Cancer man left me... (Page 2)

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Posted by victoriagemini
Some of you people are just plain rude and inconsiderate. You don't know what happened with that lady in the month. I know couples who fell in love within a week ONLY got engaged in 3 months and are still togethrt. Everyone is different. We shouldn't judge. I never been with a Cancer man although I keep attracting them and only one of them caught my eye only to find out he wants sex or fwb. Yes I was dissapointrd. No I don't hate him. I'm beginning to think maybe I'm the problem and im too old traditional for this era in dating. But with the amount of posts on the crab men here I would think they are a big problem with not knowing what they want, or they love to romance a lot of women

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Posted by hulabird61
He blocked me and all i could do was mail him a handwritten letter, he has NEVER done this. He has been an addict when it comes to my messages and I am hoping he will cool off and come back, I need advice!! We have fought before and usually over me mentioning another man, he is a jealous type and had told me a few times before that he doesn't like a woman that all the guys look at! But we weren't officially back together yet and he goes out with a friend that is female and I don't like it but why should he get mad if I do it—

He is not like other men, he LOVES texts and messages and lots of them, he seems to love drama and would start fights with me purposely so we would go back and forth. I would send more messages when we fought than we were not fighting and that seemed to help him come out of his shell. So do I do the same thing now with postal letters?? Or ignore him—? I am afraid if I ignore him he will think i moved on to another guy, he is very insecure!! When we fought on Friday he said I am unfriending you so you can replace me. I said I wasn't and that I love him but he needs to treat me like a friend first.

I pray he isn't gone for good, I miss him already!!!

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Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by victoriagemini
Some of you people are just plain rude and inconsiderate. You don't know what happened with that lady in the month. I know couples who fell in love within a week ONLY got engaged in 3 months and are still togethrt. Everyone is different. We shouldn't judge. I never been with a Cancer man although I keep attracting them and only one of them caught my eye only to find out he wants sex or fwb. Yes I was dissapointrd. No I don't hate him. I'm beginning to think maybe I'm the problem and im too old traditional for this era in dating. But with the amount of posts on the crab men here I would think they are a big problem with not knowing what they want, or they love to romance a lot of women

LOL

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Posted by HouseCleaning
i think this post might of scared off future posters

Posted by Harukka


Cancer men are sensitive, but not about your feeling

They are only sensitive when it comes to them...lol

they will not let go of you till you kill them, ew

Posted by Jkats
Cancer men use their charm and abilities to emotionally draw you in to their advantage. It seems however, that most often than not, it leads to heartbreak. It's fucking sad and pathetic. Note, I know it's not just a "Cancer thing". Players will be players no matter their sign.

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
Uh huh.....

Posted by Jkats
Cancer men use their charm and abilities to emotionally draw you in to their advantage. It seems however, that most often than not, it leads to heartbreak. It's fucking sad and pathetic. Note, I know it's not just a "Cancer thing". Players will be players no matter their sign.

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Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
Uh huh.....

Posted by Jkats
Cancer men use their charm and abilities to emotionally draw you in to their advantage. It seems however, that most often than not, it leads to heartbreak. It's fucking sad and pathetic. Note, I know it's not just a "Cancer thing". Players will be players no matter their sign.

Dude, my former whatever he was, used to do that ..... thing. Ugh, so many things bring back memories, it hurts. 😢

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Posted by HouseCleaning
i think this post might of scared off future posters

Yup. It's definitely toned down the board. All they have to do is read these back to back to back posts and see how ridiculous it gets.
Maybe they're expecting this from Cancer men:

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Posted by Rihmodel
Hello everyone. I am a Aquarius woman who really likes a cancer man. He tried to talk to me multiple times until I finally gave him a chance. We have sex often but he says he doesn't want a relationship. At first I thought I was okay with it until he went out of town for 2 months and I didn't hear from him. I put my pride to the side and reached out tell him I missed him and if he misses me back but he never answered my question. Fast forward to a week ago we has come back & we hung out. He asked me if I had sex with anyone and I truthfully answered no and he told me he had sex once. I accepted the truth. We slept together almost everynight cuddling. And what makes my feelings fonder is that he doesn't always want sex. When we sat down he told me he missed me that I'm not affectionate with him and I told him i already told him I missed him and I felt like he was playing me. He told me he was busy. I have strong feelings for him and I'm Afraid that I'm falling for someone who isn't interested. We recently got into a argument because one of his girl friends came over to a mutual friends house and cooked and when he saw me he seemed to be trying to not make eye contact with me. When he dropped her off I thought he was staying with her but he came right back and asked me to open the door. When he came in, he yelled out me and told me to stop playing around and seemed so angry. I never seen him so mad. I know this is pretty long but I want to get in every detail because I need to know if he likes me or not. I think it will bring me peace. I usually don't like people so fast but it's something about him I can't resist.

