Cancer man left me...

Posted by Leonessa
Hello,

I don't know where else I can seek advice or some relief. I just need to tell you what I have been through and I need your input. I met this cancer guy online who is 2 years older than me. He kept sending me messages everyday all day long for a month. Then we met. Oh well I had intamacy with him. We contiued to see each other for a month. Couple of times a week. He cooked me dinners, watched a movie cuddling me. I really started to feel something for him. I offered to clean his apartment, I cooked for him, I bought him little gifts etc. I was so caring, easy going and head over heels in love. One night I drank a little and I told him I am in love with him. He didn't reply back. I had asked something from a friend of his from Netherlands. He told me that he told his friend to buy it for me. But the next day he stopped talking to me, he stopped answering my calls or replying my messages. I am not sure if he is doing this because he realized that my feelings are intense and I need to calm down. Or maybe he just saw me as a hook up although he didn't behave so. Maybe I just need to move on. We havent talked for 4 days but he didnt unfriend me on facebook and I am still on his contact list on his phone.

I am feeling upset and heartbroken. I dont know what to do, I cant figure out what he is planning. I need your opinion.

Thanks.

Posted by leo48
ok so Friday I wouldn't fulfill this fetish for him because it just seemed extreme. so he tried to manipulate me, he started lying to get me to do it. then I made him mad un intentionally (I swear) I told him I knew he would get mad if I told him that I really didn't want to do it. and he said "oh so you made me mad on purpose and I said no way I would never do that. Not on purpose. and he said your lying and I said no im serious he said he would ignore me and act like I never existed if I didn't do it. I said fine then im still not doing it. he said no. I said bye I love you and he said stop and do what I said and I said y and he said because he said so. I said no and I didn't txt back. now today he is ignoring me! How unfair he totally blamed me!!! I would never do anything like that to him. not even try to manipulate him. I was so surprised. he has manipulated me before but I never noticed but my friends did. but now I see because this time it was way to obvious. is he really gonna ignore me or is just a game. does he want me to chase him idk ?!? I hate mind games.

Posted by Tubabye89
He did break up with me because he said he wasn't happy. I no longer have hope because he did unfriend me and block me. I can't stand him so freaking petty. Funny thing is that he has another girl already lol
The relationship was all a joke. I hate cancer guys.

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Posted by JBG
Why did he break up with you?

He has a very different life style than me. He has tons of friends and goes out all the time and wanted me to go out with him all the time even though he would never pressure me but it was there underneath. I'm was always studying for my MBA plus working and when i had free time i wanted to watch a movie or sleep.

Plus he's got some emotional issues. I think he always felt that he's not good enough for me. Actually also he's very negative and seems to think that all realtioships fail eventually. Does that make sense?

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Posted by gia
I really wish you aren't right @thinktoomuch but I highly fear you are. I have read so much about all this,trying to decipher his behavior. B says "you have to be very very patient for these men if you want to win them back.They take a lot of time to come out of their shell. They will slowly poke their head out and repeat until they feel safe and secure.They want consistency.They may say things to test you" and C says "he's just using you to move on,that's it. No reconciliation happening.Not possible"

My head has been spinning. A big part of me hates me now for loving this person so much in such a way that a year has passed and i feel exactly the same as i did 2 yrs ago. I have been way too hard on myself for having messed up by betraying his trust. He said "its not about not overlooking your mistakes.Its about not being able to feel the same again" and I,in my stupid head,thought that maybe if we stay connected and have him slowly get out of his shell and make him realize that the reason why we brokeup is a reason which doesn't have any scope of being repeated again.Once he realizes how much i genuinely love him then he'll be back because I know for sure that the emotional connection is what i need the most for us to happen. I read that one has to be very patient because the process of winning a cancerian back is a long long process and I have been even willing to wait for him. Things were good even after we brokeup,you know. Two months after we brokeup he confessed he still had feelings for me and we made love.He said he still loves me but has trust issues.Then his academic failure happened and he returned changed.The talks reduced and so did the quality of the talks reduced but he would still be very sensitive towards me although emotionally detached. But i hated that change in him so i kept asking him emotional questions like "why dont we talk anymore""why do you let us connect anymore" "will we ever talk like before again" etc etc which would highly pisss him off and annoy him to the core.Even 3 months ago he said i am his long term investment.He is such a different person when we speak on phone and so different when we chat online or text.He's so open when we talk on phone.He allows the emotional connection(not totally though).We make each other laugh.He'll make some weird sexual innuendos and he actually behaves sensitive towards my feelings but he's this cold detached person when we text.The last talk we had on phone was 2.5 weeks ago and he told me he was planninga trip to Asia and my thought came in his mind. But I am a helpless emotional piscean fool. And since then his behavior started changing to worse as i kept my emotional questions coming. I need to stop it right now. I am doing fine moving on with my friends,family and books but there are those evil moments which bring you so low that you feel shitty for the situation you ha

