i will do everything be myself? Like a self tought woman who deals with everything?

I see that my girl friends are very obedient when it comes to men. THEY AGREE on everything. For example they have an eye for some men, they chase him, get drunk have a control and after some months they become normal, without a mask and the struggles begin.

They usually keep men. Like they 'behave' the men tell them how to act and behave firstly playing very obedient damsel in distress.

For example when it comes to my exes. With only two of them i had a normal relation and the NORMAL goodbye.

I want to be friends first or to observe a person to know his intentions and etc.

Before when i met Virgo he was observing me 5-6 months. He had a control. It was me who was stressed and him being natural, taking charge. It was not 1:1 it was 1:0 to him. Later on he pulled bac and was coming back some time after to check on me even if he had new girlfriends.

The problem is that every women that he chooses are more 'lady like' than me. They AGREE ON his terms. He picks up girl, has a romance with 1 or 2 of them in the same time and then he leaves them being more popular powerful and start chasing the other.

I wanted something different, something more serious and i told him this. I didnt agree on his terms because he didnt want to listen to me . Everything must be on his terms.



The same when i hear my girl friends who actually have fresh relations. Its not 1:1 friends like. Its always one who takes charge and its on her on his terms. Thats why quarrels appear.

I want to have a friend, best friend like relationship even for a short time.

I want to communicate well with the person. I cant find. Because men my age want to have younger chicks just to sleep ( or having several the same time) or they are single in purpouse.

I dont want to have control over anyone and i dont wanna be controlled.

With Virgo there was a power struggle and a control issue. I didnt liek it because i though we would be like friends, normal relation and then relationship. He didnt want. He forced me to be unnatural on his terms.



He chooces women who are more fragile and agree on his terms. Later on he says everyone he had new girlfriends but always leaves them after 2-3 months.

And i am not sure. I can make compromise i can make everything work but the communication should be normal.

I havent had any normal relationship since 2.5 years.Only some dating and etc. I am fixing and improving myself.

Maybe i am too harsh? I am always confident when it comes to men, I am never faked-shy or i am never obedient. I always smile and etc.

80% of my girl friends told me i need to behave more clumsy or be more feminine. like i need to ask for help much more times. and i need to be obedient to men because they feel like they have a control but actually they dont.



So who is right?

How can i change myself to be ok with men?

Why i dont have a boyfriend?STILL...

i wanted a man so badly before. especially i started to question myself when virgo abandoned me and e have quarreled a lot.

but now i am just mentioning.

i am not thinking of any specific men now. i think in general. i question. because i dont know.



i started watching some coaching videos, reading some books 2 years ago but it doesnt work.

nothing. i started analyse every move of any men.

and now?

i dont do nothing, i threw away those books. i cancelled subscriptions to any of the channels offering some teachings about romances.

i do nothing, i focus on my work my life and i dont do anything

You need to improve your hoeing skill.

how?

Posted by joanne_p
how?

I'm only joking (:

First you always talk about your career about how successful and smart you are in your threads.

Well I and most of the guys I know wouldn't give a damn about that in a woman, especially in the beginning like getting to know each other etc. That's not really attractive qualities to us.

yes but generally i do not tell people about my career.

its not like that. i was usually modest about it and i didnt tell people.

i felt unappreciated by people because i was surrounded by people who were always telling about their work and etc.

maybe here in threads it sounds i feel succesfull but i feel that and i dont tell usually. i just describe myself i think in a good way.

i dont apprach men saying how many languages i know or what was my grade in maths at the university.

i didnt even post things on facebook. when virgo and other people met me they didnt want to talk to me, they have been observing me via facebook and friend's relations

there have been many more women in a company that have been more open, loud even more open on facebook about their career and etc.

even i remember after a break up virgo told me to be more opeb, to be the best and to tell people about my achievments.

but i dont wanna everyone know about it. im not an open book to read by everyone.

i said that if he didnt want to meet me in person and talk to me , why should i post everything about my life in internet to be visible? to be more available and easy to him?

i dont have to.

Can you make them laugh?

Listen to your friends. They probably know you well and they can see what it’s not working for you.

And relax a little. Lol

Y'all don't understand why she feels. As aries sun I understand her. It's hard for us because we're impatient. I wish I could tell you girl but I'm currently in the same boat

i know.

i am just doing my thing.

i have been complaining here about the virgo guy.

but he forced me to work better.

its ok but he was so blind. he didnt want to get to know me better, listen to me , talk to me.

he just bases on the facebook information about his exes and everyone.

this made me feel bad.

i forced myself to open up very much on fb just to make myself available to him and make him see that i am a hardworker.

