Cancer ex boyfriend texting me

I'm taurus, he's cancer (sun in cancer, moon in scorpio) we're both in our twenties n been friends for 6 yrs. Only 4 months ago (the duration of our relationship) he realized he liked me. Only the last month we started a long distance relationship. I had a crush on him ever since I saw him, but never told him. I felt like the luckiest girl on earth being with him n when he expressed his love to me, things were good, it seemed like we're so right for each other. Only when problems arised 2 weeks before him traveling away, I started seeing that we're both too stubborn n too sensitive, get hurt easily by one another. I was hurt when I felt he's ignoring me at times n so did he. I broke up with him bec. after 1 month of him traveling away, 1 day when I expressed my sadness bec. he ignored my calls on purpose (he was out with friends and returned really late), he didn't respect my emotions n didn't pursue me to fix this by showing any concern, instead he sulked and gave me the silent treatment for 4 days. When I finally asked him to talk, he still couldn't see how he hurt me n could only see his own wound and said he doesn't have tolerance for my sulking (not talking for a day n a half, but i tried to talk to him after that n he didn't want to talk) this is when I ended it. 2 days later he called to get me back, said that he thought I wanted him more than this n that each doesn't want to show the other that he needs him. I told him I need a couple of days to think about it n It's not arrogance, I only need time. 2 days later I tried calling him but the call didnt go through so I sent him a txt to call me. Next day he sent me a txt saying he'll call at 10 then he didnt call but sent another txt late night saying he can talk now but is sleepy n that I can call him if I want. I told him we can talk tom. since he's tired, he replied with a crabby attitude "whatever" asked him what he means.. no answer. Went silent for 5 days until today he txt me how im doing, I replied by doing great and asked him the same q, he said "same" n that's it. I still love him so much nI care for him deeply. But, I ended it cause I didn't feel I'm treated properly n felt neglected at times. I would take him back if he "sincerely" cares about me n appreciates me (eventhough I never get back to an ex). Why did he let me go so easily? Why didn't he call to reconcile?

Waiting for you cancer guys to give me some insight here! *puppy eyes*

I think you are play games and he know more what you are doing then you think... Being a Cancer and Scorpio... he finds this rude... even more so because he has the Scorpio influences... it makes him vindictive... so if you play games like you have all the power and control it will try to turn the tables...

I think that this relationship is doomed as long as both of you have a self serving attitude and don't level with one another and mean it... even if someone did... even if you did it... it would freak him out for a few days and you would have to show some consistence in order for him to return to a better level of communication... and obviously with your general moody attitude this will rise again...

Not to point the finger yes he could be a little more considerate but at the same time he has a life...

You need better communication instead of games...

All I can say if you ever want to be in a mature relationship... these games of power and control... like dumping someone and then trying to make out like it is a privilege to for you to consider getting back with him... is unhealthy... He is not responding well because it hurts... and in return you get games back...

You get what you put it...

My advise is grow up and take responsibility for your own action of trying to manipulate a situation... and don't do it any more...

I highly doubt you hear my words though...

anyways best of luck

PM

I am not sure if you read my story carefully. I broke up bec. he hurt me and I got it that he does not care about my emotions. I even mentikned that I never got back with an ex, once I made up my mind it's done. I'm only consudering getting back cause I truly loved him for years and it breaks mh heart he's not the one, so I want to give it a try. Taurus never play games and it's s a turn off to me.

You are very judgemental so please read carefully before blaming me of playing games and such nonsense.

peace out

Posted by piscesmoon2
I think you are play games and he know more what you are doing then you think... Being a Cancer and Scorpio... he finds this rude... even more so because he has the Scorpio influences... it makes him vindictive... so if you play games like you have all the power and control it will try to turn the tables...

I think that this relationship is doomed as long as both of you have a self serving attitude and don't level with one another and mean it... even if someone did... even if you did it... it would freak him out for a few days and you would have to show some consistence in order for him to return to a better level of communication... and obviously with your general moody attitude this will rise again...

Not to point the finger yes he could be a little more considerate but at the same time he has a life...

You need better communication instead of games...

All I can say if you ever want to be in a mature relationship... these games of power and control... like dumping someone and then trying to make out like it is a privilege to for you to consider getting back with him... is unhealthy... He is not responding well because it hurts... and in return you get games back...