Posted by Rihmodel
I like this one cancer man who I denied multiple times before. It took me a while to open up sexually, but when i did, everything changed. The sex was amazing, he told my friends he likes me, you said he would miss me when he would leave and also told me to not talk to anyone else. However, I have heard many times that he is a hoe and I shouldn't expect anything more than just sex. I haven't spoken to him in a month. I haven't called because I don't want to reach out to someone who hasn't reached out to me but then I think he's waiting til he comes back in town to see if I went against what he asked me ( don't talk to anyone else). Should I just go with the flow ? Or just say fuck it

Posted by victoriagemini
Is normal for a cancer man to be in to you saying miss you again not talk to you for while? We live 5hrs away from each other

Posted by jadedpearl
Going on day 6 of not talking to me. We had sex, spent time together had (what I thought) a good time....a few days afterwards I initiated contact said he was stressed I backed off....absolutely no mention of our time together.....hasn't called/texted me since....I know he is done being busy and the stress has subsided....he's active on social media just been totally silent towards me....does he even give a fuck about me?

i refuse to call him or text him...why should i have to chase him?

Posted by Andalusia
Been seeing this Cancer guy for about a month or so. We work together and he ended a long term relationship about 7 months ago, so we both wanted to take it slow and keep it out of the office water cooler gossip, so to speak.

He's very attentive, complimentary, and candid. Initiates communication 75% of the time, picks me up, opens doors, etc. He told me a little bit about his previous relationship and is forthcoming with self disclosure because i'm 'gorgeous, poised, intelligent and funny, class A material' and he 'wanted nothing but transparency between us'.

We had plans to attend several events this weekend. I work a lot so I specifically requested off to spend the weekend with him. We are texting Thursday night while im out of town about the event on Friday and he says he's on the fence about going, but that he will let me know before he goes to bed. He texts me the next morning (he's at work, I'm still out of town) that he's "out for tonight". Meaning he's not going.

I say okay, and then start trying to firm up details for the other plans we had made. He is being kinda squirrelly with his answers, so I finally say:

"I could be over thinking, but this kinda feels like the beginning of a slow fade."

Him: "Sort of, yeah. It's odd, but I'm seeing you more and more as a buddy rather than a romantic flame. As cliche as that sounds."

I didn't respond, so he follows it up a couple minutes later with, "Didn't really mean to do this over text."

I again didn't respond, because... what am I gonna say to that? So he texts me several times later that night (paraphrasing because I deleted them):

"I really wasn't trying to being malicious or ill intentioned. I'm just trying to find the life I want."

Then:

"You've inspired me to start writing again. I hope you know how much that means to me."

Wtf?

Posted by Jkats
What things make y'all Cancerians go quiet? My guy's been quiet this past week and a half (hasn't disappeared, just much less communication than normal, FYI, we just talked yesterday), but I know he's a little stressed right now, plus we've been discussing marriage and baby in our near future.

