Sag venus with Scorpio venus

Okay, so I met this guy who is really great - I feel there is a very real connection and a positive kind of tension between us. There is nothing going on between us except a tentative friendship, atm, though - I have told him upfront that I'm not interested in anything but a friendship, but tbh, I may be just a little, anyway. I just can't tell him, because if something were to happen, it wouldn't be anytime soon, as I'm not over my leo ex yet, and I don't want to string him along. So this is just a thought experiment on my part.

Here's the thing: The guy is a scorpio with a scorpio venus. I have been seeing two scorpio guys before and both had venus in scorpio as well...which has smothered the crap out of my poor sag venus...which is why nothing serious emerged. This may have been a coincidence, ofc, not everyone is alike, and I would really hate not giving something a go because of astrology(in fact, that won't happen), but I have to admit, this is a little worrying.

I don't know his birthtime, so I don't know his ASC(or houses), but I think it's an extroverted one, which goes well with my gem rising, but the rest of his chart is pretty serious. I'm serious and introverted most of the time myself, but I do have an extroverted, outgoing side that needs to be tended to. Now, I really don't have a problem getting that need fulfilled outside of a potential relationship(not talking about cheating or anything in the vicinity of it, just being social and meeting people) - I have done that before - I just wonder if there is a chance in h**l he would be okay with that.

To top everything up, two of my closest friends are male, and I have no intention of dumping my friends. We have been friends for 20+ and 8-9 years respectively, so that's not going to happen. Not sure this guy would be very understanding of that.

We're astrologically screwed, aren't we? What are your thoughts?

Posted by Impulsv
We are good when we feel secure about the relationship
Don't play hot n cold because that's when problems arise
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Just show that ur trustworthy with no flirtatious text with male Freinds n yeah sure.

Thanks!🙂 That's comforting! I don't play games like that, so that shouldn't be a problem, but showing that you're trustworthy doesn't happen over night - at least not for me. I'm sure, if we got that far, it wouldn't be a problem. I'm just worried that we wouldn't get that far at all.

There would be no flirtatious texts - that wouldn't be a problem. What might be a worry is that I sometimes come off as flirtatious. I don't see it, but it seems others have. I think I'm just talking to people, being social, but it is true that there have been more than one guy who may have read something into it(they haven't said so directly, but I've got a feeling they might). I would ofc try to tone it down as much as possible if that would be a problem.

Posted by Impulsv
Definately in front of him but that kinda common sense out of respect for ur partner

Yes, I wouldn't do anything behind his back that I couldn't easily do in front of him. My only problem is that I don't know what it is I'm doing that these other people consider being flirtatious - I don't feel I am. That's what makes it difficult.

Posted by Chance_11
If he's serious, he'll take the time to understand you and where you're currently at. I'd clarify that somewhat friendzonish comment though or that could ensure poor timing as he could eventually entertain other interested parties before you are ready to move forward.

That Venus can be a doozy but none better than a Cap to weather it.

'Introverted but with an extroverted side' is typical Cap imo. He should be able to understand. A lot of Scorpios are that way too. It's a private pairing with public audacity when together.

I don't want to string him along. I know that means that leaves him open to find other interests, but I think it would be egoistic of me to give him hope when I might never be ready. If I'm ready one day and if he's still single, that's when I'll tell him.

In theory, I think I could handle it, but I have failed twice before and I'm pretty sure that wasn't the cap parts of me, but my sag venus. I want to feel free, but be very close and intimate and glued to my partner at the same time, if that makes any form of sense. It's the weird combo of a sag venus, square pluto in the 7th house.

I really hope you're right, and I must say, most scorpios I've met has had an extroverted side to them, but that may have been other parts of their charts, so idk. You're right that they are usually very good at reading people, though, so since I am indeed loyal, maybe he'll just know...if I'm lucky.🙂

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Posted by Impulsv
Definately in front of him but that kinda common sense out of respect for ur partner

Yes, I wouldn't do anything behind his back that I couldn't easily do in front of him. My only problem is that I don't know what it is I'm doing that these other people consider being flirtatious - I don't feel I am. That's what makes it difficult.