You get what you put it...

My advise is grow up and take responsibility for your own action of trying to manipulate a situation... and don't do it any more...

I highly doubt you hear my words though...

anyways best of luck

PM

I am not judging... I am telling you like I see it... it is ok I did not think you would be willing to change your ways...

Look if you really love someone you would not dump them... put them though that because they did not do what you wanted... You would have tried to talk to him and make him understand what happened and why you felt the way you did... instead you hurt him... and yes you are playing games of passive aggressive...

You want him to chase you... and open up his eyes that you are so amazing and he feels so bad for miss treating you that he will do what what ever you want or need...

No you see that is why he is like what ever... so really this is not love... or you would have tried to work it out instead of over acting... or maybe it is just really immature love...

I am sorry if you don't like my words...

In the end you should just not waste you time if you are not willing to tell him I over reacted... and can be needy or at lest that you what you expect which is more reassurance... Instead of just thinking he knows what you want already...

In fact what does he want... if you love him so much... why don't you think about that...

again this is my point of view like it or not... if you want the advise of a girl... or really support to tell you he is a pig and you need to manipulate him like this or someone to tell you he is so lucky that he has a chance with you... or your are too good... then you are dreaming or let the next person comment...

In reality if you don't end up with him someone will... and it will not be the end of the world...

You need to decide if you want to even be in a relationship before trying to get in one...

Relationships are founded on good clear communication not to people that are to stubborn to make the first move to talk to one another...

PM

Posted by piscesmoon2
I am not judging... I am telling you like I see it... it is ok I did not think you would be willing to change your ways...

Look if you really love someone you would not dump them... put them though that because they did not do what you wanted... You would have tried to talk to him and make him understand what happened and why you felt the way you did... instead you hurt him... and yes you are playing games of passive aggressive...

You want him to chase you... and open up his eyes that you are so amazing and he feels so bad for miss treating you that he will do what what ever you want or need...

No you see that is why he is like what ever... so really this is not love... or you would have tried to work it out instead of over acting... or maybe it is just really immature love...

I am sorry if you don't like my words...

In the end you should just not waste you time if you are not willing to tell him I over reacted... and can be needy or at lest that you what you expect which is more reassurance... Instead of just thinking he knows what you want already...

In fact what does he want... if you love him so much... why don't you think about that...

again this is my point of view like it or not... if you want the advise of a girl... or really support to tell you he is a pig and you need to manipulate him like this or someone to tell you he is so lucky that he has a chance with you... or your are too good... then you are dreaming or let the next person comment...

In reality if you don't end up with him someone will... and it will not be the end of the world...

You need to decide if you want to even be in a relationship before trying to get in one...

Relationships are founded on good clear communication not to people that are to stubborn to make the first move to talk to one another...

PM

ofcourse I tried to communicate what i thought n felt from him before breaking up, but he insisted that he can't tolerate my sadness snd that i have nothing to be sad about that's why I mentioned he did not respect my emitions. I do love him but I was so hurt and felt he didnt love me anymore.

I don't get why you are attacking me. I am not being passive aggressive that's a water sign trait. I did try to talk with him from the start and again to reconcile, but "whatever" did not sound that inviting to me. It made me think he do

cont. doesn't want to get back anymore. Common sense is when a man wants a woman in his life, he talks with her and not neglect her or be rude.

Taurus tend to test you..ALOT!!! Not games per say but is a testing phase for you see taurus is kinda all or nothing breed. They will fight for you believe me they will once they into you deeply. THey see red when they are hurt.O jesus christ they see red. Destroy anything that can break. And for the most part HAVE lots of sex with them.MMMMM sexxxxxx!!!! Yeah but you need your space too txogal but he will get back to you just be busy,make dat money.

Posted by ReddmannScorch
Taurus tend to test you..ALOT!!! Not games per say but is a testing phase for you see taurus is kinda all or nothing breed. They will fight for you believe me they will once they into you deeply. THey see red when they are hurt.O jesus christ they see red. Destroy anything that can break. And for the most part HAVE lots of sex with them.MMMMM sexxxxxx!!!! Yeah but you need your space too txogal but he will get back to you just be busy,make dat money.

