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Posted by beautifulsoul74
Sounds to me like you're still in love with him 🙂With my ex? I'll always love him. We were together for 18 years and he was my best friend. But he's also got a lot of problems and he made me miserable.
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"I'll always love him."
Aww c'mon lol...that sounds so cliche'. Your feelings for him are much deeper than that and this thread is very telling. He still has a hold on you and I don't say that in a bad way. 🙂
Posted by beautifulsoul74
Sounds to me like you're still in love with him 🙂With my ex? I'll always love him. We were together for 18 years and he was my best friend. But he's also got a lot of problems and he made me miserable.
"I'll always love him."
Aww c'mon lol...that sounds so cliche'. Your feelings for him are much deeper than that and this thread is very telling. He still has a hold on you and I don't say that in a bad way. 🙂
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He does have a hold on me and it's a shame we can't work it out, but we can't
This is one of those cases where not all Libras are the same.
I was with my ex husband for 15 years.. even if we were really good friends, I would not expect him to listen in to a conversation regarding my new bf. Just as I would stay out of his business.
I understand that you feel that way because it's something you would do...but that doesn't mean that just because you are that way, that others should be the same.
It gets too complicated when you continue to stay in each others' business like that. Yes, if it had to do with your son, then it should be discussed. But this was more about your choice in men, than his choice to help you. *If you don't trust your guy, it is time to have a discussion with him or let him go. Find someone you do not need to feel paranoid about.
Posted by beautifulsoul74
Sounds to me like you're still in love with him 🙂With my ex? I'll always love him. We were together for 18 years and he was my best friend. But he's also got a lot of problems and he made me miserable.
"I'll always love him."
Aww c'mon lol...that sounds so cliche'. Your feelings for him are much deeper than that and this thread is very telling. He still has a hold on you and I don't say that in a bad way. 🙂
He does have a hold on me and it's a shame we can't work it out, but we can't
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Why? There's love there. I don't know what happened between you two but if two people are willing to forgive and grow, anything can be overcame. You mentioned you two WERE best friends and it appears that strong friendship is still there. That's your beginning. Rebuild that 🙂
Posted by beautifulsoul74
Sounds to me like you're still in love with him 🙂With my ex? I'll always love him. We were together for 18 years and he was my best friend. But he's also got a lot of problems and he made me miserable.
"I'll always love him."
Aww c'mon lol...that sounds so cliche'. Your feelings for him are much deeper than that and this thread is very telling. He still has a hold on you and I don't say that in a bad way. 🙂
He does have a hold on me and it's a shame we can't work it out, but we can't
Why? There's love there. I don't know what happened between you two but if two people are willing to forgive and grow, anything can be overcame. You mentioned you two WERE best friends and it appears that strong friendship is still there. That's your beginning. Rebuild that 🙂
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I will also say this:
I guarantee you he struggled with telling you about your boyfriend...you said he told you three days later right? He went through all of the machinations of what could possibly happen buy decided it was best to tell you. Part of it is selfish because he still loves you, but seeing you OK is just as big a reason.
I've been there before 🙂
Posted by beautifulsoul74
Sounds to me like you're still in love with him 🙂With my ex? I'll always love him. We were together for 18 years and he was my best friend. But he's also got a lot of problems and he made me miserable.
"I'll always love him."
Aww c'mon lol...that sounds so cliche'. Your feelings for him are much deeper than that and this thread is very telling. He still has a hold on you and I don't say that in a bad way. 🙂
He does have a hold on me and it's a shame we can't work it out, but we can't
Why? There's love there. I don't know what happened between you two but if two people are willing to forgive and grow, anything can be overcame. You mentioned you two WERE best friends and it appears that strong friendship is still there. That's your beginning. Rebuild that 🙂
I will also say this:
I guarantee you he struggled with telling you about your boyfriend...you said he told you three days later right? He went through all of the machinations of what could possibly happen buy decided it was best to tell you. Part of it is selfish because he still loves you, but seeing you OK is just as big a reason.
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We hadn't talked as friends for awhile. We both have SOs and have been more distant than usual the last couple of months, so I don't think it's that.
Posted by SomeSortOfMermaid
I was gonna say you're batshit crazy but then I saw you have a scorpio mars.It all makes sense now.
Haha! I keep my crazy to myself. Everyone who knows me in the realm world thinks I'm normal
Posted by LadyNeptune
Okay I read the whole thing. He shouldn't have done more. Your love life is not his business.I didn't think he should do anything other than maybe listen to what they said. He wasn't even going to tell me but we were hanging out with our son and he mentioned it.
I should point out that we're still friends and go on vacation together.
Sounds like he's letting you crash n burn. If he gets involved in your love life then he gets involved
He's not your bro or your bff, he's just a chill baby daddy
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I remembered after this post that this isn't the first time he's told me things about my bf. He's the one bringing it up to me, thus involving himself but he only tells me partial stories.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Okay I read the whole thing. He shouldn't have done more. Your love life is not his business.I didn't think he should do anything other than maybe listen to what they said. He wasn't even going to tell me but we were hanging out with our son and he mentioned it.
I should point out that we're still friends and go on vacation together.
Sounds like he's letting you crash n burn. If he gets involved in your love life then he gets involved
He's not your bro or your bff, he's just a chill baby daddy
I remembered after this post that this isn't the first time he's told me things about my bf. He's the one bringing it up to me, thus involving himself but he only tells me partial stories.
