cancer hot/cold (test passing) success stories??

Just want some positive outcomes and happily ever afters...from lovers to friends back to lovers? Or whatever rocky shit you had to wade through to make it to the other side. I'd like to think there's hope. Yaay!

I don't think you'll be finding any of those type of stories. Cancers don't go from lover to friend then lover again. Most of the time. Once they lost feeling completely they can't get it back. But if you catch them while they might have a tiny bit of feeling left you can save it and make it grow to love again bit you have to work fast an hard

Naw she hasnt spokin since jan 8

I have a story but it did not end well.

Depressing!! Well mine still has feelings for me despite being friends..i know someone must've been successful with a cancer at some point haha

^ I think the ones who get the cancers are the ones who DONT play games like try to make them jealous by showing them how wanted they are by flirting around. Cancers can't stand that and if they see that happening they will look at you and laugh to theirself and then drop you even further on the hole of forget thems. They can tell the difference between you genuinely being interested on meeting other people cuz they can't get their confused ass thoughts together vs you trying to manipulate them into jealousy. Big difference. They will respect you more if you do the first one over the second. And they still probably won't get jealous. They aren't too much of a jealous type not even envious. That's why cancer chasers try's at making them jealous or regretful never work on them. It's because until you are committed to them they see it as anybody can have you and that's why they can just as easily disappear and reappear on you. The other aqua dude tried that with her and just by being a outside looker I think that was how their relationship went downhill. She told me she tried to make her jealous by inviting her on a bizarre ass three way date with his "friend" who he later told dude she was in love with him blah. Dude told this all to cancer. He also told her he might have given her something then had her laughing in the background. Dude didn't know that my friend is way confident in herself and any moves like that make him a weakling and the friend weak 2. She wasn't sad at all when we talking I wanted to give her a hug but no tears came then she started giggling and shaking her head and was like how do people in their mid 30s act like kids it's kinda sad. Then wa like damn I wish he would've picked someone that was cuter maybe I would care right now. She knew the two of them were doing the same stupid shot with dudes baby mama too.Then we went back to our conversation. At first I was kinda struck cuz I was confused most girls would be crying and angry. All she did was get tested and then cut his dumb ass off for a good while. Ever since then she always just dropped him whenever his little kid behavior came off. She's a no nonsense type of person when it comes to that stuff. I got her to mention the broads name who wanted to play along and did some research on dudes FB page and HOLY SHIT this broad was busted as shit. I got a real good laugh in and I'm even laughing now. She looks like a potato that's trying her best to imitate my friend. She looks like a st

She looks like a gorilla with a wig on. I'm sorry for talking bad about niggas but the shit is funny. Anyway since then she always thought he was unstable and all his so called friends were unstable and I doubt she took him seriously since.

The sag ex had her sweeter side since they were friends and I think that's because dude wasn't really the type to play games like those. He always told her he wanted her when he wanted her and spoke straight. He's opposite from other dude. Even when he was cheating he never meant to hurt her and made up for it I guess. She would always say he's running the land being immature but she knew it was never a games battle. From our old talks I don't think she ever shut him out back in the day. But dude is still without her but that's for cheating and being abusive--more things you will never get away with with a cancer. I tied to take advantage of her one late night and since then she cut my ass off worse then any of these two niggas. She didn't even gives another shot. But she never likes me that way anyway.

I just had flashbacks my fault OP. Back to what I was saying. The ones that gets the cancers are the ones who are friends first and slowly get to know cancer and builds a solid relationship on trust and loyalty and real love without any bs.

Posted by thinktoomuch
I don't know Starchild, that's what the lady said. But she wasn't playing games. She was being dead serious: she was not confused, and she probably flirted with that other guy, because she meant it.

But most people do that for game playing, and it wont work.

Maybe that's why it worked. Cancer probably sensed his interest in finding more stable love was real. They don't mind that. It just shows when they step to cancer their interest is genuine and not another one of their bs games. That let the cancer see that there is no reason to be confused because the person won't ever step on confusing territory.

Posted by thinktoomuch
Exactly. Crabs or not: if you find yourself in a confusing situation (beause the person you are trying to be with acts confusing), get yourself out of that situation. Clearly the other person won't do that for you, and it will help you realize what it is you actually really want to spend your time on instead of bs, games and confusion.

(now I'm not talking if someone doesn't reply to a text or something, but the bigger picture)

Thinktoomuch I 100 % agree. You should bounce if that happens. But if I remember your story right you never truly told your cancer how you really felt and both of you based the relationship off of assumptions with no real straightforward communication. This is very different from the idea of confusing. This is on another level. All that shit is one confusing blob of uncertainty and anyone would get confused in a house built from straw and not brick. It's one thing if both of you knew what the other wanted and did not want with no confusion and then to have one or the other still be confused and run in circles. But it's a whole other thing if both of you don't know what each other wants or doesn't want and then one or the other is confused. With this situation yes both people will always be very confused and nothing will ever come from that. If both or one sometimes wants and don't want one thing then flips and then other times wants or doesn't want the opposite thing then yes you will only get confusion from that.