Posted by Light555
I'm not going into details right now. But if you want to ask something, you're welcome. Because the story is very tricky and somewhere ridiculous and irrational.
So, I'm female, 29, Sagittarius sun Taurus moon Scorpio venus.
He is male, 21, Cancer sun Leo moon Gemini venus.
We've known each other for 5 months. In the beginning it was pretty obvious he was attracted to me. There were cafes, cinema, he came over to my place on my birthday (met my aunt, my sister and grandma) and I was at his house (with his Mom, Dad and sister). But then he started to disappear on me. He seemed to start showing me his worse traits on purpose, to make me leave him alone: ignoring texts, calls, silent treatment for a month. But I've never confronted him about this. We've never had an argument.
When I took the courage and came over to him once he was cold and didn't want to talk to me much. And then he added he started dating another girl and we couldn't see each other anymore. And that I should find another guy.
I haven't heard from him for over a month now. Today I've been to his place, he was out of town but I left him a note saying that he shouldn't push me away, how I care about him. That I don't know why he's behaving like this and I'm not going anywhere. I really want to keep our friendship.
Has anyone been through something like this? What was your story and how did it end up?
From my own observation he did this every time when he had found out something about me that was better than his own life. I have a job, and he is a student and doesn't make money. Bang - silent treatment. I can afford to rent a flat and he can't -silent treatment again. I'm kind, caring and so pretty. And he's a badass and doesn't know what he wants. These were his words. And they made me think that he got afraid of me and this stopped him from moving any further er with me.
It also might be about the age difference. But I don't look like my age. I more look like 24-25. His Mom thinks I'm still studying.
Or maybe we have definitly different goals in life. I want a family and children. And he is too young for this. And this scared him off.
I really don't want to think that he's a bad person. I trusted him. We've been pretty open with each other. About our previous relationship, our funny memories from childhood, our dreams. We got along well. And now this. I don't understand.
I really need advise from a Cancer guy. Am I right? Would you stop everything abruptly if you were not confident about yourself and have a gf better than you were?

Posted by jessie26
Im at a lost for words! I mean I am truly at a lost for words! This cancer guy I've been dating for over 7 months has been in a relationship the entire time!!! I am so hurt by this. I found out because his "ex" (the entire time, they've been dating) uploaded pics of him and her at their law school barristers ball. I called him twice to confront him and he didn't pick up then I sent a text telling him that I never wanted to hear from him again. He claims she's crazy and he just bumped into her at the barristers ball. But they took over 3 pics together. I don't understand what I did wrong. I genuinely liked this guy. Like I really felt great about us. Im just sad. Seems like every guy I like they end up screwing me over. I won't let this ruin my outlook on love. Im 26, Ive been in 3 long term relationships. Each one I was cheated on. I talked so highly of him. I thought he would be diff since he was a cancer like me. I always thought I was great at loving and romance. I love to love. He says its not what it looks like, he said instagram is not real life. But they're real pictures of him and her. He then unfollowed me on instagram and called me delusional. What did I ever do to deserve this?

NOTHING

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Why did you two break up?

I was sending messages to two other guys he didn't like what I said. he broke up with me. im all sad now but im gonna avoid him and avoid being in the same room with him.

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Posted by ariesheart
So after 2 strong and beautiful years with my cancer, I broke it off. Why? Because the last 2 months, we've been doing the long distant thing and it's been hell. If I missed a call, he says I met someone. If I answer after 3 rings, I won't hear the end of it for days. If I'm on facebook, he'll ask why. It's taking a mental toll on me. If he can't handle the long distance relationship, then I'm letting him free. Figure out what's important. Maybe it was a mistake, maybe not. Only time will tell. But I refuse to have a man make me feel worthless and out of my name because of his insecurities. I love him and will for a long time.

Posted by Renee2016
I dated a cancer for five years and he married someone else....he said at times he knows what he wants but others he doesnt. I told him you already made your choice. He left and said he needed time to sort things out...uhm....didn't he get married....sort what out— Very weird...it's been 3 months and I haven't heard a peep out of him. I'm in school so I haven't had the time to grieve but want to get over it and prepare for if this sneaky cheatibg bloke tries to come back.

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Posted by Phenjx
Hi guys. Firstly let me say that i love this forum site. You guys really do give your input and much appreciation for that 🙂

This is my current issue with a cancer man. We use to date and then called things off and then went to sort of complicated and then i went to mess it up by talking to his sister about him, because i wanted some form of clarity of his behaviour that i didnt understand and couldnt ask him, because most probably he wouldnt tell me and shut me off. So i managed to apologise to him and get his forgiveness.

Today while talking to him about random things and life issues in general. Nothing related to love or to him, he helped me out. Bearing in mind that we are not back together but we are talking. Then when i told him that i got to share with him something that happened to me and that he should really know about it (Its something about my work life, nothing romantic, just creepy and i wanted to share it with him).

