Dating Cancer Men

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by queridagirl on Saturday, January 20, 2007 and has 48 replies.

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@queridagirl
19 YearsCapricorn

The Cancer Man (June 21 to July 22)

"He's usually a sweetheart who loves his mama...his mama wants to move in, and he won't leave the house, except to work. Cure: First, make it clear that home is an even sweeter place to come back to when you leave it once in a while. And hopefully, you'll come to love his mom as much as he does. After all, you can't compete with her."

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That's exactly it!!! You can NEVER compete with a Cancer man's mother!!! Her cooking is better, her jokes are funnier, even the "nail polish she uses is better than the one I use!!

"Despite my efforts to make our home an "even sweeter place to come back to" he would much rather spend his time at his mamma's house! Incredible... even when he had surgery he preffered his mother to comfort him!!! OUCH!! That hurt!! It's still hurting!!!

Don't take me wrong, I truly believe men should respect and love their mothers, but what about when they tag on their mother's skirts during a relationship AND their mothers well being takes precedence over your future wife's well being?

Do Cancer Men ever LEAVE their mothers?

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@MellowDee
21 Years1,000+ Posts

Well my ex is an early June cancer and I've just learned that he is heavily influenced by the moon so I think his Moon was who he gave his first attentions to. One day sweet and attentive, next day cold and critical. His mother was not mentioned that much actually.

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@leo/virgo75
20 Years

I don't think that all Cancer men are close to their mothers, but I DO think that most have a "mommy" complex.

As in, they want a woman to treat them and accept them as their mommy would.

To allow them to do whatever, forgive them endlessly, overlook their flaws, forget any problems, treat them as gently as a baby, etc.

Imagine what you would have liked from your favorite imaginary mother(dessert before dinner, never getting into trouble, given whatever you ask for, allowed to stay up and out as late as you want but lots of hugs and kisses and "so happy to see you" when you get in) and you see what a Cancer man wants.

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@OBPisces
21 Years

Very true about the blunt thing and not letting them make you their mother- I actually told my Cancer that it was disgusting, lol. He got my point.

I have noticed that with Cancer men you do have to have a backbone about you- they will test you to see if you have one or not.

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@OBPisces
21 Years

It's so funny- the other night I tried to get my Cancer to explain how his moods change to tell me what it's like- he just kept smiling and saying that he didn't know what I was talking about- doing that side way shuffle walk that they do- being indirect/aloof but I kept telling him that he knew and to "tell me right now!" lol.

I always ask him to tell me what it's like to be him to be in his head and he just smiles. I really don't think Cancers can explain it or can you?

I mean I change moods but not on a constant basis like that.

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@OBPisces
21 Years

lol- my Cancer gets that way too- shy and all goody goody when you mention his mom, lol. I actually used this as my "weaponry" one day when we were arguing- I told him to think how his mother would feel if she knew he was acting the way he was and that she didn't raise him that way- it really got to him.... hehe but hey it stopped the fight๐Ÿ™‚

Yeah and I believe you when you say it took A LOT for him to say that. Not something they like to outright admit or reveal about themselves- especially being a man but it's what makes them different in a wonderful way. I as a Pisces need someone who can be that feeling and understanding but yet guarded about it and uses it to understand and to love me only- not to reveal to just anybody.

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@OBPisces
21 Years

Our greatest weapon is the "aloof dream world" front. I can read people's true or fake intentions like a book- gift and a curse.

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@fiddlesticks
19 Years500+ PostsCancer

i hated being smothered by my mother. it was embarrassing; i felt like i never had any freedom, and even as much as i love her, i don't feel like i need to see her regularly. this might have to do with my sag rising... but i dunno. of course, i didn't realize how much i loved her until she was admitted to the hospital when i was in 10th grade.. i was a wreck for weeks.

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@cancerLA
20 Years500+ Posts

Start having more sex with him.....train him like a dog to know that when he comes home, there will be an encounter.....we (cancer guys) love that......besides....mom can't out do THAT---I don't care HOW good her damn cookies are lol...

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@OBPisces
21 Years

mom can't out do THAT---I don't care HOW good her damn cookies are lol...

LMAO-

I will have to do this for my Cancer- get him even more exicted to come home than he already usually is

Hey Cancer men, not hating or anything, but how come you all don't say what you love about Pisecs women?
Ummm I think Stevie Wonder can see how much we love you all. Uh oh, is this one-sided?

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@OBPisces
21 Years

Fiddlesticks, CancerLA, SRG, ABCR2, tunes, who elseโ€” Oh yeah cj7- I hope that's right-ummmm you all gonna answer or not- based on personal encounters only- if you haven't then of course you can't. I hope I didn't forget anyone.

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@OBPisces
21 Years

LOL- now an answer like that would make my day- my Cancer hmmmm he just told me that I was so beautiful when he first saw me that I could have done anything I wanted to with him- I was his- that did make my day too. Our connection was awesome.

