Should I continue sleeping w/this Cancer man?

I'm a pisces, he's a cancer - we met last May and randomly ran into each other in September. We had this insane connection that is difficult to explain. He lives in DC and I live in NY. After seeing each other frequently, we ended up getting intimate. It was great! We started talking everyday and he always talked about taking me out and making promises. Unfortunately, he wouldn't keep them...this really hurt me and I started withdrawing. This must have pushed him away, because shortly after we stopped talking, he started dating an Aquarius around February. We didn't really speak when they were dating. Three weeks ago, they broke up and from what I understand he ended the relationship because she just wasn't a good girlfriend to him. This past weekend I came to visit a friend of mine and saw him. The connection was still there, but we did everything to show each other that neither of us was affected by running into each other - like we didn't care. Towards the end of the night and many drinks later, we agreed that I would go home with him. We had sex that night and again that morning. He was going out of town and so was I - so we went our separate ways.

Here's the thing, I feel like he's being pretty withdrawn (or is it cautious?). We barely text one another and our communication seems to be within group texts (we have mutual friends - and most of his guy friends have come to be some of my dearest friends). This withdrawn mood; is this just a characteristic of a cancer? How do I know if he is interested in me? (BTW, side note - while in bed, he asks me: "are we perfect for each other?" What does that mean?!). How do I break this barrier that I feel? Should I reach out to him and tell him I miss him or how much I want to see him? At the end of the day, what do you think I should do as a pisces female with this cancer man? Should I just stop it all together or wish for the best?

Posted by MissFisk
"Should I continue sleeping w/this Cancer man?"

No.

To keep sleeping with him in hopes he will eventually commit to you is a good way to slowly disintegrate your self-esteem.

You slept with him. He dated someone else. You saw him again and still showed no interest. Keep your dignity and walk away.

Amen!

if you really have to ask..

Posted by MissFisk
"Should I continue sleeping w/this Cancer man?"

No.

To keep sleeping with him in hopes he will eventually commit to you is a good way to slowly disintegrate your self-esteem.

You slept with him. He dated someone else. You saw him again and still showed no interest. Keep your dignity and walk away.

Perfectly stated.

I guess I should clarify - I wanted to give the background of our "relationship" and I use this term loosely. I am not calling him my bf and I certainly do not think we're in a romantic relationship. Where I need your take on is this - to ultimately understand how a Cancer man thinks.

For instance, is intimacy something they look at "bonding"?
Is he thinking about things and that's why he's being so protected in his shell?

I like the way things are and trust me when I say, I'm over the "fantasy" of being with him I just want to know how our "relationship" is affecting him? How do Cancer react to uncommitted relationships?

Do Cancers move on quickly and how do you they've moved on?

Thanks for your feedback, everyone!

He sounds very selfish.

I would back off, and if he pursues you, tell him that you need exclusivity if he is going to be with you in bed ever again.

Otherwise, walk and don't look back.

Posted by Daydream4Pisces
is this just a characteristic of a cancer? How do I know if he is interested in me? (BTW, side note - while in bed, he asks me: "are we perfect for each other?" What does that mean?!) How do I break this barrier that I feel? Should I reach out to him and tell him I miss him or how much I want to see him?

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