He then tells me that i shouldnt be telling him anything, after what has happened between us. And then i said like, "yea despite everything, there is still something but i am not talking about that." For which he replies "that something is under scrutiny.... thanks to you."

So i didnt get it and he says that perhaps i should stop talking with him for a while. Which i response to saying that i was doing that and now i am talking to him again. I took a two week break after the sister interfered and he blocked me out and unfriended me.

Then he adds this statement, "I am still handling the part where you said i became your responsibility"

I tell him idk when i said that and i definitely must not have said that. He told me to think hard and long. I try and for someone like me who remembers things and words people say, i surely will not forget what i said. So i try to tell him that he cannot be my responsibility because it is his life and he is not my child to take responsibility. I can only take responsibility for my actions and words. He sees the messages and does not say anything.

He finally comes online and i say "Hey" and he responds, "What" and i ask him to tell me when i said it so that we can talk about this and settle it.

He then says, "We aint settling shit. Save it." and then goes to block me off whatsapp again.

What is the meaning of this?

Posted by Arielle83
After reading these, I still think cancer men have amazing intuition and run from CRAZY!!


Too bad that Bambiboss chick's psycho cancer man threads were deleted.

Posted by siopaowiks
Posted months ago about a gemini guy. Scratched that thought and moved on. Met this Cancer guy whom I thought can be different from all the other guys. First date was super good,then he just followed up for another date. Kept messaging me said he was thinking about me,he likes me blah blah and I wasn't buying it coz we just met. Then third date he invited me to his house and cooked for me and ofcourse we had sex afterwards. Then everything changed. He slowly pulled away,not too clingy or sweet in txting anymore and its only been a month. Well I kinda expected something else like he'll be more clingy like in the beginning,coz I thought he was different. Hard part was when he was txting me,I would reply in words! But when I txt him like chessy stuff,then he would reply with an emoticon. Like a smiley or a winky eye!! Like wth cancer!!!! You are soooooo fast in the beginning, I tried to catch up as a fast paced leo and then boom! You slow down,like wth just happened. Why Cancer?!? Just tell me what u want then I'll get on with my life!! Instead of playing mind games,cat mouse shit ugh 😢

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I'm confused. 😐

Posted by jojo39
Let me start by saying I have read a lot of the post on her in regards to cancerians and their relationships/interactions with people. I've found myself identifying a lot with some of the post and in awe. I started talking to a Cancer male about five months ago. I'm a Sagittarius and true to my sign. I knew from the beginning there would be some struggles with this match because I like to read up on what I'm getting myself into. I have several cancer female friends and so I thought I had some guidance lol. It started off great and then the past month he went into his shell it appears. He went from wanting to go out and communicating ok (which was not all that great by month 3) but if he said we were going to do something or he was coming to hang out he did. All of a sudden he went missing and I felt like I was in a relationship by myself. I didn't see it coming. Last week I decided I would walk away after it took him almost two weeks to even say hello. He kept saying “I wouldn't understand and that I couldn't understand what he needed to do!" He couldn't say it was over and didn't want to me end it but be a convenience for when he had time to date. I had offered him the same friendship several weeks before he decided to go into his shell and he refused it saying he wanted the relationship. I see know from this forum he wanted things his way. I was upset and in typical Sagittarius fashion I didn't spare his feelings and told him what I thought. It hurt me to do this because I was really into this guy and tried my best to work through things with him but like many of you shared they won't let you in.

I sent an email apologizing for a few things but it had gotten to the point where I didn’t know what to believe from this guy anymore. I couldn’t understand how someone wanted to be with you but could go missing for periods of time and could change at the drop of a hat. He kept telling me to stay until he worked things out but then said eventually I'll want time he couldn't give me (ass hole) he couldn’t tell me what I was staying for either. Thank you all for sharing it really helped me. I see that he might come back and if he do I’ll be ready. These are truly sweet guys at least he was, just emotional and didn’t know what he really wanted. I know their insecure and have a hard time making decisions. But to string people along is simply not cool. Emotionally I'm usually able to get over guys fairly quick. This has been a tough one because I didn't want to walk away but I did't know why or how long I was gonna be treated like this either.