I'm not sure to what that can be attributed to but you do have bursts of energy and enthusiasm that probably seem flirtatious. I'm the same way..probably can be attributed to my prominent Sag Mars and fire moon. Also, Caps are very observant, especially those with prominent Aqua/Gem placements, so people sometimes interpret that curiosity and relatability as being able to see the 'real' them.

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Thank you! This is very interesting - I'm definitely going to ponder this.🙂

Posted by Impulsv
One thing you don't want to do is decide for him. Tell him the circumstances he might be willing to wait A bit until you're ready

It's just that I don't know if I'll ever be ready - it would just be unfair to ask him to wait for something that may never happen. I don't want him to put his life on hold just because I can't seem to get over a leo. The scorpio is second in line, right now, and if I can't give him more than that, it feels really weird to me to ask him to wait.

Posted by Chance_11


😎

You really do understand.😄

does your scorpio guy have sagitarius moon at least? maybe sagitarius Jupiter? Saturn? those outside planets, help a lot.

9th house sun maybe? 9th house moon?

if he does, then your sag venus will be VERY VERY happy.

because possessiveness and you are mine will stifle that sag energy. you need FREEDOM. and only another with some energy will love that in you.

see this beautiful couple?

she's a double fire, aries sun (cusp to Taurus) and leo moon, and he's a scorpio stellium, with mars and venus, mercury there.
and Sagittarius moon. I have to recheck his mercury. lol because personally scorpio mercury can be bitingly cruel. (I know this personally in my family and my husband's) I mean blunt as fuck, and will hurt your feelings if you are easily hurt. I get hurt a lot but i'm so numb from all the stinging that i'm like, SIGH.



I have in ONE episode seen him get upset at her for her spontaneous mouth at times, when he looked at her like, "Jo Jo, don't go there, I told you in private you don't do that."

she lol'ed and shut her mouth.

Posted by lisabethur8
does your scorpio guy have sagitarius moon at least? maybe sagitarius Jupiter? Saturn? those outside planets, help a lot.

9th house sun maybe? 9th house moon?

if he does, then your sag venus will be VERY VERY happy.

because possessiveness and you are mine will stifle that sag energy. you need FREEDOM. and only another with some energy will love that in you.

Nope. Well, I don't know about the houses, because I don't have his birth time, but moon is in cap...which goes well with my sun, but is not very sagilicious.

Thanks for trying.🙂

Posted by lisabethur8
see this beautiful couple?

she's a double fire, aries sun (cusp to Taurus) and leo moon, and he's a scorpio stellium, with mars and venus, mercury there.
and Sagittarius moon. I have to recheck his mercury. lol because personally scorpio mercury can be bitingly cruel. (I know this personally in my family and my husband's) I mean blunt as fuck, and will hurt your feelings if you are easily hurt. I get hurt a lot but i'm so numb from all the stinging that i'm like, SIGH.



I have in ONE episode seen him get upset at her for her spontaneous mouth at times, when he looked at her like, "Jo Jo, don't go there, I told you in private you don't do that."

she lol'ed and shut her mouth.

Must admit I have no idea who these people are. *blushes* Maybe because I'm not American? Idk. *blushes again*

Well, my own Mercury is in cap in the 8th house and trine pluto, so I can answer, if necessary.😄

*Edit: Do you tell them that they hurt you with their words? I mean, having a certain placement is no excuse for bad behaviour.

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Posted by lisabethur8
see this beautiful couple?

she's a double fire, aries sun (cusp to Taurus) and leo moon, and he's a scorpio stellium, with mars and venus, mercury there.
and Sagittarius moon. I have to recheck his mercury. lol because personally scorpio mercury can be bitingly cruel. (I know this personally in my family and my husband's) I mean blunt as fuck, and will hurt your feelings if you are easily hurt. I get hurt a lot but i'm so numb from all the stinging that i'm like, SIGH.



I have in ONE episode seen him get upset at her for her spontaneous mouth at times, when he looked at her like, "Jo Jo, don't go there, I told you in private you don't do that."

she lol'ed and shut her mouth.

Must admit I have no idea who these people are. *blushes* Maybe because I'm not American? Idk. *blushes again*

Well, my own Mercury is in cap in the 8th house and trine pluto, so I can answer, if necessary.😄

*Edit: Do you tell them that they hurt you with their words? I mean, having a certain placement is no excuse for bad behaviour.