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@fiddlesticks
19 Years500+ PostsCancer

"Hey Cancer men, not hating or anything, but how come you all don't say what you love about Pisecs women?
Ummm I think Stevie Wonder can see how much we love you all. Uh oh, is this one-sided?"

i don't really know any pisces women.

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@SRG
20 Years500+ PostsCancer

... hmmmm now what could it be that attracts the crabbies about her?? hmmm nope, can't figure it out

/What's got you so worried? Bull ladies are still in my top 3 ๐Ÿ˜‰/

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@RainingPeanuts
19 Years500+ Posts

I was kidding silly ๐Ÿ˜› What I meant was of course, her bumm attracts the attention! lol Gee weez, how could you miss that one buddy? heheheh

Personally, I think she's real pretty too.. oh and she looks a little like that chic from that 70's show "Donna" whos also a pisces.. I think if I was gay I'd probably be attracted to Pisces ladies and Caps too.. one water one earth.. makes sense. Kinda like how I'm attracted to Cancer and Virgo men hmmmm interesting.

And fyi Me, Myself and I account for MY crabbies top 3 ๐Ÿ˜‰ Booya! =D

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@SRG
20 Years500+ PostsCancer

Oops.. did I say top 3? I meant top 2๐Ÿ˜‰

yeah.. the redhead from 70's show is hot.. SRG like her too.

Oh, and nice to see you're bringing back the hypothetical "if I were gay" scenario..

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@SRG
20 Years500+ PostsCancer

Damn.. I thought maybe there'd be a chance I was in there too.. ๐Ÿ™‚

We cancers are good actors though.. could fool you and you wouldn't even know it..

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@RainingPeanuts
19 Years500+ Posts

I would know it. My fine intuition radar catches onto the slightest anomalies of thee character muahhahah ahha ( in person okay? ๐Ÿ™‚ ) Plus, I've known this man for years and he did his dandy cancer thing in the beginning.. I know all the tricks in his book mister. The type of fooling you refer to is your everyday dating situations and short-term romance crapiola poopypoo this that.. meh

Me thinks you have yet to be really committed to understand. You're still in learning mode.

LoL hmmmm no I can't think of anyone else who would make my 'top five' I'm thinking, of what? lol ๐Ÿ˜›

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@SRG
20 Years500+ PostsCancer

Hahahaha.. learning mode.. I wrote the book on this.. really committed? Weren't you just serial dating like 4 different guys a few months back? ๐Ÿ˜‰

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@RainingPeanuts
19 Years500+ Posts

LOL! Noooooooo. Plus, I wasn't referring to me.. but now I am.. more ๐Ÿ™‚

I wouldn't call it dating.. one or two dates is not dating.. so I screwed up a little. I will not do it again, there =D God damn SRG lol

I meant a committed cancer, which is pretty awesome.

And allow me, Mr. Committed Relationships Author.. Aha hAHA haha

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@SRG
20 Years500+ PostsCancer

Technically, it's cheating when you go out with other guys while in a "committed relationship".. unless you weren't that committed and were looking to play your options a bit.. which there's nothing wrong with.

Off topic a bit.. did you notice how well our charts line up? Or are at least similar..

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@RainingPeanuts
19 Years500+ Posts

"unless you weren't that committed and were looking to play your options a bit.. which there's nothing wrong with."

And I'll go with option B please. Yes, I've grown into it. I'm slow to these sorts of things.. relationships pfft ๐Ÿ™‚

How do you figure the chart thing? I didn't see how. Mars in Scorp?

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@SRG
20 Years500+ PostsCancer

How do you figure the chart thing? I didn't see how. Mars in Scorp?

//Barring venus, most of the major planets line up..

Taurus Sun - Cancer Sun

Taurus Moon - Capricorn Moon

Aries Mercury - Leo Mercury

Scorpio Mars - Scorpio Mars (it means we're both sex machines)

Capricorn Jupiter - Capricorn Jupiter

Saturn Scorpio - Saturn Scorpio

Plus you got a Scorp rising which might explain a few things.. It probably just means that we're more alike than different.

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@SRG
20 Years500+ PostsCancer

Ahhhh, very interesting. So that means I would make your top two then..? hehee

//Only in **your** pervy dreams lady.. ๐Ÿ™‚ My top 2 are Jessica Alba and Jessica Biel.. getting it on ๐Ÿ˜‰//

Well I'm going nighty nite now. Pervy dreams =D ZzzZzzzzz

//I can't believe you can lie like that.. oh and you should know that I don't actually have dreams.. or at least never recall them. So, even if they are pervy.. I probably won't remember anyway ๐Ÿ™‚ I think the last dream I had was about 2 years ago.. I dreamt I was Moses and I was parting the Red Sea. What do you dream about? Being in a "committed" relationship? ๐Ÿ™‚ Sorry smiley overload..//

