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"Cancer trials" Share your story!
Posted by Vixen2Lol, not sure if you meant that in a bad way?
here. we. go.
I'm just curious as to what other people have gone through, it's an interesting topic. 🙂
Where are you Crabra, share some dirt lol!
Posted by Arielle83It's not a theory, if it were, then there wouldn't be so many people going through similar situations. And the "Cancer trials" was coined by a Cancer male here on DXP that has given invaluable advice to many confused women dealing with Cancer men. I see that you don't agree and that's totally fine, everybody is entitled to their own opinion.
You chicks will believe any weird ass theory some poster will create all so you believe it's "them" and not "you".
It's fucking ridiculous.
I'm very guilty of testing people. For instance, I had a virgo best friend I've known since 6th grade. She would often stand me up on our lunch break in high school and I would find out later that she went to lunch with whatever popular/rich kids instead, but she always had bogus excuses, like she couldn't find me. I'd silently take notes, catalog it away. We semi went our separate ways after high school, both got married.
Then, a couple of years before she had kids she called me while I was out at the sand dunes with my (then) husband, his family and her husband who showed up unexpectedly. She ranted, cussed me out because her husband went to the dunes after she forbade him to, and she wouldn't listen to reason when I pointed out that I wasn't his mother and had no control over what he did (we had invited both of them but she declined). I took note of it, and I stopped talking to her and we ignored each other for 2 yrs.
Then she got pregnant and sort of apologized, so I gave her a third chance, while always keeping her past behavior in mind. After I divorced I found out her and my ex had been carrying on an affair for years behind my back. I told her we were done and to never contact me. She didn't listen, and finally I had to be as cruel as possible, told her she was dead to me and that she was nothing. Haven't heard from her since and that was 2 yrs ago. Yay!! The test worked, and here;s hoping she didn't like the lesson.
Then, a couple of years before she had kids she called me while I was out at the sand dunes with my (then) husband, his family and her husband who showed up unexpectedly. She ranted, cussed me out because her husband went to the dunes after she forbade him to, and she wouldn't listen to reason when I pointed out that I wasn't his mother and had no control over what he did (we had invited both of them but she declined). I took note of it, and I stopped talking to her and we ignored each other for 2 yrs.
Then she got pregnant and sort of apologized, so I gave her a third chance, while always keeping her past behavior in mind. After I divorced I found out her and my ex had been carrying on an affair for years behind my back. I told her we were done and to never contact me. She didn't listen, and finally I had to be as cruel as possible, told her she was dead to me and that she was nothing. Haven't heard from her since and that was 2 yrs ago. Yay!! The test worked, and here;s hoping she didn't like the lesson.
Ahh man he deserves the jackass of last year and this year award.
Disappeared during the holidays
Reappeared with some sappy bs
No effing way!
Disappeared during the holidays
Reappeared with some sappy bs
No effing way!
I'd disappear, too, if someone flipped out because of a 3 hr. delay in text messages. When people pull that demanding baby bs "why didn't you answer me??!!" in text or phone, especially when not much time as gone by, they will get iced. How important that person is to me will determine how long I stay silent and gone.
Oh, here's another perfect test story! Not long after I found out that the friend was having an affair with my husband, and before I confronted her, I set a trap for her on FB. I posted a very simple but completely vague comment about how much it hurts when those closest to you betray you. No names, no clue as to what the betrayal was. She inboxed me demanding to know what I thought she had done to betray me. I asked her why she thought it was about her and why she was being so defensive. She couldn't give me an answer, just spluttered around and then went back to her demanding questions. Bingo! Caught my fish!
Posted by Arielle83I'm voting young and dumb. I think we've all had some of those moments when young....but we thought we knew it all!Posted by MoonArtistIf the flip out over text is constant, he'll just keep avoiding her drama.
I'd disappear, too, if someone flipped out because of a 3 hr. delay in text messages. When people pull that demanding baby bs "why didn't you answer me??!!" in text or phone, especially when not much time as gone by, they will get iced. How important that person is to me will determine how long I stay silent and gone.
I don't know ANY men who would tolerate that at all. Must be cuz he's young and dumb.click to expand
Posted by ListenlearnteachYes, you gave him space, he took that space for 10 days. You contacted him. Then you flipped because he didn't respond after 3 hrs of you contacting him. If someone annoys me, we get in a fight, or I'm not that close to them 10 days to not have contact is nothing....it's just taking space, a time out, enjoying the solitude, living life. You showed extreme impatience and major drama over 3 hrs of him not jumping back to answer you. I've left text messages go a day before I answer if I don't feel like texting or I'm busy, especially if it's not an emergency.