Posted by Vari
I am lawyer, married but on the verge of separation due to my hubbys abusive habit. I met this cancer man of 35 years unmarried some 8 months back, wherein he offered me partnership in his law firm. We started to discuss, talk, chat, call very often. Suddenly after 4 months he restricted all his communications citing work pressure and office issues. We meet once a month and calls are also very limited though he texts me everyday to know how am i. Recently i had big fight with my husband which i told him and he showed more affection post that and advised me to leave my hubby. He always says he adores and like me but not used the word love. I love him and want to marry him. He used to send good morning message everyday as soon as he gets up. One week back i stopped texting him as i was sorting my own issues but to my surprise he also stopped connecting with me. We saw each other online in whatsapp but neither of us pinged each other. Today i sent an sms stating i am sorting my issues and that he always runs in my mind. No response still, he generally respond when he is free.

Kindly opine whats going on in his mind about me...does he love me ?

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by Vari
I am lawyer, married but on the verge of separation due to my hubbys abusive habit. I met this cancer man of 35 years unmarried some 8 months back, wherein he offered me partnership in his law firm. We started to discuss, talk, chat, call very often. Suddenly after 4 months he restricted all his communications citing work pressure and office issues. We meet once a month and calls are also very limited though he texts me everyday to know how am i. Recently i had big fight with my husband which i told him and he showed more affection post that and advised me to leave my hubby. He always says he adores and like me but not used the word love. I love him and want to marry him. He used to send good morning message everyday as soon as he gets up. One week back i stopped texting him as i was sorting my own issues but to my surprise he also stopped connecting with me. We saw each other online in whatsapp but neither of us pinged each other. Today i sent an sms stating i am sorting my issues and that he always runs in my mind. No response still, he generally respond when he is free.

Kindly opine whats going on in his mind about me...does he love me ?

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Posted by Sarahxoxo
Cancer man will come near me but wont approach me..is that him saying "YOU DO THE REST"...we both love each other.... we have never had physical contact.. and its very hard for him bc he has a lot of scorpio in his chart so i feel like he NEEDS to hav sex with me...but...he doesnt verbalize the love making he just verbalizes it as fucking and all the dirty shit before the romantic stuff...does he not wunna know thats what he has to offer??
Over the past 9 months of loving eachother...we have sexted..and strong eye cantact...thats what our connection has been...
At lunch (we are in view of eachother) he will lower his head looking at his phone (i swear iv almost seen him cry before) AND HIS WHOLE BODY IS FACING TOWARDS ME..but somtimes not even looking at me (to see if im watching him sulk) Somtimes he does tho..then starts talking to his friends again..(the mood swings) SHOULD I APPROACH HIM. Is he to scared? does me not being ready for sex and trusting him (becuase he hasnt ever talked about being more than just a one night stand) mean to him im rejecting him? and thats why hes not reaching out anymore?

Posted by Impulsv
Is he in highschool?

Posted by Sarahxoxo
Yes he is, but we are both very wise and mature. old souls

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Posted by victoriagemini
Some of you people are just plain rude and inconsiderate. You don't know what happened with that lady in the month. I know couples who fell in love within a week ONLY got engaged in 3 months and are still togethrt. Everyone is different. We shouldn't judge. I never been with a Cancer man although I keep attracting them and only one of them caught my eye only to find out he wants sex or fwb. Yes I was dissapointrd. No I don't hate him. I'm beginning to think maybe I'm the problem and im too old traditional for this era in dating. But with the amount of posts on the crab men here I would think they are a big problem with not knowing what they want, or they love to romance a lot of women

Posted by victoriagemini
Bloody hell.......I found out he lost interest in me and found a new girl but she's 38 like him which surprised me. This crab man used to date younger women like myself. Which makes the whole looking for a mother thing true. No offense 38 is not old I'm just surprised. Yes I'm dissapoited because texting me I miss you which most likely was a lie and now he has a new girl that's a lot older than me. So my question is do crab men end up with older women?

