AAAARRRRRR Aquarius ahead!

Fuckedifuck, I like an aquarius *sigh*... and WORST of all... he likes me TOO!!!!!!!

🙂

Oh no stay away!!! Friends will be good but anything else will be earthquake in the making!!

but he's SO ADORABLY cute! 😢 🙂

aquas make good kissers too 🙂

I wouldn't do it. They don't want to be attached but at the same time don't want you to be the one to let go of them and they'll never go away on their own, and they are abusive pyhsically and mentally once in a relationship at least the ones I know.

Seriously? Have you been in a relationship with an aqua before?
This one seems harmless though.. 🙂

antibling 10/13/2007 11:26:39 AM | ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.12E

all this 'don't do it' would probably make a Cancer go and do the opposite anyways.......


🙂 🙂 🙂

I just can't imagine aquas ever being aggressive

I have a good friend who has been with an Aqua male for 8 years now. She told me she attracted him by not being interested in him at all. He had to grow on her and let her tell it, he still is not the type of man she really wants to be with. I know she is the MAN in the relationship. She is RUNNING things, if you can not act too interested and rule him, he will be yours.

He sent me about 30 messages today I think.
I think he gets off on the freaky stuff I say/think/write =D

I just can't imagine aquas ever being aggressive

Ummm... Me.

Yes I have been in a relationship with a aqua before and one of my good friends has a aqua boyfriend and he ruined our friendship when he lied and told her I tried to come on to him when he was the one who tried to come on to me. They come off as harmless in the begining but once things get started it will definatly take a turn for the worse, thats why I said friends is ok and if you want a friends with benfits type thing thats cool as well just make sure he doesnt't catch feelings in the process thats when you'll have a real problem on your hands. Actually my relationship with the aqua was the best thing that could have happened to me at that time. He taught me alot and I wouldn't have known how to appreciate my sweet bull had he not treated me so badly!

Lol aqua-males remind me ofuhmmm.. ME!

Advice from an aqua that was aloof enough (or stupid enough - it's the same) to drive his cancer lady away. a)sex will be great as both sensitive signs b)once there's a bond aqua is really faithful c)he loves been taken care of (cancer calling) however a)sex might be only bond if not followed by (b) b)even if there's a bond aqua will still act aloof but important don't take it personally c)you taking care of him = he will use his progressive mind to move earth around you. Hope I helped (tried to save someone else from my mistakes...)

I'm trying to save her too Tas and

"a)sex might be only bond if not followed by (b) b)even if there's a bond aqua will still act aloof but important don't take it personally c)you taking care of him = he will use his progressive mind to move earth around you."

Is 9 times out of 10 how the relationship will end up!

Tas - I read your past post and it feels good to know that although you Aquas may not show us Cancers that you feel, that you actually do. I know with my ex-Aqua ALOOF was his FIRST NAME.

I think Aqua/Cancer pair can work it is just they BOTH have to put that much more effort into making it happen if they BOTH really want it. If they do this and are successful at it then I think it would be that much harder for either to leave and will always think of each other if they do decide to go.

My ex-Aqua still calls me and tells me he misses me, and I often wonder why now? We are not together. But I realize that expressing feelings/emotions do not come easily for him, but when he does express them he means it.

Cancers have a tendency to over think things and over-analyze situations. Not always, but once you get to know them, believe what they say because they do like honestly and seem to have no problem telling it bluntly even if it may offend or hurt someone's feelings.

I think that because of how different Cancer and Aqua are, once and a Cancer has loved Aqua, nothing would compare for the Aqua. (Just my opinion)

I believe that too because I know my ex still thinks of me and would probably do anything humanly possable to get me to come back to him but I want someone who invest just as much emotion as I do in a relationship and don't mind making that investment visable to himself and others, not a person who while in a relationship still have a single mind set.

Thanks everyone for your input!
Very helpful! 🙂

So ok, this week "my" aqua called me twice for like half an hour and it was mad fun 🙂
We laughed a lot and there was not a single awkward silence!
Then on thursday we went out and ended up in a cocktailbar. Same thing; we talked and talked and laughed and talked some more and laughed some more =D
It was very amusing!