BUT i am a hardworker lol

i dont need to prove anyone i am..

i study architecture i work a lot.

when i met him i wanted to change the profession but he didnt realise architecture is not like 'fast'.

he doesnt know it.

i still regret he didnt want to listen to me.

he assumed i am not productive and i am lazy. that postponing my diploma is very weird because i need to be on time with everything.

he only shows up with girls that do drugs and are spoiled and parents pay them for everything.

like he doesnt want to meet people deeply.

i realised that after.

i didnt know it before.



he made me question my worth

even his friends, his collegues liked me very much and he blocked them before me.



he is surrounded by options and he chooses girls then leaves them , observes if they organise themselves or work hard and then approach again.



he did that with me but i didnt know that PEOPLE do that...

he wanted everything quick and he didnt understand that i need more time to think, design, do a maquette and everything.

he surrounds himself with artists that do very quick, short freelance job.

he didnt understand and he thought i was lazy. but i didnt have to tell him my worth.

he just encourages to work and make money.

its cool but the way he does it its bad. he thinks he is a pimp or someone...

He might come back but you'd be better off with a fire sign. I couldn't imagine a romantic relationship with a Virgo sounds horrible

its been almost 3 years.

after me he was only choosing spoiled drug addicts that actually WORK VERY HARD, even harder than me. make drama but are sexy blondes with baby faces.

i am more mature. i dont need to confess in front of him.

i dont need to post instagram selfies to prove my worth.

i dont need to make my facebook and instagram a business feed lol.

i dont understand why he didnt understand my profession 😆

Posted by joanne_p
its been almost 3 years.

after me he was only choosing spoiled drug addicts that actually WORK VERY HARD, even harder than me. make drama but are sexy blondes with baby faces.

i am more mature. i dont need to confess in front of him.

i dont need to post instagram selfies to prove my worth.

i dont need to make my facebook and instagram a business feed lol.

i dont understand why he didnt understand my profession 😆

Druggies are easier to have sex with and discard. Go get yu a sexy different sign this Virgo dude sounds like hot garbage literally. Your Aries sun you have options

i need to finish this period of my life- i am overworked. i do a lot of things including working, organising some cool national event this autumn, finishing my diploma and doing my driving licence.

this will end soon.

then i will only cofus on 2 of those things.

i like what i do.

i dont need to prove my worth to anyone.



before he made me feel very bad, unappreciated in a way that i was not popular. and he wanted me to become popular, work hard and etc.

he let himself had other women and i felt like womeone is telling me what to do having a control over me.

when his friends started being interested in me he blocked them started gossiping. i moved abroad. when i was back doing my thing he was scared only asked me if i wanted to do freelance or architecture.



i will never take drugs. i will never be spoiled in that way like those h*oes are.

i appreciate culture, education. under the mask of a d**ick he is very intelligent and etc. he comes from a good traditional family from my city.

he reads books, writes alot of essays, good style , he is intelligent.

idk why he chooses those women. maybe he just likes.

and for him being the best and a hard worker is only measured by being popular with a lot of people around and a freelance job. when everyone knows you.

Posted by Seleukos
With what phase do you struggle?

you ask about priod in my life that i am in now?

I have aries moon and i used to feel like that a lot in high school. I had a lot of crushes but guys didn’t actually want to be with me. My bestfriend at the time (aqua) would tell me things i needed to work on. One of them was being a little less independent and try to actually need someone once in a while. Men need to be needed if not they see no purpose being with you.

There’s also a book called “the rules” and it talks about how to make a man feel needed and wanted and one of the things it said to do was ask for help. Even if it’s like opening a jar for you. It can’t always be about you and your needs.

Also looking at your chart you probably need another fire sign or air sign

i can post my chart here i mean i have posted it several times before.

a lot of my aries friends ( female) are like me.

maybe its also because of architecture the field that i study that i do a lot and i do difficult things.

its not business or painting. i dont offend people doing this .

architecture is way more detailed. i am a creator.

i can do a lot of the things after graduation.

i can illustrate, write, paint, sketch, do 3d models, i can design by hand or bim software.

