friends with benefits?

How do cancerian males deal with been friends with benefits?
Considering they all emotional and love been close to people. How does this normally work?

What's your situation so far?

Can't speak for all Cancer men, but I've known 2 Cancer men so far and both were very vocal in their need for stable relationship and casual sex wasn't their thing. Cappygirl, I think it would be likely for us Caps to have FWB friendship than a Cancer. But I could be wrong :/

I am a Cancerian male and I pretty much fall for every girl I sleep with but this doesnt mean I want to marry them. I know there are some cancer male players but I have not known any personally. It's hard because I require an emotional connection for sex. And many male caps I know are similar. If that connection is not there I usually dont want to sleep with her anymore but will do so if she threw herself at me.

Cancers don't do fwb because they need a emotional connection. But watch out because when they connect they will fuck you in every way imaginable and fuck you while they put a spell on you. They will shake their phat asses and jiggle their big cancer breats at you and then beg you to fuck them not with their mouth but with their eyes. Their eyes are hipnotic. Don't look them in the eye or else your threw. I wonder what it would feel like to shove a hard cock in a cancers asshole. They like to be babied and sometimes babies need spankins.

Well my situation is my bf of 4 years dissappeared for a month and a bit cause of the world's stupidest fight.

yesterday he said he would here me out and think about thinks. If i would accomplish 2 things in bed with him that I never have before.

I'm thinking I could do this but still continue to see a new guy who has been browsing around and asking for a date for the last year. Cause maybe the emotional connection with my ex is so broken he doesn't want me and just wants to sleep with me..

I don't know

We are both earth signs that really have morals, and respectful to our bodies, and not into fwb. But yeah if you're at an age where you are not ready to settle down. Then do it...

What does he want you to do? Threesomes, orgy fuck fest, open relationship(that's what a fwb is).. no emotions, feelings, cuddling, kissing, none if the above.

I dont like sharing and a guy who likes you would not suggest any of those because I talk about these things. I do not participate in that either. I make it know immediately.

No not any of that. Apparently I don't really give all of myself and really enjoy myself or tell him what I want him to do. That's what he wants. Nothing extremely kinky

That's the whole issue I won't have an orgasm with him no matter how hard he tried. And unless I do that he won't consider a relationship again. What the hell....i don't want to have one with him

Cause I love him. And thought he was gone then I tried so hard to get him back then I just gave up completely and started moving on. Then he appeared out of no where.... saying we can try no guarantees thing will be fixed but we usually feel closer after sex but I want 1 condition....u to orgasm when we do?

So Wat do I do?

If you want a relationship with him then tell him you are willing to try to orgasm and that it is something you both have to work on, for him patience, not just only you or him, i dont know if that is how it is being perceived by either of you. But if it is this important and you cant work on it then it is something that will have to end, dont do the friends with benefits thing because you guys have too much history.

Not sure if the man has underlying motivations but 4 years is a long time, regardless. I think everyone agrees to not do the FWB. FWB definitely means the end of the relationship and if it must end, end it cleanly.

But I'm thinking maybe it's he's way of trying to reach out. He did he's hissy fit and hid in his shell. And now he's sneakily trying to come back but doing something I might find intriguing to get my attention. Cause a hello how u? Isn't going to work

Well glad hes finally talking to you again...weird ultimatum nonetheless...of course not sure why you WOULDN'T. Want to have an orgasm especially after 4years!! My god girl!! Sorry..but id give it a shot..i mean what do you have to lose? The best feeling on earth? Seems like a no brainer to me..man he sure took his sweet time figuring that out eh?

Posted by StarChild63
Cancers don't do fwb because they need a emotional connection. But watch out because when they connect they will fuck you in every way imaginable and fuck you while they put a spell on you. They will shake their phat asses and jiggle their big cancer breats at you and then beg you to fuck them not with their mouth but with their eyes. Their eyes are hipnotic. Don't look them in the eye or else your threw. I wonder what it would feel like to shove a hard cock in a cancers asshole. They like to be babied and sometimes babies need spankins.

Funniest shit I've read on here lmao

That fucking spell part is true, not a day goes by where my ex is not running through my head smh

Posted by boxcarmirnta
Well glad hes finally talking to you again...weird ultimatum nonetheless...of course not sure why you WOULDN'T. Want to have an orgasm especially after 4years!! My god girl!! Sorry..but id give it a shot..i mean what do you have to lose? The best feeling on earth? Seems like a no brainer to me..man he sure took his sweet time figuring that out eh?

He didn't take he's sweet time...He has always made it an issue and I refuse to..... just don't want to. To much effort. Get to tired afterwards.... etc

Ok like I'm pretty sure he isn't with me just for sex..... cause when we met all those years ago....He had been around the block and I hadn't even stepped outside if u get what I mean.

And he waited for a long time before he got anywhere with me.

Posted by thinktoomuch

Posted by boxcarmirnta
Well glad hes finally talking to you again...weird ultimatum nonetheless...of course not sure why you WOULDN'T. Want to have an orgasm especially after 4years!! My god girl!! Sorry..but id give it a shot..i mean what do you have to lose? The best feeling on earth? Seems like a no brainer to me..man he sure took his sweet time figuring that out eh?

Boxcarmirnta I don't think you understand what is really behind all this.
Obviously if they were togehter for 4 years, and she never had an orgasm, it is not because she didn't want to, but probably because she can't be comfortable enough with being herself and letting completely go around him to have one.
That's why it wouldn't fix anything to just go ahead and be FWB and have a lot of sex. It's much more than that, it is trust issues or something along those lines (which makes sense in this situation, because you don't trust him at all).

So for a person who has trust issues, she has much to lose, if she keeps having sex with a person but still don't trust him. She will become a pleaser of fear of loosing him or not being good enough for him. I speak from personal experience. Once in a while she will lash out for no obvious reason, because all the insecurities and all those times, she didn't speak up for herself and respected her wn boundaries and feelings, will have build up inside of her.
Sex is great, even without orgasms. But I am sure, you would like to get there one day. Jumping into just having sex is soooooo not the way to do that, as the issue is not about sex. Sex won't fix anything. And that dugde needs to understand that too.

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You right. I won't do it. I said so now he's dissappeared again. But he did have a family member pass on so maybe he's got other stuff on he's mind

Yea I see it way differently , BC of yr trust issues and the fact you thought he was cheating, it seems he wants to establish more trust, have you finally TRUST him. Cuz isn't that the issue? So actually letting go and having one would establish more trust and be good for both of you..and I'm sorry not to be rude at all but , that's a long time to be in a relationship and never get off...maybe it takes work so what? Sounds like he's willing to do what it takes to help you, so I have a hard time seeing what the problem is..

Wait we assuming he's way smart and that he thinks like a female. He doesn't want me to have one to be closer and trust him.he wants me to have one so he feels accomplished.

I know it's 2am where I live and maybe I'm just sleepy but I'm so tired of this. He is the only man I will ever love but I don't want him back right now..... but I shall never be with another man so that's life I guess

Posted by cappygirl11
..... but I shall never be with another man so that's life I guess

why not

Cause he is my soulmate

Posted by cappygirl11
Cause he is my soulmate

Well, the good news is that there's thousands and thousands of soulmates for each of us on this planet, even speaking astrologically.