It is true I would fight for him. That's why I was deely hurt when he let me go so easily. When things go wrong ftom my side I would rush to apologize cause I never want to hurt him. Both of us are very pridefull too, which can be a problem. I have no idea if he's coming back. I wish to understand him and make things better.

Yup yall impulsive! quick to act without thinking. And when you reflect you realize that what you did was not nice. If he really loves you ,you will know. We show by spoiling you rotten. If you talk to him GENUINELY without the cussing then focus on yourself, we cancers sometimes take it to heart we give our all and we get taken for granted. Just talk to him and lean on his shoulder you know how you tauruses do,lol.

Posted by Impulsv
Taurus think they never play games lol. Like the above u don't dump him because he didn't do as u wanted u have a mature discussion about. Last resort is n everything tried the u have a choice. U dump at first sight of trouble n that's not real
Life must have skills to
Work through issues. I he'll yeah u hurt him!!!

Yep... that is the problem...

PM

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Posted by piscesmoon2

ofcourse I tried to communicate what i thought n felt from him before breaking up, but he insisted that he can't tolerate my sadness snd that i have nothing to be sad about that's why I mentioned he did not respect my emitions. I do love him but I was so hurt and felt he didnt love me anymore.

I don't get why you are attacking me. I am not being passive aggressive that's a water sign trait. I did try to talk with him from the start and again to reconcile, but "whatever" did not sound that inviting to me. It made me think he do

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Regardless of what you think... you need to have some control on your emotions... it is like if you work in a job... you know how you support yourself and you emotionally get upset at all your co workers... do you walk in and say fuck off and then to your boss... not you try to communicate why you feel the way you do in in an adult way and get to the bottom of it... then move on...

I bet you have a strong placement for water in your chart or something... or air... you for get that astrology is not all about the sun... My water placements far out weigh my fire sun sign...

And Attacking you is a bit much don't you think... you asked a questions and I took the time to give you my honest answer...

Like the me agree with above... Taurus like stability... and dumping someone and your emotions controlling you is not how you show someone you are stable... as if you are not stable and effect them... how can they be stable or if you had kids... how would they be stable... and so on... I talk about kids because Taurus always look to the future.

I believe you messaged here wanting support for your self and not really wanting to solve the problem...

So also the pride comment... there is no pride in love... if your really love someone you put your pride aside... to work things out... it is not about who talks to who first.

I suggest you really again take a long look at yourself before you get into another relationship and ask yourself why you are wanting to control issues with your partner... It is only when you control you emotions enough to communicate effectively and actually hear another words that your problems maybe solved. You seem to be all about your needs... what about his?

PM

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Posted by piscesmoon2

I don't get why you are attacking me. I am not being passive aggressive that's a water sign trait. I did try to talk with him from the start and again to reconcile, but "whatever" did not sound that inviting to me. It made me think he do

Regardless of what you think... you need to have some control on your emotions...

I suggest you really again take a long look at yourself before you get into another relationship and ask yourself why you are wanting to control issues with your partner... It is only when you control you emotions enough to communicate effectively and actually hear another words that your problems maybe solved. You seem to be all about your needs... what about his?

PM

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I'm here to get a view on how cancer men think cause I read that taurus and cancer cannot understand eachother and I know that bec. my bro. is cancer and when we fight we dont ralk about it we just burry it a d forget .. the only time I tried to discuss with him why i was hurt he could not see what i feel like and was focusing so much on his own hurt. However my bf admits his faults but he keeps doing them. I do have my emotions taking over sometimes but in this relatiinship i was too careful and calm thats why i asked him to give me 2 days so i wont act out all hurt .. i needed to cool off. Only then i feel uninvited by him cause i believe he thinks i'm arrogant. About the needs, I always put others needs before me and this could be my worst trait.

To piscesmoon2 .. Anyway I aporeciate your input and I know it's only based on what I post here which can't be the whole story. Breaking up could be due to several other things that bothered me in the relationship and not based on that one problem. We taurus keep building up until we cannot take it anymore, and we are patient.. so you can imagine. Well thanks for caring

Patience aint a taurus strong point,it's a cancer's. Hope u aint bipolar. Communication is another problem. When we ask you whats up you tend to bury it deep within. The only way to get through some taurus is writing what we we feel and think. And boyyyyyyy yall hold grudges!!!

