Pep talk

Ok-here you go girls? You don't have to be so pretty or so precious for us guys. Most are not looking for a beautiful model girlfriend!

It is so simple and lots of you girls don't get it.

The right attitude and just hangin' in there means a lot to us guys.

Just spend the time, and show you care. If you want the guy, that simple? Guys are stupid creatures and it does not take much to woo a nice guy.

Everybody gets so down on all this bull butter.

Just hang in there girls, it is not that tough.

I can tell you all wild stories, love lost and love found.

You girls just need to realize, we don't care about a few extra pounds. It all comes down to your attitude. A fun playful demeanor, you girls have no idea how far that goes? Every single one of you can do it, you all have the sparkle in your eyes, all it takes!

I would love to find me a fun compatible soul mate. I really don't much care what she looks like. Yea if she is hot that's cool, but she must be fun. If we play and get along real well who cares about the rest, this is so much more important!

I'm trying to make a point here girls. I don't care if I'm hot or you are hot, who gives a flip. In the end we must get along. That is the key to everything.

I cruise out here in MX and seen it all in action. You must have a very high level of compatibility?

All ya'll need to get off the freakin' computer, walk on the beach, enjoy the fall weather and just go enjoy your lifes? Get off the virtual world? Never know who you might meet out there!!

David

Hi Aces, you know the drill don't you. ALL you have to do is HANG IN THERE and of course show support. Good, positive feedback. You know I appreciate it.

I agree moon eyes - I have a lot of male friends and they all say the same thing "why can't I find a nice girl who doesn't boss me around and act like a bitch...." but they also all DO the same thing - pass up the NICE girls for the trashy ones that go running around the bars half naked and demanding that men buy them drinks...then these guys can't figure out why their girlfriends treat them badly.... I tell them all the same thing "you picked her" Guys make a lot of flowery speeches about not wanting the "model types" but that is rarely ever reality - I said RARELY not never.

It is not all about the Drama!! I just hate that word, ya'll can go find all the dramma you wanna?

If you are serious about a nice guy, no more drama!!

I'm a little pissed off with some of the posts here. Not so much here but over on the scorp board?

I need to find me a better brand of loosers to hang out with!

Moon_eyes--

There will be no quarrel. Intelligent post, and I like it! I had a long discussion with my ex scorp girl friend. I understand you are a very attractive woman? No biggie, who gives a flip here.

My latest sometimes girlfriend said sometimes guys just push and push and push? OK... She says sometimes you can't figure out how to say no? I just don't understand this thinking. She was in a big tirade and I said, "That is pathetic." She said would you reconsider your statement, and I stood straight up and said, "NO!"

She dang near kicked me out and I was willing to take my leave.

I know it is hard for some of you girls. Ya'll are so precious and so adorable.

But as a guy? Do I want to be with a girl that will sacrifice her integrity, dignity and her most precious moments for a guy she don't want to sleep with?

Do I want to sleep with a girl like that? HELL NO!! I lost all respect for her?

I know it is hard for you girls out there, You girls are hot and, guys are dogs?

NEVER, NEVER sacrifice your integrity or dignity for something you don't want to to do!!

David

Thanks for posting this Aces. You make some very good points.

Not all men are as nice as your message, but there are definately some good ones out there and if the guy doesn't like you and you're displaying a positive attitude and doing the things you wrote about, then he isn't the right guy.

It is too easy sometimes to get caught up in the tiniest of details of our interactions with the opposite sex and this helps serve as a nice reminder to relax.

Very nice post 🙂

scorpiochick-

Nice post, intelligent. I like that! I love to write and will do anything I can to help ya'll out.

BTW I'm real frustrated on these scorp girls. I sure would like to find me a nice one!

You will be fine (you got the sparkle, I see it in your writing) and I'll write more later!

No loss of words here among good friends!

David

Well Aces I am sure if you play your cards right you will find the right girl for you....

