Im an saggi male, Ive been liking this cancer guy since i first met him 8-9 months ago. When I met him he just broke up with his ex bf. Anyway, i met him through uni society, and we became friends easily.
at first i started seeing him from time to time over coffee to talk about my problem then, i just came out and i was having a hard time, my friends told me hes a great guy to talk to about these things. so yea we started hanging out more and more after, we usually see each other at least once every two weeks, just coffee/lunch, wed go out every now and then to clubs bla bla. he never says no to catch up session.
i cant tell if he likes me, i think hes just being a good friend. we could talk for hours, he seems like he easily opens up to me, theres never any awkward silences when we hang out, wed usually talk non-stop. i act quite normally in front of him, friends have confirmed it for me, i dont really flirt or go ga ga in front of him, pretty much normal except for i tease him alot.
but lately hes learned how to tease me back. its pretty cute. but still were pretty much acting like buddies. i think hes really hard to read. almost all the time when we hang out id be the one calling him for a meet up, but i think for as long as ive known him he only initiated to hang out twice. he doesnt text much either, most of the time hed id be texting him and then id be the last person to text.
i think in the last few weeks hes prolly got an idea that i like him cuz i went for his football finals match somewhere out of town and when i was there it was only his family who were there and none of his friends, it was pretty awkward on my side, but we did hit it off like normally, we chilled for a bit and he drove me back home.
ive decided to ask him to uni formal/prom, was pretty scared about asking him, but i did and he said yes, also, he didnt try to reassure me that we were going as friends. also he did voice out concern about me bringing a gay date to formal, and he said no gay couple has ever been to such an event. so he mentioned the word date and couple, was that a hint?
i seriously cant read him, i really do like him, but i dont wanna make the wrong move, i dont wanna scare them away or freak him out. i cant tell if hes leading me on, or just being nice? does he like me or not? anything i can look out to for some hints?
"Person, Escape Artist ........................................................
female from Pasadena, California
Hahaha I was preparing my response and burst out laughing, because I realized I have no idea! And I've been in serious relationships with two cancers. I don't remember any concrete, discernible signs that my feelings were returned. Everything was fairly ambiguous. My cancer moon just knew, he cared about me. I could just feel him thinking about me and staying physically, mentally, and emotionally "close" to me. If that makes any sense.
He was nice to everyone. I don't think he was nicer to me, but he seemed closer to me. He did little things like leaning his body down towards me regardless of whether we were talking or just standing together. Or if I was talking to someone else he'd start a conversation with another person and bring up topics I randomly mentioned previously.
We were friends in the beginning. I usually become friends first when I'm interested in someone. My Gemini venus NEEDS to be friends first. Hmmm now I wonder if he was just mirroring me... I honestly can't remember what specific incident/action/signs changed my relationship with the cancer from being just flirty friends to being something more. It was always a really natural progression. Inch by inch. One day were teasing each other and being buddies, next I know were holding hands and acting like we'd been together forever. LMAO wow. Reflection time.
My advice would be to look for indirect signs. He's going with you to the event so that has to mean something. That's a sign right there. G'luck with your Cancer!