I hate rejection. Especially when I put myself out there and the other person isn't even direct with how they feel. Maybe they don't want to feel as if they hurt my feelings so they agree to go out to avoid "hurting them" when they know dang well they don't want to go out. I've never talked to a cancer man before, and I love cancers but I wish this cancer guy would've been a little more direct. My feelings aren't hurt, but I kind of feel embarrassed.... it's been a month of Facebook messaging and I asked him out. He agreed, and we discussed some places. I don't go out much, so all the places I suggested he had been to. But he stated he didn't mind repeating. I've also never met this guy, but I was at Starbucks a week ago and saw a guy that looked like him and while we were still messaging I sent him a message stating that I may have saw him. I guess maybe that's weird? But it wasn't him Lol... so that's awkward. He just read the message. So my friend told me I should suggest that we text since he rarely is only Facebook. Which he is on a lot because in messenger it tells you the last time someone was active. So clearly he just wasn't checking the messages. But that's okay. I just feel embarrassed, because I chased this one I feel.... ?
-___- another one bites the dust
And that's not a double standard at all.... -___-
Posted by Maidemarilyn
I am sorry to use you as an example but looks like I'm going to have to.
NEVER as a man out. That is his job. Ok?!
U put the cancer man in an awkward position by asking him out in the first place.
So I gather he has read your message but not responded?
Why on earth would you say to someone "I may have saw you last week"?!!
If you are going to take the man's role and ask him out, please use better chat up lines .
Better yet, do not ask me out.
Get to know them as people pay an interest in them and what they are about . If you feel they are worth your time and they ask you go then go out with them. But do not ask them on a date.

Posted by MaidemarilynWTF?! Seriously?
I am sorry to use you as an example but looks like I'm going to have to.
NEVER as a man out. That is his job. Ok?!
U put the cancer man in an awkward position by asking him out in the first place.
So I gather he has read your message but not responded?
Why on earth would you say to someone "I may have saw you last week"?!!
If you are going to take the man's role and ask him out, please use better chat up lines .
Better yet, do not ask me out.
Get to know them as people pay an interest in them and what they are about . If you feel they are worth your time and they ask you go then go out with them. But do not ask them on a date.
My Mom (Aqua) asked my Dad (Cancer) out in the 1960s and he LOVED it! He's still raving about how impressed he was by this beautiful strong and independent woman who knew what she wanted.
Kind of sad to see such stupid gender stereotypes and ideologies be represented in freaking 2017!

I just want to know why he didn't show.

I dealt with a Cancer man once... He was super indirect. I actually wasn't sure if he even liked me until he said, "I want to kiss you." I'm not sure why they're like this. I don't think it's bad to ask a man out, btw. I do think it's better to get to know them as friends first to get a sense for what they're like, what they want.

Posted by Wanderlustcancerian24You're overthinking this. Don't worry what he thinks. I know it's hard. You were upfront, he didn't get it or didn't want to get it, either way his problem. There may be a ton of reasons for him not responding, but you overthinking won't give you the answer and will only make you feel worse.
I hate rejection. Especially when I put myself out there and the other person isn't even direct with how they feel. Maybe they don't want to feel as if they hurt my feelings so they agree to go out to avoid "hurting them" when they know dang well they don't want to go out. I've never talked to a cancer man before, and I love cancers but I wish this cancer guy would've been a little more direct. My feelings aren't hurt, but I kind of feel embarrassed.... it's been a month of Facebook messaging and I asked him out. He agreed, and we discussed some places. I don't go out much, so all the places I suggested he had been to. But he stated he didn't mind repeating. I've also never met this guy, but I was at Starbucks a week ago and saw a guy that looked like him and while we were still messaging I sent him a message stating that I may have saw him. I guess maybe that's weird? But it wasn't him Lol... so that's awkward. He just read the message. So my friend told me I should suggest that we text since he rarely is only Facebook. Which he is on a lot because in messenger it tells you the last time someone was active. So clearly he just wasn't checking the messages. But that's okay. I just feel embarrassed, because I chased this one I feel.... ?
Both my cancer sub and Leo moon have a difficult time with rejection, so I can empathize.
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