Cancer man still hiding his feelings

Hi,

My cancer man disappeared for two weeks because he was upset then suddenly he texted me just to say hi, which I ignored.

I have a favorite coffee shop which I go every weekend, lately I always spotted him there like waiting and I just go to another coffee shop to avoid him.

But this weekend I saw him there again and I just went in. He said hi, and we had this conversation like nothing happened. Just wondering coz he was acting cool like he never misses me.

Are cancers really like that? Hiding their feelings?

Yes.. The fact that he is stalking you means he cares a lot ..

What you think? We are all love!

If he didn't miss you he would not have tried to text you or stalk you in the coffee shop...

You can see their feelings in their actions:

If he gets hurt.... He will go into his shell for a little while.
If he feels sorry.... He will come find you & make peace.
If he misses you....He will contact you when you least expect it.

They don't necessarily "hide their feelings". Their feelings are practically right in our in the face! They're shown through their actions.

* Sorry about the typos....
I get a little passionate about this topic haha

it's a hard game they play.. still waiting to see if mine will come back 😢

Thanks to all your reply.

But after I ignored him on his text, there was no follow up. I was waiting for him to say "let's talk" and solve the problem. But I don't think he wants to talk about what happened.

The funny thing is, he said that he never visited the coffee shop until that day. Why he has to lie about that? It is really funny coz even my friends spotted him there.


Hang in there Dijon, I saw your post in the other thread and my advise is do the things that you want to do for the mean time. Yeah it's a hard game they play but pretend that they won't come back or you are going to lose. Oh well I am a Scorpio what can I say... I know virgo, most of my friends are Virgo but never dated one. But I know how they love and they fight for it. But most of them ended up single I wonder why.

Is he your boyfriend or someone you were seeing?
You should test him and show alot of interest while acting like nothing happened (same way as he treated you) give him a taste of his own medicine.

If you decide to do that let us know the results please. And do not ignore him if you really care because he will just go elsewhere!

Thanks!

Hi,

Boyfriend and he made that official lol. I mimic him from the start so that he can stop mind games with me.

What do you mean if I ignored him he will just go somewhere else? You mean he will look for another girl?

Thanks Iceprincess for responding! Okay thank you for the useful information.

^Regarding your questions; I mean if he feels ignored and he is not getting his attention (could be physical, emotional some kind of contact) he may look for it elsewhere. Not necessary LOOK for another girl but if they come by he may respond to them. Since you mentioned HE made it official i doubt he will LOOK FOR another girl. But if they come by he may talk to them and get the attention he wants that he wants from you.

But that is all theory from the information you provided, if you can provide more info on what type of dude he is much appreciated!

Or it could be simply him having trouble with something else personal (not regarding you) which is delaying him from confronting about the situation between you two!

But what about when you needed his attention for two weeks and he ignored you? Keep going with your gut, I think you're doing well. Because if you let it go, he'll do it over and over.
He lied because it's very important to him to save face.

Yeah that's right FieryBullette,

I almost gave up on him and trying to move on, but I saw his efforts going to the coffee shop very early and waited.

@tkthecrabster - yeah maybe something personal but he wouldn't open up, and I don't think he will confront our situation because he is acting everything is now ok between us with no explanation of whatsoever. Maybe they are sensitive they don't want confrontation.

I am scorpio and I disappear too, I wonder what will happen if it's my turn to disappear.

Hi blackindian, he disappeared coz he was upset with me because I accused him of he is just taking me for granted. I knew from that moment he will disappear but he texted me after 2 weeks.

Yes i still care that it really hurts me. I don't know what is inside him. I have to decide if I am going to stick with him or just move on. But I don't want to put his effort to waste.

But I was fooled by a cancer man before. He was courting me but I only want friendship. He sulked and cried, emotionally blackmailed me so I gave him a chance.
While we were together, he don't text or call anymore and he was flirting with other girls. There was also an incident that his text message was wrong sent to me that he is meeting some girl that I know for booty call. I even opened his email and found out he has child and the child's mother was so angry at him and lots of gfs etc etc lol. Good riddance and only lasted like 3 weeks.

The cancer guy who fooled me is different from my cancer man now. I don't even call him as my ex ..... no way! He has the same birthday and age with a friend of mine, but my friend is way way better than him. So I don't think that's cancers nature.

Thanks bikerchick, I always get an answer from you. I feel better really.

