What do you FEAR most?

Which of the following do you fear the most?

1. Career problems/failure?
2. Death of a family member/spouse/friend?
3. Illness?
4. Inadequate finances (I.E. being BROKE!)?
5. Insects?
6. Lonlieness?
7. Lost love (divorce/break up/never being able to find "the one?"
8. Natural disaster?
9. Public speaking?
10. Random violence?
11. Unhappiness? (Everyone's definition of "happiness" is different/varies)
12. War or political upheaval?
13. Other (Anything else)

I'm just curious to know. They published an article back in 2009 in "GQ" about what the average person feared the MOST! According to the ad, most people actually feared "Public speaking" BUT, I rarely ever hear someone saying that of ALL the things above mentioned, that public speaking was by far the WORST! Yes, I think all 1-12 are all horrible & things worth fearing, BUT I find it hard to believe that out of ALL the things listed above, public speaking was #1. There just seems to be too many extroverts in the world for that to be NUMBER 1!

I fear most #2 (losing a loved one/family member or friend). Most of us will eventually find someone in life we can "love," whether that person comes in the form of a friend, romantic companion, spouse or family member. Most people will experience or find that. BUT 1 thing I hate about life is that we are ALL Guaranteed to lose those very people eventually & at some point. THAT is what scares me.

It's easy to fear never finding love if you can't find it/never experienced it, BUT what about the people like me who actually DO have "loved ones?" Death is something that is 100% GUARANTEED & even though we all have to come to grips with that/accept it, it still scares the ish out of me! Sometimes, it does make sense when others say they'd rather not love at all vs. find love & lose it. It's almost like a TEASE!

Who wants to spend their entire lives looking for something only to know that in a short while you are 100% likely to lose it? I think that's 1 of the reasons so many TRY (they may not be successful though) to avoid love altogether, even when it comes to family members. Losing a loved 1 is so bittersweet. You're happy you found them & experienced their "love" BUT it's almost twice as devestating to lose them more than it was to have never found them at all

# transcience and betrayal.

I try to balance this by throwing away possessions slowly, letting go,
as well as not expecting too much of others.

For me, love is forever. I dont believe in transcience in that area.

#7 I dont fear lost love because you can't lose them if you loved them. They'll always be a part of you.

Posted by ellessque
the answers are interesting.

Kry, you are an aqua, right?

Of course I'm an Aqua!

@Spica: Good point! I agree that loved ones will always hold a special part in my heart, BUT I still fear losing them, especially unexpectably or in a horrible way. Yes, I'll be glad that they're finally resting in peace & I'll be grateful that I atleast got to experience some bliss while they were around, BUT there's NOTHING worse than not having that person around anymore. The fact that you can't create any MORE memories with them that scares & upsets me.

Posted by wsigaf
13. My dark side,
when I get tired of fighting it..

Hmmm interesting...And good point. If a person loses themselves or surrenders to their "Dark side," 1-12 could easily happen just simply b/c of that fact! When a person gives in to their dark side, there's no telling what things will begin to spiral out of control, especially since living in your "dark side" affects OTHERS too.

"@Spica: Good point! I agree that loved ones will always hold a special part in my heart, BUT I still fear losing them, especially unexpectably or in a horrible way. Yes, I'll be glad that they're finally resting in peace & I'll be grateful that I atleast got to experience some bliss while they were around, BUT there's NOTHING worse than not having that person around anymore. The fact that you can't create any MORE memories with them that scares & upsets me."

I don't fear losing people to death.. strange.. I just don't think about such things. What I mean by transcience is change.. not referring to Death per se. I view death as a time to go. I view people spiritually anyway - that means I still feel they're with me. So far my grandparents have died and so has my cat but I didnt feel like I lost them. Call it strange, but its how I see it.

Funny, I don't think I fear any of those. I just feel good about what I have now, and to me that's all that matters.

13. Other (Anything else)

I fear success.

I can't really explain why at this point but need to understand why I do fear success ... because I do.

I have been through #2 more times than I'd care too. I will say illness. Wasting away in pain, or incapacitated becoming a burden to those I care about. I hope that when it is my time to die, that it is quick and merciful.

13. Fear

I think some fear is good. After all, our society is driven by fear. Hell half of the professions/careers today thrive off of this thing called fear (Police officers, military, Stock brokers, etc.) We're all trying to prevent OR stop something from happening whether it's investing in an alarm system to keep the robbers away or putting on condoms in order to prevent unplanned pregnancies/stds. Some fear is good, no different than some bad experiences are good b/c they're the only way we can sometimes be/live better.

I agree that fear for any 1 thing should NOT consume a person b/c too much fear can hinder a person. BUT some fear is def. good. For instance I fear losing a loved one & never getting the chance to show them that I loved them. That fear is what drives me to love my friends/family/partner as much as I can, so that I won't have any "regrets" persay "that day" were to come.

I also fear being taken advantage of. That is why I purposely don't wear the "Prey looking for predators!" sign on my forehead. Having some fear keeps us on our toes.

I actually fear going to hell! And this is 1 of the reasons I believe SOME fear is good. The fear of God's wrath for those who do not live their lives according to HIS ideal is what often keeps me on my toes. God is like the father who gives his children rules, that if they don't follow WILL eventually be punished/grounded. This fear AND respect keeps me on my toes. As scripture says, "To fear the Lord is the beginning of wisdom."

What I fear the most is something terrible happening to someone I love and me not being able to protect them.

Posted by cappysweetie
13. Other (Anything else)

I fear success.

I can't really explain why at this point but need to understand why I do fear success ... because I do.

This is sooo me! It's strange I dont know what my problem is, I used to think I was scared to fail but then I realised it was actually success I was afraid of.

