Not sure I like Libras!!

Hi,

My ex-BF (and friend) is a Libra, and I'm a Cappy. While he's very intelligent, thoughtful, and witty, he has this ANNOYING trait that, based on what I've read, is quintessential Libran.

In an attempt to "balance," I suppose, everytime he compliments me he follows it almost immediately with a criticism!! Gee, how inspiring and encouraging, and JUST the kind of person I need to have around (not!).

While I can certainly take constructive criticism, there are certain times when this accomplishes NOTHING (and therefore is not "constructive") except ruin my mood.

Good thing we didn't get married because I'd hate to have my child's father put a damper on his/her dreams and goals with these kinds of comments.

Okay, I'm better now. Thanks for letting me vent! 😉

And...you shall "wonder" no more - Wondering 🙂

Me thinks you did the right thing...kuddos for you! The right guy for you will be coming 'round the corner when you least expect it. Now, if you are in a round room this will most likely not happen - sorry. My advice - stay out of round rooms 😉

Glad you feel better Wondering...that's what we are here for...luv ya!

Freebird my girl, I dont know how you do it. But your reply was nothing short of wonderful. And right on targot as usual!

Wondering,
I am a little reluctant to admit that I am of the Librian persuasion (female version). I knew there was a reason I was not drawn to male libras. Although I am not sure if what was experienced here was a true male libra trait or not, or just a personality glitch of some sort. Sorry to say I dont have much experience with the male counterpart of my sign, and I am beginning to see why at times.

I can only hope that I do not posess some of the more distasteful traits that have been pointed out. But I certainly will be keeping tabs on myself, should anything similar creep out from under a rock. And stop it short in its tracks before any harm can be done.

I admit that I have to agree with Freebird, you surely have done the right thing in this situation. There would only have been conciderable trouble later in the relationship, due to the way it made you feel when this was done.

And you know as us libras do sometimes, we just would not understand why you were so upset or angry with us. Even I dont understand, how we can be so thick about some things at times. Granted the example is kind of extreme, but still
we could use a little more sensitivity sometimes. Not one of my favorite Libra shortcommings, and the saddest part of all is we aren't even aware most times of the harm being done.

Like Freebird said when you least expect it, Mr right will run right smack into you. (not literally I hope)!

🙂 🙂 TW2

Yep I hate them. They always build you up just to put you down. I always come back on them LEB: thats a nice shirt you are wearing , to bad it doesn't go with those paints. ME: thank you, you know my sister had a dress just like the one your wearing, then she got a job and could afford better. try it sometime see what happens.

Old Jake You are a real card! I believe we have the same birthday. Meet you back here next month for a drink.

Wondering He's not balancing. It's that you're thiscloseto perfect. "Your haircut looks beautiful. If only you'd worn the other dress." "Dinner was really good. Next time you should make/don't make gravy." So what can you do? I ignore the ones that don't bug me and for the ones that do, first, if I can control myself, give a look that says 'are you sure you want to do this/there is still time to retreat'. If he continues or if I just skipped that part all together, I either use a retort similar to Old Jake's on the same personal level that I felt it or tell him he's hurt my feelings by being thoughtless (if you can cry a little bit when you say it even better and if you want to call him names, now would be the time). We very seldom have that problem any more. He thinks I'm 'sensitive'. I can live with that.