Q for natal Retrograde Mars and not-the-strongest Mars

Dominance.

Do you enjoy or dislike when you are in a situation where it would be best for you to be dominant?

Have you ever been in a romantic/sexual relationship with someone who could draw a more dominant side out of you? What was that like?

I hope I get some responses.

State your Mars Sign, House, Aspects.

Posted by Ands2016
are you asking if other women feel awkward being on top? my 1st gf didn't like it which was okay coz i didn't like women on top of me. she was a normal mars. mars in sag. mars in 8th if she was a taurus rising approximately. i'm a retro mars in scorpio in 1st house.

😆 "she was a normal mars." is the funniest thing I've read all day!

Honestly, I'm asking sexually. My husband is weirded out by the concept of dominance.. even mild. In his mind I'm asking for extreme bizarre dominance and whips when in actuality I'd just enjoy like 3% more aggressiveness from him. He's Mars Rx Aquarius (totally goes after what he wants in an indirect, roundabout way, sometimes "stirring the pot" to do so,) 4th house, trine Saturn, trine Uranus, trine Asc. It's really hard to find good info on Rx Mars.

Posted by Ands2016
do you think it is weakened by the house it's in? 4th house mars= cancer mars-ish

Good point.

Why don't you like lady on top?

/didn't

Mars in virgo, 4th house.

I have to be submissive. When im dominant, it just feels unnatural. Even giving fellatio, it feels out of place for me to just go for it.

Pisces mars in 11th and ranked as number 9 in Pullen. Mostly influenced by scorpio, then taurus, then some virgo and a breeze of libra.

I don't mind taking a dominant role, whether at work or in bed, but I can step aside too.

Could he be confused as to what "a little more aggressive" means? It's such a vague statement that he may be confused as to how aggressive he dares to be...which may make him more insecure, daring even less. Personally, I have found that words of encouragement during sex like (hmm, this is difficult, I normally don't speak English in bed...😉) come on or let me have it or something works the best. It needs to be in a way that he gets that he is doing good - so good, in fact, that you want more of it. See what I'm getting at?

Posted by Ands2016

Posted by duchesslibro

Posted by Ands2016
do you think it is weakened by the house it's in? 4th house mars= cancer mars-ish

Good point.

Why don't you like lady on top?

my nuts get crushed

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😆 stop being so hilarious. Why if you just open your thighs a bit? Would that help..? idk

Think I should say that I don't know if what I said would work in your case as most guys I have slept with have had mars in scorpio(majority), gemini and sag, none in retro, and I find them to need only a tiny bit of a hint of a green light to get as aggressive as you can take. So it may not be applicable to your husband.

Posted by duchesslibro
Dominance.

Do you enjoy or dislike when you are in a situation where it would be best for you to be dominant?

Have you ever been in a romantic/sexual relationship with someone who could draw a more dominant side out of you? What was that like?

I hope I get some responses.

State your Mars Sign, House, Aspects.

Aries Mars, natally retrograde.

4th house, Moon conjunct Mars, Mars square Neptune, Mars trine Ascendant.

I come across as assertive I guess. I either enjoy or dislike situations where it would be best for me to be dominant.

The two people I dated for 3 years each knew how to draw both sides at will. It's tricky how to draw that dominance out of me because then I go all the way and it isn't good. Mischevious and making things lift while I build up intensity works. With me, it's harder to switch to that feminine essence, which I have it and it's obvious but I just feel...silly. It's a lifesaving thing that Aries Mars men exist because I cannot out Mars them so they push me into that role and it does me good...and then I push them into restraining that masculinity and it's good for them too.

With communication, I have no qualms with saying what doesn't sit right with me. I will have a Virgo way of doing it but I get to the point fast. I don't have a fear of conflict.

It's a problem with the initial phases of dating, I can be assertive with one major exception. And if on that major exception the dude doesn't pick up on it and I have to do it, my attraction will start to fade. It's weird but it's been a hallmark of all my liaisons.

Posted by duchesslibro
It's really hard to find good info on Rx Mars.

The only interesting thing I found about retrograde aries mars, and it only related to this mars...is that it switched the energy from aries to scorpio so it's prone to behave like a scorpio mars. Jury is still out on that one.

Your husband is also a Virgo, take that into account because we really don't want to either seem inadequate or trespass some imaginary boundary. It's almost extreme so I totally see how he understands "be more assertive" into "omg she wants whips and chains"

*making things light not lift smh.

although lifting makes sense too.