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oh you should watch their show. I think some of the episodes you can find on youtube.

just google chip and Joanna gaines

oh and no it's not as bad as you think. it just, to a lot of people sound cruel, but it's not. the other week, I was talking to a family member and they said, sometimes you have to "check out" or go cray. lol it helps to have your head in the clouds, then it's like HUH? lmao but this was only during the teen years, and growing up, even 20s, after that....when you are doing well in your life, your loved ones feel happier. But there are still jolts, especially if you live with them. I married a different mercury though.

Posted by lisabethur8
oh and no it's not as bad as you think. it just, to a lot of people sound cruel, but it's not. the other week, I was talking to a family member and they said, sometimes you have to "check out" or go cray. lol it helps to have your head in the clouds, then it's like HUH? lmao but this was only during the teen years, and growing up, even 20s, after that....when you are doing well in your life, your loved ones feel happier. But there are still jolts, especially if you live with them. I married a different mercury though.

Good to hear! But " I get hurt a lot but i'm so numb from all the stinging that i'm like, SIGH." sounds pretty bad. If a person gets hurt so much and so frequently that they go numb to be able to cope, it's pretty bad, imo. Please don't let them treat you this way.

One thing that I like about you is that you always seem to try to see the the other person's perspective in your day to day life - there's no prestiege. If they're right, they're right. It's just that, sometimes they may not be right, and you get trampled...resulting in you getting even number and shut down...hence getting the comments about your head being in the clouds. It's a vicious circle and I can't imagine how difficult it must be to be there. This is ofc my own theory from how it sounds. I hope I'm wrong. Please take care!🙂

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Posted by lisabethur8
oh and no it's not as bad as you think. it just, to a lot of people sound cruel, but it's not. the other week, I was talking to a family member and they said, sometimes you have to "check out" or go cray. lol it helps to have your head in the clouds, then it's like HUH? lmao but this was only during the teen years, and growing up, even 20s, after that....when you are doing well in your life, your loved ones feel happier. But there are still jolts, especially if you live with them. I married a different mercury though.

Good to hear! But " I get hurt a lot but i'm so numb from all the stinging that i'm like, SIGH." sounds pretty bad. If a person gets hurt so much and so frequently that they go numb to be able to cope, it's pretty bad, imo. Please don't let them treat you this way.

One thing that I like about you is that you always seem to try to see the the other person's perspective in your day to day life - there's no prestiege. If they're right, they're right. It's just that, sometimes they may not be right, and you get trampled...resulting in you getting even number and shut down...hence getting the comments about your head being in the clouds. It's a vicious circle and I can't imagine how difficult it must be to be there. This is ofc my own theory from how it sounds. I hope I'm wrong. Please take care!🙂

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oh it's fine. just rambling and reminiscing. I tend to reminisce the past.

anyway that's great to hear about your cap moon/scorpio sun boyfriend? what's his mars?

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Posted by lisabethur8
oh and no it's not as bad as you think. it just, to a lot of people sound cruel, but it's not. the other week, I was talking to a family member and they said, sometimes you have to "check out" or go cray. lol it helps to have your head in the clouds, then it's like HUH? lmao but this was only during the teen years, and growing up, even 20s, after that....when you are doing well in your life, your loved ones feel happier. But there are still jolts, especially if you live with them. I married a different mercury though.

Good to hear! But " I get hurt a lot but i'm so numb from all the stinging that i'm like, SIGH." sounds pretty bad. If a person gets hurt so much and so frequently that they go numb to be able to cope, it's pretty bad, imo. Please don't let them treat you this way.

One thing that I like about you is that you always seem to try to see the the other person's perspective in your day to day life - there's no prestiege. If they're right, they're right. It's just that, sometimes they may not be right, and you get trampled...resulting in you getting even number and shut down...hence getting the comments about your head being in the clouds. It's a vicious circle and I can't imagine how difficult it must be to be there. This is ofc my own theory from how it sounds. I hope I'm wrong. Please take care!🙂

oh it's fine. just rambling and reminiscing. I tend to reminisce the past.

anyway that's great to hear about your cap moon/scorpio sun boyfriend? what's his mars?

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Good to hear!🙂

Oh, he's not my boyfriend. He's...an interest of mine. I'm not over my leo ex yet, so if anything will ever happen, it will be some time in the future. This is just me thinking too much.🙂