How to handle a caner man who's upset with you

Recently the cancer guy I'm dating got upset with me. When I asked him why he is upset his response "I shouldn't have to tell you". My question is do I continue to ask him to tell me what I did (I have a really good idea, he's been feeling neglected because I haven't been able to see him in a while) or do I wait until he's ready to talk? Do I apologize for neglecting him (even if it's not on purpose)?

Usually if there's an issue, it's me being upset with him but this is the first time he's been upset with me (that I know of 🙂) and I just wanted advice on how to handle this. Any comments would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks.

If he is upset with you, I suggest (only a suggestion) for you to just let him sulk. If he likes to sulk, let him. You could express to him that you know it seems as if you are neglecting him but you are not intentionally doing it, he will respond to kind of feeling to that sort, plus that will let him know that you are in tune with his feelings and emotions which he will find very attractive. Once you share your feelings, back off some until he comes back around to you. As long as he is aware that you are in tune with his feelings, he will come out of his shell. If he doesn't open up, let him sulk.

what if hes never comes out and continues to be bitter and blaming you?
what do you do in that situation?

I don't know about other women but I would tell him before we even get started doing anything serious, if you don't agree with something I do, you need to tell me. You need to set boundaries so that I would know upfront what you like or dislike. I would tell him all he has to do is tell me, not really because you need to share your feelings but I need to know what I need to do to protect your heart from going through any pain I would cause you to make you resentful. I don't know, it has worked for me. And it is only a suggestion with what has worked in my experience. It may or may not work out in another person's situation.

the fact that he told you "you should already know" tells you he expects you to apologize - if he thinks you already know what you did then he thinks you are doing it on purpose. I wouldn't recommend saying that you think that's what you did though - because if that's not it then he might get even more upset - you might want to just talk to him and tell him that you know you've been really busy lately and you hope he hasn't felt neglected but if he did then you're sorry [assuming you are] and either he'll cheer up or he won't and then you'll know that wasn't what he was upset about.

Sexyscorp.. don't mean to be too vulgar but maybe this can be resolved in the sack.. they say if there's ever any issues between a cancer and scorp, the bedroom is where it's solved.

Krobe,

You're advice was dead on. I sent him a text and just said that I really cared for him and that I wasn't avoiding him intentionally. I didn't hear anything from him the rest of the evening but got a phone call the next day asking if I wanted to meet for breakfast and that everything was cool. So we ate, hung out, and the topic never came up (not sure if that's a good thing) but he seems to be over it. Letting him work it out for himself was a good idea. I think because they are so emotional no amount of me telling him I wasn't doing it on purpose was going to help. I think he just needed a little time to figure it out.

SRG,
LOL, I think that's the other reason he was able to get over it quickly.

However, I have another question so since the beginning whenever he's said anything that suggests how he feels he's always done so indirectly. Yesterday we were just sitting there talking about ex's and he said "its ok I know you only love me". I didn't say anything to that because I didn't know to respond to it or not. The word love or anything else that has anything to do with feelings has never come out of his mouth. Do you think he was trying to test the waters? Or am I making too big of a deal?

Thanks to everyone for their feedback 🙂

Do you think he was trying to test the waters? Or am I making too big of a deal?

He will ask you question like that too? LOL! Don't do like me, I acted like he threw me off guard and of course, that made him upset. Just ask him does he love you in a playful way. I did not dot that but I heard that would be good advice. I simply put it off to feel his raft. LOL! Just act cool about it, and back off of the question a bit, if you rush up on him to fast, he will probably back off some. DOn't know all the answers but it has worked for me in my experience.

Sexyscorp.. just like I thought, you had everything under control from the start.

But seriously, why do people have to overthink things so much? Relationships are that much easier when you don't have to over analyze every spoken word and instead can just enjoy each others company without saying anything at all. Am I right or am I right?

Leokitten,

That was beautiful, and I guess as direct as a cancer man is ever going to get 🙂

SRG,
You are definitely right, however, if we didn't over think things (which unfortuately is a female trait, a lot of us anyway) we wouldn't be on these boards would we 🙂

Leokitten,

That was beautiful, and I guess as direct as a cancer man is ever going to get 🙂

SRG,
You are definitely right, however, if we didn't over think things (which unfortuately is a female trait, a lot of us anyway) we wouldn't be on these boards would we 🙂

Overthinking = stress, stress = shorter lifespan and less time in the sack. 🙂

Next time sexyscorp.. don't take any of that guilt trip crap.. sometimes we cancers like to throw stuff like that at you just to get you to admit how you really feel.. then again, you already knew that..

You know I did know that, I just totally forgot. Now that you mentioned it, it would make sense with how he acted. Why do you guys do that? Would it really be that bad to just say what you feel!! Oh wait, I'm talking about cancers so I guess it would 🙂

Isn't holding all those feelings in stressful!!!

I don't know, sometimes I catch myself doing it too.. being indirect is part of our nature. When you understand the nature of something you'll know what it's capable of.

tell him you are sorry, buy him an ice cream, and let him play with your boobies..that is how you handle a cancer man who is upset with you..lol

ohhhhhhh.....that;s what I was missing......the ice cream !

there you go xangelfishx. see you forgot to fulfill his oral fixation :-)

LOL, Cansir I will be trying the ice cream as well 🙂

"tell him you are sorry, buy him an ice cream, and let him play with your boobies..that is how you handle a cancer man who is upset with you..lol"

lol

What is it with cancer men and boobies? Even my gay as can be cancer male friend has a thing for female boobies.

my shopping list
boobs............check
ice cream........need to buy

What is it with cancer men and boobies?

we like them......a lot...lol. scorpiochick not that we would say no to fakies but we do prefer natural :-)

Aaah.. boobies.. give us boobies and we'll give you the world. You gotta admit scorpiochick, we cancers know how to handle them 😉

Taurus girls have the most beautiful boobies

How to handle a cancer man? Give him boobies and he'll handle them.

I kid you not, taurus chicks have the most exquisitely perfect mammaries out there.. I haven't seen a pair better.

Donate to breast cancer research.. save boobies!

So they say cancers have some of the nicest and it's probably true but i've never experienced it first hand.. don't really get along with other cancers.

The best thing about taurus boobies is that you never get tired of them and they never get tired of you.. what more could you ask for?

Womankind thanks you for your services.

This could become a really long discussion.. i'm just stating for the record, we cancers can get off on boobies alone.. especially the taurean kind.

My apologies for going totally off tangent.. just had a few booby flashbacks.

No I meant I was just thinking about boobies

"there you go xangelfishx. see you forgot to fulfill his oral fixation :-)"

oohhhh noooooo.....oral fixations are never left unsatiated with me ;0)

dear god I must have picked the one cancer man on earth who doesn't like breasts then because you can't miss MINE...........

"can't miss MINE"

Please elaborate.. meaning what?

LOL - elaborate how ? I think it's pretty clear

You mean they're really big?

that's what I mean

Have you considered a career in the adult industry? 🙂

oh like you're the first person to ever tell me that........