@moonartist
10 days then 3 hours
Meh
Yeah, text is fine for a quick but silent laugh, hello, or sharing a pic, etc. It's also fine for keeping in touch with clients when the message is to the point. But to have long convos via text, it gets annoying. Just CALL me!
Having a fit and demanding my attention via text or any other means when it's not an emergency will make me see red and quickly put that person on an ignore list.
Having a fit and demanding my attention via text or any other means when it's not an emergency will make me see red and quickly put that person on an ignore list.
Posted by Arielle83Yep! The irony is I married one. 😛Posted by MoonArtistWhen guys would act like a demanding asshole to me and ask where I am or been id turn my phone off. They are acting like a control freak. You can talk to me in person next time I see you. You get my time when you respect me and don't demand. We need freedom and hate tyrannical personalities.
Yeah, text is fine for a quick but silent laugh, hello, or sharing a pic, etc. It's also fine for keeping in touch with clients when the message is to the point. But to have long convos via text, it gets annoying. Just CALL me!
Having a fit and demanding my attention via text or any other means when it's not an emergency will make me see red and quickly put that person on an ignore list.click to expand
Posted by Arielle83I think you need to reread what I wrote. I did nothing to deserve the 10 days of silence.
Well judging by how you behaved in your op to this cancer guy, I can figure out why he took a break.
Maybe one day you can look at your own actions and figure out why a guy would need time for himself without someone demanding (via text, of all things) his attention. You're the older one in this situation, so let the kid breath for fuck sake.
Posted by MoonArtistWell played, and she deserved everything she got. Bless you for trying to be the bigger person!
I'm very guilty of testing people. For instance, I had a virgo best friend I've known since 6th grade. She would often stand me up on our lunch break in high school and I would find out later that she went to lunch with whatever popular/rich kids instead, but she always had bogus excuses, like she couldn't find me. I'd silently take notes, catalog it away. We semi went our separate ways after high school, both got married.
Then, a couple of years before she had kids she called me while I was out at the sand dunes with my (then) husband, his family and her husband who showed up unexpectedly. She ranted, cussed me out because her husband went to the dunes after she forbade him to, and she wouldn't listen to reason when I pointed out that I wasn't his mother and had no control over what he did (we had invited both of them but she declined). I took note of it, and I stopped talking to her and we ignored each other for 2 yrs.
Then she got pregnant and sort of apologized, so I gave her a third chance, while always keeping her past behavior in mind. After I divorced I found out her and my ex had been carrying on an affair for years behind my back. I told her we were done and to never contact me. She didn't listen, and finally I had to be as cruel as possible, told her she was dead to me and that she was nothing. Haven't heard from her since and that was 2 yrs ago. Yay!! The test worked, and here;s hoping she didn't like the lesson.
Posted by ListenlearnteachLol, I definitely called him every name in the book mentally, but it's all good now. He's behaving as am I, and things couldn't be better. 😉
Ahh man he deserves the jackass of last year and this year award.
Disappeared during the holidays
Reappeared with some sappy bs
No effing way!
Posted by JkatsMehPosted by ListenlearnteachLol, I definitely called him every name in the book mentally, but it's all good now. He's behaving as am I, and things couldn't be better. 😉
Ahh man he deserves the jackass of last year and this year award.
Disappeared during the holidays
Reappeared with some sappy bs
No effing way!click to expand
Posted by MoonArtistI only got so mad because I was trying to be very nice and understanding about him needing space, and yet he still ignored me. Granted, he could've been busy, but I know his schedule and figured that most likely than not, that he was awake. And he was, because when I sent him that text about his behavior being juvenile, he answered right away. I "get" that cancerians need space once in awhile or if they're mad/upset/hurt, but 10 days of silence for no reason seems really uncalled for imo. And as for the whole texting thing, i've learned my lesson, and know now not to get too caught up in that shit.
I'd disappear, too, if someone flipped out because of a 3 hr. delay in text messages. When people pull that demanding baby bs "why didn't you answer me??!!" in text or phone, especially when not much time as gone by, they will get iced. How important that person is to me will determine how long I stay silent and gone.
Posted by MoonArtistYES, I remember your story!!!! Nothing gets past you hahaha!
