He's suddenly started asking me to hang out?

This cancer man i like (hehe i think we all know by now)

has a gf. Yet the other morning he messaged me asking me, and me alone, to go out fishing with him. He has also been keeping track of my whereabouts occasionally and still comes into my work to see me. I'm flattered, but why is he still doing all this with a girlfriend?

Don't be one of those girls....

He wants to have his cake and eat it too. Cut that shit off.

He wants to go fishing ? for something else.

This sign is one of those signs that secures a new relationship before leaving the existing one. Maybe he wants to get to know you better and have you as a sure thing before leaving the current. Either way, don't be that woman.

Posted by aquarius09
This sign is one of those signs that secures a new relationship before leaving the existing one. Maybe he wants to get to know you better and have you as a sure thing before leaving the current. Either way, don't be that woman.

None of my Cancer guy friends are like this, weird.

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Posted by aquarius09
This sign is one of those signs that secures a new relationship before leaving the existing one. Maybe he wants to get to know you better and have you as a sure thing before leaving the current. Either way, don't be that woman.

None of my Cancer guy friends are like this, weird.

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That's what I thought about my good Cancer friends as well. Then, the moment we became closer, the sneaky side started coming out. I hate to say this but people are rarely as they seem.

I was good friends with an aqua girl who made me believe she was a good woman only for me to find out a year later that she was sleeping with some guy who had a gf without any remorse. I'm not saying that your friends are like that, but I don't know how people vouch for others. You can only vouch for yourself.

No!

You already know this... Common.

That pretty much sounds like a Taurus guy I know

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Posted by Teena
That pretty much sounds like a Taurus guy I know

Did he wanna be best friends with you too?

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He took a promise from me to not leave him for however long possible.

If he's cheating on his current girlfriend, he's going to cheat on you to. Don't trust this guy. You'll get hurt if you do

objective view: girl chases cancer guy with a girlfriend for months, makes several posts on this site. the second he asks her to hang out she "calls him out" on same site.

Wait. Are u guys friends? Cancer men like to have lots of female friends in my experience. I dated one for 2 years and it was annoying but it is what it is.

It's funny I was actually going to make a thread about my cancer friend. Hes been wanting to hang out lately but I didn't wanna give him the wrong idea. When I finally did, he really just wanted to talk and chill and laugh. We talked abt his girl. He didn't try anything at all. Was very into his girl. It made me relax and feel comfy being his friend.

Cancer men can cheat though. But from my experience they never wanna lose their girl.

Posted by aquarius09
That's what I thought about my good Cancer friends as well. Then, the moment we became closer, the sneaky side started coming out. I hate to say this but people are rarely as they seem.

I was good friends with an aqua girl who made me believe she was a good woman only for me to find out a year later that she was sleeping with some guy who had a gf without any remorse. I'm not saying that your friends are like that, but I don't know how people vouch for others. You can only vouch for yourself.

Maybe it's the Scorpio side of me, but I am hyper aware and intuitive about the people around me.

I can say without a shadow of a doubt, that I know the Cancers important in my life aren't jerks to me, at least lol. Now that doesn't mean they weren't before settling down. Both my bestfriend (was a groomsmen on his side for his recent wedding, its nice being a girl on the guy's side lol) and my Cancer SO were raging hookers while growing up. Man some of the stories I have heard they did and said to girls was interesting. Heck, come to think of it my Cancer SO has told he thought he never hurt any of the girls in his past cause she was "upfront and honest" that all he wanted was sex. I tried to explain to him that most of those girls probably thought they were the one that could "change" him, and that she was special.

So wait, now that I think of it Cancers are like this with the people they don't really care about. lol

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Posted by aquarius09
That's what I thought about my good Cancer friends as well. Then, the moment we became closer, the sneaky side started coming out. I hate to say this but people are rarely as they seem.

I was good friends with an aqua girl who made me believe she was a good woman only for me to find out a year later that she was sleeping with some guy who had a gf without any remorse. I'm not saying that your friends are like that, but I don't know how people vouch for others. You can only vouch for yourself.

Maybe it's the Scorpio side of me, but I am hyper aware and intuitive about the people around me.

I can say without a shadow of a doubt, that I know the Cancers important in my life aren't jerks to me, at least lol. Now that doesn't mean they weren't before settling down. Both my bestfriend (was a groomsmen on his side for his recent wedding, its nice being a girl on the guy's side lol) and my Cancer SO were raging hookers while growing up. Man some of the stories I have heard they did and said to girls was interesting. Heck, come to think of it my Cancer SO has told he thought he never hurt any of the girls in his past cause she was "upfront and honest" that all he wanted was sex. I tried to explain to him that most of those girls probably thought they were the one that could "change" him, and that she was special.

So wait, now that I think of it Cancers are like this with the people they don't really care about. lol

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This sign can be pretty sadistic when they don't like someone as opposed to some other signs that would rather just fade out. Now I have both good and bad cancers in my life. The seemingly good cancers that are actually bad are getting thrown out one by one. The thing about bad ones is that their facade of being good is real and believable. It's only when you observe their behavior with their gf or family rather than what they say do you realize that they are ultimately shy assholes. People think that shy people can't be assholes but they can be as well.

Not caring about someone is not an excuse to be a jerk. If you don't like someone, then stay away. Bad cancers are masochistic as well. They have a tendency to stay around people they don't like only to be mean to them and release their pent up frustrations on them.

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This sign can be pretty sadistic when they don't like someone as opposed to some other signs that would rather just fade out. Now I have both good and bad cancers in my life. The seemingly good cancers that are actually bad are getting thrown out one by one. The thing about bad ones is that their facade of being good is real and believable. It's only when you observe their behavior with their gf or family rather than what they say do you realize that they are ultimately shy assholes. People think that shy people can't be assholes but they can be as well.

