Am I the only cancer that does this when hurt?

Okay well I just noticed a pattern in my behavior when I'm hurt, angry, or upset with people I consider close to me. Every time I'm deeply hurt with someone I always block them from everything and delete their number and text message thread from my phone and shut them out of any thoughts in my mind until I calm down a bit and even then I won't call them they would have to apologize to me first before I even consider talking to them. I don't know if this is just me having issues or if this is a cancer thing? My sun sign is Cancer and my moon sign is Capricorn.

Positive interpretation: You're asserting your needs to yourself through your actions.

Negative interpretation: You're trying to control your emotions by controlling your environment. It's to attain power over your pain. This is the wrong method: in this case, your pain has more power over you.

Overall Comments: Don't forget: just because you are hurt, that does not erase the hurt you put upon others in retaliation. Be mindful of how you hurt those close to you. The intensity of your feeling does not justify your actions. I have learned this and have been transformed by the weight of the consequences of my actions.

Remember, you the viewpoint of your consciousness, so your needs are paramount to you. But, there are other viewpoints in the universe, and those close to you should be treated with care, even if they hurt you.

When you are on your deathbed, think of the lives you touched and how you touched them.

I have a Cancer moon, but yes I do that too because if I don't, I'll hurt you.

Posted by Chelsey07
I have a Cancer moon, but yes I do that too because if I don't, I'll hurt you.

Same. I have a Cancer moon and mars.

I do this too but mainly with people significant others. I'm a Moon in Cancer, but a sun in Pisces/Aries cusp

This is an awful thing to do. By doing this, not only you not giving the other party the chance to apologize and make up for it, you make things worse.

I should know since my Venus is in Cancer so occasionally I tend to resort to silent treatment.

I do this as well only after i gave the person many chances.

If they continually hurt me, I truly feel that that person is not really a friend so i would totally tune them out of my life. We cancers always seem to learn the hard way, well me anyways lol.

Maybe I might come around and become cordial with the person again, but we would never have the relationship we once had because i cant trust them.

Your sun is personality but the ruling planet for cancers are moon so i think no matter what moon sign you have every cancer sun is still influenced cancerian-like by the moon but majority moon sign. Moon sign is emotions and inner feeling and self. You must have a very unique personalty (in a good way), cancer and capricorn are polar opposites so i think your cancer emotions got a little better of your capricorn side but instead of crying it formed into straightforward anger, which is unlike cancer and more like capricorn. Your cancer probably fueled the emotion and capricorn expressed it in cutting ties. By waiting for people to apologize first is probably a mix of your stubborn capricorn and passive cancer.

You go from hero to zero if you hurt me.

I've had my fill of these people to last more than one lifetime. You'll have to excuse that I will excuse you from my life. Simple as that.

Back in the day when I didn't exile those who hurt me, I would typically let them come to me first even if have already calmed down and regained a somewhat rational mind. My behavior would remain passive-aggressive until it happened. But when/if they did, I would become all lovey again.

Same it's after many chances and being hurt repeatedly there is no other choice of action

It's the evolved version of cancer I find - once upon a time I would have cried lashed out wanted drama etc - now I just go ice cold freeze you out because maturity knows it is the best form of punishment and makes the other person have to actually think how they hurt us from radio silence

It also just makes it easier to move on no mental torture agony or doormat behaviour which in turn promotes mental and spritual growth

Also stops stupid games by the other person wAnting attention etc

Once you have had a taste of how good it can be with a cancer full withdrawal and being banished can mess with someone like nothing else when we take it away for bad behaviour and you can come and crawl back and grovel all you want - no dice, you don't exist

Posted by Glowycancerian
Okay well I just noticed a pattern in my behavior when I'm hurt, angry, or upset with people I consider close to me. Every time I'm deeply hurt with someone I always block them from everything and delete their number and text message thread from my phone and shut them out of any thoughts in my mind until I calm down a bit and even then I won't call them they would have to apologize to me first before I even consider talking to them. I don't know if this is just me having issues or if this is a cancer thing? My sun sign is Cancer and my moon sign is Capricorn.

Oh my god YES!! If someone crosses me or if I'm heartbroken I always BLOCK on every form of social media including whatsapp etc. I delete their phone number to remove the temptation to call or message that person. Also to stope from looking at what they are up to and obsessively stalking them. I block and sit and brood waiting and hoping for them to come to me and make the first move. I'm doing it right now with a Cappy guy who I broke up with!!