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Posted by victoriagemini
Some of you people are just plain rude and inconsiderate. You don't know what happened with that lady in the month. I know couples who fell in love within a week ONLY got engaged in 3 months and are still togethrt. Everyone is different. We shouldn't judge. I never been with a Cancer man although I keep attracting them and only one of them caught my eye only to find out he wants sex or fwb. Yes I was dissapointrd. No I don't hate him. I'm beginning to think maybe I'm the problem and im too old traditional for this era in dating. But with the amount of posts on the crab men here I would think they are a big problem with not knowing what they want, or they love to romance a lot of women

Posted by victoriagemini
Bloody hell.......I found out he lost interest in me and found a new girl but she's 38 like him which surprised me. This crab man used to date younger women like myself. Which makes the whole looking for a mother thing true. No offense 38 is not old I'm just surprised. Yes I'm dissapoited because texting me I miss you which most likely was a lie and now he has a new girl that's a lot older than me. So my question is do crab men end up with older women?

Posted by victoriagemini
Is normal for a cancer man to be in to you saying miss you again not talk to you for while? We live 5hrs away from each other

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Posted by P3n3lop3
@victoriagemini what sign is the guy and what is ur venus in? And u can move on by looking at the bright side of things this happens to me to but we just attract manipulators

Omg I she's 42 not 38 like I thought. My pal told me. He's 38. So I guess he's one of the crabs who's into older maybe for long term?
He's cancer sun cancer Venus and I am venus aries

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Posted by Jkats
What things make y'all Cancerians go quiet? My guy's been quiet this past week and a half (hasn't disappeared, just much less communication than normal, FYI, we just talked yesterday), but I know he's a little stressed right now, plus we've been discussing marriage and baby in our near future.

Posted by Jkats
So I know that the Cancerian man I like has no interest in me anymore, in any aspect, but then why tf does he keep answering my texts? Why can't he just tell me that he's done, or at least cut off all communication? I realize that I should stop torturing myself and just let him go, but I can't!!! I want him to man up and say that we're over, how hard is that to do?!?! Immaturity at its finest, smdh.

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Posted by Jkats
What things make y'all Cancerians go quiet? My guy's been quiet this past week and a half (hasn't disappeared, just much less communication than normal, FYI, we just talked yesterday), but I know he's a little stressed right now, plus we've been discussing marriage and baby in our near future.

Posted by Jkats
So I know that the Cancerian man I like has no interest in me anymore, in any aspect, but then why tf does he keep answering my texts? Why can't he just tell me that he's done, or at least cut off all communication? I realize that I should stop torturing myself and just let him go, but I can't!!! I want him to man up and say that we're over, how hard is that to do?!?! Immaturity at its finest, smdh.

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Posted by Saggyjgal
So I've known this cancer guy for a while. Not like hanging out but I knew of him, we had mutual friends type deal. I invited him to hang for my bday and he came out. Then, I invited him out again and he showed and then again and we hung with some friends of mine. I don't drive so he drove me home and we ended up making out. We hang out like once a months he works two jobs but, that's no excuse. He's never really been big with texting but, I did expect things to change considering that we had a mutual attraction to one another. Now, we've gotten intimate. I sent him explicit snaps and he responded by saying we'll hang before he leaves on a trip with some friends.( they had it planned prior to us) he came, we were intimate for the second time and he left on his trip. I bought him a little trinket before that I gave him when we hung out before he left.so, a few days into the trip he texted me thanking me for the gift. I responded thank you. A few days later I texted him asking him how the trip went and he didn't respond. Few days after that I texted him about the jacket he left over and he responded by saying I could keep it. I was not expecting that one. I tried to make conversation but, he was very short and then stopped responding. It's been a week now, and I'm confused if he is cutting me off completely or just needs space or is it even worth it?

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Posted by Arielle83

Posted by libralotus
So my cancer tex blocked me on everything!! Does that mean he's over it?

What does your head say?

I think he wants me back

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Posted by libralotus
So my cancer tex blocked me on everything!! Does that mean he's over it?

