LadyNeptune
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Help this Fish deal with her insecure Crab
Awww yes we do need constant reassurance of your love and how much we mean to you and that we are your one and only. That's just us. I would suggest giving him your undivided attention when around him. Make him feel special enough while you're there so that he won't be bothered about who you're texting. If u can try not to text excessively around him for to start asking you if there is another.
Posted by LadyNeptuneWhat's your sign?
I have been dating the loveliest crab. He came into my life somewhat unexpectedly and things will never be the same. Our sex is out of this world!
He is sweet, affectionate and thoughtful, going out of his way to do nice things for me.
After dating a series of douchebags this is beyond refreshing.
He made it official a month ago, although I wasn't pushing for the gf title. I was just happy with how things were going. Did I mention the sex is amazing?!
However, I've noticed that he is a bit insecure around me. He constantly questions whether there is another guy in my life. He sees me texting and comments that I'm "texting my other boyfriend".
I answer these with reassurances to him that I am his and no one else's.
Is this need for affirmation something you cancers crave?
Any suggestions on how to soothe his worries while still maintaining my sense of self? (I don't want to start throwing out the L word and such because that would be a lie)
Posted by crabRiotIt's not like I'm texting excessively, he has my full attention when he's here. The incident I was referring to, he walks into my apartment. I'm siting on the couch mid txt. 20 secs later I'm setting the phone down and embarrassing him.
Awww yes we do need constant reassurance of your love and how much we mean to you and that we are your one and only. That's just us. I would suggest giving him your undivided attention when around him. Make him feel special enough while you're there so that he won't be bothered about who you're texting. If u can try not to text excessively around him for to start asking you if there is another.
It's kinda trippy to me because he's so good looking. Like by far the handsomest man I've ever been with. And I've told him this repeatedly but he has a difficult time accepting compliments.
Posted by LadyNeptuneWhoops!Posted by crabRiotIt's not like I'm texting excessively, he has my full attention when he's here. The incident I was referring to, he walks into my apartment. I'm siting on the couch mid txt. 20 secs later I'm setting the phone down and embarrassing him.
Awww yes we do need constant reassurance of your love and how much we mean to you and that we are your one and only. That's just us. I would suggest giving him your undivided attention when around him. Make him feel special enough while you're there so that he won't be bothered about who you're texting. If u can try not to text excessively around him for to start asking you if there is another.
It's kinda trippy to me because he's so good looking. Like by far the handsomest man I've ever been with. And I've told him this repeatedly but he has a difficult time accepting compliments.click to expand
Embracing* him
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Hey man! My cancer is so insecure its insane but most people wouldn't know it...and he's also ridiculously good looking..sigh. Anyway! YES they need reassurance.. A LOT. A LOT. Did u mention a lot? The littlest things can get him feeling really insecure and I'm a Pisces so I also need it, its hard...just keep it in the back of your mind always. They're very sensitive.
^^omg totally.
Perhaps part of it is our age difference?
He is only 4 years younger than me (I'm 28 in a few months).
I can be patient and keep giving him the words of affirmation that he needs. It's a small thing to do considering all the wonderful gestures he makes for me (fixing a broken painting of mine, cooking me dinner, replacing my shower head etc).
He is only 4 years younger than me (I'm 28 in a few months).
I can be patient and keep giving him the words of affirmation that he needs. It's a small thing to do considering all the wonderful gestures he makes for me (fixing a broken painting of mine, cooking me dinner, replacing my shower head etc).
Also the way we met, he's known me for years, I used to work for the Hoa where he lived. He only recently approached me, disbelieving that I would be interested in him.
Things took off from there 😉
Things took off from there 😉
Posted by Kodak375😆 😆 😆
Cancer men are like that insecure beautiful girl who keyed your car, yet you still love that crazy bitch
I can't
Posted by MiZLeoHmmm, wonder if this is a cancer trait choosing older women
No, mines younger than me as well. Only 2 years but we are both in our 30s.
New to this astrology stuff
Posted by MlleFiskThank you milefisk!!
It's still a little early in the relationship so there's still some uncertainty. Maybe he's still questioning if you're still hung up on an ex, or a new new guy is moving in on you, or previous suitors are still contacting you... etc. I think once the relationship starts to blossom and he's more assured that you are with him only, it will dissipate.
If he is as wonderful as you say he is, he just needs a little patience along with the constant reassurance.
That actually makes perfect sense. It is still really early days. For the last 2 months we've spent every night together and full weekends. (He's passed out in my bed as I type this, all tuckered out from the ride I gave him 🙂 ) I feel like he's moved in lmao. It feels like a lot more time has passed, at least in my head.
This is the first dude I've felt this kinda cosmic connection too and I've been running with it.
This is why I came to this site, for that impartial perspective. You are absolutely right! I will stay patient and reassure him that I'm not going anywhere.
