Definitely need some insight into my cancer lady.

I'm looking for Female Cancer advise here on how you tick, how you think and what I have to do here.

I'm a Pisces sun and she's a Cancer sun (not sure other placements) and we met a while back indirectly but started dating last summer around her birthday in July. We've been through some ups and downs built on emotion but the nitty gritty of it all comes from my anxiety getting a hold of me and her retreating and needing to be alone. There were times where she had said she needs to be alone and that we shouldn't be together so she can focus on her, only a day or two later us fall back into each other's arms full force and cry together and say how in love we truly are and how we need each other.

But last week we actually broke up and for 5 days it was her being distant, hardly answering me and refusing to see me. But she had seen my best friend at a concert and he told me she was only talking about me and how much she loves me but Im hard to deal with when I get in certain moods. Those moods being my anxiety which i'm actively seeking therapy for so I can cope better.

Last night she finally agreed to come over and talk, so we did and both sides were spoken and she said sorry for being distant and she kept just crying and we went to sleep like it was back to normal. This morning when I woke up for work she woke up and said she wishes I could stay home and lay with her and hold her and again said the same thing via text when I got to work. But as the day went on she kept saying more and more that she's scared it'll go right back how it was, and now leaving it at she needs time alone for now to not really answering me. What is going on??

I know she's crazy about me and she says I'm the first person she truly fell in love with and then runs very hot, but now all of a sudden she's running cold, again. I'm ok with dealing with it I just never know if she's going to finally call it quits and be gone for good.

Thank you all. She's going through a tough time with me and also her dad and just recently her estranged mother was rumored to come home from out of state then bailed last minute. Even though my ex says she doesnt care for her mother I know she does so I'm sure that affected her.

Some of the things she's pointed out today is being afraid of the future, me leaving her and that she is so wrapped up with stress she feels she shouldn't be with someone. Just this morning she was telling me she loves me and almost forced me to stay home from work bc she wanted to just be near me and it was the first good night sleep she got since we broke up last week. Literally one extreme to another within 8 hours.

And just like that she's back again. She left her purse in my car the night before and had to come over and get it when I got home from work, so I expected her to grab it and leave with how she was all day. Nope. She walked in and said she's sorry for being crazy and that she loves me and if she can come back over later after she was done having dinner with her best friend. Everything was fine and we talked it out, hopefully it doesn't repeat today. But everybody's right that commented here; there's a lot troubling her and one thing was being insecure that she isn't enough for me. Of course she is and I let her know that and more tears of emotions came out. As of now we are ok but hopefully it stays a bit haha. Thank you everybody for the kind words and advice.

You sound like you've got this under control. I know for me if anything at all is going on or upsets me, it consumes me and it shows in everything I do. Be patient and be consistent and you should be good 🙂 good luck!!

And here we go again. My birthday was last Sunday and from Friday until my now ex left for work Monday morning everything was wonderful. We talked about what's been happening, agreed and found a lot common ground and just had a great full weekend with 0 issues, not even a disagreement. But then Sunday night we went out with some friends and my ex said someone hacked her email and changed her password 4 hours prior to that, then she asked me if I had anything to do with it. Naturally I was like no? and she shook it off and acted normal the rest of the night until we went to bed. This morning she had work earlier so she left before me but kissed me goodbye as normal. On my way to work she was at first normal then brought up her email again and how she half thinks it was me (totally wasn't) and then went to saying she can't help thinking she doesn't know if she trusts me and that with me the issues we had prior she thinks we're toxic. Eventually I gave up, I told her to do what she wants, that I love her but I can't keep being shot down like this, especially when I did nothing wrong. THEN it turned into her saying I just gave up and that her love isn't worth it to me and she's been batting for my love for months while I was being insecure. She then blocked me on all social media and left it as I'm guessing that I decided to stop chasing her.

I'm not contacting her but I just can't wrap my head around how we were having a wonderful weekend then it suddenly turned to this for a reason that has literally nothing to do with me.

Posted by spiritofjosh
And here we go again. My birthday was last Sunday and from Friday until my now ex left for work Monday morning everything was wonderful. We talked about what's been happening, agreed and found a lot common ground and just had a great full weekend with 0 issues, not even a disagreement. But then Sunday night we went out with some friends and my ex said someone hacked her email and changed her password 4 hours prior to that, then she asked me if I had anything to do with it. Naturally I was like no? and she shook it off and acted normal the rest of the night until we went to bed. This morning she had work earlier so she left before me but kissed me goodbye as normal. On my way to work she was at first normal then brought up her email again and how she half thinks it was me (totally wasn't) and then went to saying she can't help thinking she doesn't know if she trusts me and that with me the issues we had prior she thinks we're toxic. Eventually I gave up, I told her to do what she wants, that I love her but I can't keep being shot down like this, especially when I did nothing wrong. THEN it turned into her saying I just gave up and that her love isn't worth it to me and she's been batting for my love for months while I was being insecure. She then blocked me on all social media and left it as I'm guessing that I decided to stop chasing her.

I'm not contacting her but I just can't wrap my head around how we were having a wonderful weekend then it suddenly turned to this for a reason that has literally nothing to do with me.