There's no way that either of you can even see any real big picture. After something like that it becomes one confusing pissing contest. And if this is happening then I say leave and never loon back.

No one pass the hot and cold test... is just a false idea of hope... cancers are like that, keep the grip until they don't...

It's based off of many. The ones I know have similar patterns but I don't know them as well as my friend. My friend makes their patterns easily understood because she explains herself and why she does things if I ask. What she says makes a lot of sense with all of the other cancers I know. But like I said this is only goes for the cancers I know and my own experience. I'm not saying I know all cancers it's just what I know from mine and my research.

I feel like there must be some success stories otherwise cancers would always be alone after pulling the tests and hot/cold..i mean huh? Well..I'm not sure what to do now..we hung out as "friends" finally..we had a long embrace at the end, he kissed my cheek and said lets hang out again soon ok? He's told me several times he still has feelings for me and I do him. Hes dealing with a lot of stressful family stuff on top of his own crap and can't be involved he says.. I miss him terribly and our connection and how much we cuddled and all that..i dont wanna move on..

Well cancers are very social and have many "friends" on superficial mode and thats why they will never be alone is like playing safe... IMO some don't invest too much just basic stuff... The ones that have it the hardest are the one they let in to a different level... Those are ones being tested... And suffer from all this annoying side....

Im just talking from my experienc le... But, they protect their true deep self to just a few... And sometimes they tent to be very harsh and mean when they feel hurt... In retrospective i'be always think that some cancers need to work on their awareness... In the sense that when they feel left down they dont realize that the things they do also matter and their actions also have impact... Too busy protecting themselves... In my opinion

I have a success story....kind of. I had a cancer bf when I was younger. He would do things like give me a piece of his grandmother's jewelry then break up with me the next time he talked to me. He would stand me up on dates. He would give me another chance as bf and gf then claim he didn't.

We were really young. Became friends for the next four years. After four years as friends we hooked up briefly. He asked me to marry him at that point. I said no. He begged me to marry him. I still said no. This is why it is kinda a success story. He did try to come back but I was done.

Talked to him recently. It has been about fifteen years since he asked me to marry him. He lives out of town now. I asked if he ever comes back to town. He said it has been five years, but he is due. I noticed the very next day his brother posted that the cancer in question just booked tickets to come back home. He did not tell me he did that, but he did send me a message saying he still loves me and always will.

Although I have fond memories of him I will never love him. But, thought I would provide some kind of "positive" dating to friend scenario.

I did ask him why he always pushed me away. He said he did not know but it was probably because we did not live close enough and he wanted to see me more often. I talked to some of his family and friends and all those years we were just friends they knew he loved me and considered me to be his girl even when he was dating someone else.

Fullwaterpisces=totally agree, they have a hard time understanding the consequences of their actions!! Lostbull that is heartwarming _??_

I'd say my story is one of success, but it was definitely not an easy road to get there. I'm a Taurus female, dating a Cancer male. We were acquaintances, then friends, then FWB, and now we are in a committed relationship (and have been for about a year). The FWB time was very shaky and confusing - and honestly could have gone either way. I'm very sure of myself and know what I want, he was not at that point. After a few months of FWB, I made it clear to him that I wanted a relationship. When we first talked, he was very against the idea but didn't want to lose me as a friend. So we tried to set some boundaries, and I pulled away from him emotionally as much as I could, and treated him like I would any of my friends. However I was very upfront and honest and made him aware, that those feelings wouldn't change and they would always be there. And if I was a little distant, it wasn't because I was disinterested, but because I was guarding my feelings for him. After that initial discussion, (he told me later down the road) he started looking at me as a potential partner. Suddenly we were having deeper conversations...about religion, philosophy, life, family, values, etc. He wanted to be around me even more, and had a very difficult time trying not to flirt with me. We actually made a joke out of "remember, we are just friends." Our relationship grew. Then he realized that he wanted me more and couldn't stay away 🙂. He said I was not like anything he had thought he wanted before, and that I had broke those misconceptions and gave him a new ideal. He was talking to a lot of different woman and dating around, so for him to finally make a decision - was a big deal.

So there you have it. Cancers are constantly changing (moods, feelings, etc). But when they finally decide on something serious, you can bet it's a sure one.

Yay!!! Awesome and great advice...im in the rocky/friends with feelings stage..hope to have a talk soon maybe..i am strong and know what I want..yay hope!_??_

Posted by thinktoomuch
- everybody else here...

I was never confused. He was and kept being so, or being "not ready" for 9 months?! That's not right. Then after the accusations, I??ve spend more than two and a half years trying to show him, well me, how I am, and he apparently still feel like I am untrustworthy and have spend so much time on and with him, because I want to do him harm. ... Maybe he likes feeling confused😄 I don't understand how he could be from me, but somehow he managed to do it.