Posted by ReddmannScorch
Patience aint a taurus strong point,it's a cancer's. Hope u aint bipolar. Communication is another problem. When we ask you whats up you tend to bury it deep within. The only way to get through some taurus is writing what we we feel and think. And boyyyyyyy yall hold grudges!!!

Eaaaasy...! I don't hold grudges by the way I even forget why I was sad at someone many times. And I never cussed my ex like you menyioned earlier.. I do find it hard to speak my mind sometimes but when somekne makes me comfortable enough and won't judge me.. I would surprise him. Communication is sure a problem.

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Posted by ReddmannScorch
Patience aint a taurus strong point,it's a cancer's. Hope u aint bipolar. Communication is another problem. When we ask you whats up you tend to bury it deep within. The only way to get through some taurus is writing what we we feel and think. And boyyyyyyy yall hold grudges!!!

Eaaaasy...! I don't hold grudges by the way I even forget why I was sad at someone many times. And I never cussed my ex like you menyioned earlier.. I do find it hard to speak my mind sometimes but when somekne makes me comfortable enough and won't judge me.. I would surprise him. Communication is sure a problem.

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Your bf sounds like a normal cancer boy. Cancer is like that. They admit they got faults then they will repeat them. His scorpio moon should sit well with your Taurus sun though.

Communication will always be a problem if you have a relationship with a cancer. Either get used to being ignore now or find another person. 😄

Communication will always be a problem if you have a relationship with a cancer. Either get used to being ignore now or find another person. 😄

Well ignoring me was the thing that always got me sad and doubtful of his caring towards me.. and it was the same thing that caused the break up.. I am not sure if I can stand this. Why would you ignore the one you love and want to build your future with? How could he do this repeatddly but would get so hurt when I ignore him? that's strange to me

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Communication will always be a problem if you have a relationship with a cancer. Either get used to being ignore now or find another person. 😄

Well ignoring me was the thing that always got me sad and doubtful of his caring towards me.. and it was the same thing that caused the break up.. I am not sure if I can stand this. Why would you ignore the one you love and want to build your future with? How could he do this repeatddly but would get so hurt when I ignore him? that's strange to me

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I should rephrase myself. He doesn't actually ignoring you on purpose. His action comes across as ignoring but in actuality, he retreats and goes into his shell. That's what Cancer does. That famous cancer act takes getting used to.

Of course he would get hurt if you ignore him because in his mind he didn't ignore you, he just went into his shell to think things thru.

So when he does his retreating act, just let him sort things out on his own and leave him alone. This act doesn't mean he doesn't love you.

Posted by piscesmoon2
I am not judging... I am telling you like I see it... it is ok I did not think you would be willing to change your ways...

Look if you really love someone you would not dump them... put them though that because they did not do what you wanted... You would have tried to talk to him and make him understand what happened and why you felt the way you did... instead you hurt him... and yes you are playing games of passive aggressive...

You want him to chase you... and open up his eyes that you are so amazing and he feels so bad for miss treating you that he will do what what ever you want or need...

No you see that is why he is like what ever... so really this is not love... or you would have tried to work it out instead of over acting... or maybe it is just really immature love...

I am sorry if you don't like my words...

In the end you should just not waste you time if you are not willing to tell him I over reacted... and can be needy or at lest that you what you expect which is more reassurance... Instead of just thinking he knows what you want already...

In fact what does he want... if you love him so much... why don't you think about that...

again this is my point of view like it or not... if you want the advise of a girl... or really support to tell you he is a pig and you need to manipulate him like this or someone to tell you he is so lucky that he has a chance with you... or your are too good... then you are dreaming or let the next person comment...

In reality if you don't end up with him someone will... and it will not be the end of the world...

You need to decide if you want to even be in a relationship before trying to get in one...

Relationships are founded on good clear communication not to people that are to stubborn to make the first move to talk to one another...

PM

Excellent analysis and advice. The op's ego was bruised and as a result she is defending her passive aggressive reaction to the situation. The cancer guy appears to be intuitive and sees right thru this game. The best approach for the Op would be the sincere one. There is power in vulnerability. Giving him the opportunity to see you like this, will more than likely bring out a compassionate side of him.

Depends if he's positive or negative Scorp. If he negative run for the hills-red flag hot temper w/ threats(OJ simpsons a scorp). If not try no contact 60 days if he calls play it cool and let him lead-be nice and HONEST.Both signs run when hurt-all men retreat.