Virgo didnt want to get into my world.

he didnt want that he assumed that i was only doing freelance.

now he has eyes only on freelance girls that party a lot and are actually from art schools.

very popular, with 200 likes on facebook. that swear a lot, are popular in the 'down town' where everyone knows each other.

i dont need to be like that. i can do WHAT i want , not being popular.

popularity comes when we are sure what we do. and if we want to promote our stuff.

he wants things quick. its bad.

he has libra venus. sun in virgo moon in capricorn like me, asc in scorpio.

he only scrolls instagram and facebook and observes.

i used to have him in my 'close friends' on facebook so i saw almost every of his activity.



he checks on women and then leaves and tests them.

and assumes if they organise themselves or not. observes if they work or not. if they are under pressure or not.

Your posts read like a Manifesto on Me, Myself and I.

I get you want to brag, you got all the placements for it as far as i can tell from the text below your user name, but i honestly think the poster above me who advised you to "appear in need" from time to time wasn't that much off.

Cap moon has this tendency to overcompensate for it's barren emotional landscape with strength projection and imho it's a huge turn off.

i think this one

" you fail to progress things after the first meeting."



before i was maybe too impatient and my willingness to have a boyfriend was a huge turn off for men.

i mean , i didnt throw myself on them but i immidiatelly started becoming happy and nice to men. and they were pulling back.

i think that i cant continue the relation after the sex or some intimate encounters without being ashamed or idk.

i didnt understand that men pull back i was chasing them.

now i am more mature and i am better i think i fixed myself.

i dont have a boyfriend now so i dont know how i can behave now with relationships. noone is interested in me and i am not interested in anyone now so i cant tell

Posted by Mr_Pinchy
Your posts read like a Manifesto on Me, Myself and I.

I get you want to brag, you got all the placements for it as far as i can tell from the text below your user name, but i honestly think the poster above me who advised you to "appear in need" from time to time wasn't that much off.

Cap moon has this tendency to overcompensate for it's barren emotional landscape with strength projection and imho it's a huge turn off.

should i appear in need everytime ?

Posted by MoonshineLeo
I have aries moon and i used to feel like that a lot in high school. I had a lot of crushes but guys didn’t actually want to be with me. My bestfriend at the time (aqua) would tell me things i needed to work on. One of them was being a little less independent and try to actually need someone once in a while. Men need to be needed if not they see no purpose being with you.

There’s also a book called “the rules” and it talks about how to make a man feel needed and wanted and one of the things it said to do was ask for help. Even if it’s like opening a jar for you. It can’t always be about you and your needs.

Also looking at your chart you probably need another fire sign or air sign

If man is lazy - he will run up the hills as soon as he feels ‘needed’...

Posted by Mr_Pinchy
Your posts read like a Manifesto on Me, Myself and I.

I get you want to brag, you got all the placements for it as far as i can tell from the text below your user name, but i honestly think the poster above me who advised you to "appear in need" from time to time wasn't that much off.

Cap moon has this tendency to overcompensate for it's barren emotional landscape with strength projection and imho it's a huge turn off.

She’s delusional

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by MoonshineLeo
I have aries moon and i used to feel like that a lot in high school. I had a lot of crushes but guys didn’t actually want to be with me. My bestfriend at the time (aqua) would tell me things i needed to work on. One of them was being a little less independent and try to actually need someone once in a while. Men need to be needed if not they see no purpose being with you.

There’s also a book called “the rules” and it talks about how to make a man feel needed and wanted and one of the things it said to do was ask for help. Even if it’s like opening a jar for you. It can’t always be about you and your needs.

Also looking at your chart you probably need another fire sign or air sign

If man is lazy - he will run up the hills as soon as he feels ‘needed’...

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I love that quote. Right on and no one wants a lazy man

First of all, stop obsessing about Virgo. Clearly he doesn't want or even like you! Which should not matter to you, since there is someone out there who would like you just the way you are.

Repeat to yourself: "Whatever Virgo likes or wants is irrelevant to me! He is not a good match for me, just a time waster!"

Secondly, you need to work out what qualities do you need in a boyfriend, SO THAT you two are a good match. If you are impatient, you need someone with great patience. If you are controlling, you need a laid back personality. Then you need to have things and aspirations in common. If you don't care about your FB status, there are plenty of men who dislike FB too.

To understand yourself better, take an MBTI test, if you don't know what personality you have. Then google which personality matches yours, and read the description...see if you could imagine with someone like that.

Then write a profile that lists your main attributes and spells out those of the man you want. Think before you write, then maybe let someone read and edit it, since many of your sentences don't make sense. You need to write less and better.

