Cautious vs. Uninterested

It seems like cancers' behavior when they are being cautious could be confused by others as the cancer being uninterested. For example, I've witnessed a cancer talking to everyone in the room but the person he fancied. That could easily be interpreted as uninterested had I not known in advance that he fancied the person. Obviously a cancer yelling at you would indicate disinterest, but what about those grey areas in between?

I'm hoping some of you cancers can help tell me what cautious cancer behavior looks like versus what uninterested cancer behavior looks like.

"For example, I've witnessed a cancer talking to everyone in the room but the person he fancied."

Yes! I did that a lot. I was trying to work myself up to it I guess.

Thats true. When a Cancer isn't interested we'll pretty much let it be known. We won't hold anything back because we're not interested anyway so it doesn't matter what we say or do we pretty much want you to know that we're not interested. If we are interested you get a reserved acting Cancer.

so maybe I should consider the fact that he has never said he WASN'T interested a good sign then?

unfortunately it doesnt seem like Cancers consider this of the behaviors of others. if you dont approach them or show an intense interest then they feel like you are disinterested.

that's what I thought....didn't work out so great

oh well....trying to be patient, cross my fingers and yeah well....wait....

"so maybe I should consider the fact that he has never said he WASN'T interested a good sign then?"

Exactly! Stay patient!

Hi SF, how was your date?

we havent had the date yet. He works long hours on the weekend.

***hugs cancer lady*** I needed that :0)

"Cautious - I observe and ask questions, either directly or indirectly. Simple."

sounds like someone I know..... ahem.....

If he says he wasnt intersted take it as he was interested. LC head on.


what does that mean?

xangelfishx it means he isn't interested. if i am not interested in someone i won't waste my time or theirs..we might not be direct in a lot of matters and if we are with you then take it to heart cause we mean it..

True

maybe it was a typo - am I the only one who realized it said if he says he isn't interested take it as he IS interested?

i think it was a typo, i noticed it too but was kinda either waiting for the person who typed it to clarify or for context clues to kick in

not that I've been told any such thing...that might actually make life easier... but I just didn't understand the post.

You should go ahead and move on. It seem like all it would be is a power struggle between the too of you. Too many indians and not enough chiefs.

buut what if they are direct, but totaly contradicts themselves. like one day saying they aren't interested, and then later syaing they are, and back and forth... ?

"If I'm not interested, usually I will appear bored and possibly in a bad mood. If you ask me, I will tell you straight out that I am not interested."

oh shit, i always feel liek hes bbored when we are together, hes always so quiet and blah, which makes me nervous, then i go on rambling..... true, true..... hes not interested then.

LLT just move on sweetie.