To CreativeCap, I really dont mean to be playing games, I'm not all that smart for games. I'm pretty straight forward it's the easy way. But, I am just used to the man aporoaching me if he wants me and I left the door open. I dont want to be nagging. I am only waiting for him to pursue me cause I got the feeling he didnt make uo his mind. Plus everyone's like, leave him alone. I'm at loss.
all I wanted is to give him a second chance for both of US actually!

Posted by ScorpVulcan
Depends if he's positive or negative Scorp. If he negative run for the hills-red flag hot temper w/ threats(OJ simpsons a scorp). If not try no contact 60 days if he calls play it cool and let him lead-be nice and HONEST.Both signs run when hurt-all men retreat.

I made a mistake actually. His moon is in virgo and mine is in scorpio. I mixed it up :/ .. any ideas? or same reaction?

Cancer men can be nut bags-all I can say will never do it again.

Posted by ScorpVulcan
Cancer men can be nut bags-all I can say will never do it again.

Yeah right?! so complicated.. but their soft side is what keeps me close. my bro. is cancer and drives me crazy at times.

Posted by TxOgal
To piscesmoon2 .. Anyway I aporeciate your input and I know it's only based on what I post here which can't be the whole story. Breaking up could be due to several other things that bothered me in the relationship and not based on that one problem. We taurus keep building up until we cannot take it anymore, and we are patient.. so you can imagine. Well thanks for caring

It seems you have found your emotional balance... I can tell because you tone has changed...

Good... and yes that is what astro is about to some point trying understand that we all don't work the same... and yet we can understand each other if we can objectively step out of our own shoes... and put our self in the astro sign of another shoes... in the end it is a tool... just like tarot cards... it help you intuition... and pushes your boundaries to be more... or look from another perspective... psychic gifted people do this naturally... astro is just the most mathematical, logical, easy, and widely excepted way of reading...

If it was true love you would be with him...

I am a big fan of we are always where we are suppose to be or we simply would not be there... It is that easy... In this energy flow that we all are equally apart of no point is with out a placement.

PM

I am not sure if I better wait for him to approach me? or if he is waiting for me to talk about reconciling? I feel like as days go by without us opening the subject we will both end up hurt thinking the other person didnt care enough to call.

Is he even wanting me back? I wonder..

Him:
sun in cancer
moon in virgo
leo rising (n hes got a huge ego)
mercury in cancer
venus in leo
mars in leo

please some advice, I love him too much

Go read and enjoy 🙂 http://goodgollyastrology.com/your-mars-and-venus-playbook/mars-in-sagittarius.html

Posted by ScorpVulcan
Go read and enjoy 🙂 http://goodgollyastrology.com/your-mars-and-venus-playbook/mars-in-sagittarius.html

that thing got surprisingly true facts! thank u

Ok! So...it's not that cancers are non communicative and closed, no. Have you ever seen a cancer interact with someone they love (who hasn't committed yet) vs. someone from all other categories (except those they dislike)? They are very open, kind, funny, polite and can have very deep conversations, logical or emotional ones. They will go above and beyond to help others and mother them. And they're usually in a cheerful mood (well...if they're not being moody). They're usually the life of the party and can mix with many different groups of people of different ages and social statuses. But then watch them with the ones they're crushing on. TOTAL DIFFERENT STORY! All of those wonderful things go out of the window and they become over analyzing cowards that mirror people, test them in the most irritating obstacle courses and they become emotional monsters (one minute showing their loving side and being evil the next). Now. This behavior is only seen when they haven't gotten a clear, bright and shiny greenlight on your love and your approval of a real committed relationship.

So I say...cover those horns up and show and tell him how much you love and care for him. Be real and direct and ask him for the same. Don't put too much pressure on him, but let him know what's up and then give him a tiny bit of space so that he can process.

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Posted by StarMooney
Ok! So...it's not that cancers are non communicative and closed, no. Have you ever seen a cancer interact with someone they love (who hasn't committed yet) vs. someone from all other categories (except those they dislike)? They are very open, kind, funny, polite and can have very deep conversations, logical or emotional ones. They will go above and beyond to help others and mother them. And they're usually in a cheerful mood (well...if they're not being moody). They're usually the life of the party and can mix with many different groups of people of different ages and social statuses. But then watch them with the ones they're crushing on. TOTAL DIFFERENT STORY! All of those wonderful things go out of the window and they become over analyzing cowards that mirror people, test them in the most irritating obstacle courses and they become emotional monsters (one minute showing their loving side and being evil the next). Now. This behavior is only seen when they haven't gotten a clear, bright and shiny greenlight on your love and your approval of a real committed relationship.