Posted by SentimentalCrabby
Wow Cancer men has a big reptuation
I am guessing the second one is Taurus men?

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Posted by SentimentalCrabby
Wow Cancer men has a big reptuation
I am guessing the second one is Taurus men?

i don't know. no taurus man has left me yet

Should I updated it then? 😛 Because there's a lot of ladies who had to deal with those "disappearing" or "slow of answering" them.

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Posted by balancedlibra
Hi, I hope someone can help me with this issue. Five years ago I met a Cancer man. We were friends, but the flirtatious kind. He would send me the loveliest love letters and we spoke to each other daily and spent as much time as possible with each other. We however never defined our friendship and was never intimate. One day he broke our usual meeting time to "study". I later found out that he went out on a date. I was upset and so I blocked all his calls. We later made up but our friendship changed and tapered off soon after that incident. Fast forward 5 years. He moves to my city and contacted me and we rekindled our friendship. We spoke on the phone daily and he made me feel the same way that he used to 5 years ago. It was as though nothing changed. The first time we hung out, we slept together. After the second "round" my emotions consumed me and I told him that I had to leave. I gathered my stuff and practically ran out his apartment. He seemed very upset that night but I needed to get away. I didn't get my usual call the day after, then the day after that, then the day after that. I felt really upset that he'd sleep with me then drop me. I finally called him after about 3 days and he told me that he was busy and stressed out about work and that was why he didn't contact me. He didn't speak to me for about a month and I found out that he was contacting his ex telling her that he loved her. I was devastated. He contacted me the week after that to meet up (I declined) then the week after that and we ended up sleeping together again. Then no contact for another month. He made plans twice after that month then lied to me as to why he has to cancel them. I sent him a message after his last cancellation asking him to be straightforward and honest with me. He pretended as though he didn't know what I was talking about.

It has been 3 months now. I feel stupid and I probably am stupid. But everyday I feel like I am crying internally over this man. I love him... and when we're together we have the best conversations and we feel so comfortable with each other. We shared really private details about ourselves with each other. Yet he treats me so badly.

Should I just drop this cancer man or should I still hold out, hoping that he will come back to me. What is going on?

Not sure if this matters, but I found out that his ex dumped him for good. Also, he's the one who approached me the first time and he's the one who rekindled our friendship the second time. So why doesn't he just "man up" if he wants me. If he doesn't want me, why did he bother trying to contact me again?

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Posted by balancedlibra
Hi, I hope someone can help me with this issue. Five years ago I met a Cancer man. We were friends, but the flirtatious kind. He would send me the loveliest love letters and we spoke to each other daily and spent as much time as possible with each other. We however never defined our friendship and was never intimate. One day he broke our usual meeting time to "study". I later found out that he went out on a date. I was upset and so I blocked all his calls. We later made up but our friendship changed and tapered off soon after that incident. Fast forward 5 years. He moves to my city and contacted me and we rekindled our friendship. We spoke on the phone daily and he made me feel the same way that he used to 5 years ago. It was as though nothing changed. The first time we hung out, we slept together. After the second "round" my emotions consumed me and I told him that I had to leave. I gathered my stuff and practically ran out his apartment. He seemed very upset that night but I needed to get away. I didn't get my usual call the day after, then the day after that, then the day after that. I felt really upset that he'd sleep with me then drop me. I finally called him after about 3 days and he told me that he was busy and stressed out about work and that was why he didn't contact me. He didn't speak to me for about a month and I found out that he was contacting his ex telling her that he loved her. I was devastated. He contacted me the week after that to meet up (I declined) then the week after that and we ended up sleeping together again. Then no contact for another month. He made plans twice after that month then lied to me as to why he has to cancel them. I sent him a message after his last cancellation asking him to be straightforward and honest with me. He pretended as though he didn't know what I was talking about.

It has been 3 months now. I feel stupid and I probably am stupid. But everyday I feel like I am crying internally over this man. I love him... and when we're together we have the best conversations and we feel so comfortable with each other. We shared really private details about ourselves with each other. Yet he treats me so badly.

Should I just drop this cancer man or should I still hold out, hoping that he will come back to me. What is going on?