Took your advice and got outside, had a opportunity to do some traveling with work and saw some pretty country side. Where I live its a beautiful time of year as all the leaves are changing color and its awesome....

Had the opportunity to go up north and on thursday to cap off our trip flew over Hudson's Bay and actually saw a polar bear....a once in a lifetime trip....my dad would have loved it if he was still alive....We flew about 500-1000 feet above and it felt like you could just reach out and touch the everything....

You are definately right....about getting out and experiencing things, I think I am going to try and just take life as it comes and stop trying to figure things out and strategize as to what people are thinking and what the correct move should be....

I have learned from my experience to just take it as it comes and to stop trying to hide my feelings....what ever happens happens....what ever I say and say and thats just all there is to it....fate destiny all that stuff is totally out of ones control....you just have to go with the flow....

Thanks for the pep talk!

aces,

You have written some good advice. Just replace where you wrote "girls" with "guys" and then follow what you've written. There are some good and bad apples of each sign and each sex. If you are doing the things you've written about and not getting results then perhaps it isn't the right woman.

If you send me you and your sweetie's birth info, I'll take a look and see if anything stands out that might be helpful.

Thanks Scorpiochick- I dunno much about astrology, but is interesting? I know I'm a Cancer but you guys start talking all this planet placement and I'm lost? I was born July 9, 1966, 4:30 am eastern daylight time. If you can shed some insight or direct me to a website that don't want $ $ , that would be great?

I'm done with the Scorp girl. It is too bad, we had some real sparks. I like Scorp girls, but like you say, she is just not the right one...

Roxi--

I picked up your messages and you sound like a sweet lady. I tried to get back to you but I don't think the messages went out? When I'm in Spain, I'll hollar and maybe we can go have lunch?

Ha HA... I just trying to help out here. I'm a little down over the Scorp girl, but what you gonna do? Set sail and get over it!!

I don't have much to say tonite, but everybody keep their head up!

I'm rooting for each of you!!

Swords Crossed out here!

David

Cheeky-

Sorry I did not repy to your post. YOU GOT IT GIRLFRIEND!! Get out, forget about the computer... I'm fixin' to throw mine overboard!

I fly and just love all the wonderful experiences!

I play cards alot and my boat is called "Shoot the Moon". I'll take the Queen of Hearts anytime... We sail hard out here and I have gotten out and met so many wonderful people...

I'm at aces_high9@yahoo.com.

Cards?

Life is alot like cards sometimes? Sometimes you get the cards and sometimes you don't.

Point here Cheeky, you gotta let the cards fall as they may. You can't control it sometimes? Soon you will be dealt a great hand, grab it and make the best of it!!

Keep your head up with Swords Crossed!!

Ha HA, Yahaaa

David

This is one one boring ass post x(

Voiceintheshadows-

Get a life and get outta here. You want some drama, I'm sure you can find it elsewhere, not here!

I don't don't like you stomping on an intelligent thread...

Yea, I can get real mean, some people deserve it!!

David

aces, nice birthday as mine is July 9th as well..no wonder we seem to have the same type of thinking.

Aces, if you give me the name of the town where you were born I can pull up a chart for you. You don't have to post it here. You can message me if you are uncomfortable making it public.

Cansir- Now I want to buy you two beers! You seem like a cool guy! I stand with you brother! I'm just standing to help you and all these girls out?

Scorpiochick- I'll buy you a beer too! You guys are great. I was born July 9, 1966, 4:30 am in Manhasset Long Island NY.

David.

aces, sounds good to me. what are we in the mood for? new york night life or buckets of beer in texas :-)

merc that could work..you going to join us?

Cancir- I'm a long way fom NYC, if you travel to Mexico, I guess it will be three beers! Ha HA--

This for ya'll-->

I'm attracted to strong, intelligent, sensitive women. I don't like flighty, flakey women. If the lights are on and nobody is home I'd rather go home alone? I have to feel there is at least the possibility of something long term. I've made plenty of mistakes in my choices and sometimes let the heart rule the mind. Somehow you gotta find the balance here.

