Cancer man hot and cold ?

I met a cancer man and he seemed to really like me complimenting me all the time generally being really sweet he asked me out on a date and then told me his friend and girlfriend wanted to come with which I was okay with then he started acting really cold when we went on the date he was the perfect gentleman and gave me a peck on the lips once during and one before I went home
When I got home the coldness started again and it was the same the next day I decided to be honest with him and tell him how I feel that I had been hurt and I can't invest feelings if nothing's going to happen I told him that if he wants me to walk away all he has to do is say so now I also said that I know its early days but I don't want to continue on it its just going to be me getting hurt
He replied saying that it is early days and he understands investing feelings because he does it too he says he does see a future with me and he can't give me an actuall answer as it is too soon but he is ready to work toward it
I was okay with this but after sending me that he went cold again and started once again replying 3 hours apart

Any advice ?

Patience is one thing but going hot and cold is messing with ur head and all u want is a relationship.
I know it's one of our faults to go hot nd cold. I've done it myself but if he really liked u then he wouldn't be messing around. The fact he's not giving a reason is also time wasting. It's your decision at the end of the day but do u really want to keep wasting ur time waiting for replies nd feeling loved one minute nd then cold the next?

He is Cold and he gets distant but he always replies and he does it in a way that the only reason he comes online is to reply to my messages
Im a cancer myself and I feel maybe im being too sensitive he still keeps the nicknames like angel or boo or anything it's not like he switches of completely I suppose I just can't understand how he can go from being super sweet to friendship
I waited for a goodnight msg and he woke up and sent me one at 1 am saying
"Haha sorry angel I passed out way too early hope you have amazing dreams keep warm and keep safe will talk tomorrow š "

Dose of reality for ya... he could be saying all those sweet words to a multitude of women.

It's his actions that really matter. He's treating you coldly and then keeping you on the line by compliments and pet names which COST HIM NOTHING.

What's up with these cancer men and stringing women along? I think the crab I know is doing that to me too

Yourfavouritedxmember....didn't you just create a thread saying why cancers are awesome or was that just trolling.
I'm a cancer and I think I'm an opposite of a leader I'm more of a follower incase I lead and screw up lol.
Some of these cancers are douche bags but then sometimes you have to put astrology aside and think of nature. Everyone grows up differently and some of these dicks have been bought up to mess women around.
In my case, been going strong with my partner 4 years this may and I treat her the same as we first met.
Not a fan of people coming in these threads bashing the sign seems pretty petty. If your other thread is true about not all cancers are jerks then you've just contradicted yourself by putting this lady in a situation where she ain't never gonna date a cancer again.
Just my two cents. Peace out.

Thanks for clearing that up dude. I know u didn't mean all cancers. I try helping out a lot and I've never hurt anyone....on purpose anyway as I believe in karma. That's why I disagree when people slam the sign as there are a few that are actually giving and are doing it literally to help. Anyhoo off topic I suppose.

Posted by starwars
crabs are all about the sideway walk. they'll prefer to be indirect rather than direct (especially if he also have water moon) and this behavior will last a bit too long. I don't think they mean any harm by doing this, its just them. as much as they can be clingy, they need space just as much.

I think it was too soon of you too, I mean, you just gotten to know him why are you expecting constant attention? 2 days seem like nothing.
I'm not saying you cant be upset over this, cause I understand that some people get upset over that. while I don't thats why I find it confusing.

But this sideway, indirect communication is their downfall. There's this cancer whiner I work with who sits right outside my office and he admitted to doing this crap style of communication. I asked him how far has it gotten him and he acknowledged that its the worst kind of communication style and he tries to change it, but he can't. I kept probing to see what it is that prevents them from changing this. It turned out to be fear and fear of a lot of things. Ultimately, cancers fear a lot of things.

Posted by thinktoomuch
Oh my god, EVERY TOPIC, there´s always that one person who just has to throw in "he´s probably seing someone else too". Always! Why is that? Why is that the go-to reasoning? And frankly: so what if he is`??!!! They are not a couple, they haven´t even known each other for that long, no woman owns this man (and no man owns this woman). This place is simply the most pessimistic place on earth!

Because such is the selfish society we live in where not a lot of people know how to be single, and let's face it that certain signs are more desperate to be in a relationship vs. being single and vice versa.

Posted by thinktoomuch
Oh my god, EVERY TOPIC, there´s always that one person who just has to throw in "he´s probably seing someone else too". Always! Why is that? Why is that the go-to reasoning? And frankly: so what if he is`??!!! They are not a couple, they haven´t even known each other for that long, no woman owns this man (and no man owns this woman). This place is simply the most pessimistic place on earth!

Amen