Cancer Man Excuse.. Does this sound legit?

So this is the same guy I have posted about before... We have hooked up a few times, but no sex... I have been playing it by ear. WE work together so we see each other a lot. We still text and he is always funny and kind. Last night I texted him asking if he wanted to come over (around 630pm after we texted previously), nothing sexual added just that, but so far whenever he comes over something happens... I never got a response.. Today after we discussed work I decided to bring it up I said "why no response last night? I feel bad, hope I didn't make you uncomfortable I won't do it again" ( I wasn't sure if he took it as a booty call).
He first texted "Oh no I have been getting little sleep this week and last night it caught up with me I could. Keep my eyes open slept for a few then I was out of it completely "
And then 2 min later he said "forgot about your text don't feel bad though I left a few people hanging last night"

Does this sound like a legitimate excuse? Do cancer men use excuses instead of rejection?

Take it as legit, but if it keeps happening, you should start questioning his excuses.

Are you a Ginger/redhead? So pretty

oh and his excuse sounds legit to me but if you get ignored more than 3 times and/or receive 3 or more excuses cut your losses.

Posted by tiki33
Are you a Ginger/redhead? So pretty

Thank you I am a redhead :-)

He is an extremely busy guy he basically lives in the archaeology lab I just haven't figured out his intentions with me yet, so I was thinking this maybe his way of letting me down nicely

Well his actions towards you will answer any puzzling questions you have about him. Try speaking to him more on the phone or in person. If he values you, he'll make time for you & an effort to be in your life. Let him come to you. You done enough for now. Trust me, if a Crab likes someone, you'll know. We won't detached at all once our claws gets what it wants lol. So don't over think ok. Let him work for you now. If you don't like his work ethic or numerous excuses, give him the pink slip 🙂

He sounds like a homo who makes up excuses to obscure his generally pussy demeanor.

If he were a real man, he would have made time for you no matter the cost to himself.

Of course, real men are diamonds in the mine these days, so good luck finding someone worth your time and energy.

Posted by That1Girl
He is an extremely busy guy he basically lives in the archaeology lab I just haven't figured out his intentions with me yet, so I was thinking this maybe his way of letting me down nicely

Like I said, he is a pussy and a faggot.

If he were a man, he would have found a way to spend time with you.

But then again, this entire generation of Millennials is made up of faggots and pussies masquerading as "men" so good luck finding someone worth being with.

Posted by ScorpioFish
He sounds like a homo who makes up excuses to obscure his generally pussy demeanor.

If he were a real man, he would have made time for you no matter the cost to himself.

Of course, real men are diamonds in the mine these days, so good luck finding someone worth your time and energy.

Just a side note about diamonds and the fact that they really aren't that rare....indulge my jewelry designers nerdy side....

"Americans exchange diamond rings as part of the engagement process, because in 1938 De Beers decided that they would like us to. Prior to a stunningly successful marketing campaign 1938, Americans occasionally exchanged engagement rings, but wasn't a pervasive occurrence. Not only is the demand for diamonds a marketing invention, but diamonds aren't actually that rare. Only by carefully restricting the supply has De Beers kept the price of a diamond high."
http://blog.priceonomics.com/post/45768546804/diamonds-are-bullshit

you should ask him if hes got a bone to dig up

Maybe he's just tired. You should take some rest too, get enough sleep, spend time with your little tyke. I think he already got the idea that you like him too. Let him be the one to invite you or make plans.

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
Well his actions towards you will answer any puzzling questions you have about him. Try speaking to him more on the phone or in person. If he values you, he'll make time for you & an effort to be in your life. Let him come to you. You done enough for now. Trust me, if a Crab likes someone, you'll know. We won't detached at all once our claws gets what it wants lol. So don't over think ok. Let him work for you now. If you don't like his work ethic or numerous excuses, give him the pink slip 🙂

I adore his work ethic it matches mine, we spend 30+ hours a week together in the lab together, but we make it fun with food and music especially when it is just us late at night.

The reason we don't speak on the phone often is he lives in the lab( seriously sleeps there 4 nights a week) and there is no reception for anyone in there. When I'm at home it is also hard to talk on the phone and take care of the baby, so we text like over 300 texts a week.

Actions are kind of hard to read with him, he's such a workaholic. He's taken me out to dinner before, and he is always doing me favors and driving me home, but pulling him away from the lab is extremely difficult. Sometimes I feel like he makes up work to give me just so I will hang out with him there.

I've decided to pull back after not hearing from him, I never responded to the texts where he said he fell asleep... If I just cut him off will he chase me or think I'm no longer interested—

Well like CluelessCancer and me have told you, if he cares about you; he'll make the effort to be in your life. I'm pretty sure he knows you care about him lol. So you have to decide moving forward, is this the kind of relationship you would want. A real man won't have his lady constantly worrying and second guessing everything he does. It seems you want something he can't offer right now. So like I said, if he is interested, his actions will reflect that. You'll just know. This is really all I can tell you my fellow Crab. Let him do the work now. If he is serious about you, his work ethic in building a bond with you will reflect that. So go enjoy your life, focus on school, & take care of your child. Give your attention to someone who deserves it ok 🙂

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Posted by ScorpioFish
He sounds like a homo who makes up excuses to obscure his generally pussy demeanor.