It is perfectly OK and natural to be scared. I don't take matters of the heart lightly. In courting women, there is always excitement, but I'm always a little scared. Regardless of the physical aspects there is a point where the heart takes the plunge. It is not a conscious decision, it just happens? There is always risk and fear involved. I get attached so quickly, which is a good and bad thing. I've become attached to women and later realized it was a mistake and man that HURTS!

Cancer men are tough, but usually not to aggressive. We are sitting back and measuring the situation. If your fellow retreats into his shell, give him some time. He is probably weighing his emotions over you. You need to make some contact, show you care, show support, but don't be too aggressive! I know, the fine line. Use your best instincts here girls!

It is so easy to get caught up in our lives and our little world. This can lead to over analyzing things and poor perspective? It has happened to me more than once?

You mention insanity? Love is insane in many ways. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results?

It got to the point with this Scorp girl where the same stuff was happening over and over. I finally told her no more. I'm not saying it does not hurt! But like you say, sometimes you gotta know when to hold ?em and when to fold ?em! Funny the differences in the Zodiac? Everybody has been great on the Cancer board, but the Scorp board is quite different! They can be very sharp tongued over there and some have told me to,?run like hell!? Ha HA Different perspectives? Me and this Scorp girl were very careful with the physical stuff and got to know each other very well first. I was way attached and everything was going so good prior to any precious moments. But shit! She has this propensity to push away? The same thing was happening over and over. I think she was just really scared of taking the plunge with her heart.

aces i feel what you are saying with your scorp girl cause i had the same thing happen with my exvirgal. she got scared and pushed me away and like you i got very attached. saw and talked to her for the first time a few weeks ago and it was cool. i hope one day to regain our friendship but who knows cause life marches on..

i am half mexican so mexico would work :-) mmm, negro modelo, bohemia, carta blanca, nice..

Cansir-

Cool! I'm just a dumb gringo, but you think so much like myself! I wish I could Espanol more! Habla Espanol? I write too much and it is sorta a release for me?

Mi no Espanol, well a little, but pathetic. I just wish I could speak and write Spanish better. I understand alot more than I can speak/write?

Just a dumb gringo here. Now I owe you 4 beers!

Seems we got lots of women here from all over the world. How freakin' cool!!

David

Wait....when did this lovely post of encouragement and pep for the women turn into a frat board?

Merc-

GO! Please don't be shy! Sounds like a big party with buckets of beer ala Texas style ! I grew up in California, but spent a Looong time in TX.

I can do the fixin' and ya'll real quick?

No worries, sorry to get real emotional and whatever... I'll cover the first bucket of beer in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico!!

Would be great to have all the ladies here too!

David

SF-

No frat board here. Sorry, you just have to participate and I will respond! Guys are just guys? Sorry again?

David

lol no need to apologize it was kind of cute to see yall making friends playing nicely. It was a good post tho, I took it to heart and Im feeling good. Its nice to have pleasantries in the forum

well my mom side is the mexican half and my dad side is the dumb gringo side..lol. yeah i wish i could speak spanish too so i opted for the two years in high school which i almost failed but i do know a lot of the bad words..lol..so sounds like a trip to mexico is in order :-)

Oh so good to see the men chatting! SO peaceful and loving you Cancer men.

Hey Merc- I want to hear from you!! Just go!!

Cansir- Give me your travel info. I can espanol enough to get by, No worries! Call it full immersion, whoops, not really, I hang out with a bunch of gringos/gringas.

This thread is going to die without the women? I've made wonderful virtual friends here, Ya'll are great!!

Swords Crossed!

David

I think the outcome of your post...positive, informing & you walk away with a few new friends & buckets of beer! My cancer man...I love him...he's been deeply wounded in the past as have I...but he's the scared one...I'm giving him his time & his space respectively...being a scorp girl that is a task all in itself! I know what I want and I've known for a lonnng time its him...how do I get him to trust & let me in that air tight shell of his?...boys?! =)