I dunno... she sounds bi-polar or somethimg?

I know, I'm honestly torn between walking away or trying to get her/us through this. It's more one sided to try and make it work because yes, I know I love her but also because when she isn't being insecure and hiding behind excuses of why she's scared, we are perfect. I'm not kidding, since Friday there were 3 occasions where a stranger or a mutual friend just randomly said how perfect we look together.

I actually spoke to her briefly after I posted this because I caved in and had something to say and it resulted in her saying again I give up on what I believe too easy and that she wasn't breaking up with me, but was acting insecure. Unfortunely I jumped the gun and assumed that's what she was doing and I told her that I deserve to find someone better who won't put me through this every time they feel scared or insecure. That's sort of what made her blow up but again she won't see past her excuses so I essentially don't have any options from her. Right now it's in her hands because I did nothing to make her insecure right now other than the passing hypothetical thought of me being with someone else eventually. Emotional rollercoaster if Ive ever seen one.

Is she an ambitious / hard-working Cancer? I've noticed that I don't gel with Pisces boys because yeah, all that emotional connection is awesome, but every Pisces I've known doesn't have his shit together in the tangible aspects of life. Cancers are HUGE on security...financial security especially.

I could totally see a Cancer giving some vague emotional reason for a very tangible problem like "I'm afraid we're going to end up living in a cardboard box together." I usually know my feelings well enough that I COULD state it bluntly, but don't, because I can't tell hard truths to people that I love.

Posted by spiritofjosh
I'm looking for Female Cancer advise here on how you tick, how you think and what I have to do here.

I'm a Pisces sun and she's a Cancer sun (not sure other placements) and we met a while back indirectly but started dating last summer around her birthday in July. We've been through some ups and downs built on emotion but the nitty gritty of it all comes from my anxiety getting a hold of me and her retreating and needing to be alone. There were times where she had said she needs to be alone and that we shouldn't be together so she can focus on her, only a day or two later us fall back into each other's arms full force and cry together and say how in love we truly are and how we need each other.

But last week we actually broke up and for 5 days it was her being distant, hardly answering me and refusing to see me. But she had seen my best friend at a concert and he told me she was only talking about me and how much she loves me but Im hard to deal with when I get in certain moods. Those moods being my anxiety which i'm actively seeking therapy for so I can cope better.

Last night she finally agreed to come over and talk, so we did and both sides were spoken and she said sorry for being distant and she kept just crying and we went to sleep like it was back to normal. This morning when I woke up for work she woke up and said she wishes I could stay home and lay with her and hold her and again said the same thing via text when I got to work. But as the day went on she kept saying more and more that she's scared it'll go right back how it was, and now leaving it at she needs time alone for now to not really answering me. What is going on??

I know she's crazy about me and she says I'm the first person she truly fell in love with and then runs very hot, but now all of a sudden she's running cold, again. I'm ok with dealing with it I just never know if she's going to finally call it quits and be gone for good.

She's scared, scared for the deep feelings she feels, scared of being dumped when she has opened her heart. Even if she loves you deeply, she would leave the relationship because of those feelings....

Strange creatures we are....

But we are genuine, not fake....

Posted by spiritofjosh
I'm looking for Female Cancer advise here on how you tick, how you think and what I have to do here.

I'm a Pisces sun and she's a Cancer sun (not sure other placements) and we met a while back indirectly but started dating last summer around her birthday in July. We've been through some ups and downs built on emotion but the nitty gritty of it all comes from my anxiety getting a hold of me and her retreating and needing to be alone. There were times where she had said she needs to be alone and that we shouldn't be together so she can focus on her, only a day or two later us fall back into each other's arms full force and cry together and say how in love we truly are and how we need each other.

But last week we actually broke up and for 5 days it was her being distant, hardly answering me and refusing to see me. But she had seen my best friend at a concert and he told me she was only talking about me and how much she loves me but Im hard to deal with when I get in certain moods. Those moods being my anxiety which i'm actively seeking therapy for so I can cope better.

Last night she finally agreed to come over and talk, so we did and both sides were spoken and she said sorry for being distant and she kept just crying and we went to sleep like it was back to normal. This morning when I woke up for work she woke up and said she wishes I could stay home and lay with her and hold her and again said the same thing via text when I got to work. But as the day went on she kept saying more and more that she's scared it'll go right back how it was, and now leaving it at she needs time alone for now to not really answering me. What is going on??

I know she's crazy about me and she says I'm the first person she truly fell in love with and then runs very hot, but now all of a sudden she's running cold, again. I'm ok with dealing with it I just never know if she's going to finally call it quits and be gone for good.

From my point of view, us Cancer women are sensitive about those we care about so if while she was telling you this she felt you were distant or were not taking the conversation as serious as she was (replying late etc. lol) she probably might have thought that she cares way more than you do. And that is something that frightens us. Cause we despiteeee getting hurt. We are independent and can definitely detach ourselves if we feel the other person isn´t as into us as we are into them. We are just not down to getting hurt.

BTW what are your chart placements?