Oh, here's another perfect test story! Not long after I found out that the friend was having an affair with my husband, and before I confronted her, I set a trap for her on FB. I posted a very simple but completely vague comment about how much it hurts when those closest to you betray you. No names, no clue as to what the betrayal was. She inboxed me demanding to know what I thought she had done to betray me. I asked her why she thought it was about her and why she was being so defensive. She couldn't give me an answer, just spluttered around and then went back to her demanding questions. Bingo! Caught my fish!
Posted by MoonArtistI get that my flipping out was uncalled for, and I take full responsibility for my actions, truly I do. I was just very over emotional at the time because of the 10 days of nc, and that was the last straw. We all make mistakes, especially me, and I am learning from them.Posted by ListenlearnteachYes, you gave him space, he took that space for 10 days. You contacted him. Then you flipped because he didn't respond after 3 hrs of you contacting him. If someone annoys me, we get in a fight, or I'm not that close to them 10 days to not have contact is nothing....it's just taking space, a time out, enjoying the solitude, living life. You showed extreme impatience and major drama over 3 hrs of him not jumping back to answer you. I've left text messages go a day before I answer if I don't feel like texting or I'm busy, especially if it's not an emergency.
@moonartist
10 days then 3 hoursclick to expand
And wow, 10 days to me seem like weeks lol! I just can't wrap my head around the not communicating is all ya know? Time is precious, you never know when someone you love will leave this earth, that's why I make it a point to try and work out differences right away.
Posted by MoonArtistHe hates talking on the phone, as do I. Though I have tried to get him to talk on the phone during serious situations, but he shies away from it and just will not do it! However lately, when we do see each other, our communication has gotten so much better, he's even begun to be open to discussing important issues with me, which he's never done so before. Little steps.
Yeah, text is fine for a quick but silent laugh, hello, or sharing a pic, etc. It's also fine for keeping in touch with clients when the message is to the point. But to have long convos via text, it gets annoying. Just CALL me!
Having a fit and demanding my attention via text or any other means when it's not an emergency will make me see red and quickly put that person on an ignore list.
Posted by GoldigoldEven during relationship issues, or you two have never had any? Perhaps your guy is a highly evolved crab. 🙂
My guy has never disappeared on me....
Posted by ListenlearnteachLol, why do you keep on saying Meh?Posted by JkatsMehPosted by ListenlearnteachLol, I definitely called him every name in the book mentally, but it's all good now. He's behaving as am I, and things couldn't be better. 😉
Ahh man he deserves the jackass of last year and this year award.
Disappeared during the holidays
Reappeared with some sappy bs
No effing way!click to expand
Posted by JkatsThey deserve each other. I truly hope they eventually get married.Posted by MoonArtistWell played, and she deserved everything she got. Bless you for trying to be the bigger person!
I'm very guilty of testing people. For instance, I had a virgo best friend I've known since 6th grade. She would often stand me up on our lunch break in high school and I would find out later that she went to lunch with whatever popular/rich kids instead, but she always had bogus excuses, like she couldn't find me. I'd silently take notes, catalog it away. We semi went our separate ways after high school, both got married.
Then, a couple of years before she had kids she called me while I was out at the sand dunes with my (then) husband, his family and her husband who showed up unexpectedly. She ranted, cussed me out because her husband went to the dunes after she forbade him to, and she wouldn't listen to reason when I pointed out that I wasn't his mother and had no control over what he did (we had invited both of them but she declined). I took note of it, and I stopped talking to her and we ignored each other for 2 yrs.
Then she got pregnant and sort of apologized, so I gave her a third chance, while always keeping her past behavior in mind. After I divorced I found out her and my ex had been carrying on an affair for years behind my back. I told her we were done and to never contact me. She didn't listen, and finally I had to be as cruel as possible, told her she was dead to me and that she was nothing. Haven't heard from her since and that was 2 yrs ago. Yay!! The test worked, and here;s hoping she didn't like the lesson.click to expand
Posted by JkatsIt's not punishment. Cancers like space because of our moods, and because sometimes other people's moods + our moods are more than we can deal with.Posted by Arielle83I think you need to reread what I wrote. I did nothing to deserve the 10 days of silence.
Well judging by how you behaved in your op to this cancer guy, I can figure out why he took a break.