The most beautiful people can still be insecure. Looks are what attract but personality is what makes you stay. I am a crab who used to date a fish and yes we need reassurance but he was actually the insecure and jealous one of us both. I loved him but the jealousy did get to me a bit so I broke things off and dated a gemini after, worst mistake. When I wanted him back, 2 years later, he didn't wanna give me a chance in fear of getting hurt again. Make sure you really think things through if you ever do decide to break up with him but also if he cannot trust you, what's the point of being with you, let him know that you love him but if he wants to be with you he has to be more trusting of you and less insecure because there's nothing for him to worry about and his insecurity could in the long run make you feel differently about the two of you, of course don't say the last part but reassure him he's the only man for you. Maybe do sweet little things to make him feel loved and wanted, show you appreciate him but make sure it's not one sided and selfish because he should be doing the same for you. Men sometimes project their guilt onto the woman and vice versa. You can never be too trusting of a person, cause you do not know what is going on in their mind.
I'm still trying to get it...you need reassurance but not so much...you need is by your side but not clingy...you want us to go with the flow but act like we together? Ugh'
The most beautiful people can still be insecure. Looks are what attract but personality is what makes you stay. I am a crab who used to date a fish and yes we need reassurance but he was actually the insecure and jealous one of us both. I loved him but the jealousy did get to me a bit so I broke things off and dated a gemini after, worst mistake. When I wanted him back, 2 years later, he didn't wanna give me a chance in fear of getting hurt again. Make sure you really think things through if you ever do decide to break up with him but also if he cannot trust you, what's the point of being with you, let him know that you love him but if he wants to be with you he has to be more trusting of you and less insecure because there's nothing for him to worry about and his insecurity could in the long run make you feel differently about the two of you, of course don't say the last part but reassure him he's the only man for you. Maybe do sweet little things to make him feel loved and wanted, show you appreciate him but make sure it's not one sided and selfish because he should be doing the same for you. Men sometimes project their guilt onto the woman and vice versa. You can never be too trusting of a person, cause you do not know what is going on in their mind.
All gonna say is beware the crabman....They all lovey dovey in the beginning... Then it turns.....They turn.... i don't understand it.... something happens to them
Oh wait I've said it before.... The Greek story about the Sirens.... so beautiful. ....so sweet.... so appealing..... drawing you in.... In all your happiness.... and once they got u the monster appears to devour ur soul..... yip it was an analogy of the cancerian male. So beware
Posted by cappygirl11How exactly do they 'turn'.
All gonna say is beware the crabman....They all lovey dovey in the beginning... Then it turns.....They turn.... i don't understand it.... something happens to them
More details please
Posted by LadyNeptuneIn the beginning it's all flowers an chocolatesPosted by cappygirl11How exactly do they 'turn'.
All gonna say is beware the crabman....They all lovey dovey in the beginning... Then it turns.....They turn.... i don't understand it.... something happens to them
More details pleaseclick to expand
You will be forgiven into thinking you are in a movie.
You will think the world of then they continously complement you. You fall head over heels...ignore everyone es warnings.
Then suddenly u dressing to provocatively.... They appear when u chilling with ur friends.... They get moody....They dissappear for weeks....you won't know where u stand....They will reappear and knock out ur confidence. They don't want othet males around u. They need ur time on their schedule...try saying no and they dissappear.... monsters they are.....
Who knows girls...maybe she actually found herself a winner who won't totally eff her mind over....sign...
Posted by boxcarmirntaI hope so!
Who knows girls...maybe she actually found herself a winner who won't totally eff her mind over....sign...
And @ithinktoomuch
Thank you!!
Posted by cappygirl11None of what your saying I've experienced with my crab.Posted by LadyNeptuneIn the beginning it's all flowers an chocolatesPosted by cappygirl11How exactly do they 'turn'.
All gonna say is beware the crabman....They all lovey dovey in the beginning... Then it turns.....They turn.... i don't understand it.... something happens to them
More details please
You will be forgiven into thinking you are in a movie.
You will think the world of then they continously complement you. You fall head over heels...ignore everyone es warnings.
Then suddenly u dressing to provocatively.... They appear when u chilling with ur friends.... They get moody....They dissappear for weeks....you won't know where u stand....They will reappear and knock out ur confidence. They don't want othet males around u. They need ur time on their schedule...try saying no and they dissappear.... monsters they are.....click to expand
I should say, so far! Watch, I'll be back here in a few months with a "where did my crabby go?" thread. Lmao.
Flowers and chocolate have never done much for me. And I'm always been wary of compliments, my first thought being, "what does this person want from me?"
He's brought me gifts but it's been really thoughtful things. A plant cutting (I'm in plant design), my favorite beer, etc.
More than that it's the little things he does for me that show he cares like fixing my painting, replacing my shower head, cooking me dinner, washing the dishes. All unprompted. And I'm over there looking at him like, "where have you been my whole life?"
He hasn't tried to change my schedule. If anything, he's made sacrifices to see me.
He works 10hr days and then jumps into traffic to come see me. I live in LA so traffic is legit hell on earth.
Fingers crossed it always stays this wonderful!!
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He made it official a month ago, although I wasn't pushing for the gf title. I was just happy with how things were going. Did I mention the sex is amazing?!
However, I've noticed that he is a bit insecure around me. He constantly questions whether there is another guy in my life. He sees me texting and comments that I'm "texting my other boyfriend".
I answer these with reassurances to him that I am his and no one else's.
Is this need for affirmation something you cancers crave?
Any suggestions on how to soothe his worries while still maintaining my sense of self? (I don't want to start throwing out the L word and such because that would be a lie)