Do cancer men move on or hold on?

hey guys this is the first for me but i dont know what to do. i need some advice from any cancer male or female. i recently broke up with my cancer man after being together for 17 years and we have three kids together, ages 17, 16 & 4. he cheated on me years ago with this young girl and i forgave him and stayed. apparently he kept lying to me because he never left her and she had two more kids for him while being with me. I only found out recently about the other two kids. wow under my nose. its hard for me but i had to end it after 17 years. does he even think about me since he cheated on me with this girl. i;m just wondering did he move on or will he hold on. i know its wrong to even think this but its hard after being with someone after 17 years with 3 kids. please help. i need some advice.

Babes don't take him back !! Move on and bloody let him know you have moved on just like he did sharing a bed with another woman !! It will destroy him once he knows other guys find you attractive ..... My experience yes they are all players and love women's attention !!

Thanks for the advice. its just hard to start over after being with someone for so long. i dont even know where to begin. i'm so fed up of crying but i realise its time to move on

Babes I also met the most amazing guy who blew me away ..... He played me non stop and broke me heart messed with my head ...... It destroys them when you let them know you've moved on trust me !! If he truly loves you he with come crabbing back xx

Can you post your charts, pls?

hmmmmm wow their really cold hearted. how do you move on. what do you do next? I dont communicate with him at all. thats my first step. he would call the kids like he dont need to talk to me. smh this is truely amazing spending 17 years with someone and they act like you dont exist. wow truely amazing

exactly everything you and the others say is true. its just hard and i dont know how to start i cry in work everyday but i make it to work but i know its over. he didnt care about us.

In my experience its good to cry, I feel like it helps you let go of stored feelings. You sound like an incredibly strong person, much stronger than most! Try to stay busy and focus on you and your children, it may seem hard to do but not focusing on him and why he did what he did may help you move on. I find that I always try to analyze someone's actions but am starting to realize that in the end it doesn't matter why they did what they did. All that matters is they did it and that you deserve better.

yup believe me i may sound strong but prayers are what making me this way. also so true about why and how he did what he did. the damage is already done

OP this is sometimes an astrology site. I'm pretty sure I'm the only Cancer that has answered so far but you seem to have glided over that and only took in the comforting posts although in your OP you were looking for info from Cancers.

If you want a support group, by all means continue thinking Cancers are all uncaring, cold-hearted cheaters.

If you want some insight into why this happened and how you missed the cheating and second family, start by giving your birthday and/or chart info.

Yes cancers hold on for dear life, but um...why would you want that asshole who's had kids with another woman?! Gross! Find someone else!!!!

Im a cancer man and he will think of you there's probably a reason that he stayed with so many years but there's was probably something missing too. I was probably something to do with either family or emotional because we need those things he probably found it with that other person. I wouldn't go back although sometimes we do because we tend to cling to the past.