So he sends me t-messages every day... LOTS... CONSTANTLY 🙂
Very sweet, cute, funny, sexy messages and I just HAVE to send back.
He's "quite fond" of me I think (he tells me himself... 😄 )

He finds me.. very mysterious (not again!! hehe), wicked, funny, crazy-nuts-daft-insane and veWy beautiful (well have you ever.. :p )

He has amazing eyes! Is that typical aquarius?
His stare is very uhm hypnotizing... But it just makes me wanna stare right back at him. He likes that haha! He says he's never come across anyone that could say so much with her eyes -- the way I do? .....I was just flirting haha!!

Where is this heading to I wonder?

It is just the beginning so PREPARE yourself for him to become very aloof.

Aquas do not deal well with emotion, so right now he thinks it is fun getting to know you and trying to figure out the mystery.

NEVER, NEVER, EVER be an open book to an Aqua. REMAIN A MYSTERY. He will lose interest very fast. They like mystery. When they disappear it can be for hours, days, weeks or months. And when he does this DO NOT FRET or take it personally. This is what they do. They are lovers of the world at large and they NEED TO experience different people. They love that. If he cares anything for you he will return.

I have known my ex-Aqua for 4 years and when they feel you, you will be able to tell. They may just be hesitant to express the feelings they have because they DO NOT KNOW WHAT THEY ARE. They will not tell you how they feel, if they feel it, they will SHOW YOU (ACTIONS DEFINITELY). YOU just have to cognizant of the fact that they express feeling differently from what you are probably used to or from what you expect.

They will distance themselves very quickly if you become emotional, they are very uncomfortable with that sort of stuff. It is only after they fall in love with you and figure that is how you are and learn how to deal with that, will they be able to stick around during an emotional/heated discussion and not run.

I remember the first time I cried in front of my Aqua. It was 2 _ years into the relationship. He didn't budge or run. He just kind of looked at me like ?Why are you crying?? Oh, and get used to the look, that steady gaze they give you is normal. That intent stare is what they do when the size people up.

Good luck with your Aqua. They are an enigma and you will never be dull!!!

I agree. Have fun and enjoy the chase, its not going to last very long, then you will have to find something or someone to lean on when the texts, phone calls, and visits up and stop out of no where. You probably don't see it coming but trust us it is. So just be prepared and have other interest because you being an aqua center of attention is defiantly short lived.

If it becomes a relationship, you'll make alot of guys, like haffo, envious and disappointed cancimini.

LOL, I strongly doubt that 😛 hehe

Well I strongly doubt that you strongly doubt it.. there seems to be serious demand for cancer chicks these days.. all my friends are chasing after them and fighting over them.

It's not like I'm very emotionally involved yet..
And I don't think I'm ready to start a relationship with him..
I feel like having fun, with or... without him 🙂
I think I'm as much interested in and curious about him as he is in/about me.
He's definitely NOT like me, I've noticed that, but of course a libra or gemini is not an aquarius either and there's a lil' gemini in me too that wants to play with mr. aqua just... for... fun!
And if he sticks around, we'll see what happens.
I just want to know if he's up to something, cause I feel he's acting more "emotional" than I do...

Haha, seriously SRG??
Wicked!! =D
Why??

Oh if he's acting emotional, yes he's up to something like trying to get in your pants and once he does the disappearing acts will begin! But you will enjoy the sex lol.

I shudder at the thought of an emotional aquarius actually 🙂 That's just so NOT DONE hehe.. It's a cancer-privilege 😉
Well, he's not in my pants just yet! Even though he stares with the most beautiful eyes!!!

lol yes the pursuing is only to get what he wants. They act that way with everyone to get them in the bed after that you'll see him acting as everyone is describing him which is how they really are.

and how they really are is ... bad? 🙂

I have to be honest though everything you read about them is cold, aloof and "boring" =D

Bad for a Cancer lol. But if you're just looking to have fun then thats cool, do your thing just don't expect things to be any different with you because they are who they are and they have a great way of manipulating. It might not seem like the way we are describing him is how he is but he's putting on this front to sleep with you. Do you think he would come out and say, I'm just being nice and sweet to you so I can have sex with you then after that I'm not going to call, text,or see you again unless I want to have sex with you again. Of course not, but I'm willing to bet 9 times out of 10 thats his plan.