Not sure if this matters, but I found out that his ex dumped him for good. Also, he's the one who approached me the first time and he's the one who rekindled our friendship the second time. So why doesn't he just "man up" if he wants me. If he doesn't want me, why did he bother trying to contact me again?

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Posted by victoriagemini
Fuq me! Fuq the crab men. How can one say I miss you while I find out he's flirting with other women. I'm tired of falling for these men who show strong interest and when I actually show I like them too he begins the slow kinds fade away...in sense texting wayyy less, and just loose interest in me bit tell me I miss you bs. I rather he not say that then lie!!! 😢(((( I really liked him too..I'm done with men

Posted by balancedlibra
Hi, I hope someone can help me with this issue. Five years ago I met a Cancer man. We were friends, but the flirtatious kind. He would send me the loveliest love letters and we spoke to each other daily and spent as much time as possible with each other. We however never defined our friendship and was never intimate. One day he broke our usual meeting time to "study". I later found out that he went out on a date. I was upset and so I blocked all his calls. We later made up but our friendship changed and tapered off soon after that incident. Fast forward 5 years. He moves to my city and contacted me and we rekindled our friendship. We spoke on the phone daily and he made me feel the same way that he used to 5 years ago. It was as though nothing changed. The first time we hung out, we slept together. After the second "round" my emotions consumed me and I told him that I had to leave. I gathered my stuff and practically ran out his apartment. He seemed very upset that night but I needed to get away. I didn't get my usual call the day after, then the day after that, then the day after that. I felt really upset that he'd sleep with me then drop me. I finally called him after about 3 days and he told me that he was busy and stressed out about work and that was why he didn't contact me. He didn't speak to me for about a month and I found out that he was contacting his ex telling her that he loved her. I was devastated. He contacted me the week after that to meet up (I declined) then the week after that and we ended up sleeping together again. Then no contact for another month. He made plans twice after that month then lied to me as to why he has to cancel them. I sent him a message after his last cancellation asking him to be straightforward and honest with me. He pretended as though he didn't know what I was talking about.

It has been 3 months now. I feel stupid and I probably am stupid. But everyday I feel like I am crying internally over this man. I love him... and when we're together we have the best conversations and we feel so comfortable with each other. We shared really private details about ourselves with each other. Yet he treats me so badly.

Should I just drop this cancer man or should I still hold out, hoping that he will come back to me. What is going on?

Not sure if this matters, but I found out that his ex dumped him for good. Also, he's the one who approached me the first time and he's the one who rekindled our friendship the second time. So why doesn't he just "man up" if he wants me. If he doesn't want me, why did he bother trying to contact me again?

Posted by siopaowiks
@victoriagemini I feel you dear. My Cancer was exactly like how you described yours. He was so eager,persistent,cooked for me,he was sooo into me. Then after a month of seeing eachother and having sex I thought he was the one. Coz let's face it,they are such good actors,fooling us that they like us and sh*t then when we have adjusted and liked them then they disappear like nothing happened. W.t.f is wrong with these guys

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Posted by Arielle83
All I see is a bunch of chicks who gave it up for cancer dick.

They got attached.

He didn't, so he's the bad one.

Women are fucking annoying me on here.

Huh?!?! Why are you getting annoyed? This thread was meant to be funny. Don't suck the joy out of it...

Don't get annoyed about me being annoyed.

It's funny.

However, I'm over women demanding equality, but they expect a man to chase them and if he doesn't do it to their liking, he's fucjed.

I wasn't annoyed at all, I was dumbfounded by your reaction.

This thread is hilarious!

I posted one in this thread. It is funny, but it just shows a lack of logic regarding women after they give it up.

I guess you've never gotten a tongue lashing from one of the above feral idiots with entitlement issues.

You can't tell a chick, chasing a cancer, that she isn't special enough for him to like her.

Lol... probably not, I'm not sure. But, it honestly doesn't matter. As the old saying goes "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't force them to drink". It's their sad loss if they still haven't learned the lesson.

Just be content that you tried to help.

I'm getting annoyed I might write in prose comparable to Rocky.

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Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
And yet another..

