Does everything with a string attached?

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by cafrella on Friday, December 2, 2005 and has 4 replies.

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@cafrella
21 Years

Is it true Cancers does everything with a string attached?
Can someone explain, give me examples? to what extent?

I've read..."if you ask them to borrow their car, because yours is in the shop, they may as well take it as you want to marry them!" how true is that?

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@moloko
21 YearsCancer

Not quite, firstly if you wanted to borrow my car, i would have to be able to really trust you and already be close to you, and you would have to be a damn good driver too. 🙂
I wouldnt take it that you want to marry me, im more likely to think to myself "cheeky bastard" unless i got a soft spot for you, but taking it as flirtation or something, hell no, if you come and sit on my lap i might look into it further but even then thats just a bit of fun with most people.

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@cafrella
21 Years

Isn't true though that you put strings attached to everything in general... you do someone a favor and do expect one back? I've got a cancer girlfriend and my God is she ever like that... she'll come in one morning and decide just like that to bring me a muffin or something to be nice and the very next day she'll walk in and say something like "and where's MY muffin?!" now that reealy bothers me ! iI give out of goodness of my heart and i certainly don't expect others to give back... i give to give! I'd never say something like that!

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@moloko
21 YearsCancer

Not always, it depends who im doing the favour for, and what type of favour, if its family, i will do allsorts, just to help out, no strings attached, if its an "outsider" then it depends what thier asking for, depends on my trustin them, if i like them, i may do someone a favour, because thier a sister or brother or partner of a friend, or a good friend of my mum, i understand what you mean, its fair to say that theres an element of strings attached, but not always.

Regarding your girlfriend bringing you something out of the blue, well my sister is a bit like that with her partner and shes a cancer, sometimes i just wanna give someone something special and thats all, but say if its a female, im not the type of guy to buy you drinks all night long in a club just for company, you i can see your point and agree with it more now after thinking of some of my own actions, i would see buying drinks for a girl constantly in a club, a potential gamble with my money and a potential waste of my time, as personally im looking for something, and i dont mean casual sex but a potential partner, i tend not to hover around a lady if its just not happening, i will leave them to what they wanna do and retreat gracefully, lol 🙂

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@bobby25
21 Years

It's not difficult to get a cancerians gal's attention,but be there when she needs you is sufficent..but NEVER get tangled in the emotional web of theirs.If you become too nice,they might dominate you and start dictatiing your life.
PHEW..i've been there,and its all me giving and she receiving without any special reward or thanks.