Not caring about someone is not an excuse to be a jerk. If you don't like someone, then stay away. Bad cancers are masochistic as well. They have a tendency to stay around people they don't like only to be mean to them and release their pent up frustrations on them.

Well, I am glad the ones I have in my life aren't the bad type. Damn.

I can say I have seen the ones I have allowed in my inner circle around family, and have been introduced to them. My Cancer SO is such a momma's boy, its not funny. They are best friends, and I can text his mom if worried, he has no issue with that. So I guess I lucked out.

Those bad ones seem freaking scary.

Posted by Diddybop
Wait. Are u guys friends? Cancer men like to have lots of female friends in my experience. I dated one for 2 years and it was annoying but it is what it is.

It's funny I was actually going to make a thread about my cancer friend. Hes been wanting to hang out lately but I didn't wanna give him the wrong idea. When I finally did, he really just wanted to talk and chill and laugh. We talked abt his girl. He didn't try anything at all. Was very into his girl. It made me relax and feel comfy being his friend.

Cancer men can cheat though. But from my experience they never wanna lose their girl.

If you are talking to me, one is my bestfriend (more like brother) and the other is my significant other.

My significant other is the momma's boy that did the whole "I told girls it was sex thing" that I have met his family. Most of them are friends with me on fb, and I can text his mom when I get worried he hasn't responded. So that's why I get confused about some of these threads about Cancers, cause although he does crawl in his shell from time to time, he doesn't exhibit any of the terribad stuff I have read on here. He did do a lot of testing, and he does get gun-shy from time to time cause of his past relationship.

As for my bestfriend, what you described is my relationship with my bestfriend, Garry. He would never cheat on his new wife, and she's actually become my friend too. Albeit, not as close as me and Garry. I talk to Garry on the phone everyday, since he is in KY and I am in CA. It's comfortable, and he has NEVER given me a vibe of trying to hit on me once. He's family to me.

Even if he is about to break up, it would be too quick for something serious if you wanted that more than the other.

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Posted by Diddybop
Wait. Are u guys friends? Cancer men like to have lots of female friends in my experience. I dated one for 2 years and it was annoying but it is what it is.

It's funny I was actually going to make a thread about my cancer friend. Hes been wanting to hang out lately but I didn't wanna give him the wrong idea. When I finally did, he really just wanted to talk and chill and laugh. We talked abt his girl. He didn't try anything at all. Was very into his girl. It made me relax and feel comfy being his friend.

Cancer men can cheat though. But from my experience they never wanna lose their girl.

If you are talking to me, one is my bestfriend (more like brother) and the other is my significant other.

My significant other is the momma's boy that did the whole "I told girls it was sex thing" that I have met his family. Most of them are friends with me on fb, and I can text his mom when I get worried he hasn't responded. So that's why I get confused about some of these threads about Cancers, cause although he does crawl in his shell from time to time, he doesn't exhibit any of the terribad stuff I have read on here. He did do a lot of testing, and he does get gun-shy from time to time cause of his past relationship.

As for my bestfriend, what you described is my relationship with my bestfriend, Garry. He would never cheat on his new wife, and she's actually become my friend too. Albeit, not as close as me and Garry. I talk to Garry on the phone everyday, since he is in KY and I am in CA. It's comfortable, and he has NEVER given me a vibe of trying to hit on me once. He's family to me.

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I was talking to the @op in response to whether this cancer guy likes her. Imo if they're friends he could be just tryna become better friends with her. I think they like to be needed.

Ps in my experience whenever cancer men retreat in their shell it's cuz they usually felt some sort of slight and need lots of attention and coaxing to come out again. (Or u can ignore them and they'll come out anyway but with some hidden resentment).

I think they're great boyfriends though. Mine was just too needy back then for my 21 year old temperament. Tried again but he became whiney with age (and I became Less affectionate according to him)

Posted by Diddybop
I was talking to the @op in response to whether this cancer guy likes her. Imo if they're friends he could be just tryna become better friends with her. I think they like to be needed.

Ps in my experience whenever cancer men retreat in their shell it's cuz they usually felt some sort of slight and need lots of attention and coaxing to come out again. (Or u can ignore them and they'll come out anyway but with some hidden resentment).

I think they're great boyfriends though. Mine was just too needy back then for my 21 year old temperament. Tried again but he became whiney with age (and I became Less affectionate according to him)

Yea, they very much like to feel needed. I feel you on that one 100%

Yea, my Cancer retreats in his shell because he was severely hurt by his ex-wife. Most of the time, when he has retreated, its because I went and hung out with my guy friends and didn't actively communicate with him the whole time. Didn't think I needed to, until I saw the correlation between me going out, and his seemingly decrease in communicating with me actively for at least a week or two. I have to basically be super persistent and show him he is a priority the whole time, so he comes back out. I have now just adjusted my actions, and will literally facetime him with my friends around and introduce them to him. Especially since we don't live close by. Now that I adjusted my actions, his actions have changed as well. I can say this, I have never had to be so patient in my life, but with this guy. lol

Thank you so much for all our answers everyone. yes I KNOW how pathetic i sound 🙂 but srsly I'm so curious.

anyway to clear things up - we ARE friends, and have been friends with benefits in the past

no I'm not chasing him, i dont go out of my way at all to talk to him anymore (only i think about him a LOT)

I actually know what his hidden agenda is, i was merrily curious to see what others will come up with in regards to his star sign.

he just wanna eat fish