cancer man hard to read

So I dated a cancer man off and on for two years, we cut contact fir the padt year due to work & school schedules. In the padt 2 mos he has initiated contact and I have avoided him. I am still in love with him and just dont know if I want to open a can of worms. I fi nally agreed to see him and ut was as if no time had passed. The comfort level as if we never lost touch. I contemplated not sleeping with him, but am grown and decided to because its what I wanted, the timing perfect. We waited 6 mos the first time around. He held me all nite, a real cuddler.

Its been 3 days and nothing, should I have waited as if starting all over with him? What do cancer men think? Confused and curious.

Im a virgo btw

Posted by tickledpink11
So I dated a cancer man off and on for two years, we cut contact fir the padt year due to work & school schedules. In the padt 2 mos he has initiated contact and I have avoided him. I am still in love with him and just dont know if I want to open a can of worms. I fi nally agreed to see him and ut was as if no time had passed. The comfort level as if we never lost touch. I contemplated not sleeping with him, but am grown and decided to because its what I wanted, the timing perfect. We waited 6 mos the first time around. He held me all nite, a real cuddler.

Its been 3 days and nothing, should I have waited as if starting all over with him? What do cancer men think? Confused and curious.

Im a virgo btw

How old are you? Just wondering. I'm a virgo... But 3 days is nothing for a cancer. He's probably basking in the memories. Be patient. If anything you learn, is that time does show you what you want and need to see. If you cared and loved then, you will still care and love 2 weeks or 2 months from now. You are probably feeling vulnerable right now, but try and be patient. Cancer men aren't your typical men. Cancer men will be able to answer the rest from here better.

Sorry, didn't mean to exclude you cancer ladies as well. 🙂 I know you have tons of good advice to give as well!

Linda, thank you for that 🙂 I so contemplated the idea of being intimate, I did & came to this conclusion: when you love someone how could it be wrong? I, at the same time also need to guard my heart. I know 3 days can sometimes be like 3 sec to a cancer, Im just over thinking and I know it. It maybe due to his constant contact for the last two mos leading up to our recent visit, although a 2-3 day period may have lapsed It was not eating away at me because I was guarded and had not yet shared with him. Excuse all the typos (touch phone) And I'm 33
Your input greatly appreciated! Anyone else?

Posted by tickledpink11
I contemplated not sleeping with him, but am grown and decided to because its what I wanted, the timing perfect. We waited 6 mos the first time around. He held me all nite, a real cuddler.

Its been 3 days and nothing, should I have waited as if starting all over with him? What do cancer men think? Confused and curious.

He chased you for 2 months... then you let him hit it the first day you saw him

Now he has disappeared on you... cause there is nothing left to chase..

Come on virgo... i think you already know the answer to your question *la sigh* 😢

Shell, I thought about this, I did. Its not as if this was our first date. My feelings run deep for this cancer. I dont sleep around, he knows this based on how lonnnng it took him the first time. He is as grown as I am, is it all just a game?

Xxnire....elusive being the key word. I thought all about the thrill of the chase, I made him chase me forever the first time around. This is not HS been there & done that. Its nit a new relationship but rather a rekindled one

Posted by tickledpink11
Shell, I thought about this, I did. Its not as if this was our first date. My feelings run deep for this cancer. I dont sleep around, he knows this based on how lonnnng it took him the first time. He is as grown as I am, is it all just a game?

Who said you sleep around? You said you thought about sleeping with him a lot? So.. why did you? What did you hope to accomplish? What did you hope the results would be? You must of had something in your head... because he is MIA for 3 days. This obviously was not what you hoped would happen.

You went into knowing that you WOULD sleep with him. What type of game are you playing?

Posted by tickledpink11
am grown and decided to because its what I wanted

You went into this rekindling using your p***y as leverage. That's game playing..

You got what you wanted, right? So why would you now expect more from him?

I did it simply because I wanted to and because it was him. I did not go in using anything trying to accomplish anything, honestly I was not expecting much, I had my own reasons & do not regret my actions, I also was not expecting less either thats all. Maybe it all boils down to the thrill of the chase, character and much like a chess game being whats your next move. I acted with my heart and do not regret my actions. Thx for your input! 🙂

Posted by tickledpink11
I had my own reasons & do not regret my actions,

I acted with my heart and do not regret my actions. Thx for your input! 🙂

Yes, you said that twice. Then why are you here? If you hadn't of slept with him... do you think you would be asking why he hasn't contacted you?

Posted by tickledpink11
should I have waited as if starting all over with him?

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If sex wasn't involved or part of your game plan... you would not be asking this question^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

I did not "use" anything as "leverage" what I did do was guard my heart, I only have one and I'm its keeper. Implying that I used anything is an outside observation. I dont play games where my heart is concerned

Posted by tickledpink11
I did not "use" anything as "leverage" what I did do was guard my heart,

please explain this to me... I do not understand... these are your words so you must get it. How is sleeping with him guarding your heart?

I was implying to the two mos prior to sleeping with him. I made a choice and I went with it, based on how I felt about it. I have been in love with this man for quite some time now. I did not see him for a year, my life has moved on, however my feelings remain the same. You sometimes cannot help what you feel but it does not rule my life. The thought is always there and quite often makes me smile. I myself chose to be as close to him as possible in that moment, I lived it. The moment and throughly enjoyed it. I am not expecting anything from him, expectations lead to hurt but rather have high hopes in some type of reconnection between the two of us if you will. Not that of a sexual connection but more like the type of connection this little story started with on a much deeper level that didnt involve sex.

