Is this what he really wants or is there more to it?

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Raeelynn
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9 YearsPisces

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So, I met this cancer guy and we started talking a lot . Like every single day of the week. Then for three days, he disappears. He comes back and tells me his ex is coming back trying to be with him but he doesn't want her back and he wants to see where him and I go and how well we get along. Fast forward to our first meeting, it was amazing. We had an instant connection that was like no other and me being a Pisces, i wanted to take this to heart but for some reason I couldn't. Anyway, he kept telling me how much he liked me and how beautiful I was. We had so much fun that first date and decided to go out the next day. He invited me over his house, I met his father and spent some time with his dogs and we ended up cuddling for six hours and sleeping. The next day, he proceeds to tell me he had a great time and that he really likes me and that I'm his and he's mine and I told him I felt the same because I truly did. Fast forward to three days later, he sends me a text saying he doesn't know what he's doing and that this is not what he wants to put his energy into and that he's sorry. I'm heart broken because the vibe I felt from him was honestly want and need for someone to be up under him like I was . I was reflecting my energy off of him and it felt like home being with him. He told me that what him and I have, he has never felt with anyone else and that it comes naturally. So why is telling me he doesn't want to put his energy into this? I'm so confused and hurt. He told me to not let this get me down and that I'll be okay... I don't think he knows how much that hurts.
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Raeelynn
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Posted by Koniucha
If you want to wait a bit, sure. You are still very young.

But I agree about the bringing up the ex thing. What was the purpose of that?
To be honest, I have no clue. I thought he was just being upfront and honest...Like he was telling me how annoying she was to him and how he wanted to be done with her. So I was thinking "Okay, that's honest of you, I guess." but I never brought it up again. I think I will give him a week and a half maybe two and then I'll be done. Maybe he isn't mature enough for me and see's that? I have no clue. I do think his ex has a part in this. In the text, he said he thought he thought he was going to be completely alone, like alone alone and that he wanted to be that way. Then I came along and changed that all up for him. I can't process what that means. Especially since his actions proved the opposite of that you know? He wasn't trying to get into my pants at all. It was all affection and he even said he was my boyfriend as well. I am really confused at this point.
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Raeelynn
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Posted by Koniucha
Confusion this early is not good. I think he brought her up because she is still in the picture.

Just watch his actions and read between the lines. To me, bringing up an ex right away like that would turn me off.
Okay thank you . This does help a lot. I guess my feelings were right. I don't like to compete at all and the minute I feel like I have to, I walk out the door. And I will most certainly dip out no matter how much it hurts for the time being. I know I deserve someone whose great and understanding. I just have a problem when I create bonds with people and they leave after a bond has been established. Uh. I don't my time to just anyone. I saw something in him, especially since I pursued him.
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Raeelynn
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Posted by kissmygrits
RED FLAG BUZZER He's bashing his ex to you.

Go on with it but have your eyes and ears open. And tweak that inner gut. Listen to that voice. When it says "this isn't right" you bust through the wall like the Kool-aid Man.

Ahh, that's one of the things I have to work on. Listening to my gut. I am very intuitive but my feelings always get in the way! Typical pisces right?
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Raeelynn
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Posted by Gennie
Drop him like a bad habit. Don't settle for a man who treats you like an option instead of a priority, really does anyone have time for this.
Well thank you. lol I made my decision. I guess if he wants to talk to me or even keep me around as a friend (which he doesn't even deserve) he has a week to talk to me. That's it. I have to put my big girl panties on and drop him.