O I see. Well that's shady. I would never get involved that way unless there were hard feelings
Feelings are feelings, even lingering ones
You should probably keep an eye on your ex haha. Maybe that's what he's trying to do, get your attention
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Someone said it best...Sags like to stir up drama. I asked him more last night and he said, it's probably nothing and you'll look cray cray if you say something and it's nothing. I was like, why did you tell me then? Now I'm paranoid and I may not even need to be. He said, don't worry about this, worry about the other issues like the drug and alcohol abuse.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Okay I read the whole thing. He shouldn't have done more. Your love life is not his business.I didn't think he should do anything other than maybe listen to what they said. He wasn't even going to tell me but we were hanging out with our son and he mentioned it.
I should point out that we're still friends and go on vacation together.
Sounds like he's letting you crash n burn. If he gets involved in your love life then he gets involved
He's not your bro or your bff, he's just a chill baby daddy
I remembered after this post that this isn't the first time he's told me things about my bf. He's the one bringing it up to me, thus involving himself but he only tells me partial stories.
O I see. Well that's shady. I would never get involved that way unless there were hard feelings
Feelings are feelings, even lingering ones
You should probably keep an eye on your ex haha. Maybe that's what he's trying to do, get your attention
Someone said it best...Sags like to stir up drama. I asked him more last night and he said, it's probably nothing and you'll look cray cray if you say something and it's nothing. I was like, why did you tell me then? Now I'm paranoid and I may not even need to be. He said, don't worry about this, worry about the other issues like the drug and alcohol abuse.
Hahaha I tell my libra GF similar things, you guys are easy to stir up.
He could just be messing with you. Or maybe he already has your back and you may not even know it?
So keeping an eye on him might be good, either to reveal ulterior motives or to reveal the truth
Either way guys like to be trusted and protective and having the upper hand (control) so I don't blame him, but I personally would be much more direct
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Does it annoy her when you do it?
Posted by LadyNeptune
Okay I read the whole thing. He shouldn't have done more. Your love life is not his business.I didn't think he should do anything other than maybe listen to what they said. He wasn't even going to tell me but we were hanging out with our son and he mentioned it.
I should point out that we're still friends and go on vacation together.
Sounds like he's letting you crash n burn. If he gets involved in your love life then he gets involved
He's not your bro or your bff, he's just a chill baby daddy
I remembered after this post that this isn't the first time he's told me things about my bf. He's the one bringing it up to me, thus involving himself but he only tells me partial stories.
O I see. Well that's shady. I would never get involved that way unless there were hard feelings
Feelings are feelings, even lingering ones
You should probably keep an eye on your ex haha. Maybe that's what he's trying to do, get your attention
Someone said it best...Sags like to stir up drama. I asked him more last night and he said, it's probably nothing and you'll look cray cray if you say something and it's nothing. I was like, why did you tell me then? Now I'm paranoid and I may not even need to be. He said, don't worry about this, worry about the other issues like the drug and alcohol abuse.
Hahaha I tell my libra GF similar things, you guys are easy to stir up.
He could just be messing with you. Or maybe he already has your back and you may not even know it?
So keeping an eye on him might be good, either to reveal ulterior motives or to reveal the truth
Either way guys like to be trusted and protective and having the upper hand (control) so I don't blame him, but I personally would be much more direct
Does it annoy her when you do it?
Yes very much but I only do it to her when she's being unbearable and after I've let her know she's in for a surprise haha. It's the only way to get her to understand that it's not only about her, which is ironic with a Libra
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Is she self centered under the guise of being more concerned about everyone else?
Posted by LadyNeptune
Okay I read the whole thing. He shouldn't have done more. Your love life is not his business.I didn't think he should do anything other than maybe listen to what they said. He wasn't even going to tell me but we were hanging out with our son and he mentioned it.
I should point out that we're still friends and go on vacation together.
Sounds like he's letting you crash n burn. If he gets involved in your love life then he gets involved
He's not your bro or your bff, he's just a chill baby daddy
I remembered after this post that this isn't the first time he's told me things about my bf. He's the one bringing it up to me, thus involving himself but he only tells me partial stories.
O I see. Well that's shady. I would never get involved that way unless there were hard feelings
Feelings are feelings, even lingering ones
You should probably keep an eye on your ex haha. Maybe that's what he's trying to do, get your attention
Someone said it best...Sags like to stir up drama. I asked him more last night and he said, it's probably nothing and you'll look cray cray if you say something and it's nothing. I was like, why did you tell me then? Now I'm paranoid and I may not even need to be. He said, don't worry about this, worry about the other issues like the drug and alcohol abuse.
Hahaha I tell my libra GF similar things, you guys are easy to stir up.
He could just be messing with you. Or maybe he already has your back and you may not even know it?
So keeping an eye on him might be good, either to reveal ulterior motives or to reveal the truth
Either way guys like to be trusted and protective and having the upper hand (control) so I don't blame him, but I personally would be much more direct
Does it annoy her when you do it?
Yes very much but I only do it to her when she's being unbearable and after I've let her know she's in for a surprise haha. It's the only way to get her to understand that it's not only about her, which is ironic with a Libra
Is she self centered under the guise of being more concerned about everyone else?
Very self centered, but in a genuine way, that's what I admire the most about her, but it gets unbearable in certain situations. It's similar to Aries energy where they have so much positive energy but they forget their direction.
But when she defends others it's genuine and amazing, Libras are strong, they just need direction sometimes
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Yep, that me to a t. I just need to find someone who appreciates that
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He also feels that way about me but we're better apart than we are together