Posted by tickledpink11
I was implying to the two mos prior to sleeping with him. I made a choice and I went with it, based on how I felt about it. I have been in love with this man for quite some time now. I did not see him for a year, my life has moved on, however my feelings remain the same. You sometimes cannot help what you feel but it does not rule my life. The thought is always there and quite often makes me smile. I myself chose to be as close to him as possible in that moment, I lived it. The moment and throughly enjoyed it. I am not expecting anything from him, expectations lead to hurt but rather have high hopes in some type of reconnection between the two of us if you will. Not that of a sexual connection but more like the type of connection this little story started with on a much deeper level that didnt involve sex.

ok, i see...

It is not a good idea to go backwards with any relationship. Especially one that was off and on. Cancers do go backwards if we need an emotional fix. Memories... but when those memories meet reality.. we usually remember why it didn't work out in the first place.

You had a nice reconnect... you say you lived it and enjoyed it. good. Leave it at that and don't question "where did he go? or did I sleep with him too soon?"

You are not protecting your heart if you are letting this man back into it and sleeping with him with "high hopes". It's the same thing... no matter how fancy you word it.

This is true, Im just in another phase in life at the moment & know I can handle whatever the outcome.
Somewhere in here, however just to be "fancy" the thought of high hopes remains.

Not that it makes a difference, but we did speak the following day, good stuff I just have nit heard from him since which now makes it a few days. Time shall reveal

Posted by tickledpink11
Im just in another phase in life at the moment & know I can handle whatever the outcome.

ya, you viragos are tough. You have the ability of analyzing your way out of any hurt feelings and bouncing back at an alarming rate. I admire that..

Awwe, thk you shell 🙂 resilience, its one of my favorite word 🙂 a resilient virgo girl, a weapon but would much rather choose not to be if she did'nt have to be.

I like the rolling eyes moonman

Moonman, about shell I too initially felt an uneasiness with her response to my very first post here, it may have been due to not providing all the details initially, ultimately she comes back gracefully! The rekindling did feel wonderful, god knows how much his absence has affected me, I genuinely miss him but chose to let whatever comes my way be. With the strong belief in when its meant to be, it just will be. In regards to mani
pulation and leverage, this is SO NOT the case when concerning this man or any man for that point. It was intense, even the cuddling, I love him. We spoke briefly the following day, at his initiation and I was glad, he left a gift behind I needed to thank him for. Its been a few days since and I am about the usual business, life goes on but it/him is definitely on my mind. Wow, moonman you are so on the same page as me. Although I loved every minute spent with him, just as I contemplated being intimate with him, I also have come to the conclusion that it was a one time thing for now. Im not that easy, im just in love & lived out the moment. I like your way of thinking moonman, almost as if inside my thoughts exactly 🙂

Iwin, thank you! I needed that closeness with him after all this time but I totally agree with the one time thing for now.....you two inside my head! I will make no contact, the ball in his court so to speak. I know it was the right thing. It was right for me, in that moment, in that time. Thank you iwin 🙂

Nite, My beliefs exactly, you cannot force love, you can feel it but if the other party isn't what can you do? Whats meant to be will be

Cancer men will come around loooooong after they have said their "goodbye." My last contact with dating a Cancer guy for 2 years was in 2005 after Hurricane Wilma hit here in So. Fl. Now, he makes contact after 7 years, after working in LA, TX, and NJ. Now that he is currently in So. Fl he wants to hook up, be friends, and it's "no big deal." Needless to say, I stated my "goodbye" and "stay well." His response .... WOW! Quite honestly, they just don't "get it."

Thk u iwin

But when they "dont get it" is it for selfish reasons or something deeper than that? We will never know unless given the opportunity

I take it nites in fl too?!

Who knew Wilma?!!

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Moon/Mars in Aries.
Just an observation...
🙂🙂

who me? *busted* 🙂 you're like the hall monitor around here sometimes, you know that right?

I take it he knows you....lmao!

If this be true Moonman, I am glad your monitoring.

Hands Moonman his badge:

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Posted by tickledpink11
I contemplated not sleeping with him, but am grown and decided to because its what I wanted, the timing perfect. We waited 6 mos the first time around. He held me all nite, a real cuddler.

Its been 3 days and nothing, should I have waited as if starting all over with him? What do cancer men think? Confused and curious.

He chased you for 2 months... then you let him hit it the first day you saw him

Now he has disappeared on you... cause there is nothing left to chase..

Come on virgo... i think you already know the answer to your question *la sigh* 😢

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Um no.. They dated longer than that. I know plenty of guys who stick around after sex. It can go either way.

Yay for all the Virgal + Cancerian love 😄!!

Just be yourself. Also.. were not in middle school anymore so dont do the whole "hes the man he has to call first" thing. Go ahead and contact him.. Totally not as big of a deal as you make it lol

Acrab, excellent song BUT the story is not over yet. Optimistic is my choice word or shall I say my "Fancy" word! What is meant to be will be and so it shall. Ooh, ooh MoonMan has a hallpass now! PeanutButter-Thank you, this is true He chased for a very long time our first time around, I just didnt feel the need to run this time. I got my running shies on now though 🙂

Typo *shoes

I say, if your not having fun in the moment, then you have not lived life at all! For the moment is all we have, all that is promised and I lived the moment and am just fine with that!