@Biker (and indirectly IceP), I'm just going to speak from observation here based on what IceP shared and what I know about water signs. While you make a valid point, I don't know if it is fair to assume that this Crab was "punishing her" by disappearing. I also don't know if it's fair to imply that if he were "innocent" of taking IceP for granted that he would want to make it up. While the natural response form some is to respond immediately to our partner's needs, just because Scorp said she felt taken for granted, doesn't mean he saw it the same way. That is where good communication comes into play. Could he have responded to her concerns rather than shut down? Sure. And I think that is what needs to be discussed--but not in an accusatory way as it's been presented here. A simply conversation that allows him to respond to what you observed, because truth be told you don't know what his actions were about--you're assuming really. It may also require that you take ownership for how you delivered your message (if he reveals that this was an issue for him).

As IceP pointed out, she disappears too. If it's for the reason that most water signs do, it is probably to take time off to recharge, be alone and reflect. Especially if we are dealing with something emotional. Crabs are very similar in that respect. We don't know how this conversation between IceP and her Crab played out. If it was in true Scorp fashion, it might have been very forceful and direct—who knows. IceP even said she knew beforehand that he would disappear. Why is that? Yes, you should let him know that his actions bothered you, but you need to do so in a way that encourages dialogue. Not shuts someone down. I'm not saying this man should be coddled. I am saying that we all like to have information (especially critiques) delivered to us in a particular way. We also have different ways of processing that information and addressing it. There needs to be some appreciation for the fact that your (IceP) way of hearing, processing and addressing an issue is not the same as your Crabs.

HI Bikerchick,

I think I know where PhoenixRising came from, we are both scorpio and we know that crabs are more sensitive and weak (sorry about this term) than we are.

Learning from this forum, crabs retreats and hide to their shell for so many reasons.

I learn a lot from you two, I really appreciate your replies.

I like when you said "So why did he text after two weeks? Maybe because you did not emotionally react and not bend over to get his attention. He IS hiding that he was on the cafe because he doesn't want you to know that you have some sort of emotional power over him and he is trying to win you back."

Unfortunately Cancers do hide their feelings when they are insecure about whether you share them. Your best bet is to level with this man and see if you two can get on the same page. I understand the desire to "play it cool." Cancers can be really bad that way but we are very sensitive and hate romantic rejection above all else. We need a lot of reassurance but give it back in spades to the ones we love. We're definitely too sensitive and self doubting for our own good but Cancers ARE worth the effort. When we love you, we'll die for you. There are no limits to what we will do to protect those we love. Cancers are fierce! Don't give up on this man if you like him. Take a chance and get real. Good luck!

Thanks este8, yeah I guess I'll take my chances with him.

Hopefully I get more advise from you. I will give the ball on his hands and let see from there.

But what if i'm wrong, what if he really doesn't care and I misinterpret his actions?

Posted by Iceprincess17

HI Bikerchick,

I think I know where PhoenixRising came from, we are both scorpio and we know that crabs are more sensitive and weak (sorry about this term) than we are.

Learning from this forum, crabs retreats and hide to their shell for so many reasons.

Oh lawdy....just to clarify. I never said Crabs were weaker or more sensitive than we are. Like I posted above, I do think BC had some valid points, but just in reading your post (here and in other threads) and what I have observed and learned from Crabs, I just thought there were other things to consider. As someone pointed out the two signs can work (I have my reservations), but communication needs to be strong. We can fall short in this area as water signs.

Oh, and good luck IcePrincess!

Ice Princess, You can't really compare these men because the one who "fooled you" did what some men will do: pretend to be your friend and wait in the wings for their chance to be with you. In fact, from my experience, most men don't really want to be your friends unless say you work together and get to know each other organically over time and there's no romantic vibe on either side. From my experience, when a man keeps hanging around you, he's interested in more than friendship, tho that's not always the case. He might be gay. 🙂

Seriously though, this guy might be worth throwing out an email and giving it one more try. There's no way I can tell if it'll work out or not. Those are the risks you take and yeah it's definitely scary to put your heart out and not have your love returned. Still, sometimes you gotta live by the motto "nothing ventured, nothing gained." Sounds like he does like you. Maybe see if you can get a bit more chatty texting or emailing and see how that goes. Time will tell and I think Cancer men can be a bit slow. I know for me I'm slow to commit and slow to leave a relationship. Good luck!

I really don't know what to do now 😢 .

I am thinking of having a vacation for 2 months, and let see if he still be around when I come back or not. At least by then I will know what's really going on with us.