Cancer ex boyfriend texting me (Page 2)

Posted by ReddmannScorch
Meh! no matter what TX taurus lady probably done give him the p already. We cancers know to stir the heart strings. Why you broke up again? Hmmmm sometimes tauruses tend to measure you by your worth and wealth. Did he spoil you?

Posted by MissGemmi
IT sucks, cuz you feel that you've been taken away the opportunity to show your own hurt, he has pulled undeserved attention to himself now. Making you feel all guilty. You need to be patient. He didn't go silent, because he forgot about you, more thinking on how to deal with the situation and what he wants for himself. You can't force anything. Use this time to sort out your own emotions. A little bit of quiet time doesn't hurt. Be determined in what you want for yourself and if you think it's worth it to go through it again. Trust me, if you don't set boundaries now, it will only get worse. You'll think he's back in 'the game' and put your feelings into it again, but stay cautious. I'm pretty sure he
will contact you again, for sure. Make sure, you know why. I wish I knew all of these things. Starmooney has opened my eyes to a lot of things!

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Posted by TxOgal
my head is a mess 😢 but thanks to you all who responded to my thread

go with your heart not head and also jumping so soon with another man is not a great choice but at least u uses it as a gauge to realize how much u feel for the first man . do not have sex with two men it is not healthy for you. invite the cancer male out like Star m,ooney suggests. then go from there. but what is happening right now is that u re receiving what u need from a person to whom your heart is not into

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Posted by MissGemmi
You can't cut him of, because it feels unresolved and because somehow they leave you as if there's still an option open. They will contact you but they refuse to show any of their emotions. That's frustrating, because they will not allow you to come close somehow. Stick to your ground.

The only sign that can handle Cancer in these matters is Aquarius. They don't like drama. My Aquarius best friend ignored her Cancer once he took off for 7 months after a relationship of 3 years. She changed her number after 4 weeks of no contact. She has never initiated contact, ever. He moved heaven and earth to get in touch with her again. They are married now! Be confident and bite on a stick if you have to. I have already lost my Cancer because I got carried away in her drama. They just get so emotional you want to take care of them and make sure they are ok. That's when they stir your feelings for them.

Don't do that, they can handle their down, really. Take care of yourself and don't chase him.

Posted by ReddmannScorch
Its not being rude, its true though. if u took it that way deal with it. I think i hit the nail on the head,lol.

Posted by MissGemmi
Of course you are worth an explanation. Don't take it personal.

Yes, best to ignore or be direct and stick your ground to whatever you want to say, then back off. Even if you're not the type to. Get ready for him to pull out all kinds of stuff to get your attention or pity, because he doesn't know how to get your
attention otherwise. You can stop this maltreatment to save yourself from
drama. It will not get better, especially now that he's in another country....

Posted by ReddmannScorch
Then you responded why? Not really predictable ,fact is, you took offense. But i aint apologizin for something i know is bullshit . To put it politely. But lemme break it down. U are confused. U say this leo treating better ,no sex.REALLLLYYY!!!!lol...Wooooo .yah. As for insecure? Unless i know you , we fuckin or we own business together.MEH! The horns of a bull, love them when they mad though!sexxy sexy sexyyyyy!!!

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Posted by ReddmannScorch
Then you responded why? Not really predictable ,fact is, you took offense. But i aint apologizin for something i know is bullshit . To put it politely. But lemme break it down. U are confused. U say this leo treating better ,no sex.REALLLLYYY!!!!lol...Wooooo .yah. As for insecure? Unless i know you , we fuckin or we own business together.MEH! The horns of a bull, love them when they mad though!sexxy sexy sexyyyyy!!!

Bravo! You gave me a good laugh.

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Posted by TxOgal
update: so 3 days after his last message my ex texts me again after midnight (this time I responded) asking me how ive been doing and if i feel better this way.. I replied by "I believe I'm comfortable as I tried to make it work while u chose to be distant. so obviously ur comfortable this way too"..

I have no idea if he still has feelings for me.. or only testing the waters?

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Posted by TxOgal
update: so 3 days after his last message my ex texts me again after midnight (this time I responded) asking me how ive been doing and if i feel better this way.. I replied by "I believe I'm comfortable as I tried to make it work while u chose to be distant. so obviously ur comfortable this way too"..

I have no idea if he still has feelings for me.. or only testing the waters?

Did he respond?

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Posted by rockyroadicecream
Oh for fuck's sake. You all are a bunch of morons.

OP, I don't blame you. Water signs are fucking emotional and emotionally manipulative. They focus on their own emotional needs and will fuck you over so bad for the sake of this excuse of "retreating" or whatever retarded label they give it.

His behavior is a bunch of bullshit and had ZERO respect for you. You fucknuts really need to stop excusing such bad and psychotic behavior. I mean really, what the hell is wrong with you all? Enabling utter bs.

Take astrology out of it. His behavior is absolutely ridiculous coming from a male. She addressed how his ignoring her calls/texts bothers her. He not only dismisses her concerns, but focuses on himself and his emotions. In other words, "fuck your feelings, it's all about mine!"

Then he doesn't even bother calling her when he says he will.