So I say...cover those horns up and show and tell him how much you love and care for him. Be real and direct and ask him for the same. Don't put too much pressure on him, but let him know what's up and then give him a tiny bit of space so that he can process.

lol damn.

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Nope... over analyzing aint my thing. As for babying people or mothering them yes when i dig u. I think the jackass or the cunt in us would be for anybody(no matter what sign) who feels tested irrationally.

NNNNNOOOOOOO! Don't let him read what I wrote to you!!! Do you mean you will see how he responds to what I told you?? No way! Cancers naturally have trust issues and with the back an forth and you guys' relationship, this man probably DEF has trust issues with you. So if you let him read what I wrote just to see his response/reaction, he is going to feel like you found a more creative way to pry and manipulate his emotions will feel like you are being manipulative and sneaky. Cancers are big on secrecy and privacy so if you expose such emotions via any way that seems inauthentic, he will lash out at you and go into his shell. And trust me. Nothing gets by a cancer, they have the ability to read people very well and will know why you randomly decided to get their opinion or reaction to some random cancer info. They will also make weird connections and believe that you can't be trusted with simple things because you will sneak around and see what you can find in the cancers secret treasure chest. Cancers keep secrets for their own reasons and if you try to learn those secrets in any other way than directly getting it from the cancers mouth or heart without any manipulation sir nonsense, they will label you as deceitful or lacking in integrity and will shut you out (at least when it comes to the very private matters).
What you need to do is put your insecurities aside and tell him how you feel, straight from your heart. Don't let him try to guess what encrypted message you are trying to send by showing him something you read about cancers.

Look past all of the typos, I'm on my phone here. 🙂

Posted by StarMooney
Look past all of the typos, I'm on my phone here. 🙂

oh dont worry i did not mean to make him read this. This forum is my guilty pleasure 🙂

I meant I was going to try to call him. But, anyway I deleted my comment bec. I won't call. If he truly wants me to be his he should be the one doing the call. It's not a pride thing. But the man seeks the woman. I cant give him the benefit of the doubt anymore bec. Ive already done that alot and it did not benefit us in the end.

WHATTTT— The man seeks the woman? Yeeesshhh!He aint calling the only way he will call u if he sees you with another guy. Did you have sex yet?

If that's the only reason he'd call, it's pretty selfish. Made me feel he finds me a posession from the start and not a life partner.
If that's the way cancerians function, then I am truly sorry for their passive attitude. A confident man knows what he wants and gets it. As easy as that.

Posted by ReddmannScorch
WHATTTT— The man seeks the woman? Yeeesshhh!He aint calling the only way he will call u if he sees you with another guy. Did you have sex yet?

We do get it but its the testing .. we want you but you test and test AND TEST!lol.... funny thing though if you be done with him be done with him, he just hurtin you even more. That can be poisonous. But no matter what tauruses love hard despite the hurt someone did them. Say what move on.

Posted by ReddmannScorch
We do get it but its the testing .. we want you but you test and test AND TEST!lol.... funny thing though if you be done with him be done with him, he just hurtin you even more. That can be poisonous. But no matter what tauruses love hard despite the hurt someone did them. Say what move on.

Love is not supposed to be about testing, it doesn't have to be that complicated.. I am trying to move on, but it's really sad. I thought he loved me.

Get ur ass busy TX o gal. Dont stalk him though,lol. Accomplish your goals and partaayyyyyyyy!!!!!lol

yeah his loss lol

Oh for fuck's sake. You all are a bunch of morons.

OP, I don't blame you. Water signs are fucking emotional and emotionally manipulative. They focus on their own emotional needs and will fuck you over so bad for the sake of this excuse of "retreating" or whatever retarded label they give it.

His behavior is a bunch of bullshit and had ZERO respect for you. You fucknuts really need to stop excusing such bad and psychotic behavior. I mean really, what the hell is wrong with you all? Enabling utter bs.