Oh and beautiful to look at but not very interesting..
I sometimes wonder if they can actually really be in love? How can you experience love without feeling anything?

They do fall in love. My ex was definantly in love with me but it was in a different way that I couldn't grasp. He wanted me at home while he ran the streets. He was stingy and didn't like doing anything as a couple. Movies out to eat nothing. Everything was done at home, but he'd go run to be with the guys and go and chase other women. You have to do what they want you to do if you want things to go smoothly which means allow them to have complete control over you. What made my ex fall for me was I didn't do those things. I didn't allow him to have complete control over me. Just when he thought he had me I would be going to the clubs with my friends not answering the phone when he called, playing games(my Gemini side) then he would cry and say I don't love him and care about his feeling, pulling these guilt trips when I told him I am a woman who likes to go out and do things together with her man. Not sit home alone. Then he started trying to get me pregnant and then it was definatly time for me to go. I changed my number and we haven't spoke or seen each other since. So they can fall in love they just don't give their love in a way that appeals to me and my heart.

Thanks for responding cancer lady! 🙂
It's not like I think that "my" poor little aqua is an angel and that "he just wouldn't do that"! People differ, but when you have the slightest believe in astrology (which I think we're all just a little guilty of when posting on dxp) you can accept certain things more easily 🙂 I do sense a coldness even though he acts "emotional" and I just KNOW that he isn't to be bossed around... cause he obviously likes to be in control!! 🙂

Yes, they'll play the role because in the begining they know that in reality they don't have any control thats why the want the sex. Thats what rules their sense of trying to have emotions and they feel sense they have gotton the sex they have you because women's emotions and sex goes hand and hand. My ex thought I was suppose to be content because he was sleeping with me. I'm like what. Sex is not a relationship but to them it is.

SCARY 🙂
but what is more scary is that he asked to see me this week, next weekend at his place (ssssssss***********************xxx, haha) and then he'd like me to come with him to a "matinee"... and then he asked me to go ski with him *blushes*

...WITH HIM AND HIS FAMILY!!!!!!

Notice he said come by the house FIRST! Once you get to the house and do the do, when its time for you to meet and go out I promise you it won't happen. He will not be calling you or answering the phone when you call him. Then he'll call out the blue and give some lame excuse as to why he couldn't make it this and that but would you like to come over and see him, and thats how the relationship will continue from that point on. Trust!

"...WITH HIM AND HIS FAMILY!!!!!!"

LOL RIGHT!!!

haha! OK ok I'm starting to understaaaaaaaand 😄 FREAKY FREAKY FREAKY

I think I'm just going to drive him nuts!!!
Linda Goodman once wrote that aqua's find it interesting and amusing to provoke different expressions on the face of cancer... well... it works vice versa 😉 hehe 😛

If you're going to play along with his game then go ahead but make sure you know its all a game and its nothing serious on his end. They don't know how to be, its not in them and he will be sleeping with other women so always use protection. But if you're in it for the challenge go ahead and make sure you report back here lol. I want to know all the details. Thats why I even got involved with my ex in the first place, I wasn't looking for a serious relationship I had just gotton out of one and when I told him that he didn't believe me. He thought right thats what she's saying but once I give it to her real good she'll be trying to be with me, and I played and played games with him thats why he couldn't help but get emotional attached to me because I never gave him enough rope to do anything with. Yes we were having sex but I was still clubbing and doing things as if I was single. When he would come to the club I would ignore him. He was really pissed about that and tried to talk to other women in my face and I didn't care I was kicking it with other guys in his face. Things were really crazy but no matter how hard I tried to be he still ended up pulling me in emotionally. I mean I am a Cancer mostly than Gemini so I couldn't act on Gemini alone with out Cancer taking her place in the situation. But it was cool and I learned alot and it was what I needed at that time to prepare me for what I have now. So have fun you're young just don't play yourself thats all.

