Gemini Girl and Cancer Man

Reaching out to the Cancers on here. I'm a Gemini Sun with Venus in Cancer and he's a Cancer Sun with Venus in Gemini. For the first time in my life I am completely in love. We work together, He is very polite and walks me to my car every evening, gives me a kiss on the cheek goodnight and has been parking next to my car for months... I've hinted at wanting to go out but no invite yet... I'm playing it cool and letting him take things at his pace. I'm very traditional and like a guy to lead, but it's been 7 months. I've asked him out but that was not a good idea, I got a long talk about how mixing work with pleasure was a bad idea. Notwithstanding, the hugs are getting longer and tighter and the goodnight kisses more sweet. I'm considering just planting him with one on the lips and then saying sorry for being so forward... Lol... Any advice would be great!

Seven months and nothing especially given that you've voiced your interest so blatantly?! Yeah, no air sign for him. You'll soon get over his slow pace in a fast worlld the moment you come across a libra.

Goldigold- it is like the most romantic love story. That's why I am so hooked. He's told me that his ex cheated on him and I think he has a lot of trust issues and fear of commuting to someone that won't love him 100% . I reassure him that I love him completely on a daily basis, and he even tells me that he loves me back; it's just the physical is very slow moving. For a Gemini Sun that's very hard, thankfully my Cancer Venus needs all that reassurance. He's everything I've ever wanted in a man, and then some... I can't wait to be claimed by him.

Aquarius09 - it's true about the Libra comment, they are super passionate right away... But there is something so cautious and tender about the way a cancer man moves in love; it's almost like they are allowing you to dance this very very very slow dance of seduction. I tell him all the time that fizzy is better, cause I add that fun effervescence to his water that tickles your nose. He says I'm silly... Truth is, I'm just desperately in love. I can't even think of anyone other than him. I've never felt like this for anyone ever in my life: Gemini tendancies are to NOT fall in love and hate to be owned or controlled by any man, a Gemini girl is like a butterfly in a garden of flowers, we don't get fixed on any 1 bloom; but he has the most devine petals and I can't wait to savor his nectar lol.... Hahahaha (evil Gemini wink)

Let him chase you! Cancer men are traditional too and they enjoy the thrill of the chase albeit a slow snail pace chase.

This sounds sweet. I wouldn't bring up anything further. You've already made your desires known. Now make him work for it. Good luck!! 🙂

Posted by xtina
Let him chase you! Cancer men are traditional too and they enjoy the thrill of the chase albeit a slow snail pace chase.

This sounds sweet. I wouldn't bring up anything further. You've already made your desires known. Now make him work for it. Good luck!! 🙂

Xtina, I'm trying to make him work for it, but I just don't know how to go about it; other than just acting passive and submissive to let him make his move.

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Let him chase you! Cancer men are traditional too and they enjoy the thrill of the chase albeit a slow snail pace chase.

This sounds sweet. I wouldn't bring up anything further. You've already made your desires known. Now make him work for it. Good luck!! 🙂

Xtina, I'm trying to make him work for it, but I just don't know how to go about it; other than just acting passive and submissive to let him make his move.

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Patience is key. It took several months for my ex crabbie to come out of his shell. And this is months of no hint that I liked him except flirtation here and there

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Posted by xtina
Let him chase you! Cancer men are traditional too and they enjoy the thrill of the chase albeit a slow snail pace chase.

This sounds sweet. I wouldn't bring up anything further. You've already made your desires known. Now make him work for it. Good luck!! 🙂

Xtina, I'm trying to make him work for it, but I just don't know how to go about it; other than just acting passive and submissive to let him make his move.

Patience is key. It took several months for my ex crabbie to come out of his shell. And this is months of no hint that I liked him except flirtation here and there

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Well, my crabbie started the chase with the innuendos and flirtatious moves; but I was clueless that he was making moves. It was obvious but I'm not quick at picking up when a guy is into me... So I kept putting him off. Until a co-worker said to me, hey, that guy is like really into you...do you not hear the comments he says to you... I was like, "oh really? You think? Oh I guess so"... I started responding to it and at first he flipped out when he realized I was interested back and engaged him in the flirtatious game. That was like 4 mo ago. Then I told him I really liked him and he did that thing little crabbies do. It was cat & mouse for a couple of days, but whenever he would annoy me with his tantrums I'd just ignore him. He'd come around on his best behavior in like 24-48 hours tops. Now he's being that crab that never has any fits. He comes and tells me all his family drama and when he's upset at work - I hold him, stroke his back, run my fingers through his hair, and I always listen and tell him that it will all workout, that he'll find the right solution. I'm always supportive. Everyone that knows us says we are like an old married couple. We eat lunch together at the office every day and we are always the last to leave together. In every way he is complimentary to me; but he just won't make the jump. And I don't want to push him or give him an ultimatum, I want him to make the choice on his own because it's what's in his heart. (I should add that I've met his whole family, mom, dad, sister, brother - they've all already adopted me; and I'm besties with his younger brother, he's of the delicate variety, so no problems there).... I just wish I knew what is holding him back...

Cancer men... I could use some input!

...You should ask him, indirectly, like in the middle of a totally different conversation. Find a way to sneak it in.

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...You should ask him, indirectly, like in the middle of a totally different conversation. Find a way to sneak it in.

I gotta just plant him one!!! Lol... I'm such a mischievous Gemini!!!