What does your head say?

I think he wants me back

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Posted by Arielle83

Posted by libralotus
So my cancer tex blocked me on everything!! Does that mean he's over it?

What does your head say?

I think he wants me back

#nooneunderstandssarcasm

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Posted by CreatingChaos505
cancer woman left me once. she was all ice queen about it too.

they can be frigid for sure.

Posted by HouseCleaning
its been quiet on the cancer board.

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by HouseCleaning
its been quiet on the cancer board.

I think having this "Hall of Fame" of yours has helped.

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Posted by AlaniaB
I started dating a Cancer man a few months ago and everything was going really great. He was really great, mid forties, smart, funny and seemed really smitten by me. He doesn't date a lot, he said he was waiting for a girl who was special enough and I was it. Straight away I felt comfortable with him, and although we only had three dates we talked a LOT and put in a lot of time getting to know each other. He called every day, he messaged all the time and he was letting me know in every way possible that he was serious about having a relationship with me.

Then sadly his Mom passed away really unexpectedly after our third date, right before out fourth was scheduled. Obviously this was completely devastating for him, and I actually sort of expected to not hear from him for weeks while he dealt with it all - I mean- we had only known each other a few weeks. Instead though if anything he pulled closer to me. He would be calling me from his sisters house letting me know that all he wanted was to talk to me and that despite what had happened he was still really sure of how he felt about me and what he wanted. He even invited me to family dinners and he wanted me to be a part of things.

I really liked him before, but watching him handle his Mom's passing made me realise this guy was a truly special human being and I started to develop a very deep connection and even though we weren't spending time "face to face" because he was with family and dealing with the estate and all that, we talked constantly and we very much felt like a couple in a strange way.

Then the funeral happened, and In think his heart just kind of broke.

He suddenly became very withdrawn and unpredictable and didn't want to talk to me some days. At first it was for a day or two days, and then he would call and apologise and say he had just been feeling bad and did not want to expose me to that. Then the spaces between calls and messages got bigger and sometimes it is 4 or 5 days of no messages and we have not even talked on he phone for a month now.

I wasn't sure whether to give up and get on with my life or not. I asked him about it and he told me he really did not want that but he understood if I did. I am not really sure why he does not want to see or speak to me, but I am trying to be understanding.

Posted by AlaniaB
I wasn't sure whether to give up and get on with my life or not. I asked him about it and he told me he really did not want that but he understood if I did. I am not really sure why he does not want to see or speak to me, but I am trying to be understanding.

A few days ago I called his phone and he was away staying with his best friend and his best friend's wife. The wife answered the phone and she told me that in all the years she had known him, she had never seen him so captivated by a girl as he is by me. She said that since the day we met he has done nothing but talk about me, and that in all the years she has known him he has never been so captivated by a woman and that she could not wait to meet me.

I feel on one hand like he does care and want me in his life but on the other hand it has been a couple of months now and we have not seen each other.

Any advice?

Posted by thatbitch
He blocked me on social media.. like as if I would harass him. All he needed would be to just say, we're going nowhere, lets end it. The drama he thrives on. *Rolls eyes.**

Anyway, 3 years later, fresh from a break up with his gf, he hunts me down and charms me although Im not completely falling for him cos all those years I got me a nice guy too. But cos we never were in a realtioanship I did have a lil spot of softness for him and wnated to maybe just have a date for a day or a vacation together to get over an unclosed atttraction we had been dancing around in the past. Like a little sweet memory to keep in a corner.

Suddenly, he ignores me and accuses me of trying to have a relationship with him, when all the while I was just mirroring him. I am so mad at his childish ways, in fact i'm bored cos im 3.5 yrs his senior and I like things to be direct, no shame and adult approach. If i had wanted I would have asked him for us to try us. The false accusations and manipulation of everything I said and did makes me detest him so much, I find myself laughing.

So, I blocked him on social media. I hope it hurts him. Does anyone think that'll hurt him? I pray it does. We were never friends on fb but message from there.