Posted by siopaowiks
@victoriagemini I feel you dear. My Cancer was exactly like how you described yours. He was so eager,persistent,cooked for me,he was sooo into me. Then after a month of seeing eachother and having sex I thought he was the one. Coz let's face it,they are such good actors,fooling us that they like us and sh*t then when we have adjusted and liked them then they disappear like nothing happened. W.t.f is wrong with these guys

"after a month" 😄 😄 ROFL seriously, you do it to yourselves!

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Posted by hulabird61
3 years ago I met a 61 YO Cancer male, we met on FB and then in person after 8 months of messaging, phone calls and texts, mainly because I was in a middle of a divorce plus lived an hour away. When I went to his house for the first date, he was all over me though I told him NO on the first date. We ended up having more dates between Feb 2013 and July 2014 and did have sex. Had a fight in July and stopped dating. I loved him so I would message him daily, he would respond very rarely back in 2014 but he always read them. Then I started bodybuilding, lost weight and started looking like I do in my profile pic, and he took notice, he started responding and flirting, and then in Mar of 2015 he started talking to me on the phone, and responding very frequently and finally started asking me out, I had also moved 10 minutes from him and think that also made a difference. Because he had hurt me and because he was still going places with this "friend", I told him I wanted to have friendship first, so we flirted and talked all summer and he kept asking me over and I said no, that I wanted to be sure he had nothing going with this "friend" he assured me she was only his friend, no sex involved and I believed him because not to be mean, she was far from what he likes in a woman as far as looks go, he is 5'3" and she was not only much taller but on the homely side and 15 years his junior, and heavy. He doesn't like heavy women. Well, he got impatient with me, I wouldn't go see him again because he was playing games with me, disappearing on me because I ruffled his feathers, jealousy over FB male friends etc... so he said he was going to stop asking me out because he felt rejected. However we remained messaging and he was obsessed with my messages, they were professing my love and adoration for him. These messages have gone on for 3 years. We racked up 20000+messages in messenger alone and he checked them like clockwork. Ok so that is a basic background, there is more to it but the main thing is what happened this past Friday night.

He had been reading messages all day but hasn't responded since 1/9, but that changed Friday. I had gone to a wedding with an old friend and he knew about it, but said nothing, and on Friday I sent him a voice message at 12 am and he came and got it, in it I admit I was telling him about my friend and how nice he treats me, went on and on. within a few minutes I saw him typing and then he said "better hold on to your "friend" I am unfriending you. I said why? Then I called him and he picked up and scolded me for an hour + and made up a crazy story of why he was mad, and then went to block me on FB and took me through the process as I cried. He has now blocked me everywh

Posted by hulabird61
He blocked me and all i could do was mail him a handwritten letter, he has NEVER done this. He has been an addict when it comes to my messages and I am hoping he will cool off and come back, I need advice!! We have fought before and usually over me mentioning another man, he is a jealous type and had told me a few times before that he doesn't like a woman that all the guys look at! But we weren't officially back together yet and he goes out with a friend that is female and I don't like it but why should he get mad if I do it—

He is not like other men, he LOVES texts and messages and lots of them, he seems to love drama and would start fights with me purposely so we would go back and forth. I would send more messages when we fought than we were not fighting and that seemed to help him come out of his shell. So do I do the same thing now with postal letters?? Or ignore him—? I am afraid if I ignore him he will think i moved on to another guy, he is very insecure!! When we fought on Friday he said I am unfriending you so you can replace me. I said I wasn't and that I love him but he needs to treat me like a friend first.

I pray he isn't gone for good, I miss him already!!!