Hehe, awesome!! 🙂

Are you on the gemini-cancer cusp or do you have (several) planets in gemini?

I'm Gemini-Cancer cusp and I like it because I have a little edge in me that comes from the Gemini so although crabs are always using their shell for protection the Gemini brings a little aloofness/playfullness along with that so it makes it easier to deal with the air and fire signs.

I wonder how gemini does it when she is in love with an aquarius.. or libra!!

Oh CL, that is so very true!!
I've noticed it myself 🙂
The fact that I was born on the cusp makes me a little bit more "emotionally "mobile"" 😄

Most everything Cancer Lady said is correct with respect to the Cancer/Aqua relationship. My Aqua was a little different though, but I am sure that there are basic traits that most of them have. I think my ex Aqua may have had more earth and water in his chart.

I actually believe that Aqua men are one of the most SENSITIVE SIGNS if not more than Cancer (YEAH I SAID IT...LOL). I say this because with Cancer we process our feelings as part of living daily BUT AQUA's are so used to being in control and detaching so easily to make sure they aren't around a person long enough to feel deeply BUT WHEN IT DOES HAPPEN (AND IT DOES) they get really emotional and uncomfortable about it. They just don't like to verbalize feelings, oh but when they process and acknowledge those feelings, they can be the most romantic and loving individuals.

Before ex Aqua and I broke up, I noticed how much more in tune to his feelings he was. Because again, I did things that he probably wasn't used to. After being together and seeing his true self, I too decided that I will show him my true self by showing my emotions when I felt them. (NOT DRAMATIC). I am a Cancer female, and you all know we can get into our moods, so when he would be aloof, I would just mirror his behavior and live life. Aqua's are very attracted to women (people) who have their own life and a sense of direction. Basically you have to have the attitude of "One man don't stop no show"!? They will fall for you big time.

When he does disappear and return he will be wondering whether you missed him and what you've been up to. Be honest and don't try to lie or make them jealous (9 times out of 10 it won't work).

Remember they like to read you like an open book, but keep the pages to their novel shut tight. The best way to TRY and get an Aqua to see your point of view (THEY ARE FIXED SO IT CAN BE HARD) is to discuss an issue calmly and intelligently. If that doesn't work just say something like "Wow hon, usually you tend to be so open-minded." (THAT WILL BLOW HIS MIND...HAHAHAHA...ROFLMAO)

I think with the Gemini its cool at first but Gemini's are pretty emotional too once they fall in love and the aqua wouldn't like that. He would want things to continue as they were while the Gemini now wants more emotionally because she's in love. My first love was a Libra and his charm made me fall head over heels in love quick fast and in a hurry lol. But it was high school nothing serious. He was my first date and all that stuff, my not my real love thats who I'm with now, but in a Gemini relationship with Libra would probably be ok not too sure but I do know that Gemini's like attention and Libra's give attention by displaying charm but in a serious relationship I don't know because Libra's like charming women and being noticed by them and Gemini's tend to be a bit on the jealous side so I don't think that relationship would work long-term.

Yes hotgal I agree with you, when my aqua fell for me he became abusive because he wanted that control and I was mirroring his behavior and he couldn't stand it but after him putting his hands on me and bringing up am I on birth control when he knew all along I wasn't it was time for me to stop playing before I got myself into something serious that it wouldn't be easy to walk away from.

CL it is good you got away from an abusive relationship. It sounds like you and your Aqua were really young.

Me and mines on the other hand were just a bit older and things ended this year. I met him when I was 25 and he had just turned 31. He was never abusive.

Oh I'm so glad you girls share this information with me! 🙂

I looked up his chart..

sun - aquarius
moon - pisces
merc - capricorn
venus - capricorn
mars - scorpio
jupiter - capricorn
saturn - scorpio

(Mine)

sun - cancer
moon - taurus
merc - cancer
venus - cancer
mars - scorpio
jupiter - capricorn
saturn - scorpio