If he were a real man, he would have made time for you no matter the cost to himself.

Of course, real men are diamonds in the mine these days, so good luck finding someone worth your time and energy.

Just a side note about diamonds and the fact that they really aren't that rare....indulge my jewelry designers nerdy side....

"Americans exchange diamond rings as part of the engagement process, because in 1938 De Beers decided that they would like us to. Prior to a stunningly successful marketing campaign 1938, Americans occasionally exchanged engagement rings, but wasn't a pervasive occurrence. Not only is the demand for diamonds a marketing invention, but diamonds aren't actually that rare. Only by carefully restricting the supply has De Beers kept the price of a diamond high."
http://blog.priceonomics.com/post/45768546804/diamonds-are-bullshit<div class="bqfade">click to expand

Thank you, Dear Lady.

I didn't know that.

Did you see the movie "Blood Diamond?"

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
Well like CluelessCancer and me have told you, if he cares about you; he'll make the effort to be in your life.

Solid gold, right here.

SOLID GOLD.

@ScorpioFish i just hate seeing a fellow Cancer get hurt. I don't want that to happen to her. I can't make the decision for her. But I can calm her so she can make it herself. You can't think straight if you are stressed. I think she needs to focus on her life and her child. He deserves her love more than this man

We texted today about work, but when I asked him how he was doing he hasn't responded... I am being ignored.. I am taking that as he is not interested in me and will crawl into my shell now... No more texting or anything like that just work from this point on... kinda stinks but I'll sulk for a few days and move on

Aww don't crawl into your shell because of him. At least he showed his true intentions and you didn't get hurt. Plus in glad you didn't have sex with him. The way I see it, you outta feel stress free now as he was causing you lots of it. You dodge a huge bullet. Be grateful 🙂. God will bless you with someone who truly deserves your heart.

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
Aww don't crawl into your shell because of him. At least he showed his true intentions and you didn't get hurt. Plus in glad you didn't have sex with him. The way I see it, you outta feel stress free now as he was causing you lots of it. You dodge a huge bullet. Be grateful 🙂. God will bless you with someone who truly deserves your heart.

I am trying really hard to see it this way, but it has been a day with zero contact, and all I want to do is contact him and ask him what I did wrong...I'm hoping that feeling goes away soon. For now I am busying myself with the baby, school and work...

Well focus on the things that really matter in your life. Trust me, if he was really thinking about you, he would call & you wouldn't be worried here. Don't give something or someone who stresses you all your energy. You too good for that. So if he values you, he would treat you that way. That's with any real man ok. Until then, love & respect you 🙂.

LOL he called today it only took 24 hours of ignoring him and he called to ask how I was... I am such an over analyzer!

@That1Girl -he does miss you. I hope you two become even closer. 🙂

Sometimes Cancers just want to be alone. Who knows what could be going on in his life, but when we're in the mood to think, we're going solo for the evening. We NEED our alone time, however if we really like you... we would probably jump at the chance to hang out with you. We wouldn't let a text go unread from you and if for some chance we did, we would get back with you.

He didn't bring it up. He didn't respond to you when he could. There's definitely more than he's letting on.

He explained to me that he has been working 16 hours a day in the lab (no surprise) we have a huge presentation in front of the president of our school tomorrow. He has 15 grant papers to write by the end of the month. I just didn't really think about that, I was blinded by my hurt... Now my biggest fear is that if I bring up a relationship he will tell me he i too busy for one... so I am going t just keep playing it by ear

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Posted by That1Girl
LOL he called today it only took 24 hours of ignoring him and he called to ask how I was... I am such an over analyzer!

He likes u. Don't over analyze. U want him so badly that u were ready to just straight to sex. That's okay, not a bad thing but it depends with "why". If sex is all u want with him then its okay asking urself all these questions. But if u want something more and a solid relationship then go with his pace. The way i see it, he likes u, actually maybe more than u think that's why he's holding the brakes on sex to get to know u better and have u recover from the loss u went through THEN proceed with the relationship.

He's probably started courting u the minute he gave u that 1st orgasm.
That's just my opinion😏

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I did rush it due to my emotional state, and I was really weirded out by it at first, but at the same time, he's been really nice about it, so I have relaxed. He did slow things down for us which is probably a good thing. Now I just need to follow his lead in things, but I don't think sex is too far off the horizon.

Oh yeah our charts are:

Mine:7-18-89
Sun: Cancer
Moon: Capricorn
Mercury: Cancer
Venus: Leo
Mars: Leo
Jupiter: Gemini
Saturn: Capricorn
Uranus: Capricorn
Neptune: Capricorn
Pluto: Scorpio
Lilith: Libra
Asc Node: Aquarius

His: 7-12-83
Sun: Cancer
Moon: Leo
Mercury: Cancer
Venus: Virgo
Mars: Cancer
Jupiter: Sagittarius
Saturn: Libra
Uranus: Sagittarius
Neptune: Sagittarius
Pluto: Libra
Lilith: Aquarius
Asc Node: Gemini