Posted by MoonshineLeo

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by MoonshineLeo
I have aries moon and i used to feel like that a lot in high school. I had a lot of crushes but guys didn’t actually want to be with me. My bestfriend at the time (aqua) would tell me things i needed to work on. One of them was being a little less independent and try to actually need someone once in a while. Men need to be needed if not they see no purpose being with you.

There’s also a book called “the rules” and it talks about how to make a man feel needed and wanted and one of the things it said to do was ask for help. Even if it’s like opening a jar for you. It can’t always be about you and your needs.

Also looking at your chart you probably need another fire sign or air sign

If man is lazy - he will run up the hills as soon as he feels ‘needed’...

I love that quote. Right on and no one wants a lazy man

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That book must assume all men are doers and givers and just ready to help a women in need...lmao

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by MoonshineLeo

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by MoonshineLeo
I have aries moon and i used to feel like that a lot in high school. I had a lot of crushes but guys didn’t actually want to be with me. My bestfriend at the time (aqua) would tell me things i needed to work on. One of them was being a little less independent and try to actually need someone once in a while. Men need to be needed if not they see no purpose being with you.

There’s also a book called “the rules” and it talks about how to make a man feel needed and wanted and one of the things it said to do was ask for help. Even if it’s like opening a jar for you. It can’t always be about you and your needs.

Also looking at your chart you probably need another fire sign or air sign

If man is lazy - he will run up the hills as soon as he feels ‘needed’...

I love that quote. Right on and no one wants a lazy man

That book must assume all men are doers and givers and just ready to help a women in need...lmao

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It’s called “the rules” of course it’s old lol

*a dating profile*

Posted by Undine
First of all, stop obsessing about Virgo. Clearly he doesn't want or even like you! Which should not matter to you, since there is someone out there who would like you just the way you are.

Repeat to yourself: "Whatever Virgo likes or wants is irrelevant to me! He is not a good match for me, just a time waster!"

Secondly, you need to work out what qualities do you need in a boyfriend, SO THAT you two are a good match. If you are impatient, you need someone with great patience. If you are controlling, you need a laid back personality. Then you need to have things and aspirations in common. If you don't care about your FB status, there are plenty of men who dislike FB too.

To understand yourself better, take an MBTI test, if you don't know what personality you have. Then google which personality matches yours, and read the description...see if you could imagine with someone like that.

Then write a profile that lists your main attributes and spells out those of the man you want. Think before you write, then maybe let someone read and edit it, since many of your sentences don't make sense. You need to write less and better.

And as soon as she is done with all THAT - man will appear at her doorstep?

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Undine
First of all, stop obsessing about Virgo. Clearly he doesn't want or even like you! Which should not matter to you, since there is someone out there who would like you just the way you are.

Repeat to yourself: "Whatever Virgo likes or wants is irrelevant to me! He is not a good match for me, just a time waster!"

Secondly, you need to work out what qualities do you need in a boyfriend, SO THAT you two are a good match. If you are impatient, you need someone with great patience. If you are controlling, you need a laid back personality. Then you need to have things and aspirations in common. If you don't care about your FB status, there are plenty of men who dislike FB too.

To understand yourself better, take an MBTI test, if you don't know what personality you have. Then google which personality matches yours, and read the description...see if you could imagine with someone like that.

Then write a profile that lists your main attributes and spells out those of the man you want. Think before you write, then maybe let someone read and edit it, since many of your sentences don't make sense. You need to write less and better.

And as soon as she is done with all THAT - man will appear at her doorstep?

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I bet that every woman gets chatted up on online dating sites! She needs to start dating this way.

Posted by MoonshineLeo

Posted by Mr_Pinchy
Your posts read like a Manifesto on Me, Myself and I.

I get you want to brag, you got all the placements for it as far as i can tell from the text below your user name, but i honestly think the poster above me who advised you to "appear in need" from time to time wasn't that much off.

Cap moon has this tendency to overcompensate for it's barren emotional landscape with strength projection and imho it's a huge turn off.

She’s delusional

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why do you think so?

Posted by Undine
First of all, stop obsessing about Virgo. Clearly he doesn't want or even like you! Which should not matter to you, since there is someone out there who would like you just the way you are.

Repeat to yourself: "Whatever Virgo likes or wants is irrelevant to me! He is not a good match for me, just a time waster!"

Secondly, you need to work out what qualities do you need in a boyfriend, SO THAT you two are a good match. If you are impatient, you need someone with great patience. If you are controlling, you need a laid back personality. Then you need to have things and aspirations in common. If you don't care about your FB status, there are plenty of men who dislike FB too.