But nothing in the list is really a fear of mine, they would be unfrtunate but I do not fear them, I suppose if i had to pick one I would say being lonely, but I dont really dwell on it enough for it to be a fear.

I have a fear of falling to me death but i suppose that is more a phobia lol

Afraid of success? Hmm, interesting. What exactly about success scares you or do you fear most? The people I know either fear losing their success altogether OR they fear success b/c of how it can negatively change them into someone/something they aren't. BUT if that's not the case with you guys, I'd be interested in knowing exactly why success is a fear of yours

Posted by krysrenee7
Afraid of success? Hmm, interesting. What exactly about success scares you or do you fear most? The people I know either fear losing their success altogether OR they fear success b/c of how it can negatively change them into someone/something they aren't. BUT if that's not the case with you guys, I'd be interested in knowing exactly why success is a fear of yours

It's strange I cant really explain it. When I was younger I never revised for tests (even though I got very good grades) I only ever worked enough to get by, it drove my mum crazy as she thought I was "wasting my brain". I used to think I was afraid of failure and that was why I didnt revise, because I didnt want to put in all that effort and fail, but last year I had a counsellor for a while (i have a lot of issues lol) and worked out I was purposely jepordizing my success. Afraid that if I try I will actually make something of myself, I still dont get it but am working to try and improve it. Possibly to do with self esteem, maybe I dont feel i'm worthy of sucess, odd though as I am a very confident person.

@LibraSun: Wow. That's very interesting. Kind of sounds like you are afraid of YOU. They say the LAST person we should ever be afraid of is ourselves.

BUT, I wonder if being afraid of success still stems a disguise in being afraid of failture. After all, success is a GOOD thing. And the only time obtaining success gets scary is when we start thinking of possibly LOSING that very same thing, whether it's through lack of giving something your all or OVER-doing something. Hmm..

It could possibly be self-esteem. It sounds crazy that you'd believe that you may not deserve success, but I've actually heard that mindset before from others. A friend of mine says she's waiting to have sex before marriage, BUT not b/c she's traditional or basis that from a religious standpoint. No, it's moreso that she doesn't think she deserves sex. It's weird, & something that many people don't really understand, BUT it is possible. It's 1 of those subjects that can get DEEP!

Posted by ellessque
love is scarier than death. at least from my pov.

Kind of agree with that.

Posted by ariesvita
Funny, I don't think I fear any of those. I just feel good about what I have now, and to me that's all that matters.

Ditto

being prevented from having adequate information/freedom to have some amount of control over the direction of my life and my reactions to situations and people. it can be applied to all sorts of things. as a kid, i was afraid of supernatural stuff a lot. as an adult, i just start panicking if someone tells me "don't worry about it. just mind your own business." fuck that, if i can get fucked over because of it, someone elses business IS my business.

astrologically, i'll attribute it mostly to my merc conj pluto in scorpio/3rd house.

Posted by libra sun

Posted by krysrenee7
Afraid of success? Hmm, interesting. What exactly about success scares you or do you fear most? The people I know either fear losing their success altogether OR they fear success b/c of how it can negatively change them into someone/something they aren't. BUT if that's not the case with you guys, I'd be interested in knowing exactly why success is a fear of yours

It's strange I cant really explain it. When I was younger I never revised for tests (even though I got very good grades) I only ever worked enough to get by, it drove my mum crazy as she thought I was "wasting my brain". I used to think I was afraid of failure and that was why I didnt revise, because I didnt want to put in all that effort and fail, but last year I had a counsellor for a while (i have a lot of issues lol) and worked out I was purposely jepordizing my success. Afraid that if I try I will actually make something of myself, I still dont get it but am working to try and improve it. Possibly to do with self esteem, maybe I dont feel i'm worthy of sucess, odd though as I am a very confident person.

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as a fellow libra, i've got the same problem. to me, it's because even though i'll be successful in that area, it doesn't guarantee success in other areas. on one hand, i worry that i can only succeed in one area, and i don't want to choose the wrong one. on the other hand, it really sucks to have one area of your life going great while others lag sorely behind. the size of the difference makes it all the more harsh. i'm also afraid that if i succeed at something, i'll be expected to continue to succeed, and that i'll have to stick to that instead of pursuing other options. libras love having options.

4, my family has had finance problems for as long as I can remember and it's marked deep down inside me

6, *_* where did everyone go?

7, esspecially if they die -_-

8, like a horror movie, all the walls coming down, animals killing, water covering the world...

9, yea umm... >.>.. ^.^.. *.*..

ooh my fears ,
. i'll never live out my dreams
. i'll never be able to spread the peace and love
. i'll never find my soul mate
. i'll never bang joaquin phoenix

Rejection

or the end of the world

Posted by krysrenee7
I fear most #2 (losing a loved one/family member or friend). Most of us will eventually find someone in life we can "love," whether that person comes in the form of a friend, romantic companion, spouse or family member. Most people will experience or find that. BUT 1 thing I hate about life is that we are ALL Guaranteed to lose those very people eventually & at some point. THAT is what scares me.

It's easy to fear never finding love if you can't find it/never experienced it, BUT what about the people like me who actually DO have "loved ones?" Death is something that is 100% GUARANTEED & even though we all have to come to grips with that/accept it, it still scares the ish out of me! Sometimes, it does make sense when others say they'd rather not love at all vs. find love & lose it. It's almost like a TEASE!

Who wants to spend their entire lives looking for something only to know that in a short while you are 100% likely to lose it? I think that's 1 of the reasons so many TRY (they may not be successful though) to avoid love altogether, even when it comes to family members. Losing a loved 1 is so bittersweet. You're happy you found them & experienced their "love" BUT it's almost twice as devestating to lose them more than it was to have never found them at all

This. Though I would rather love and lose than never have loved at all. Must be that whole rebirth and fearlessness thing.