Cancer guys, How do you act when you are jealous?

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I think it comes from an innate fear of rejection. Like "What if I get pissed about this and this person leaves me, or what if I say the wrong thing in my anger, or blah blah blah blah." You know the deal. I too have tried to learn to express myself in the moment so these blowups don't happen. IDK about you - but something either doesn't phase me at all or takes me to that snapping point instantly. There's really no middle ground for me. If I don't care, I don't care. If it offended me, it REALLY offended me.
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Crab rage is the worst. I hate the whole "kindness is weakness" thing. I promise you. I can rip your face off like you have NEVER seen before. I think its dually painful, because the people trust that we are these passive, pushover types, and then when it's flame on - not only are they blown away by the intensity we have, but the pain from our words couple it. Don't know about you other crabs - but I have an extremely poignant tongue.
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Posted by zosopage17
Personally, I bottle it. I try to act like it doesn't bother me, because I know that is the "RIGHT" thing to do. I'm often conflicted with what I know is morally right and acceptable and how I truly feel. This usually ends up in an explosion somewhere down the line, about something completely unrelated, but in retrospect, was derived from these feelings.



That's exactly it. When I get jealous (only happened once), I get the quiet blank face just like OP said.

I know the crab rage all too well; defined most of my life until I graduated high school. Funny part is, I've gotten so good at handling my own anger that it makes me furious when someone else doesn't have the same restraint.