To understand yourself better, take an MBTI test, if you don't know what personality you have. Then google which personality matches yours, and read the description...see if you could imagine with someone like that.

Then write a profile that lists your main attributes and spells out those of the man you want. Think before you write, then maybe let someone read and edit it, since many of your sentences don't make sense. You need to write less and better.

i know. i just cant forget that for example i didnt even have a normal short relationship. that he invites me somewhere or idk.

it was just full of anger, control issues and etc.

i am not delusional.

he didnt let me meet other people. he was chasing me when even he broke up with me, he was spying on me. several times.

like he would have been scared of me but idk.

that was weird and strange.



when i moved on and got to know other people he DIDNT LET me forget about him. and actually stopped me in meeting new men ( he was delusional).

i wanted to move on 1.5 year after he broke up with me. he still didnt want to break the rope. i was interested in some new man. he realised that. started being his best friend!!!!just to BLOCK.



and now he is surrounded by new girls, and he just MARKS who is his. like, best friends, friends, girlfriends.

i was an ex so i couldnt move on to other person frm the same environment - not company - environment.

Posted by joanne_p

Posted by MoonshineLeo

Posted by Mr_Pinchy
Your posts read like a Manifesto on Me, Myself and I.

I get you want to brag, you got all the placements for it as far as i can tell from the text below your user name, but i honestly think the poster above me who advised you to "appear in need" from time to time wasn't that much off.

Cap moon has this tendency to overcompensate for it's barren emotional landscape with strength projection and imho it's a huge turn off.

She’s delusional

why do you think so?

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Because you keep talking about yourself and how “successful” you are. No one cares about that. People don’t want to know the materials aspect of your life. Yea it’s good to know that you’re smart and you probably have nice things blah blah blah but what can you really bring to the table?

Can you offer emotional support? Would you surrender yourself for your loved one? Will you respect their opinions? Do you need them? Do you even want them?

If you keep talking about yourself and comparing yourself to others then the guys are going to look at you and ask you why you won’t just date yourself? Lol

Posted by MoonshineLeo

Posted by joanne_p

Posted by MoonshineLeo

Posted by Mr_Pinchy
Your posts read like a Manifesto on Me, Myself and I.

I get you want to brag, you got all the placements for it as far as i can tell from the text below your user name, but i honestly think the poster above me who advised you to "appear in need" from time to time wasn't that much off.

Cap moon has this tendency to overcompensate for it's barren emotional landscape with strength projection and imho it's a huge turn off.

She’s delusional

why do you think so?

Because you keep talking about yourself and how “successful” you are. No one cares about that. People don’t want to know the materials aspect of your life. Yea it’s good to know that you’re smart and you probably have nice things blah blah blah but what can you really bring to the table?

Can you offer emotional support? Would you surrender yourself for your loved one? Will you respect their opinions? Do you need them? Do you even want them?

If you keep talking about yourself and comparing yourself to others then the guys are going to look at you and ask you why you won’t just date yourself? Lol

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of course i can offer emotional support 🙂

i just dont show it on the 1st place.



why should i open up to someone who hurt me ?



when i was younger even 24-25 i was totally different. maybe kind of naive, young mentally. i was NICE. i was helping people, and i wanted the same. i didnt know that for example friends can make you suffer or hurt because they would talk or do sth behind your back.

i have always had nORMAL relationshipw with people. i have never quarrels with my best friends.

so when i started being in a new company i automatically thought that i want be nice and normal.

and i saw that i didnt match because THEY were delisional and they were weird and closed.

now when i am 27 i dont open up easily. i mean i open only to people who are worth it. I CHOOSE.

like before THEY chose me or tested me, its now me who tests them

and they didnt know that i could be like that.



i just want 1;1 relationship- give get. the same amount.



its just because in the past not only VIRGO hurt me but also some of my closer friends even from high school.

i just need to observe and being more patient to open up to people and be nice.

Posted by joanne_p

Posted by MoonshineLeo

Posted by joanne_p

Posted by MoonshineLeo

Posted by Mr_Pinchy
Your posts read like a Manifesto on Me, Myself and I.

I get you want to brag, you got all the placements for it as far as i can tell from the text below your user name, but i honestly think the poster above me who advised you to "appear in need" from time to time wasn't that much off.

Cap moon has this tendency to overcompensate for it's barren emotional landscape with strength projection and imho it's a huge turn off.

She’s delusional

why do you think so?