Take astrology out of it. His behavior is absolutely ridiculous coming from a male. She addressed how his ignoring her calls/texts bothers her. He not only dismisses her concerns, but focuses on himself and his emotions. In other words, "fuck your feelings, it's all about mine!"

Then he doesn't even bother calling her when he says he will.

Are we following along here? Is this acceptable behavior from a guy that the OP is supposedly in a relationship with? I dunno about you all, but this is unacceptable behavior from a boyfriend.

Drop the long distance bs, OP. It doesn't work and just adds extra stress to a relationship, which always requires some work in itself. I don't blame you for dropping him, either. You've known him for awhile, but are seeing what his dipshit self is about in relationships. He sounds very immature and self absorbed. He's not boyfriend material.

Find someone locally and not so emotionally retarded.

Update: After 2 weeks of no contact, my ex sends me another message asking how my life is going. I don't feel like replying to him but I think I should not ignore this. At least I'll say great (again) I don't know if he thinks we are friends now? like friend-zoned me already? I never really kept contact with an ex.

Update: I replied and so did he. But that's it. I thought he would talk further, but he didn't. I'm removing this selfish person and if he ever contacted me again I won't respond.

I didn't read your history, so excuse me if I'm completely wrong or lacking in info, but...he could be unsure of a future with you, could be waiting on you to say something important or initiate something, he could be feeling guilty and trying to gauge your level of disgust for him, could be that he's juggling other women, could be that he's having personal life issues...could be a lot of reasons. You need to put him in his place and set some boundaries or ground rules. Ultimatum? (Actually maybe not because cancers aren't good with ultimatums). Just give it to him straight.

Posted by StarMooney
I didn't read your history, so excuse me if I'm completely wrong or lacking in info, but...he could be unsure of a future with you, could be waiting on you to say something important or initiate something, he could be feeling guilty and trying to gauge your level of disgust for him, could be that he's juggling other women, could be that he's having personal life issues...could be a lot of reasons. You need to put him in his place and set some boundaries or ground rules. Ultimatum? (Actually maybe not because cancers aren't good with ultimatums). Just give it to him straight.

I get what u mean but we broke up, in a weird way though. I guess he just could not handle me lol he is also not s
a straight forward and this really put me off when he runs away instead of facing his lil trouble like any normal human.

Posted by LunarMan
Of course he run away, he is cancer. You are taurus a stubborn bull, who digs their heels in the ground. You are physical he is mental. He contacted you, he was obviously reaching out. You may not have given him a response he was looking for. We need you to tell us what we think you will say or feel, of course this is difficult because how are you supposed to know what he is thinking, if that is the case ask him what he wants to hear and why he contacted you again, next time he sends you a message and start from there. Yes it sounds one sided, understand we can be insular people and very much introverted and see things only from our perspective. It does sound selfish and you would be right to think that. You may need to be more pushy but in a more tactful manner, to get the response you desire.

I might do that.. depends on what I feel about this if he messaged me again (which I think will happen) Eventhough I feel asking him would embarrass him or make him uncomfortable and me as well, but anyway it is better than silence and possible misunderstandings.

Now that I met a Leo man in a very unexpected way, he already makes me feel protected and happy, but my heart still belongs to the Cancer ex 😢 it sucks cause the way the leo man treats me is more than perfect, totally dreamy and extremely opened himself to me, leaving no space for doubts.

Cancer always win. mwaaaa haaa haaa haaaaa!!!!

And women.. sorrry to say seem to like the unpredictable. But cancers ALWAYS leave a mark on people.

so after i wrote this last post, he texts me again (as expected but didnt think that soon) way after midnight! I really dont get this guy, he did not even leave a proper message, just my name?! wonder what he's thinking and I feel weird cause I am just starting to move on n seeing that other guy whom i love his character, but still cant get my heart to love him (it is still too early for love) 😢

^I think you're wrong about some of this. It's true that cancers typically knows about love and those things but I cancer can be really stubborn if they don't feel secure. If a cancer feels that there's any hint of a possibility of rejection, unrequited love, a lack of interest or anything like that from you, they 9/10 won't initiate any sorts of communication with you re confessing their feelings. If they feel those things from you, they will keep their mouths shut and watch you walk right out of their live and into someone else's while shedding a small tear and retreating back into their shell.