Angry Cancer girl, long distance

I need help to get out of this peculiar situation with this Cancer girl I've hurt unintentionally. We like each other a lot but things went from magical to nightmarish on her birthday yesterday.

Background:
I'm a Virgo male and I know this Cancer girl for a couple of years. We developed a very understanding friendship over time. We know each other through common friends and met online (we live on different continents but share culture and language). At that time, I was in a relationship with an amazing Leo for more than 6 years. Cancer knew about this and we were just friends. Leo got married (forcibly) to another a few months back (long story) and the Cancer girl helped me a lot to get out of my misery, through online chats.

Our common friends suggested that since we like each other a lot, we should try to know each other better and explore the possibility of a future together. In the last few months, we chatted for hours almost everyday even when one of us was traveling for work. She stated many times that she can't see me in any other light except with that Leo girl. That is an uncomfortable zone for me since I loved the Leo but I'm not more in a relationship with her after her marriage. But the Cancer loves reminding me that which is always a tricky situation for me. I'm very tidy emotionally and the Leo was very generous; we never had a real fight during all those years.

Coming to yesterday's event, it was her birthday and I sent her flowers through her BFF. When she came online her tone was very rude and unfair, and kept that until I told her that I told her that her BFF helped me. She then thanked me and said it was the most beautiful bouquet she has gotten. We have never spoken before but she gave me her number but asked me to call on Monday since she was busy with some guests. I told her that I want to send her the birthday gift; she tried some excuses for a while and then said that my Leo ex will be hurt if she came to know that I'm to send a gift to a girl I met online. I lost my cool finally and said that she should stop this torture of bringing my ex in every conversation. She snapped and left angrily.

Now she doesn't respond to my texts and chat messages. I've never faced such situation in past and I'm clueless what to do? Her BFF suggests I should let her be and she'll calm down in a few days. Is that the right way that I should wait for her to calm down herself (which I doubt is going to work with her). What should I do?

How long was it before you broke up with the Leo and she got married to when yous started dating the Cancer?
Are you officially dating the Cancer?

@busyeyes88
Most people suggest to not leave a Cancer alone since they are an emotional mess. She was hurt that I used the word 'torture' despite her efforts to help me in my bad days (which she did and I acknowledge and thank her fully). I sometimes tell her that she thinks of herself as Mother Teresa. She does ask me weird questions; like, what kind of girl I like, and what's the different between her and my ex? She herself said she genuinely likes me and her conduct shows that too.

I'm a Virgo and I know what the other person is asking; I think she was insecure about my past relationship and felt threatened, hence the questions. She even asked if I get married to someone else, would I leave my wife if Leo ever came back to me. That to me was a very judgmental question and based on assumptions. I'm a very practical Virgo and have dated many girls before but never a Cancer. She, on the other hand is younger than me (I'm 31, she's 25) and never had a real relationship, just a short fling that was online (the guy did not tell her he was married until she committed). I handled her calmly and told her that I can't predict the situation and how I would behave after, say, 10 years (which I think is the not the right answer to a Cancer but I don't build relationship on falsehood). I feel Cancer sometimes thinks I'm waiting for Leo's return.

My Leo ex calls me every once in few weeks to ask about my health and how I'm doing. Cancer knows this and asks if I got the call after every few days. Again, I'm uncomfortable with the question.

@LunarMaidan
The marriage and whole fiasco was dragged on for about 6 months. Our relationship was over some 4 months ago and she got married 2 months ago. During half that 6 months time, I was not in touch with Cancer or online and she constantly asked my friends about me. No, we're not officially dating and I think it's a period where we need to know each other. I always feared that if kept bringing Leo in conversations out of blue, I may lose my cool some day. I told her she should not do it.

Do you think it was too early to show her my feelings? Despite all the drama, I care for her and do not want her to be hurt because of me. Now I can see her active online but not reading or responding to my messages.

PS: Sorry about details. I'm a Virgo and can't help it.