Because you keep talking about yourself and how “successful” you are. No one cares about that. People don’t want to know the materials aspect of your life. Yea it’s good to know that you’re smart and you probably have nice things blah blah blah but what can you really bring to the table?

Can you offer emotional support? Would you surrender yourself for your loved one? Will you respect their opinions? Do you need them? Do you even want them?

If you keep talking about yourself and comparing yourself to others then the guys are going to look at you and ask you why you won’t just date yourself? Lol

of course i can offer emotional support 🙂

i just dont show it on the 1st place.



why should i open up to someone who hurt me ?



when i was younger even 24-25 i was totally different. maybe kind of naive, young mentally. i was NICE. i was helping people, and i wanted the same. i didnt know that for example friends can make you suffer or hurt because they would talk or do sth behind your back.

i have always had nORMAL relationshipw with people. i have never quarrels with my best friends.

so when i started being in a new company i automatically thought that i want be nice and normal.

and i saw that i didnt match because THEY were delisional and they were weird and closed.

now when i am 27 i dont open up easily. i mean i open only to people who are worth it. I CHOOSE.

like before THEY chose me or tested me, its now me who tests them

and they didnt know that i could be like that.



i just want 1;1 relationship- give get. the same amount.



its just because in the past not only VIRGO hurt me but also some of my closer friends even from high school.

i just need to observe and being more patient to open up to people and be nice.

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Are you throwing low blows at me because I’m “young” ?? I am not naive or delusional.

I was just trying to help you see things differently but damn you just keep talking about yourself.

Goodluck to you.

no lol

i didnt tell you are naive or delusional.

its not the way this post should be read.

i said i was naive and nice. and since then i must have changed.

i appreciate your help but i wanted everyone to understand why i am like that now.

Posted by bmoon8
You need to learn to be OK without a man. Learn to be comfortable being alone. You're only 27, what is the big hurry? What if you end up with a bad man instead? Because you're in a hurry to be with a man.

Only 27 to an Aries feels like 48

Posted by joanne_p

Posted by Undine
First of all, stop obsessing about Virgo. Clearly he doesn't want or even like you! Which should not matter to you, since there is someone out there who would like you just the way you are.

Repeat to yourself: "Whatever Virgo likes or wants is irrelevant to me! He is not a good match for me, just a time waster!"

Secondly, you need to work out what qualities do you need in a boyfriend, SO THAT you two are a good match. If you are impatient, you need someone with great patience. If you are controlling, you need a laid back personality. Then you need to have things and aspirations in common. If you don't care about your FB status, there are plenty of men who dislike FB too.

To understand yourself better, take an MBTI test, if you don't know what personality you have. Then google which personality matches yours, and read the description...see if you could imagine with someone like that.

Then write a profile that lists your main attributes and spells out those of the man you want. Think before you write, then maybe let someone read and edit it, since many of your sentences don't make sense. You need to write less and better.

i know. i just cant forget that for example i didnt even have a normal short relationship. that he invites me somewhere or idk.

it was just full of anger, control issues and etc.

i am not delusional.

he didnt let me meet other people. he was chasing me when even he broke up with me, he was spying on me. several times.

like he would have been scared of me but idk.

that was weird and strange.



when i moved on and got to know other people he DIDNT LET me forget about him. and actually stopped me in meeting new men ( he was delusional).

i wanted to move on 1.5 year after he broke up with me. he still didnt want to break the rope. i was interested in some new man. he realised that. started being his best friend!!!!just to BLOCK.



and now he is surrounded by new girls, and he just MARKS who is his. like, best friends, friends, girlfriends.

i was an ex so i couldnt move on to other person frm the same environment - not company - environment.

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Look, nobody could really stop you from dating anybody who is single. Only you could do that to yourself.

Posted by meraki
Aqua venus are detached af in my experience

See if you can get feedback on how you come across from people close to you. Find some insights about yourself and how you can better interact with others is my advice.

my family says i dont tell them their feelings. but i am very expressive when someone approaches me.



the problem is that i have always been guided by older people like mother and father and when they asked me about my feelings or some situation it was a time for me to answer.

but generally i have never given an initiative / a hand to tell people how i felt. that is why for example people assumed that everything is ok/ or i was not interested.

but i was waiting for them. it was many times like that.



my friends, close friends from high school or from university tld me i have a mask. under the happy and open person there is someone who hides feelings and so one.

thats why a lot of my relationships are grounded and very well - rooted. because i need to observe and know that person to open up.

i can be very fast with work relationships but not with romantic.