Maybe one day you can look at your own actions and figure out why a guy would need time for himself without someone demanding (via text, of all things) his attention. You're the older one in this situation, so let the kid breath for fuck sake.click to expand
Posted by JkatsThat's the irony of people calling Cancers "clingy".....we're really not. I've gone more than 10 days not talking to people I love and that's without a fight being involved! Sometimes I don't want to be chatty, sometimes I want to deal with life and then be in my own space/head until I feel like being social again.Posted by MoonArtistI only got so mad because I was trying to be very nice and understanding about him needing space, and yet he still ignored me. Granted, he could've been busy, but I know his schedule and figured that most likely than not, that he was awake. And he was, because when I sent him that text about his behavior being juvenile, he answered right away. I "get" that cancerians need space once in awhile or if they're mad/upset/hurt, but 10 days of silence for no reason seems really uncalled for imo. And as for the whole texting thing, i've learned my lesson, and know now not to get too caught up in that shit.
I'd disappear, too, if someone flipped out because of a 3 hr. delay in text messages. When people pull that demanding baby bs "why didn't you answer me??!!" in text or phone, especially when not much time as gone by, they will get iced. How important that person is to me will determine how long I stay silent and gone.click to expand
Posted by JkatsCancer memory is the next best thing to having a photographic memory. A blessing and a curse!Posted by MoonArtistYES, I remember your story!!!! Nothing gets past you hahaha!
Oh, here's another perfect test story! Not long after I found out that the friend was having an affair with my husband, and before I confronted her, I set a trap for her on FB. I posted a very simple but completely vague comment about how much it hurts when those closest to you betray you. No names, no clue as to what the betrayal was. She inboxed me demanding to know what I thought she had done to betray me. I asked her why she thought it was about her and why she was being so defensive. She couldn't give me an answer, just spluttered around and then went back to her demanding questions. Bingo! Caught my fish!click to expand
Posted by MoonArtistThis is so helpful. After I see my Cancer friend he clearly needs time to regroup. However, that's the time, immediately after, that I like to talk over things that were said (and done). So I always see silence as "it never happened." But this is the third time he's done it, and he's always come back. I know I have two choices 1. be okay with it... 2. walk away. I think he's worth waiting for, so I'm learning to manage my expectations.Posted by JkatsThat's the irony of people calling Cancers "clingy".....we're really not. I've gone more than 10 days not talking to people I love and that's without a fight being involved! Sometimes I don't want to be chatty, sometimes I want to deal with life and then be in my own space/head until I feel like being social again.Posted by MoonArtistI only got so mad because I was trying to be very nice and understanding about him needing space, and yet he still ignored me. Granted, he could've been busy, but I know his schedule and figured that most likely than not, that he was awake. And he was, because when I sent him that text about his behavior being juvenile, he answered right away. I "get" that cancerians need space once in awhile or if they're mad/upset/hurt, but 10 days of silence for no reason seems really uncalled for imo. And as for the whole texting thing, i've learned my lesson, and know now not to get too caught up in that shit.
I'd disappear, too, if someone flipped out because of a 3 hr. delay in text messages. When people pull that demanding baby bs "why didn't you answer me??!!" in text or phone, especially when not much time as gone by, they will get iced. How important that person is to me will determine how long I stay silent and gone.click to expand
Ohhhh! What a pleasant surprise to see this thread. Gives me something to read too. I'll chime in, in a bit. 🙂
@Arielle83
Thanks for speaking up for me, but it is no trouble at all for me to pass my thoughts on the situations others come to me for. I have a seemingly limitless capacity to help people, especially if it is something I know something about. In this case, Cancer males 🙂
But yes, sometimes I do need some 'me time', and hopefully the favor is returned when I could use some advice myself.
Thanks for speaking up for me, but it is no trouble at all for me to pass my thoughts on the situations others come to me for. I have a seemingly limitless capacity to help people, especially if it is something I know something about. In this case, Cancer males 🙂
But yes, sometimes I do need some 'me time', and hopefully the favor is returned when I could use some advice myself.
So a couple of examples of my own trials:
#1
A big pet peeve of mine is people who say they are going to do something and don't, and/or when they say they'll never do something and they do it anyway. If you want to get close to me, you are going to have to past the 'hypocrisy test'. I don't even initiate this test myself, they do. The moment they say they will do _________, or they say they'll never do __________. Ok then, let's find out, shall we?