If he was uncertain then something went wrong. Consistency? I don't know id have to have more details. Why does he feel your untrustworthy? And if you were exclusive that's all he needs to know. You are exclusive friends until you make that move. If he called you his girl he would be lying. Maybe he had other issues that had nothing to dobwithvyou.

You jumped the gun. Being exclusive with each other does not mean a gf bf committed relationship. Being exclusive with each other means I only fuck you and you only fuck me and keep your eyes to each other. You were a friend he was exclusive with. He did take responsibility for himself by being exclusive to you. Basically saying all I want is you but just not ready for a relationship. Nothing is wrong with that. It's a great thing that you had that from him. Especially in 2015. He could have not wanted to be gf and bf for plenty of reasons. I told you cancers need security before commitments and he could have been working on making sure he could provide everything the relationship needs and could've been watching to see what you can and can't provide too. But if you were to keep bashing me for not committing to you when in a way a did the first step by being exclusive to you I would start to feel irritated and pushed. What do you mean blaming you for making him feel what he wants to feel? Why does he not understand your motive— Do you two talk straightforward? What "way" has he been? What is his perspective? I think you left out some pieces of information

Posted by Koniucha
Star, the problem here is that your advice is very biased because you are obsessed with a Cancer. You are Constantly blaming the other party, no matter what.

No. Check my history. I call it how I see it. At least for the cancers I know I'm giving advice based on how they think and also how I think. And that's not true. And no one asked you to take my advice. Why are you always side cutting me. If you don't like it just pass me by and shut the fuck up

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Are you a cancer— If you are then you know full well that details matter and everything is not what it seems on the outside. Check my history with folks. They start off saying cancer is bad blah then when they lay out the details I can see how the cancer and the other person is having issues that could easily be fixed because the approach is wrong. And like I said you don't have to take it. That's why this is a forum. Matter of fact. Thinktoo much do what you please. Think what you please. I'm not trying to defend cancers I'm trying to get you to notice the things most people don't about them. They are misunderstood lots of times and I'm trying to make that clear. What's wrong with most people is that they don't get how they work and are mislead a lot of times. But fucknit. I have other work I can be getting done and really have no time for people who can't see outside the box. Just keep on asking the same old questions and get the same old leave him responses. If you really thought he was using you then your heart wouldn't be telling you otherwise.

Posted by Koniucha
Starchild will always side with Cancer. Take her (?) advice with a grain of salt.

I cannot agree more with both of your comments... we are the markers, the evil, the wrong, the everything, in real relationships both parties have to play the ball, and if after too much effort the ball remains on the other side and is not moving then you know they dont give a shit. with all the love of my heart some cancer are great people but yet prone to mistake and wrongdoing... and some really suck at realized that... and own their shit... they are not god... just confusing creatures.

I for one appreciate the cancer biased perspective. I did not come here for couples therapy, so the cancer I have questions about will not benefit from any criticism aimed his way.

I, for one, would not come here with questions if the cancer subject was someone I just wanted to throw away. I would have just got rid of the cancer. No need for a new thread.

When I have a question I want to know what the cancer needs based on what is going on NOW. If there are issues the cancer needs to work on, that can wait for later when any relationship that may be salvaged is stronger.

I'm just saying this because I love the advice, and I think it is super beneficial to see things from all different perspectives. It is impossible to take everyone's advice, but it is beneficial to consider everyone's advice. Just my take.

Posted by Kodak375
Some people get really bitter after being with a cancer...

See i think i know what you mean, and i would probably add myself on that list... Is not that they are bad or mean or good is simply (at least in my experience) that some days, her actions not matching her words... Make me feel like, ive totally lost sense of reality... People tell me she was laying to me all along... And that i see in her someone she is not and never was... So im in the tipical rollercoaster that most people are after getting too close to a cancer... But i dont know now if this is who she really is or is just protection... For so long I thought it was the second... But again now im not sure.... I tried to go by my gut and intuition and I think they let me down on this one... Idk... Dont want to be bitter... But i cannot justify her anymore is not healthy for me... I have many "theories" of why she does the things she does, but I have never accepted that maybe this is who she is and there is nothing behind it... My biggest reason to feel bitter... Is because she refuses to be honest and at front... Like garding some sort of truth that i simply dont get, and honestly i dont read minds and definetly dont get hints... Those are prone to interpretation and assumintions and that recipienis for desaster... Hope i had shade some light to cancer eyes, that is what i meant by too busy protecting themselves and not aware that their actions have impact too. Is sort of inintentionally cruelty to the other person.

Hey y'all lets get back on track..this is supposed to be a positive thread !

well is for sure a realistic one 😛

Muh..😢

Well mine came back, I passed. So there's a success story! And now I know what needs to be done in order to get these elusive bastards back!!

^^^^ I love to hear happy endings.. Im glad!!! CONGRATS!!!!

Thanks _??__??_