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Posted by hulabird61
3 years ago I met a 61 YO Cancer male, we met on FB and then in person after 8 months of messaging, phone calls and texts, mainly because I was in a middle of a divorce plus lived an hour away. When I went to his house for the first date, he was all over me though I told him NO on the first date. We ended up having more dates between Feb 2013 and July 2014 and did have sex. Had a fight in July and stopped dating. I loved him so I would message him daily, he would respond very rarely back in 2014 but he always read them. Then I started bodybuilding, lost weight and started looking like I do in my profile pic, and he took notice, he started responding and flirting, and then in Mar of 2015 he started talking to me on the phone, and responding very frequently and finally started asking me out, I had also moved 10 minutes from him and think that also made a difference. Because he had hurt me and because he was still going places with this "friend", I told him I wanted to have friendship first, so we flirted and talked all summer and he kept asking me over and I said no, that I wanted to be sure he had nothing going with this "friend" he assured me she was only his friend, no sex involved and I believed him because not to be mean, she was far from what he likes in a woman as far as looks go, he is 5'3" and she was not only much taller but on the homely side and 15 years his junior, and heavy. He doesn't like heavy women. Well, he got impatient with me, I wouldn't go see him again because he was playing games with me, disappearing on me because I ruffled his feathers, jealousy over FB male friends etc... so he said he was going to stop asking me out because he felt rejected. However we remained messaging and he was obsessed with my messages, they were professing my love and adoration for him. These messages have gone on for 3 years. We racked up 20000+messages in messenger alone and he checked them like clockwork. Ok so that is a basic background, there is more to it but the main thing is what happened this past Friday night.

He had been reading messages all day but hasn't responded since 1/9, but that changed Friday. I had gone to a wedding with an old friend and he knew about it, but said nothing, and on Friday I sent him a voice message at 12 am and he came and got it, in it I admit I was telling him about my friend and how nice he treats me, went on and on. within a few minutes I saw him typing and then he said "better hold on to your "friend" I am unfriending you. I said why? Then I called him and he picked up and scolded me for an hour + and made up a crazy story of why he was mad, and then went to block me on FB and took me through the process as I cried. He has now blocked me everywh

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Posted by aj123
Hi,
So I began chatting with an early twenties guy (Cancer Sun, Aquarius Moon) on an online interface (I initiated first contact) - small talk at first. The next evening, he initiated asking how my day was, etc. and this continued every day for over 30 days (after about 3 days, we added each other on fb and continued this chatting there) with him initiating every evening and messaging till one of us went to sleep.

After about 15 days of doing this, he said he really enjoys talking to me and wanted to know if we could meet in person, I agreed and we set a plan to meet in a bar (in 2 weeks). During those 2 weeks after agreeing, he kept initiating conversation and it always flowed really well - he never used flirty lines, never massively complimented me (except saying the conversation doesn't feel forced which is good and maybe one or two comments that I look quite young), never had any "dirty talk" etc. - was like really friendly intellectual convo about our jobs (we work in similar fields), interesting newspaper articles and he'd mention a lot about this family, ask about mine, etc. so not any sign of a huge player..

However, I noticed a few days after setting the date for first meet-up, he began logging into the online site again about every 2 days or so (he had not been on it since we started chatting (moved things over to fb) i.e. 2 weeks offline) which I thought was weird but it was mostly around lunchtime that he was online there (we only speak in the evenings) but his behaviour/interest towards our conversations was still the same as it was at the start

Then, we met in person (after 30 days daily messaging) everything went great, conversation really flowed, he didn't try and be flirty, etc. no kisses, etc. and as soon as he got home, he texted saying he had a great time with me and would be interesting in meeting up again and wished me goodnight.

This afternoon (day after the first meet-up), he's online on the interface again..

Surely, if our meet up was that great, he wouldn't be online there within 24 hours after us meeting?! But not sure if he was just being polite but not very interested or if he's playing the field for a bit (but does see interest) or if this is even normal?

The thing that was odd to me is that he never tried to be flirty but always initiated convos as well as wanting to meet up, buying me drinks, etc. so not sure if it means we're just friends (in which case he can obviously log-in to the site whenever really) or is romantically interested but being respectful?


His previous history - think he's been in a few relationships in the past and a once or twice "one night stands" so not exactly a socially awkward or shy "virgin" type person who's too scared to make a move or something, surely..

Any input apprecia

Posted by victoriagemini
Some of you people are just plain rude and inconsiderate. You don't know what happened with that lady in the month. I know couples who fell in love within a week ONLY got engaged in 3 months and are still togethrt. Everyone is different. We shouldn't judge. I never been with a Cancer man although I keep attracting them and only one of them caught my eye only to find out he wants sex or fwb. Yes I was dissapointrd. No I don't hate him. I'm beginning to think maybe I'm the problem and im too old traditional for this era in dating. But with the amount of posts on the crab men here I would think they are a big problem with not knowing what they want, or they love to romance a lot of women