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This topic was created in the Cancer forum by glory65 on Monday, July 28, 2003 and has 5 replies.

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@glory65
21 Years

OK I tried to get an answer on the scorpio site no luck yet so I hope for better luck here.
What would make a man tell his wife of ninteen years that if she had a affair he would not be angry as long as she never brings the man home. Is it that he just does not care or could it be he does not want to be single agin and have to start dating all over agin. His wife is very pretty so maybe he is just afraid of losing her. does the fact that he is a pisces have any thing to do with having such a passive attitude towards cheating.

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21 Years1,000+ Posts

i have a pisces moon and and my emotions would not handle that well at all. i will never be that lonely. i guess hes probably afraid of starting over and facing a different life than the one hes had for 19 yrs, a pisces feelings run deep so he might just really love her. even if i did love someone that much and didnt want to lose them i could never disrespect myself like that.

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@glory65
21 Years

Thank you for the response I know this is going to be hard on him but I cant see telling my sister to stay with someone she does not love. Any advice on how to make this easy on him she refuses to cheat but what can she say to him to help him let go.

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@Josh
21 YearsCapricorn

What about herself? 19 years is kind of a long time to stay with someone she doesn't love. I don't know...I've been witness to some pretty bizarre thoughts in my 18.5 years here, but are the two of you sure- absolutely positive- there's not some way to maybe rediscover the love? What's their relationship like anyway? I, personally, am the passive one at this point, but after almost 2 decades- that's a quarter of the average life, and women live longer, so more like a third of his life- I would most likely just have no idea what's going on. Then again, this is in keeping with my personality too...

Well, anyway, things will work themselves out, they always do, and there's always some good in the end. Good luck to your sister.

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@glory65
21 Years

Josh, answer to your question my broter-in-law and my sister have grown so apart she has plans to move out of the country in one year he wants to stay right here. she wants to live in the city, he loves the country just too many differences the changes are to drastic for him to make he is very set in his ways. And she knows if he followed her he will just become bitter and misrable when its over its over.

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@James the13th
21 Years1,000+ PostsPisces

sounds like it better too to leave but couldn't they have 2 houses or is this tom many. and so they live in town but come out on the weeekeneds or everynow and then to the country house. but ofcourse there's more to that then just country and city.