He broke up and wants to be friends!

Hello everyone!
So I told my story before, I had a fight with my guy (nothing special) and he went back to his shell! After a week I tried to contact him, he said he was busy... Then the day after he called me and explain why he was breaking up, I listened calmly but to me it doesn't make any sense... He said some things that I did he didnt like at all and then on the day we had the fight he decided it was over.
It's like he wants a perfect relationship but everyone makes mistakes and I try to correct mine. I accepted to be his friend but he's still not sure if we can go out for now.
Well I really like him, and for me, he's afraid I would not learn and thats why he prefers to break up than suffer later on. I really want him to understand I can be better and not make those little mistakes, like be pushy or annoying.
I'm sure he loved me very much and still likes me, I just want him back. Can you help?

Posted by Andreia
Hello everyone!
So I told my story before, I had a fight with my guy (nothing special) and he went back to his shell! After a week I tried to contact him, he said he was busy... Then the day after he called me and explain why he was breaking up, I listened calmly but to me it doesn't make any sense... He said some things that I did he didnt like at all and then on the day we had the fight he decided it was over.
It's like he wants a perfect relationship but everyone makes mistakes and I try to correct mine. I accepted to be his friend but he's still not sure if we can go out for now.
Well I really like him, and for me, he's afraid I would not learn and thats why he prefers to break up than suffer later on. I really want him to understand I can be better and not make those little mistakes, like be pushy or annoying.
I'm sure he loved me very much and still likes me, I just want him back. Can you help?

I'm sorry Andreia, what is your story? I'm not familiar...what did you guys fight about and what was the fight like? Did you use harsh words/tone? What is yours and his placements?

Wanting a perfect partner and relationship sounds very familiar... Same deal with the 2cancers I dated. If he broke up with saying we could begin as friend try to see where it how'd you might have chance otherwise if he friend zoned you without that sorry not going back to you. Frustrating... I don't know or remember your back story.

Yes I remember..sounds a lot like my crab..fight break up wanna br friends but still had feelings for me, and his ex still too! Yaay! Anyway seems like he's being a bit harsh on you..one mistake and its over?? Who is he to decide that there's no hope and to not give you a second try..thats pretty lame. But anyway you'll prolly get him back cuz you'll hang out and he'll remember his feelings for you..just like mine, and on and on and so it goes...

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Hello everyone!
So I told my story before, I had a fight with my guy (nothing special) and he went back to his shell! After a week I tried to contact him, he said he was busy... Then the day after he called me and explain why he was breaking up, I listened calmly but to me it doesn't make any sense... He said some things that I did he didnt like at all and then on the day we had the fight he decided it was over.
It's like he wants a perfect relationship but everyone makes mistakes and I try to correct mine. I accepted to be his friend but he's still not sure if we can go out for now.
Well I really like him, and for me, he's afraid I would not learn and thats why he prefers to break up than suffer later on. I really want him to understand I can be better and not make those little mistakes, like be pushy or annoying.
I'm sure he loved me very much and still likes me, I just want him back. Can you help?

I'm sorry Andreia, what is your story? I'm not familiar...what did you guys fight about and what was the fight like? Did you use harsh words/tone? What is yours and his placements?

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My back story is this:
I was dating a cancer man for a few months now, its a recent thing but i like him very much and I know he likes me too!
We had a fight a week ago, it was my fault, just a stupid thing, I was being very annoiyng, asking something that he already answered before, and I didn't let him sleep, he shouted "stop" and that was it. He always said to me "I can t stand fights".....
The next day i said i was sorry, but he just said that he wanted to be alone to think and decide some things... Never seen him like that before, i was so afraid!
He didn t talk to me again, he blocked me on facebook and whatsapp.... I left him alone, just sent a card and tried to call once. Until today, that he broke up with me.

He's cancer with Aries moon and Leo venus, I'm taurus but dont know the rest.

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Posted by Andreia
Hello everyone!
So I told my story before, I had a fight with my guy (nothing special) and he went back to his shell! After a week I tried to contact him, he said he was busy... Then the day after he called me and explain why he was breaking up, I listened calmly but to me it doesn't make any sense... He said some things that I did he didnt like at all and then on the day we had the fight he decided it was over.
It's like he wants a perfect relationship but everyone makes mistakes and I try to correct mine. I accepted to be his friend but he's still not sure if we can go out for now.
Well I really like him, and for me, he's afraid I would not learn and thats why he prefers to break up than suffer later on. I really want him to understand I can be better and not make those little mistakes, like be pushy or annoying.
I'm sure he loved me very much and still likes me, I just want him back. Can you help?

Okay, now you got me curious in WHAT quarrels did you guys had a fight before. Because you claimed it was nothing while it does for him. Would you mind to elaborate for this?

He said a thing that made him turned off, and because of that you guys are having fight again and that made him break you up. So something that he find irritable while you find it nothing..

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Well he said that sometimes I was pushy, annoying maybe bossy and in certain circunstances he would say "dont push me". But we never had a fight... Sometimes he wanted to stay in the room and I would say to go out, and for him thats pushing and for what I can see its a big thing, but for me its nothing...
Its like he's putting all these things together and make a big deal, when the important thing is that we liked each other. He said we were not compatible, wish I also dont believe, because we always had fun, we like the same things, sexually it was good. He used to say that everything was amazing between us.
He's breaking up just because of these little things...

Posted by boxcarmirnta
Yes I remember..sounds a lot like my crab..fight break up wanna br friends but still had feelings for me, and his ex still too! Yaay! Anyway seems like he's being a bit harsh on you..one mistake and its over?? Who is he to decide that there's no hope and to not give you a second try..thats pretty lame. But anyway you'll prolly get him back cuz you'll hang out and he'll remember his feelings for you..just like mine, and on and on and so it goes...

Sent you a private message!

They dont like to be pressured for sure, and they do sorta take stock of things and if they think it isn't gonna work out they dont wanna hurt you by going further..but sometimes they just need convincing.....

^^true dat!

Well I like him very much... Just wanted to make him see that im worth it 😢

Yup.