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@RainingPeanuts
19 Years500+ Posts

//Only in **your** pervy dreams lady.. My top 2 are Jessica Alba and Jessica Biel.. getting it on //

Oooh good one lol

//I can't believe you can lie like that.. oh and you should know that I don't actually have dreams.. or at least never recall them. So, even if they are pervy.. I probably won't remember anyway I think the last dream I had was about 2 years ago.. I dreamt I was Moses and I was parting the Red Sea.//

You have about seven dreams a night, you just can't remember them. If you tell yourself that you'd like to remember them before falling completely asleep you will (or so I've read) I have a lot of entertaining and crazy dreams! Lots of everything. I'll dream of the devil, strange beings, what I think was an angel or guide once, cartoons, far away lands, deserts, jungles, ghosts, mysteries... one of my fave was a beautiful red sky and the sun and moon fighting each other, it was awesome.. kind of like the gods going at it. I'm usually a hero in my dreams too lol I also do a lot of lucid dreaming.

//What do you dream about? Being in a "committed" relationship? Sorry smiley overload..//

AHAhahahahha haha you are such a Cancer SRGy lol I've always said that Cancers are a bit like children ๐Ÿ™‚ I KNOW I can't be the only one to have noticed this..? ๐Ÿ™‚ hahahah Even my bf commented on how he gets mad sometimes and acts like a baby LOL If I didn't know him so well I wouldn't know what he was talking about hahah so funny http://plugin.smileycentral.com/http% 253A% 252F% 252Fwww.smileycentral.com% 252F% 253Fpartner% 253DZSzeb008% 255FZNxmk788KNUS% 2526i% 253D36% 252F36% 255F27% 255F3% 2526feat% 253Dprof/page.html" target="_blank">

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20 Years500+ PostsCancer

You have about seven dreams a night, you just can't remember them. If you tell yourself that you'd like to remember them before falling completely asleep you will (or so I've read) I have a lot of entertaining and crazy dreams! Lots of everything. I'll dream of the devil, strange beings, what I think was an angel or guide once, cartoons, far away lands, deserts, jungles, ghosts, mysteries... one of my fave was a beautiful red sky and the sun and moon fighting each other, it was awesome.. kind of like the gods going at it. I'm usually a hero in my dreams too lol I also do a lot of lucid dreaming.

//yeah I have no recollection of anything. I fall asleep and then wake up.. nothing in between. I think it means that i'm a deeper sleeper than you are - if you do dream all the time and remember everything.//

AHAhahahahha haha you are such a Cancer SRGy lol I've always said that Cancers are a bit like children I KNOW I can't be the only one to have noticed this..? hahahah Even my bf commented on how he gets mad sometimes and acts like a baby LOL If I didn't know him so well I wouldn't know what he was talking about

//You only **think** you have cancers figured out. Some of the stuff that goes on in our heads can't be deciphered by anyone or anything. Oh and that wasn't me being a baby.. it was me being my usual wise-cracking self ๐Ÿ™‚//

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@RainingPeanuts
19 Years500+ Posts

//yeah I have no recollection of anything. I fall asleep and then wake up.. nothing in between. I think it means that i'm a deeper sleeper than you are - if you do dream all the time and remember everything.//

Everyone has dreams. I don't think remembering them is an indication of whether you're a deep sleeper or not.

//You only **think** you have cancers figured out. Some of the stuff that goes on in our heads can't be deciphered by anyone or anything. Oh and that wasn't me being a baby.. it was me being my usual wise-cracking self //

I know that wise cracker, just brought to mind the baby comment since the way he said it was so funny. So serious haha.
As for what can't be deciphered, not interested. Not of any use to me. It's impossible to *know* a persons thoughts, cancer or not. I learn how a person works. I know what works for him, he knows what works for me, we know what works for us. Badabing badaboom badabam ๐Ÿ™‚ In addition to that you get a FEEL for the person. If you're hiding something 'undecipherable' I might not know what it is but I will catch onto it. The good, the bad and the in between. Doesn't mean I'll jump on it, it's simply.. like a different type of knowledge. There's times when you can even predict something that you would *reason* is very unexpected of them, yet it happens or is going on.. thoughts, actions, whatever. I can't explain it. You're a cancer you should know what I'm talking about. Okay! You know what I mean jelly bean? ๐Ÿ˜›

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@SRG
20 Years500+ PostsCancer

yeah, yeah.. the more you talk about it the less you understand it.. ๐Ÿ™‚

Oh and whats with all the aggression towards me? The taunting and name calling.. ๐Ÿ™‚

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@RainingPeanuts
19 Years500+ Posts

"yeah, yeah.. the more you talk about it the less you understand it.. "

Awww, see, I love how understanding you crabbies are after all ๐Ÿ™‚ ... Now.. no more disagreeing with me or I'll have to continue the harrassment. Capish?
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lol

jk