Are we following along here? Is this acceptable behavior from a guy that the OP is supposedly in a relationship with? I dunno about you all, but this is unacceptable behavior from a boyfriend.

Drop the long distance bs, OP. It doesn't work and just adds extra stress to a relationship, which always requires some work in itself. I don't blame you for dropping him, either. You've known him for awhile, but are seeing what his dipshit self is about in relationships. He sounds very immature and self absorbed. He's not boyfriend material.

Find someone locally and not so emotionally retarded.

Posted by CluelessCancer
You know initially i was going to say he's a jerk, go NC on him hard, but i wonder, why are you unable to go with the flow and still date other men at the same time, why can't you just be his friend, when he says he misses you, he means it.

he misses you.

and no nobody TESTS, unless they're diabolical, but he could be gauging how you really feel about him. That's just prudence, and we're prudent as heck when it comes to our hearts.

Posted by CluelessCancer
I miss you.

You can reply in three ways:

1)I miss you too (which is nice and reciprocity and it seems u do miss him)
2) Thank you (i love using this one, it really fuks with a man's mind)
3) Ignore.

Posted by deepseagiant2
I don't get why you just don't talk to him? Stop being so defensive. If there's an issue, clearly he wants to resolve it but it takes two..

Talk to him, answer his texts and see where it goes. What is there to lose?

Posted by Koniucha
I think you need to be very to the point here. Ask him what he wants from you. If he keeps beating around the bush, tell him to get lost.

Posted by aquavita2
don't listen to koniocha . she underestimates the mystery and the natural a progress of realtiknships and love. yes he laughed because your cold and reserved thank you arrived at 4 30 am. now that a funny indeed and his response clearly indicates he is willing to chase you romantically

Posted by CluelessCancer

Invite him to dinner at your spot or his spot. Have a heart to heart discussion with him. First though make him full. Open some Wine. Get him to relax. Then have a serious discussion with him of what he's looking for from you.

communication is so important.

Posted by ReddmannScorch
ur welcome. did love? him sounds like u still do or just tickled pink with curiousity

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Posted by StarMooney
Ok! So...it's not that cancers are non communicative and closed, no. Have you ever seen a cancer interact with someone they love (who hasn't committed yet) vs. someone from all other categories (except those they dislike)? They are very open, kind, funny, polite and can have very deep conversations, logical or emotional ones. They will go above and beyond to help others and mother them. And they're usually in a cheerful mood (well...if they're not being moody). They're usually the life of the party and can mix with many different groups of people of different ages and social statuses. But then watch them with the ones they're crushing on. TOTAL DIFFERENT STORY! All of those wonderful things go out of the window and they become over analyzing cowards that mirror people, test them in the most irritating obstacle courses and they become emotional monsters (one minute showing their loving side and being evil the next). Now. This behavior is only seen when they haven't gotten a clear, bright and shiny greenlight on your love and your approval of a real committed relationship.

So I say...cover those horns up and show and tell him how much you love and care for him. Be real and direct and ask him for the same. Don't put too much pressure on him, but let him know what's up and then give him a tiny bit of space so that he can process.

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Posted by Fox888
OP, is that the reason he is insecure? There could be a lot of things other than just distance.

Posted by TxOgal
I am not sure if you read my story carefully. I broke up bec. he hurt me and I got it that he does not care about my emotions. I even mentikned that I never got back with an ex, once I made up my mind it's done. I'm only consudering getting back cause I truly loved him for years and it breaks mh heart he's not the one, so I want to give it a try. Taurus never play games and it's s a turn off to me.

You are very judgemental so please read carefully before blaming me of playing games and such nonsense.

peace out

Why on earth do you want to reconcile with a man who by your own admission treated you SO BADLY as to get you to break up with him. I'm 100% sure you're not playing games here but it sure looks like game playing to others when you don't stick to your guns. You obviously had enough of his so-called bad treatment of you and pitched his sorry ass to the curb. Well played now move on along and find a man who can meet your expectations from him.

peace out, Este

Posted by TruePisces5
My bf has almost the same placements as your ex (sun:can,moon:virg,Leo:ris). Leo risers love their egos stroked. They dislike being a disappointment so praise him for all the good things he does for you, no matter how small. They love being appreciated. If you don't make him feel appreciated he'll feel emotionally neglected and retreat. This could explain his behavior. Don't be afraid to express your feelings to him. Talk to him! Let him know you've been thinking of him too. Remember their intuitive and could read if a person's truly being genuine so be honest. Be straight up with him in a firm but subtle way by letting him know if he truly misses you then he needs to show it (they're great listeners, even when u think they aren't listening). You have to show it too and be genuine! They love a NURTURING woman with strength and morals. I have Mars in Taurus so I know how frustrating it can be to deal with this but be patient. It'll be worth it in the end. Once he feels 100% comfortable with you, you'll be showered with gifts, unconditional love and affection. He'll even be the man you want him to be with patience and understanding.

Posted by Koniucha
Seems best to move on. It shouldn't be so hard to be with someone.

Posted by ReddmannScorch
yeeeaahh we tend to confuse the heart. But it gets stronger and fonder with distance.