Cancer male and Aquarius female

Anyone here dating an Aquarius girl?

no, but i am a cancer girl dating an aqua guy 😉

so...i can probably relate to anything you have questions about...

I've wanted to date this Aqua girl for a while now, and we get along really well... but there are a few things that I don't know that I would be okay with.

1. I've seen that when she has been in other relationships, she doesn't want them to have a title. I'm okay with a relationship not having a title, and don't like to have a title either. But the thing that I'm wondering about is if she's going to need so much independence that she's not going to be able to show me the affection I need. I need to have times where we're just cuddling and relaxing. Have you had problems with this?

2. Friends seem to be her biggest concern. I sometimes am not in the mood to be around people, I just feel really withdrawn and anti-social. I don't how that would play out.

3. Another thing, is that I wonder if she'll be able to ride the flutuating waves of my emotions. I have learned to rationalize my way out of the more moody times, but I'm still not sure that she'd be ready for so much emotion. Again, what's your experience?

I'm an Aquarian girl who has dated nothing but cancers and I've always been the one left waiting for a committment. Not to mention they all turned out to be liars, cheaters, and sluts. I've read that sometimes Cancer men can take up to 2+ to fall in love with a woman and I seem to keep getting these types. Again, where are the good sensitive, caring, and sweet Cancer men that I read about? 😢 I keep getting the defective ones...

By the way, not all Aquarians go running scared at the first sign of a committed relationship so if you're a Cancer and worried about that then don't. I have been in nothing but monogamous committed relationships and wouldn't have it any other way. And once I fall for someone I can be just as affectionate as any other sign. I think that Aquarius men are more detached, unemotional, and aloof than Aquarius women. We do think with our heads when it comes to matters of the heart though so that may be a bit much for a Cancer since you guys think with your heart. For example, if things aren't working out in a relationship I literally work out the options in my head like a math problem. I weigh the pros against the cons and come up with a logical solution and that's when the detachment comes in. If I'm breaking up with someone it doesn't make sense to me to cry about it or get emotional when I know that not being together is for the best. So when the other person gets upset I think "Why are they crying? Fascinating." That may seem mean to others but it's just because we think logically and strategically instead of emotionally. We do cry over losing someone we love though. I have at least.

Anyway, Cancers and Aquarians can get along and love each other just as any other two signs can. My mom is a Cancer and her husband is an Aquarian and they absolutely adore each other. Granted, they do get on each other's nerves at times but their love is so strong that the minor annoyances are just that, minor.

"I don't know any cancers who want commitment or want to show affection, I think aquas are better in that area (only when in love)."

Vanessa, I've wondered that too. I always read that Cancers look for committed relationships because of the security and that Aquarians are afraid of committment due to their love of freedom. In my experience though, I've been the one waiting for the committment while the Cancer men never wanted to committ or make up their minds. I'm confused....=)

Although you've had bad experience with Cancers not commiting, being liars, and just having an all around bad rap for commitment... but I'm all about commitment when it comes to relationships.

And I think I'm generally the more affectionate and sensitive one, even though I'm guy.

Well, specifically why I am concerned about not getting enough affection, is because the last time she dated a guy, she wanted to break up with him before she went on vacation in another country(most likely because she felt she might fool around). And this girl likes to travel.

She also values her independence nearly as much as she values her life.

"I think ultimately, cancer men need a very assertive, outgoing, energetic, and bouncy type of female whose wrath he may occasionally need to deal with if he misbehaves."

Yeah, that sounds like her... she's great.

Take this to the aqua board if you need more perspectives.

"But the thing that I'm wondering about is if she's going to need so much independence that she's not going to be able to show me the affection I need. I need to have times where we're just cuddling and relaxing. Have you had problems with this?"


ummm...your aqua may not give you all the affection you crave, but they also show it in different ways then us cancers do...so you must realize that and appreciate it.
my aqua guy loves to relax and cuddle in bed, but i don't know if that is typical for aquas...however he does not cuddle at night before going to sleep, or after having sex...which is fine with me b/c i don't care to cuddle at those times either, so it works out perfect!!! but, yeah he loves to relax in bed with me and just "lay around"...he is actually much more of a homebody than i am, which is strange b/c i am supposed to be that way as a cancer...but i am not.

"My mom is a Cancer and her husband is an Aquarian and they absolutely adore each other. Granted, they do get on each other's nerves at times but their love is so strong that the minor annoyances are just that, minor."

-yeah, that sounds about right!!! i am cancer and my bf is aqua and we are very different people with very different ways, thoughts, actions, etc. but our love for each other runs so deep...and it's definitely a strange kind of love between cancer and aqua, but somehow it works.

"Another thing, is that I wonder if she'll be able to ride the flutuating waves of my emotions. I have learned to rationalize my way out of the more moody times, but I'm still not sure that she'd be ready for so much emotion. Again, what's your experience?"


well, this IS going to be a problem...and in my case, my aqua is unable to deal with my emotions. he tried in the beginning of our relationship, but i think he just doesn't know how to deal with it, so he just turns his back on it now. aquas don't understand why we are so emotional and they use their head over their heart, as said above...so, their way of thinking is completely different than ours.
so, your aqua will probably never be in tune with your emotions, and your moodiness may drive her crazy. but, hey...i am a cancer female,(so you can only magine how moody i can be!!!) and my aqua is still with me ...and he has dealt with a LOT of my crazy emotional outbursts...so if she loves you, she will love you even if you are an emotional mess!!!