break up with cancer man, do they regret it?

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caprisun
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Hey guys, sup! ive been reading this forum for a while and its been such a great source of insight 🙂 .. id really like some advice on something.
Anyway the story is im a 28 year female capricorn and met cancer male 30 through mutual freinds, we spoke for hours almost everyday and met often for 7 months or so. We got along so well and spoke about marriage as we were both looking to settle down.he took some time out to relocate ( happened to be more nearer to me) and study more. Anyway things didnt plan out so well for him and then he became withdrawn and a lil depressed. Started to change and would not speak to me at all. Anyway he ended things a month ago giving no other reason apart from ' i have a bad feeling about us' and we should no longer stay in touch. I messaged back how i felt, but didnt push him to stay as i feel you cant force anyone esp ones that wont express emotions/reasons fully to begin with. I guess i want to know wether he will look back and regret leaving something/someone good. Both of us said we had never felt that way about anyone before. Bit gutted he left the way he did, 😢
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caprisun
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10 Years

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Thanks for the responses guys, no he has always had depressive tendencies even from when we first med,flippant moods too. He was charming and intelligant but at times would doubt himself and become quiet for days. both of us are in the medical profession so work gets tough, id always been there to support him through bad times, Always available when he needed me.
he just withdrew out of no where it was literally Suddenly he decided that he wanted to quit on everything his study course and me aswell 😢
its difficult being there for someone when they ignore you and are so unresponsive . Trust me i tried. You cant keep forcing yourself onto someone. Ive never put any pressure on him, im quite strong emotionaly and financialy independent. he just gets sad and imagines up all this doom and gloom then decides he needs to pack evrything in. i dont want to be that annoying ex gf that keeps pushing, i hear cancer men talk when they want to and if they want to be with you its obviuos too. i just feel sad about this as we were so good good togethar..
guys also lol i know this might sound stupid but whats treetrunking? Ive heard you guys use it alot.
im from london u.k :p
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Hate to say it but if he felt enough for you, he wouldn't have ended it. Whether he regrets it after the fact is almost always beside the point because even if he did, it rarely works out to go back for seconds. Regardless of how people feel in the beginning or what they say, relationships are a crap shoot and you can't put too much stock into pretty romantic words. With men, actions always speak louder than words anyway. Better luck next time. We all get disappointed in love at times. You will survive and thrive again.
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caprisun
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10 Years

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wise words, depression is so destructive and i guess its difficult to truely find joy in anything and love someone fully if your inherently unhappy yourself. Its an unhealthy dynamic to rely fully on someone else to try and fix you, suppose thats partly why it ran its course. Or he just grew more out of love until feelings just wernt strong enough to try and juggle me alongside all this other stuff.
...life lessons really smack you hard sometimes!