So that I am clear, it's only been 4 months since this relationship ended?
She probably senses you still have some unresolved issues with this Leo.
Considering you are still in contact with her.

Unless you are prepared to offer constant reassurance and coddling to the Crab I say let this all pass another 4 months before you consider entering into a relationship with this woman.

I say maintain friendship and nothing more at this point.
The best part about the Crab/Virgin relationship is the friendship aspect.

And don't mention Leo again.
In fact act like you rarely keep in contact.
I would recommend since you don't have children together, there is no reason to keep in contact other than to finalize divorce.
This will be reassuring to the Crab.

This is too much. Either
Cancer is very possessive when she really should t be and is demanding and insecure. Solution is to leave her alone because she will always be thinking about the Leo.

You didn't know but led the cancer on to believe you two will be together one day and you stressing bout the Leo and all those emotions made her feel rejected and second pick. Biggg cancer no no. Solution- if u have feelings tell her bad show her and prove to her that you and Leo are done .

Or cancer was just only wanting to know how you think and act because they are curious. Doubt this one. Solution be more open and clear so she can stop thinking and start acting

I send her a some messages and texted her, got no response. Cancer's BFF suggested that I let her be for a while for her to calm down and realize that she was wrong too (I doubt she will reach to that conclusion). So that's what I'm going to do. Also, I'm going to take a step back and not get involved with her too much. Keep a distance, I suppose.

If you have feeling for your ex I think you should. Cancers like to feel secure knowing their lover only has eyes for them. And if you really don't want to be with her don't play games with her.

She appeared yesterday and commented on one of my statuses (not related to her). We were never active on each other's walls/profiles. We had a short chat afterwards. She said, we chat a lot and that is the reason of misunderstanding. I simply said, I agree with you. If she wants to disappear, I'm not going to chase her. Her tone was a bit aggressive and I asked her to lower her temper a bit.

I'm definitely taking a step back and see if I still feel the same for her after few months. I also have to resolve issues with my past relationship and sort myself out. But I'm pretty disappointed with her immaturity and lack of grace. I was not after her or playing mind games; I just wanted to know her better. You of course can not expect a man to commit to you without knowing you. Disappointing really that behind that facade of kindness and friendliness, there is an immature person.

Yeah, you should deal with any lingering feelings you may have for your ex and leave this less than flattering lady alone.

Posted by yazlan
She appeared yesterday and commented on one of my statuses (not related to her). We were never active on each other's walls/profiles. We had a short chat afterwards. She said, we chat a lot and that is the reason of misunderstanding. I simply said, I agree with you. If she wants to disappear, I'm not going to chase her. Her tone was a bit aggressive and I asked her to lower her temper a bit.

I'm definitely taking a step back and see if I still feel the same for her after few months. I also have to resolve issues with my past relationship and sort myself out. But I'm pretty disappointed with her immaturity and lack of grace. I was not after her or playing mind games; I just wanted to know her better. You of course can not expect a man to commit to you without knowing you. Disappointing really that behind that facade of kindness and friendliness, there is an immature person.

I suspect she is very disappointed herself.
In all fairness you had no business pursuing ANYTHING with this woman.
But since you did, she got caught up.

However, the minute she decided to continue communicating with you KNOWING you had unresolved issues, that's on her.
Both of you knowing you had unresolved issues with the ex attempted to pursue something more.

Her throwing the ex in your face was her way of calling out for reassurance.
But you wouldn't give it to her. You couldn't. Now she's pissed off because she feels foolish.
But she has a weakness or fondness for you so she disappeared to get away from it then reappeared to be with you.
Can't stay away because she does like you. But can't be with you the way she wants.

You actually developed feelings for each other.
I think the timing is just bad between you two.
How about giving yourself a time frame like 6 months to a year of not dating?

You actually developed feelings for each other.
I think the timing is just bad between you two.
How about giving yourself a time frame like 6 months to a year of not dating?

She happened actually, it was not planned. Thank you for your advice; that's pretty much what I'm going to do.