If I can't confide in you to be true to your own fucking words, why on EARTH would I trust you with my most intimate feelings? If this person finds that I have vanished from the face of the planet without a single word, guess what? You fucking failed. I am a Cancer, and it is easy for me to differentiate between being nice, and being kind. Don't tell me shit you don't really follow because you want to be nice and tell me what I want to hear. Your bullshit is crystal clear, and you can go fuck yourself.
#2
I need to make sure a person of interest isn't going to go, "Like, oh my God! I'm so dating a woman!" The moment I show how sensitive I can be. So many people don't even understand how much I have to hold back due to my gender. The emotional prowess and energy of Cancer, slapped into a male of this society? And you wonder why we have issues? To be perceived as weak and effeminate if I show emotion if it is any other time than a family member dying, or some other kind of devastating trauma. And even then, if I don't show it, I am seen as strong and resilient. Resilient!?
The one person I need to understand this side to myself, is my romantic partner. She is going to have to pass the 'sentimental test'. Typically I will want to watch a movie or play a song on the piano that I know chokes me up. Anything that dangerously exposes my sentimental side for her to see. Her reaction can result in either me ripping her clothes off, or a complete a total sudden withdrawal from me.
#1
A big pet peeve of mine is people who say they are going to do something and don't, and/or when they say they'll never do something and they do it anyway. If you want to get close to me, you are going to have to past the 'hypocrisy test'. I don't even initiate this test myself, they do. The moment they say they will do _________, or they say they'll never do __________. Ok then, let's find out, shall we?
If I can't confide in you to be true to your own fucking words, why on EARTH would I trust you with my most intimate feelings? If this person finds that I have vanished from the face of the planet without a single word, guess what? You fucking failed. I am a Cancer, and it is easy for me to differentiate between being nice, and being kind. Don't tell me shit you don't really follow because you want to be nice and tell me what I want to hear. Your bullshit is crystal clear, and you can go fuck yourself.
#2
I need to make sure a person of interest isn't going to go, "Like, oh my God! I'm so dating a woman!" The moment I show how sensitive I can be. So many people don't even understand how much I have to hold back due to my gender. The emotional prowess and energy of Cancer, slapped into a male of this society? And you wonder why we have issues? To be perceived as weak and effeminate if I show emotion if it is any other time than a family member dying, or some other kind of devastating trauma. And even then, if I don't show it, I am seen as strong and resilient. Resilient!?
The one person I need to understand this side to myself, is my romantic partner. She is going to have to pass the 'sentimental test'. Typically I will want to watch a movie or play a song on the piano that I know chokes me up. Anything that dangerously exposes my sentimental side for her to see. Her reaction can result in either me ripping her clothes off, or a complete a total sudden withdrawal from me.
Posted by JkatsI just couldn't do it.Posted by ListenlearnteachLol, why do you keep on saying Meh?Posted by JkatsMehPosted by ListenlearnteachLol, I definitely called him every name in the book mentally, but it's all good now. He's behaving as am I, and things couldn't be better. 😉
Ahh man he deserves the jackass of last year and this year award.
Disappeared during the holidays
Reappeared with some sappy bs
No effing way!click to expand
My current Cancer has put me through the wringer with his "tests". But I'll talk about the one that he actually admitted he had been testing me with. We are in a casual relationship, therefore we don't really have too much to do with each other when we are not together. So I was shocked to get a phone call from him one day when he was on his way to the ER because of a soccer injury. He wanted to ask me if I would "take care of him" because he was hurt. I might have taken him seriously if his friends hadn't been in the background laughing and making rude comments. I checked in on him a day later and when I found out the injury wasn't as bad as he made it seem, I kind of let him have it about calling me and asking me that in front of his friends, considering the nature of our relationship. He said he was "testing the waters", but I still cannot figure out what reaction he was hoping to get from me... Every time he starts testing me like this I have to reaffirm with him, that we need to keep clear boundaries in this kind or relationship. he always agrees with me, and then this testing happens again...
oddly though, this cancer has never been the one to disappear. It's actually always been me to initiate any periods of no contact, because he keeps doing something to piss me off. Maybe it happens to be a mutual need for space but he always comes back, or if I reach out he responds immediately.
oddly though, this cancer has never been the one to disappear. It's actually always been me to initiate any periods of no contact, because he keeps doing something to piss me off. Maybe it happens to be a mutual need for space but he always comes back, or if I reach out he responds immediately.
I don't know about trials but my experience is Mr. Cancer would ask me a million questions and crazy yet fucked up scenarios. I answer them honestly. One day he wants to be lovey dovey and the next min he is pushing me away. I have step back because the off and on dating is a bit much and confusing. I love him to death and want to be with him but he is too doubtful with himself.