Posted by balancedlibra
Hi, I'm back from this post: https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/cancer/why-is-he-treating-me-like-this-6309525/?p=2#6310170

Since my post I've started seeing this amazing aries guy. He's really sweet and treats me really well. Unfortunately, the minute I begin to let that cancer guy go, he'll message me. We will chat back and forth, mainly sexts for 2 days max and he disappears as usual and reappears after several days or a week or so. The only reason I'm keeping this up because I want to hit him where it hurts. This may not be the best forum but I need help, how do I hurt a cancer man... badly? I was thinking about telling him to no longer text me because I'm seeing someone, or should I just change my profile picture to a couple pic?

I feel justified in my actions because he's basically using me to get off.

I appreciate all the help I can get thanks.

Posted by victoriagemini
So crab boy made it official with that other lady that they are a couple. 😢 Anyway I'm happy for him I'm really trying to be BUT thing is he's attacking me with likes on Instagram like never before! Every damn photo he likes now. I'm not reacting...I'm ignoring him as much as I can. What's his problem? Innocent likes?,but then he never did that before when we where seeing each other..ugh

Posted by Love123
In am a pieces my ex of 3 years is a cancer. One day he randomly cut me off days before our 3 year mark. Since the break up he deleted all our pictures wont talk to me nothing. He has been going out to lubs every weekend basically not being HIM. He has been talking to a girl who is 7 years younger than him. Bottom line is does higher commitment freak cancers out ao bad they can just run away or are they able to really just stop loving someone one day and do what he did. I am so confused ? Do they usually come back after they know they mess up? Or are they too stubborn to admit they were wrong
Help

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by Love123
In am a pieces my ex of 3 years is a cancer. One day he randomly cut me off days before our 3 year mark. Since the break up he deleted all our pictures wont talk to me nothing. He has been going out to lubs every weekend basically not being HIM. He has been talking to a girl who is 7 years younger than him. Bottom line is does higher commitment freak cancers out ao bad they can just run away or are they able to really just stop loving someone one day and do what he did. I am so confused ? Do they usually come back after they know they mess up? Or are they too stubborn to admit they were wrong
Help

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Posted by submarine
He ignores me sometimes and when we're talking it always seems like he makes up excuses to log out. He doesn't say cute things to me anymore, or send good morning/goodnight texts. And I've recently tried to make plans to see him but he gave me a lame excuse saying he couldn't go. He says he likes me but he keeps doing things like that that make me think he doesn't??

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by submarine
He ignores me sometimes and when we're talking it always seems like he makes up excuses to log out. He doesn't say cute things to me anymore, or send good morning/goodnight texts. And I've recently tried to make plans to see him but he gave me a lame excuse saying he couldn't go. He says he likes me but he keeps doing things like that that make me think he doesn't??

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Posted by desertgemini25
I met this cancer guy online he messaged me and then i messaged him back and we exchanged our numbers and he wanted to meet for coffee on the same day but I had plans so he said he was going out of the city for the weekend and we can meet after he comes back. After a few days i decided to close my online dating account and forgot about him. After the weekend he messaged me and asked me if i would like to meet so we arranged a date and we met and it was nice but i couldn't tell if he liked me or not because he was shy. After the date was over we continued talking and he said if i would like we could meet again and i said sure so in total we went on 4 dates in a duration of 1 month and we talked every single day and we kissed and hold hands and spend like 5 hours together on each date and he told me that he closed his account as well and we were making plans for our 5th date. Yesterday my sis was on the dating site and she mentioned that she saw him online and so i asked him is he still using it? He said no i am not but i did open it for the day to show my friend something and i said ok. Then he said since we opened the topic i want to say that i enjoy spending time with you but i dont see a future because we have different plans and especially that you want to leave the country where i reassured him that I'm not leaving anywhere if thats what he is worried about. But he kept saying he enjoys spending time with me but isn't feeling much and maybe with time he can tell ( he just got out of a 4 year relationship 10 months ago) i wasn't expecting him to want a relationship but why is he cutting me off if he likes spending time with me? And everything was going so well. I really dont understand. I told him i hope that we could be friends he said i am a really great person and that he is sorry and he would like to be friends as well. Thats how the conversation ended. Is it over? Is this their really moody side or he doesn't really like me but I really like him. I am so confused and so sad. What should i do?

Posted by victoriagemini
So its my bday and crab boy posted on Facebook Happy Birthday Darling Victoria. Wtf...I feel like its so formal.No private message...no text like before he had the g/f. Should he have said happy bday anyway? He broke my heart