Posted by MoonArtistThis is very interesting, I will keep this information handy if this ends up happening again lol! But geez, that's a lot of space needed from the one you love.Posted by JkatsIt's not punishment. Cancers like space because of our moods, and because sometimes other people's moods + our moods are more than we can deal with.Posted by Arielle83I think you need to reread what I wrote. I did nothing to deserve the 10 days of silence.
Well judging by how you behaved in your op to this cancer guy, I can figure out why he took a break.
Maybe one day you can look at your own actions and figure out why a guy would need time for himself without someone demanding (via text, of all things) his attention. You're the older one in this situation, so let the kid breath for fuck sake.click to expand
Posted by Arielle83I've heard that Cancerians (some) have a different sense of time then others, perhaps this is true?
Ya in your opening op you say "my cancer DECIDED to disappear..."
Like he's doing something intentionally when really he isn't.
Maybe his sense of time is different from yours. He prob was busy.
And even if not done on purpose, at some point in time, they do realize what they're doing.
Girl I could tell you soooo many...but I don't wanna rehash..its too exhausting...I'm gonna start testing back if I ever get the chance. Mindfuckery at its best!!
Posted by GoldigoldPosted by KoniuchaWithout me...I won't move there..Posted by GoldigoldIs he talking about moving back there with or without you?
Yesterday I sent him a message while he was at work "how is your day love?" I didn't hear from him for 5 hours, I didn't text back anything to him. I knew I'd hear from him eventually...he finally wrote back " Sorry it was a crazy busy day I'm now headed to the airport" he is visiting family in Canada. I took a picture of the moon and wrote safe travels and sent it to him. He wrote back Thanks babe, I love you. I told him I love you too. Now I won't bother him while he is visiting his friends and family. It makes him wonder about me..I just let him be sometimes...I pull back/away....not to test him. But sometimes this relationship emotionally drains me...but I don't want to let him go..
He is talking about moving back to Canada, I told him he should go. I think that hurt his feelings but if he doesn't have it in his heart to move closer then he should go. Then I will have to but an end to this..
Any advise, it seems like he doesn't know what he is doing in life...this is our challenge.click to expand
he prolly wants you to call his bluff!!! Sooo lame.
That sucks!! Ughhh....why does he wanna move why cant he move to be with you?
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I have noticed this tendency with crabs. They are morally so weak. Is it just that I have this impression from my experience or cancers are really like that. Both men and women.
Romantically. I'm not talking about your fave friends or anything. Or okay...top three if you can't nail it down. 2nd question: Which sign do you find yourself physically attracted to or lusting over again and again? (I know this doesn't mean the s
Last Saturday, the Cancer I'd been dating for 14 months, and I had another explosive argument (which often arises because things escalate so quickly). What started the argument was that asked me if everything was ok, and I said that I'd been feeling reall
Just would love for someone to tell me about this male cancers chart and what is he like in the romantic topic. Thank you Sun- cancer Moon- Taurus Mercury- Leo Venus- cancer Mars - Gemini Jupiter- Leo Saturn-virgo Uranus- Scorpio Neptune- Sagi
How do you know if its real or its lust with Cancers?
My Crab (male) decided to disappear on me for 10 days for no particular reason. All I had said (this was following a couple days after I had just seen him, we parted on good terms) was that I still had some questions and concerns about our future. He goes, so no future? Me, no I didn't say that. Him, i'm going to sleep. So the next day I sent him a lengthy message explaining what I meant, I made sure to be very sweet and calm as to not upset him, he read it, no reply. So I decided to give him his space, 10 days passed. It was near Christmas, I needed his address, so I texted him asking for it, after no response for close to 3 hours I blew my top.
Me: Your silence is fucking juvenile, i'm not going to waste my time on somebody who obviously doesn't give a fuck about me. I don't know if you were just playing games with me, but you don't love me.
Him: Good don't waste! *thumbs up sign
Me: *** you don't talk to me for 10 fucking days, how else am I supposed to react?
Him: No, it's an understandable reaction.
Me: If you don't want me in your life, why can't you just tell me that?
Him: Cause that's not it.
....... communication was open after that incident.
And for those of you who know my backstory and advised me to run far away, said that he was playing me, i'm happy to say that we are doing great! "The best thing for love is time" his words. *swoon*